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Love Life With Matthew Hussey

Matthew Husseywww.howtogettheguy.com
Modern dating doesn’t have to be confusing!  Join Matthew Hussey—New York Times bestselling author, world-renowned dating coach, and host of the #1 YouTube channel for relationship advice—for deep, funny, and brutally honest conversations on everything love, confidence, and relationships. He dives deep into helping people transform the three most important relationships we have in life: the relationship with others, with ourselves, and with life itself. Every Wednesday, Matthew is joined by his cohosts: his wife and collaborator Audrey Hussey, who brings her signature warmth, wit, and insight; his brother Stephen Hussey, a New York Times bestselling author with a PhD in Philosophy; and Producer David, who adds his unique perspective and humor to the mix. In weekly episodes, they share practical advice, hard-won wisdom, and strategies to navigate finding a lasting relationship. No matter your relationship status, the Love Life podcast will meet you where you are.

Episodes

63: 3 Secrets to Be Happily Single Until You Find the Right Guy

I’ll keep this short so you can go straight to listening to this episode. It’s not just essential listening if you’re single right now… It’s essential listening in the context of the year we’ve just had and how to navigate being single in it. Life is precious. Let’s not waste it. P.S. Please share this with any and all the single people you care about in your life. ►► FREE download: “9 Texts No Man Can Resist” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” →...

Oct 22, 202015 min

62: Why You Get Attracted to the Wrong People

Do you ever find yourself getting attracted to people who are unavailable (emotionally or otherwise)? Treat you poorly? Or simply aren’t interested in you? Why does this happen? Why do we conveniently keep getting attracted to the least convenient people? It can be deeply frustrating, especially when there might be someone who does like us but who we just don’t want. In this episode, I explain two fundamental reasons why this keeps happening. At the end, I give you a practical “mind trick” you c...

Oct 13, 20209 min

61: Competition is For Losers (And How To Be Irreplaceable)

In his book Zero To One, the venture capitalist and entrepreneur Peter Thiel famously says: “Competition is for losers”. Whether you are running a business, deciding what to do with your life, looking for a relationship – if you worry about what everyone else is doing, you’ll end up chasing the wrong thing. The only way to escape competition, and feel deeply confident to your soul, is to have your own unique monopoly. You don’t need to win at everything to get a great relationship – you only nee...

Oct 10, 202019 min

60: 7 Subtle Signs He Genuinely Likes You (Don’t Miss #7)

Does he REALLY like you? You may be asking yourself this question right now. Sometimes people ask themselves this question because they want to know whether to make a move in the first place... Other times they ask it because they want to know whether the person they are spending time with really cares or is just wasting their time. This episode is going to help. I give you 7 surprising and unexpected signs that someone genuinely likes you. Watch it now and see how many of the 7 things he’s doin...

Oct 06, 20204 min

59: Do You Worry He's "Not Sure" About You? Do This...

I’m a big believer these days in the power of no. What we decide to say “no” to in relationships is often as important what we say yes to. And I’ve seen thousands of women saying yes to all the wrong things, like men who say “I’m not sure about us,” for whom they wait months and years in the self-torturing hope he’ll change his mind. I even had a woman recently say to me, “He says he’s trying to choose between me and another woman. Should I wait for an answer? Or should I move on?” Seriously? Wa...

Oct 03, 20208 min

58: Is Their Behavior a Deal-Breaker?

Ever found yourself in a situation where the person you are with is doing something that affects you negatively, only they don’t see it as a big deal? They tell you they don’t think they’re doing anything wrong, and that you should be OK with it. That’s what happened to the woman whose story I tell in this episode. Her boyfriend was regularly texting a female friend he’d made only recently. Every time she got upset about it, he told her she was being unnecessarily controlling and jealous and tha...

Sep 29, 202010 min

57: Matt answers YOUR dating questions!

Answering YOUR questions on topics including: - what to do when a guy is acting flakey - creating a "flirtatious energy" (and how to do it) - how to be less insecure in a relationship _________________________ Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey

Sep 26, 202016 min

56: They Told You They Wanted a Break? The Perfect Response…

What do you do if the person you are with comes to you telling you he wants a break? You’re devastated, you’re scared, and every instinct in you tells you to fight for this person you care about so much. What would you say to him? In these moments we often do exactly the opposite of what we need to. If you’re in this situation, or you ever want to know what to do if someone says this to you again, I',m going to give you the only response you’ll ever need... ►► Handle Heartbreak in a Strong, High...

Sep 22, 202011 min

55: How to Keep Desire Alive – His and Yours

Do you ever worry that the chemistry will fizzle in your relationship? Or does it seem as though the butterflies have already flown away? Don’t worry. This episode contains a game plan to save you... --- ►► FREE download: “9 Texts to Get Any Man” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.SayThisToHim.com --- Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey...

