Has this ever happened to you? You’re on a first date... and... He’s charming, handsome, and you feel like you have chemistry… But at the end of the night… he doesn’t ask for a second date (nevermind a third or fourth). If this has happened to you (or keeps happening), you’re likely missing one of the two essential things that makes him reach across the table and say: “I’d really like to see you again.” In this podcast, I tell you EXACTLY what to say so that he’ll ask you out again (and again, a...
Jun 26, 2020•8 min
I’ve been thinking about one of the biggest dangers of personal growth these last couple of weeks. The danger is this: we learn a crucially important, life-changing lesson, and then forget all about it and move on with our lives. Any one of us could fall into that trap this year. Like me, you’ve probably had some realizations about your life during this difficult time. Epiphanies about changes you want to make, or simple truths that you want to take forward even once things return to “normal.” B...
Jun 23, 2020•11 min
“How do you avoid negative self-talk after a breakup? My ex was extremely critical and I want him out of my head.” I say “we,” because I’m not alone in this one. I’m joined by a very special friend of mine, Jeannie Mai ( @thejeanniemai )– Emmy Award-winning co-host of “The Real,” and host of the podcast “ Listen Hunnay .” Jeannie is wonderfully entertaining to listen to, and has a first rate mind on these things, as you’ll her from the podcast. And, what makes this “extra” special is that it's t...
Jun 17, 2020•10 min
Why is it SO hard to leave, even when we know we are with the wrong person? How can we get the courage to follow what our brain and heart are screaming at us and leave? It's not easy, and there's a psychological bias that makes it even harder. In this episode, I share 3 techniques to re-wire your brain so that you finally have the strength to follow your heart and make the right choice. --- Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Email us your story and comments at podcast@m...
Jun 13, 2020•15 min
A mere 2 weeks ago it would have been hard to conceive of a world that was about to heat up considerably beyond the tension and emotion already experienced in 2020. Then came the murder of George Floyd. Since then, I, living in Los Angeles, have watched the United States – and beyond – reach a boiling point on race issues. It’s a dark time, and yet it also feels like a time where real change could be possible. I find myself asking of what service I can possibly be. Another weekend rolls around, ...
Jun 07, 2020•9 min
Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey ►► Want Support to Navigate This Strange Time? Ask Me Your Burning Love Life Question Now… → http://www.AskMH.com This episode is an honest look at what the near future of dating could look like for you if you’re single right now. Even as parts of the world open up again, a vaccine appears to be at least 8-12 months away. That means that for about another year, there will be some significant implications for our dating lives. Is it ...
Jun 04, 2020•15 min
Follow Matthew at @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen at @stephenhhussey --- 90% of people are making a mistake in the way they connect with other people without even realizing it. See, ever since I was 13 and first picked up my Dad’s copy of the Dale Carnegie’s How To Win Friends And Influence People, I was fascinated with figuring what it is that allows certain people able to influence, attract, and be charismatic in the presence of others. Over years of being on TV and radio, running a company w...
May 30, 2020•15 min
I’ve lost count of what week of social distancing we’re in. But I do know that if you’ve been living with someone since quarantine started then you’ve had your ups and downs. We need space in our relationship for desire to thrive. But how do you create space with someone who is always there? If absence makes the heart grow fonder, how do you stay exciting to your partner if you're never absent? In today's episode, we talk about some simple, practical ways to approach this situation and avoid mak...
May 27, 2020•10 min
From Stephen ( @stephenhhussey ) People spend a lot of time asking the question: “How to do I get my partner to open up?” But they rarely think about the ways in which they regularly punish their partner whenever they want to reveal their beating vulnerable heart. The problem with just saying to someone, “you should open up more”, is that it’s a frustratingly vague request. I’ve noticed that a huge amount of my emotional openness depends on feeling like I have the right environment to be free to...
May 21, 2020•15 min
“WTF? Do not use this.” This is a comment I received last week. It was in response to a flirty little text that I suggested you use with the guy who is on your mind right now. In fact, this text really seemed to divide people. Someone even said it could result in “catastrophe.” And this comment had likes. A lot of them. W. T. F. So, despite the fact that I was going to move on to a different topic this week, my director Jameson Jordan politely (feistily) asked (demanded) that I respond to these ...
