Is it too picky to want to date who shares similar qualities to you? And when should you be more open-minded about who you choose a relationship with? Join Matt and Stephen to talk about pickiness, standards, and mindsets that can make finding love harder. --- Download your FREE guide at 9Texts.com --- Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at [email protected]...
May 25, 2022•1 hr 12 min
When you’re dating in 2022, you can almost be sure that the person in front of you on that first date is dating multiple people at the same time. This omnipresent truth can make you nervous as you so desperately want to stand out from the crowd. The truth is, we all want so badly to be unforgettable on a date . . . but actually making that happen can feel tricky. In the pursuit of “making someone like us,” we may give in to the knee-jerk reaction of trying to impress them, or worse . . . people ...
May 23, 2022•16 min
Do you ever find yourself getting attracted to people who are unavailable (emotionally or otherwise)? Treat you poorly? Or simply aren’t interested in you? Why does this happen? Why do we conveniently keep getting attracted to the least convenient people? It can be deeply frustrating, especially when there might be someone who does like us but who we just don’t want. In this video, I explain two fundamental reasons why this keeps happening. At the end of this video, I give you a practical “mind ...
May 20, 2022•5 min
It’s very common that we hear from women who say “men are intimidated by me!” But what causes this? Is it male insecurity? Do men instinctively get turned off by a woman’s success, income, or assertiveness? In this episode, Matt and Stephen sit down to talk about how this happens, what it means for our dating lives, and the dating dynamics between men and women. --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at [email protected]...
May 18, 2022•1 hr 11 min
Do you get nervous that you’re not good enough? Feel a deep inner worry that you’re a “fraud” waiting to get found out? This is called “Imposter Syndrome”, and it’s a common trap that can make us live with SO much unnecessary anxiety and it holds us back from opportunities. In this clip, Matt explains how to defeat imposter syndrome with a simple mindset reframe. --- Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together. Join Me In-Person for the Return of The Matthew Hussey Retreat (May 30th - June 5th) → ...
May 13, 2022•7 min
When it comes to sex, some of us have very specific ideas about what it should be like in a relationship. There’s the “sexual destiny” mindset, which says that sex should be amazing from the start and is entirely about natural chemistry. Then there’s the “sexual growth” mindset, which says that sex can improve over time and couples can work out sexual differences. In this episode, Matt and Stephen discuss the difference between these mindsets and what they mean for a potential relationship. --- ...
May 11, 2022•43 min
When a relationship with someone we had strong feelings for (or even loved) ends, we tend to get overwhelmed with emotions. Whether we were with them for a short period of time or in a long, committed relationship, these feelings are universal. They can come in the form of raw heartbreak, the feeling that we’ve lost control over our happiness, a paralyzing fear that they might move on, an overwhelming desperation to get them back, or simply the pain of missing someone who used to be a constant i...
May 09, 2022•26 min
Has this ever happened to you? You’re on a first date... and... He’s charming, handsome, and you feel like you have chemistry… But at the end of the night… he doesn’t ask for a second date (nevermind a third or fourth). If this has happened to you (or keeps happening), you’re likely missing one of the two essential things that make him reach across the table and say: “I’d really like to see you again.” In this clip, I tell you EXACTLY what to say so that he’ll ask you out again (and again, and a...
May 06, 2022•4 min
What do you do if you feel a special connection, but he keeps you waiting on the big question of commitment? In a spontaneous Instagram live, Matt recently coached a follower who was struggling with this exact dilemma. If you’re sick of sitting in the “waiting room” and hoping for something to change, make sure you listen to this message. --- Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together. Join Me In-Person for the Return of The Matthew Hussey Retreat (May 30th - June 5th) → http://www.MHRetreat.com ...
May 04, 2022•32 min
Few things can match the heady exhilaration of dating someone and building momentum through regular texting and a sense of closeness. But what about when the texting on their end is . . . kind of slow and intermittent . . . where there are big gaps in your text exchanges that leave you feeling unsure as to where, exactly, you stand with that person? Feeling this way might even lead you to start analyzing their relationship with their phone the next time you’re with them, looking for clues as to ...