Sep 17, 20207 min

54: 3 Simple Steps to Handle Being “Gaslighted”

Have you been gaslighted before? Is it happening to you right now? If you’re not sure what “Gaslighting” means… It’s when someone manipulates you by psychological means into doubting your own sanity. Over time, this can have a dramatic effect on our self-esteem as we slowly begin to doubt ourselves until we no longer trust our own instincts. It’s nasty. f you’ve ever expressed your needs to someone or tried to tell them about something they did that hurt you and you were made to feel crazy, this...

Sep 14, 202010 min

53: The ONLY Flirting Formula You Need...

Question: What’s the #1 secret to powerful, seductive flirting? For some people, that’s a silly question. “Flirting is simple,” they’ll say. “It’s just something you do when you like someone.” And yet, in my 10 years of learning about attraction, I’ve seen so many make the same mistakes. They try to talk to that cute guy at the party, the conversation fizzles out, and they’re left scratching their heads wondering, “Am I being too keen? Too aggressive? Am I just boring?” But I understand. Knowing...

Sep 11, 202010 min

52: Don't Let Fear of Rejection Paralyze You. Listen To This...

Maybe you’ve always been afraid of rejection. Maybe there was a specific moment in your past where you experienced a devastating rejection that has left you fearing getting hurt again ever since. The problem with the fear of rejection is that it still hurts even when we are not getting rejected. I was taught by my boxing trainer, Martin Snow, that the worst punch you get is the one you never actually get hit with. It’s the one you think about and fear in your mind. That means that even without l...

Sep 07, 20204 min

51: Why Being "Sweet" Is Underrated (For Men and Women!)

You watch the cliché rom-coms and sitcoms. They tell you to be witty, urbane, “sassy”, sophisticated. And that’s what everyone wants to portray on their profile on Bumble, Tinder, Hinge, Grab-a-mate, Blah-bar (Ok, I made up those last two up). What hardly anyone does in conversation pay an actual memorable compliment. And this doesn’t just for for online dating. It’s also lacking in many flesh-and-blood conversations. Both men and women defer to trying to look impressive (through their career, f...

Sep 03, 202016 min

50: 3 Compliments That Create Deep Attraction

Ah yeeeeah, it’s that time, friend… a brand new spicy epsiode for you. This one is about compliments, and there’s some really interesting psychology in it about the compliments you can give to a person to create deep attraction between the two of you. One of them works for when you first message someone on an app… The 2nd one is great for when you are meeting someone in person… The 3rd one is for someone you already know and want to build more attraction with. This episode is super practical. Ta...

Aug 31, 20209 min

49: It's Not "Weird" To Ask For What You Want

If you've ever worried about having the "awkward" conversation, answering the booty call text, or speaking out for your needs, this is for you! It's time to start being ok with being weird... --- Email us at [email protected] --- Follow Stephen: Twitter - @stephenhhussey Instagram - @stephenhhussey Facebook - @stephenhusseywrites...

Aug 27, 202012 min

48: Ready to Give Up on Dating? Watch This...

I can’t tell you how many times a week someone online says to me: “Matthew, I’ve had enough. I’m just going to give up on dating altogether.” It may be because they are sick of getting their heart broken. It may be that they are exhausted from going on dates that don’t go anywhere, or online conversations that never even get to the point of a date in the first place. It could be the frustration of never meeting people they have true chemistry with, or when they finally do, discovering that they ...

Aug 24, 202012 min

47: How to Like Yourself More (Right Now)

It’s hard to find love when you don’t feel loveable yourself. When you know you’ve made a ton of mistakes. Or you’ve internalized the idea that you’re just not a likeable person. It becomes a self-perpetuating cycle: “I don’t like myself, so why should anyone else like me?” Then we feel lonely, beat ourselves up, feel like a failure, and like ourselves even less than before. We retreat more and more into our shell and lose that “spark” that makes us attractive to someone else as a potential part...

Aug 20, 20208 min

46: How to Deal with the Unbearable Pain of Heartbreak (with Guy Winch)

Are you hurting? Is that hurt leading to overthinking? Rumination? A downward spiral of negative self-talk? Do you feel trapped inside your own head, desperate for some relief, and anxious for the time to come when you will finally feel better? If so, this is required listening. To do something special for my Love.Life members, I invited the one and only Guy Winch ( @GuyWinch ) on for a special hour to help people overcome pain and hurt. Guy Winch is one of the world’s foremost experts on dealin...

Aug 18, 20206 min

45: Reading YOUR emails on Love Bombing! Why It Happens, How To Move On From It...

We respond to YOUR emails all about the topic of Love Bombing. Including: Why we get sucked in by love bombing What "red flags" to look for early on How to be (healthily skeptical) before diving into romance How to move on after heartbreak If you're ready to deep dive into your love life and want to see Matt answer real love questions on our live webinars, join our Love.Life VIP Members club at AskMH.com -- Follow Matt: Twitter - @matthewhussey Instagram - @thematthewhussey -- Follow Stephen: In...