May 18, 2020•7 min
Hey :) In today’s podcast, I’m bringing you some practical advice on how to flirt at a distance. Some “Quarantexts,” if you will. Ahem. Think of them as little bits of irresistible charm that you can send to the guy who is on your mind right now. These texts are designed to bring a smile to his face (and yours), as well as kick off a playful dynamic so you can develop (or strengthen) your bond – even when you’re not physically together. Just because we’re stuck inside it doesn’t mean we can’t fl...
May 12, 2020•5 min
There’s a ridiculously simple principle Matt talks about in his seminars. So simple it seems kind of silly. Naïve even. But it’s actually great. It goes like this: “Make it a rule only to like people who like you back. If you can do that, you’ll never go wrong.” Sounds tough, I know. After all, attraction isn’t a simple choice right? Many of us feel we have no control over who we become attracted to, which can often lead to that great generator of humanity’s worst misery and best poetry: Unrequi...
May 08, 2020•23 min
Your phone buzzes. It’s a text from him ;) You can feel your stomach flip over with excitement. Every message he sends is like sweet honey for your brain. “Damn”, you think, “I’m an addict.” And then you fire a cute message back. And you wait...and wait… “Why isn’t he replying?” you want to scream to your friend on the couch next to you. But she’s too busy with her phone to notice. You try to shift focus, but you obsessively check for a text every 30 seconds. Sound familiar? We’ve all had this a...
May 03, 2020•12 min
One big myth I've heard from thousands of women is, "I'm only attracted to the guys who are BAD for me". People tell ourselves the lie that there are either: (a) Boring, safe, dependable nice guys (b) Exciting, sexy assholes who will treat you badly In this episode, we blow apart this myth and show why UNIQUE PAIRINGS are the ultimate secret to attraction, and what you MUST look for in the guy you choose for a long-term relationship. Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhusse...
Apr 27, 2020•13 min
Another week in isolation... This crisis is really putting a magnifying glass on my (alarmingly natural) gift for hibernation, as well as my capacity for eating chocolate. How about you? It’s also exposing a lot of cracks in relationships – both those under the same roof and the long-distance ones – as they strain under the weight of this “new normal.” Just this morning, I had the pleasure of working with a woman who is in my live coaching group, and she confided that she was having an issue wit...
Apr 22, 2020•11 min
A couple of episodes ago we asked you: What are the moments that made you fall in love in the past? We call these moments micro-attractions . Yes, you can find someone sexy. You can like the same movies. But it's those little behaviours that totally fly under-the-radar that make us say, "Holy crap! I've never met anyone like this before!" So, Steve dived into the inbox and looked at YOUR stories of the moments that made you fall head over heels and discuss what this tells us about long-term attr...
Apr 19, 2020•17 min
Well hello there from isolation. Guess what? we made a new podcast for you. It’s about how to be a more interesting and engaging person in any interaction with someone through 5 quick principles you can instantly apply. And since most of us are having long-distance conversations with everyone right now, the ability to talk effectively has become utterly essential. These techniques will show you how to take your talking to another level. And I know they work because I live by them. They are relev...
Apr 14, 2020•14 min
What is the secret that makes a man look into a woman’s eyes and think, “She is the one for me?” It isn’t her looks. It isn’t her masters degree in literature. It isn’t the fact that she had the same favorite pizza place in the city (though that helped…). No, the reason he fell hard for this woman was because of something no one talks about… Maybe it’s happened to you before: You knew you kind of liked a guy, but then he did one special move that made your heart do a triple back flip – now you a...
Apr 10, 2020•12 min
I don’t know about you, but I’m already exhausted by the avalanche of motivational quotes online right now. Advice everywhere. Everyone talking. It’s kind of numbing. Realistically, we’re not exactly focused on how to live our “best” life right now. We’re trying to keep ourselves and our families safe, salvage a few of our regular routines, and keep ourselves from devolving into a Netflix and Oreos spiral. Well, at least I am. And just like you probably do, I fluctuate between being OK and feeli...
Apr 07, 2020•21 min
Time for a coronavirus Q&A! Today we're doing something a little different. We promised we'd read out some listener emails, so it's time to dive into the mailbox and hear about YOUR experiences dating in the time of corona! Topics include: being alone during a break up, how to love being single, and moving love forward when you can't leave the house. Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Download the FREE video training at GetCoreConfidence.com...