May 02, 2022•15 min
What should you look for BEFORE you even enter into a new relationship, to figure out if your attachment styles are compatible? Having a reliable and steady partner may not get as much attention as other “sexier” attributes, but it really is a beautiful thing. Knowing you can depend on someone romantically, physically, and emotionally can draw you even closer together—strengthening your growing bond. In this episode, Matt explains what it takes to avoid codependency and have the kind of healthy ...
Apr 29, 2022•12 min
How do we find the right person if we're always falling for the wrong one? It's a common problem, one that can make you feel doomed to always be in unsatisfying relationship cycles over and over again. In this episode, Matt, Stephen and Jameson talk about why we feel this way towards certain people with negative traits and how we can heal so we align with the right kind of partner for us. --- Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together. Join Me In-Person for the Return of The Matthew Hussey Retrea...
Apr 27, 2022•57 min
What does it mean when someone you dated—a guy you still like even though things fizzled out—is still engaging with your social media. Maybe you went on a few dates, had a connection, and even got physical, but it didn’t quite go anywhere. Yet, strangely, he still seems to be keeping a watchful eye on what you get up to on social media. Immediately, the gears of your mind start turning as you analyze the timing and the meaning of each emoji he sends in response to the photo of your night out wit...
Apr 25, 2022•10 min
It doesn't matter how many great qualities they have if they have one or more lethal negative traits that make it impossible to get your needs met. In this episode, Matt talks about toxic relationship behaviours to watch out for in every stage of dating. --- Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together. Join Me In-Person for the Return of The Matthew Hussey Retreat (May 30th - June 5th) → http://www.MHRetreat.com --- Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey --- Email us! You can...
Apr 22, 2022•9 min
No matter how far we’ve come, there is still a stigma in society for people who choose to remain single for longer than the average person. And this leads to all kinds of judgment: you must be sad, you must want a partner, you must have a problem… Matt, Stephen, and Audrey discuss why “single-shaming” persists and how to avoid feeling the pressure from society in influencing your decisions about your romantic life. --- Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together Join Me In-Person for the Return of...
Apr 20, 2022•58 min
In this episode, I share with you 3 mistakes we can fall into that have the potential to hurt desire. These 3 insights could mean the difference between piquing someone’s interest and a situation just fizzling out. Once you’re aware of them, they’re extremely easy to spot . . . so you won’t inadvertently end up “8-Miling” yourself. (Trust me, it’ll make sense when you hear the episode.) --- Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together Join Me In-Person for the Return of The Matthew Hussey Retreat →...
Apr 18, 2022•14 min
If you find you fall in love too quickly or feel you NEVER fall in love, this clip explains why either extreme might be preventing you from finding a relationship. Whether you want to stop chasing perfection or need to slow down and enjoy gradually getting to know someone new, it is possible to get out of your usual pattern (and enjoy the process!) --- Protect your time, energy & your heart... Reserve Your Space for FREE for My Live "Dating With Results" virtual event on April 19th here → ht...
Apr 15, 2022•6 min
"How do I let go of someone I absolutely adore?" What if you met the "right person at the wrong time?" Many people have been through the feeling of someone breaking up with them because of a specific obstacle. It makes us think, if only that wasn't an issue, we would be perfect. If you've struggled to move on from someone who seemed perfect for you, join Matt for this solo episode to learn how to finally let go and get over the one who got away. --- Protect your time, energy & your heart... ...
Apr 13, 2022•41 min
Protect your time, energy & your heart... Reserve Your Space for FREE for My Live Training Here → http://www.DatingWithResults.com --- I’ve heard this story so many times before . . . You go on a date with a guy and instantly, you feel a strong connection. What was supposed to just be drinks turns into dinner, which turns into a 12-hour affair. When you do eventually part ways, you look down at your phone and find a message sitting in your inbox saying, “Can I see you tomorrow?” You feel ama...
