What do you do if the person you are with comes to you telling you they want a break? You’re devastated, you’re scared, and every instinct in you tells you to fight for this person you care about so much. What would you say to them? In these moments we often do exactly the opposite of what we need to. If you’re in this situation, or you ever want to know what to do if someone says this to you again, please check out my new video. It’s going to give you the only response you’ll ever need... I’d r...
Nov 22, 2024•5 min
Even if you trust your partner, should you feel ok if they reconnect with an ex? Is it a red flag? Does it overstep a huge boundary? Are they being unreasonable, or are you? In this episode, Matt and Audrey talk about the nuances of having friendships with your ex, when to see it as a problem, and how to have honest conversations that set your boundaries and express your feelings to your partner. ►► Never Face Your Love Life Alone Again Try Matthew AI at http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book...
Nov 20, 2024•42 min
The rules are different when you’re in a relationship with a narcissist. You may walk on eggshells, question yourself, or feel like you can never do anything right in their eyes. And if they break up with you? It only leaves you with more confusion. So what’s the right move in this situation? Should we stand up to them? Try to convince them with facts? This is just one of the 7 reasons why you can never expect to get true closure from a narcissist—and what you can do to give closure to yourself—...
Nov 18, 2024•19 min
It always surprises me how often a potentially great relationship is cut short because of avoidable mistakes and insecure behaviors that we haven’t learned to manage. “But doesn’t love solve everything?” Well, not exactly. What often happens is that these toxic patterns slowly undermine every chance at love we find (or at least make the search much harder than it needs to be). In this week’s Rewind episode, I want to share the three most common behaviors that can scare someone off before they ha...
Nov 15, 2024•5 min
How do you stop obsessing over someone you’ve recently started dating? When someone seems to tick all our boxes, it can be hard to NOT become flooded with thoughts of a possible future together. We anxiously wait for their text. We put them on a pedestal . . . and as a result, potentially push them away. In this week’s episode, I share 5 things you can do to stop falling for someone too quickly. By following these steps, you’ll be able to keep your value and actually enjoy dating instead of gett...
Nov 11, 2024•21 min
Over my career, I’ve had so many people ask me how to get someone to actually call them. We seem to live on our phones these days, and yet, it feels like no one wants to pick them up and actually have a conversation. We're all good with texting, posting on social media, or sending messages, but when it comes to hearing someone’s voice? Well, that seems like too much to ask. Or is it? I've seen people make this way more complicated than it needs to be, so let’s simplify things. If you're tired of...
Nov 08, 2024•5 min
Today it's my pleasure to sit down with the excellent Oliver Burkeman ( @oliverburkeman ), author of the new book " Meditation for Mortals ", which I've found myself recommending to all my friends and family as his work has hugely influential on me in recent years. We sit down to discuss: - Why "settling" in relationships is necessary - How to find your Life Task - How to get over perfectionism - The power of intuition vs. reason - Being more present in your life + acceptance - Giving up on the ...
Nov 06, 2024•58 min
THIS is one of the top reasons why a breakup can feel so raw . . . You may have only recently let your guard down and shown your real feelings, only to have the other person end things. This can feel especially painful because it’s like they’ve rejected you for who you truly are at your core. But it doesn’t have to feel that way, because it’s not actually true. And in today’s new episode, I explore 5 different mindsets that can ease heartbreak and restore confidence so you can find the right per...
Nov 04, 2024•22 min
When you’re in love and someone decides to end the relationship, it’s natural for your brain to go into "panic mode." Why are they doing this? How can I be the person they want? What can I say to win them back? If you allow these swirling thoughts to take over, you’ll likely end up pushing them further and further away. Now, I’m not here to tell you whether or not you should give things another try with your ex. There are many factors to consider, which we can talk about another time. But what I...
Nov 01, 2024•6 min
This week, I answered your questions live on a host of dating topics! Come join and listen in! :) ►► Learn What It Takes to Get Real, Lasting Commitment. Watch the Limited-Time Replay of Casual to Committed now at: http://www.LoveLifeReplay.com
Oct 29, 2024•23 min
Tired of dating the wrong people? When we really want to find a relationship, saying “no” to the people who don’t align with our core values can feel scary . . . especially when we’re not meeting a lot of people we connect with. We may even start to loosen our standards and become attached to someone who’s only giving us crumbs. In today’s episode, I dive into the subtle-but-profound difference between those who successfully find love, and those who continue to remain in limbo. You’ll also learn...