Aug 13, 202016 min

44: Is He Wasting Your Time? (The Top 2 Red Flags to Watch For)

I talk a lot about letting go of the wrong person. But how do you know if someone is the wrong person? What are the red flags? How can you tell if someone is serious or just stringing you along so that you don’t waste your time? This episode solves that problem for you. In this podcast, I add a distinction that I’ve never said before and I don’t think you will have ever thought about… Let me know what you think once you’ve heard it, friend. Much love. P.S. For all the sh*t you’re going through r...

Aug 10, 20207 min

43: "It's Complicated..." No, It's Not.

You have to help me. I believe there isn’t a woman (person) alive who doesn’t need to hear this message at least once in her lifetime. I know, that’s a bold statement. But when you see it, you’ll know why. My work is about more than dating. It’s about time. Time = Life. And this podcast is designed to save your precious time. It's all about what “it’s complicated” really means. If you’re in a situation with a man that gives you far less than you want or deserve, this is the most important thing ...

Aug 04, 202015 min

42: Don't Get Into A Relationship Before You Hear This...(Or: How To Be Single)

"Too many people in the single world waste time and emotion pursuing TERRIBLE leads. They date men and women who don’t invest in them, they spend hours waiting for texts back only to get one-word answers, and they chase intimacy from people who only want attention/sex/validation... I don’t have a dog in this fight. Being in a relationship can be incredible. But being single is also AMAZING and gets taken for granted way more often...." --- Follow Steve: Twitter - @stephenhhussey Instagram - @ste...

Jul 30, 202020 min

41: The #1 Cure For Your Broken Heart

I still remember every heartbreak I’ve ever had. If I try I can still bring back the agony of those months after a relationship ended, wondering if I was ever going to feel better and get back to my normal self. When you’re feeling that pain of losing someone, food doesn’t taste good. TV shows depress you. Your favourite places feel cursed because they bring back bittersweet memories. But there is a secret to emotionally recovering from a breakup, one that is shockingly simple but so crucial tha...

Jul 27, 20209 min

40: Did you lose the "RIGHT" Relationship?

Ever sat ruminating obsessively over something you could have or should have done differently in your relationship? Something you said, something you did, or something you wish you’d have done more? It’s a dreadful, sickening feeling. I know because I’ve felt it. It leads to regret, anxiety, self-loathing… not to mention a lack of appetite and insomnia. We turn over every memory, imagining where we could have been with that person had we just behaved differently. And this feeling isn’t limited t...

Jul 23, 202011 min

39: How The Pain of Regret and Heartbreak Stops You Moving Forward...

I can’t tell you how many people I’ve coached who can’t let go of the past. Women who are still hating themselves for dating the wrong guy for so many years. Women who feel they’ve wasted their career so far. Women who still let an old family trauma affect their mood every... single... day. I know these things are hard. Believe me, I’m not pretending these are small problems. But if you want to know how to break free, let go of your baggage, and feel 100% more empowered, please, please make sure...

Jul 19, 202010 min

38: Why Men "Love Bomb" And What You Can Do About It

Have you ever had someone come into your life, dazzle you with their initial investment and attention, only to disappear as fast as they came? This phenomenon has been nicknamed “Love Bombing,” and it can be very painful, especially when you were led to believe it was going somewhere. You may be asking yourself why someone would do this. In this week’s episode I’ll show you… My hope is that this will not only give you a sense of closure, but also help you to move past the heartache you are feeli...

Jul 15, 202034 min

37: Can Being Flawed Be Sexy? The Truth About Your Insecurities...

Are the most attractive people always the most confident? Is insecurity always an attraction-killer, or is it more important to own your flaws? In today's episode Matt gives his take on the topic of insecurity and reveals the difference between flawed vs. being weak. --- Ready to transform your confidence and get the relationship you deserve? Get your copy of the At-Home Retreat at MHRetreatAtHome.com Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey...

Jul 13, 202034 min

36: 5 Signs You're Dating a Toxic Person

There are many dangerous qualities of a toxic person, but the worst one of all may be their deceptiveness. They can be so subtle in their manipulation, you may not even realize what they’re doing to you, until you’re in too deep and they’ve completely eroded your confidence. I want you to have the awareness to SEE this behaviour for what it is and give you the strength to walk away so you never have to worry about those people again. In today’s podcast, I take you through the 5 signs you’re dati...

Jul 08, 202019 min

35: One Simple Behaviour That Helps Relationships Last

What keeps relationships together? And what tears them apart? I've always been obsessed with looking at patterns of those in happy couples. Today, we share some research into a single behaviour that can make all the difference... Let us know your thoughts. Send us an email at [email protected]! >>> Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey >>> Follow Matthew @thematthewhussey Transform your core confidence...download the free training at GetCoreConfidence.com...

Jul 04, 202011 min

34: How to Be Brave in Love After You’ve Been Hurt

Have you ever been hurt badly by someone in love? Those wounds can stay with us a long time. They can stop us from taking chances again in love. They can make us afraid of getting close to someone again… Afraid of being vulnerable again… Afraid of letting someone in… Because if the result of letting our guard down and choosing to love someone is that we give up all of our power, then why bother, right? Sure, we may be giving up the special experience of being in love, but at least we don’t have ...

Jul 01, 20205 min
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