Apr 04, 2020•18 min
What a week... It’s a time of mixed emotions. Anxiety. Stress. Fear. Uncertainty. Boredom. Resentment about losing the year we thought we were going to have in 2020. This crisis is impacting people all over the world to varying degrees. And with how rapidly it is evolving, I have wanted to hold off on wading in with my opinions until I really felt I had something to say. Alongside all manner of life-related issues people are asking me about, they are, of course, eager to hear my answers to their...
Mar 31, 2020•22 min
“Is there anything I can do to rekindle the relationship with my ex?” It’s one of the biggest questions we have after a breakup. And if you’re finding yourself losing sleep at night, replaying conversations and events, wondering if there was anything you could have said or done to keep the relationship… then this episode is for you. It’s an example of a conversation you can have that will empower you to either rekindle your relationship with your ex… or get the closure you want so you can move o...
Mar 27, 2020•8 min
What can we do when crisis hits? How should we change our goals, our routines, our emotional response when our lives get shaken by unpredictable problems? As we face the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic, Matt had a powerful conversation with renowned entrepreneur, speaker and author Ed Mylett ( @EdMylett ) to talk about what this means for us and how we can be a for for good in this crisis. In this episode we cover: What health routines Ed is using to keep fit while remaining indoors Better questions y...
Mar 24, 2020•34 min
Ever been hurt or betrayed? Maybe someone broke your trust, cheated, or took your love for granted... If so, I’m really sorry. The pain that can come from heartbreak is unlike anything else. It’s sickening. But, there is something even more heartbreaking than heartbreak itself: Allowing the ghosts of the past to trick you into giving up on your next great love story. If you’re finding it hard to open yourself up to love again… If you are spending your life avoiding rejection right now instead of...
Mar 20, 2020•15 min
Pull up a seat. It’s time we had an honest talk about men. When looking for love, I believe there’s no better way to start than by deeply understanding what drives the opposite sex. It teaches you not only the psychology of attraction, but also, how to avoid the wrong people who are driven by their worst instincts and toxic behavior. So in this episode, I sat down for a juicy conversation with my good friend Lewis Howes @lewishowes , host of the School Of Greatness podcast, to discuss the truth ...
Mar 16, 2020•12 min
Last episode we talked about how to respond to a flakey guy using “Bliss Point” text messages - which combines being salty and sweet to make someone WANT to pursue you and live up to your standards. Except… Some of the more angry responses said things like: “Matt, why would I even think about being sweet to a guy who flakes on a date?? He should be chasing me already, and if not, I have a right to be angry when I text back…” To tell you the truth, I’m really glad these comments came up (and I ki...
Mar 13, 2020•10 min
Most women are used to being told things like: “You need to make him work for it”, “You need to have standards”, “You need to respect yourself” But how do you actually do it? For example, if he sends you a flakey text on the night of a date, how should you respond to get him chasing again (whilst showing you have self-respect)? In this episode, we're going to give you 3 killer texts that show your standards, put you back in control, and double his attraction for you. Download the free guide at 9...
Mar 09, 2020•9 min
What is the limbo between being in a relationship and also not being in one? Recently it has been called a “situationship”: the moment when you’re in something more than a friendship but less than a relationship. There are obvious reasons one would choose this not-quite-a-relationship state of affairs for themselves. It’s flexible. It doesn’t ask you to give up huge chunks of your time. It lets both of you decide to get together only when you need temporary intimacy, or casual sex, or just a per...
Mar 05, 2020•13 min
Let's talk about masculinity. In 2020, there is still such a gap of understanding between men and women that deeply affects our romantic relationships and prevents us expressing our love fully and honestly. In this episode Matt explains: - How men struggle with vulnerability vs. expectations of "being a man" - Why men are afraid to be honest about their fears and inner feelings - What men AND women can do to make men feel safer expressing their honest emotions --- Follow Matthew @thematthewhusse...
Mar 02, 2020•27 min
There's no easy way to talk about infidelity. It's a painful, difficult topic that evokes a strong emotional reaction. But it's also one that so many people face that I wanted to bring you one of the wisest voices out there on this topic: relationship expert, psychotherapist, and bestselling author Esther Perel! ( @estherperelofficial ) Listen as we talk about why even happy people can be driven to cheat, what to do about it, and whether there is ever a path to recovering a relationship after in...
Feb 27, 2020•13 min