Oct 28, 2024•14 min
Have you ever been hurt badly by someone in love? Those wounds can stay with us a long time. They can stop us from taking chances again in love. They can make us afraid of getting close to someone again… Afraid of being vulnerable again… Afraid of letting someone in… Because if the result of letting our guard down and choosing to love someone is that we give up all of our power, then why bother, right? Sure, we may be giving up the special experience of being in love, but at least we don’t have ...
Oct 25, 2024•6 min
This week Stephen sits down with Matt and Audrey to talk about all things commitment (including some questions about their own relationship!) Topics include: Why people fear commitment Why choosing your partner feels so high stakes What makes sharing your life feel harder in 2024 Why we hold back emotionally Deciding if your standards are too high or too low How to know if you're compatible What flaws should you accept in a partner Whether you’re sick of superficial situationships or want to lea...
Oct 23, 2024•42 min
Why is it that we seem to be attracted to certain people who only give us scraps of attention? It often happens when we tell ourselves that someone is so rare and desirable that they’re worth holding on to even if they don’t want the same things as us. In today’s episode, I’ll show you the trap that many people end up falling into, plus one key quality that results in more commitment. Whether you’re sick of superficial situationships or want to learn how to grow closer in your relationship, this...
Oct 21, 2024•18 min
Have you ever been with someone you were certain would never settle down? The type who would declare to all their friends that they just “weren’t made” for a relationship . . . only to one day announce they’re in a serious relationship or even getting married? When this happens, we think, “What did the person they committed to do that I didn’t?!” What makes someone suddenly decide to commit? In this week’s video, I not only dive into the answer to this question, but I also give you 4 practical p...
Oct 18, 2024•11 min
Matt went live on Instagram and YouTube and answered YOUR questions! We talk about male role models, knowing if someone is willing to truly commit, and whether to leave to door open for your ex to come back. >>> Discover the Biggest Reason Why People Struggle to Get Commitment, and How You Can Avoid "Relationship Limbo". Register Now for my FREE Masterclass, From Casual to Committed at ... http://www.LoveLifeTraining.com >>> Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com.com >>>...
Oct 17, 2024•34 min
Matt and Audrey answer a question from a listener in an exclusive "situationship" with someone she truly connects with, but who still doesn't want to fully commit and call it a relationship. We discuss how to interpret their behavior, what to do to protect yourself from future pain, and what your options are now that you've invested 2 years in someone who is still holding back. >>> Discover the Biggest Reason Why People Struggle to Get Commitment, and How You Can Avoid "Relationship Limbo". Regi...
Oct 16, 2024•38 min
Have you struggled to find people who actually want commitment? Do you feel like you’re always trying to persuade someone why a relationship is a good thing? Dating can feel harder than ever in 2024. In today’s episode, I explain why so many people are anxious about commitment , give 3 different mindsets on commitment that can totally change someone’s perspective on it, and show what makes someone want commitment with YOU. (Spoiler alert: persuading has nothing to do with it!) >>> Discover the B...
Oct 14, 2024•15 min
There’s a line from the movie Vanilla Sky that I’ve always loved. It’s when Tom Cruise’s character realizes: “The little things... There’s nothing bigger, is there?” That’s often true in attraction too. So many people are looking for the huge epiphany, instead of the subtle-yet-powerful changes to their behavior that can skyrocket their results. As you'll learn in this episode, making a deeper connection doesn't have to be complicated. Try one of these 5 simple steps on your next date! ►► Discov...
Oct 11, 2024•7 min
Esther Perel returns for part two of our chat on all things modern dating and sexual communication in relationships. In this episode, Matt and Esther discuss: The realities of the biological clock (and how to date accordingly) How to find a romantic partner for your age The concept of "soulmates" and what matters in relationships Having the right expectations The challenge of modern masculinity, jealousy, and sexual judgment Conversations that improve your sex life How to stoke desire in a relat...