Apr 11, 2022•14 min
Sick of being asked "why are you still single?" Tired of society deciding people are more successful just because they are in a relationship? Me too. Here's why you should never judge anyone or yourself by their relationship status, and what really matters when thinking about your current stage of life. --- Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together. Join Me In-Person for the Return of The Matthew Hussey Retreat → http://www.MHRetreat.com --- FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” http://www....
Apr 08, 2022•5 min
Have you found yourself unable to resist getting another hit of attention from someone you know is wrong for you? Want to send out one more text even though you *know* you shouldn't? This is called microdosing. And it's easy to fall into this trap when you feel hooked on someone, but it doesn't mean it's good for us in the long-term. In this episode, Matt and Stephen answer your biggest questions about microdosing and give practical ways to prevent getting fixated on the wrong person. --- Let's ...
Apr 06, 2022•51 min
How much time have you spent beating yourself up for things you wish you’d done differently? Whether it’s due to: • A relationship you should’ve left months (or years) earlier • A family member you could’ve created more distance with • A job you stayed in too long . . . it’s easy to mentally pummel yourself as you think about all the time you wasted. But this mindset won’t get you where you need to go. In today’s episode, you’ll learn why you can’t blame the you of the (even recent) past for not...
Apr 04, 2022•6 min
How do you move on when you thought they were "the one" for you? This is where to start... --- Let's Create Magic in Your Life, Together. Join me in-person for the return of The Matthew Hussey Retreat → http://www.MHRetreat.com --- Don’t Miss Out! Subscribe to my YouTube channel now. I post new love life advice for you every weekend. ►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com...
Apr 01, 2022•2 min
Let’s be real for a moment . . . We all sometimes wish we could be happier. We blame all sorts of variables for holding us back from achieving this. We tell ourselves that once we finally find a partner, secure a better job, or lose weight, life will be good and we will finally be happy. But even when we achieve some of those goals, the “happiness goalposts” appear to move a little further down the field. We can even forget that we have certain things in our lives now that 10 years ago we would’...
Mar 30, 2022•18 min
In this killer clip with Matt and Ed Mylett , you'll learn: • The #1 question you should ask yourself before you sleep together • Why you should never decide to sleep with someone just because you’re afraid someone else will beat you to it • What a GOOD reason to jump into bed with someone looks like • How to gauge someone’s intentions • Why owning your actions is sexy --- Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your ...
Mar 25, 2022•7 min
Matt gives some psychological and practical tips on irresistible traits that boost your attraction both in the long-term and courtship stages of dating. --- Download our free "5 Compliments" guide at SayThisToHim.com --- Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at [email protected]...
Mar 23, 2022•24 min
Matthew and Stephen talk about Esther Perel's excellent answers to the question: "When do people feel most drawn to their partner?" and we give our own thoughts about what keeps desire early on in a relationship. --- Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at [email protected] --- FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” http://www.9texts.com FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Ad...
Mar 17, 2022•1 hr 15 min
In the modern world we are taught to look for the optimum choice in every situation. The perfect morning routine for us, the perfect career, the perfect house, and even the perfect relationship? But is this the right way to think about looking for a romantic partner? We want high standards, but what things (if any) should we settle on in a relationship? In this episode, Matthew talks about how to practically look for love in the modern world and what it takes to build a lasting healthy relations...
Mar 12, 2022•25 min
Can you be "too picky" in love? What is the difference between having standards and just being annoyingly judgmental? Matt and Stephen sit down to talk about: When to be picky vs. when to be open-minded when falling in love How true commitment changes your view of relationships The things that really matter when choosing a partner The cognitive bias that keeps you with the wrong person --- Join us on our virtual retreat on March 18th-20th! Go to MHVirtualRetreat.com and spend a magical 3 days wi...
Mar 04, 2022•58 min
Sick of feeling like you have to wait to be approached by a guy? Want to be able to actually "choose" someone you're attracted to, and meet them in REAL LIFE? Here are 7 elegant and simple ways to have a guy approach you (without feeling like you're doing all the work)... --- Join us on our virtual retreat on March 18th-20th! Go to MHVirtualRetreat.com and spend a magical 3 days with us transforming your confidence and relationships... --- Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhu...
Feb 24, 2022•16 min