Oct 09, 2024•1 hr 14 min
Have you ever found yourself in the “casual zone” with someone you’re dating . . . and it seems impossible to escape it? When it started, you were fine with them saying, “Let’s see how it goes,” but you soon found yourself stuck in limbo with all your friends asking if you were in a relationship . . . While there are many positive reasons to take things slow when dating someone, there are 4 specific scenarios where “just seeing where something goes” can lead to heartbreak. In today’s episode, I ...
Oct 07, 2024•18 min
I’ve heard this story a thousand times before . . . You go on a date with someone and hit it off. Things seem to be going well, and pretty soon, you're seeing each other all the time. You text them daily, make plans for the future, and every time their name pops up on your phone, you feel a surge of happiness and excitement. That very same excitement keeps hitting new peaks until, suddenly, you feel a shift. They grow more and more distant, and at first you're not sure whether you're imagining i...
Oct 04, 2024•14 min
In this episode, we're joined by world renowned psychotherapist and relationship expert Esther Perel! Esther is a New York Times Bestselling author who books "Mating In Captivity" and "The State Of Affairs" have had a profound impact on our understanding of modern relationships. In this conversation, Matt and Esther talk about how to create desire in relationships, getting connected to your sexuality (even if you haven't in a long time), improving your communication around intimacy and sex with ...
Oct 02, 2024•48 min
“Were we even on the same date?” I’ve heard this more times than I can count when people feel frustrated that their date didn’t ask them many questions . . . or in some cases, any questions at all. In today’s episode, I respond to a viral tiktok on this topic and talk about how to tell the difference between someone who’s self-absorbed vs. someone who is just oblivious but really is interested in learning more about you. I also give you two sample scripts you can use when you want to bring up th...
Sep 30, 2024•17 min
It’s strange how we often feel more comfortable with the idea of going on a date with a stranger than talking on the phone. But isn’t it a good idea? Shouldn’t we test how they are on the phone before we meet in person? In this clip, we answer a question from someone who feels that men get scared off when she suggests a phone call, and give some practical tips for how to build more comfort before the first date. ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.Ask...
Sep 27, 2024•12 min
What are some practical ways we can deal with the grief we'll face in our lives? How do we stay present and not get lost in the painful stories and traumas of the past? And how do we get over guilt and regret? I shared a clip from my talk with Grief Expert David Kessler earlier this week, and I wanted to share a part two because I know how powerful this work will be for anyone in my audience suffering from loss and dealing with heartache. ►► Order Your Copy of David Kessler’s Finding Meaning: Th...
Sep 26, 2024•48 min
Have you ever suffered a loss you’ve never really moved on from? It could be someone you loved. It could be a failure, or the loss of a life you thought you would have. It could be trauma that goes back to childhood. The good news is, you can heal. I had the enormous privilege of hosting world-renowned grief expert David Kessler at my Retreat in Florida this year. In this week’s epsiode, you’ll hear his profound advice for what it really takes to move on and truly heal from our biggest losses. ►...
Sep 23, 2024•22 min
In today’s new episode, I’ll share with you exactly how to do that through 13 highly practical tips to get him to take you more seriously. Some of these are subtle, but each one of these points can have an outsized impact on how your relationship moves forward. I really wanted to make this episode because the tone you set in the beginning will serve you throughout your entire relationship, and the influence you can have on being taken seriously by someone is huge. It can determine whether your r...
Sep 20, 2024•18 min
Do you find some relationships and situations in life that just drain you? Maybe there are people you're investing energy into in your dating life that make you feel burnt out, frustrated, and make you want to withdraw entirely. So if you want to spend your time in a happier, freer, more productive way that leaves you uplifted, this episode is for you. Matt gives 7 key insights from the book " Protect Your Peace " by Trent Shelton that will change your mindset and stop you surrounding yourself w...
Sep 18, 2024•34 min
Why does dating feel so difficult today? It can often seem like it’s a competition to see who can be more “aloof,” who can care less, who can try the least. And when you put in actual effort, it can feel like it even turns people off! Everyone seems to be looking for someone “rare and special,” but there’s a right way and a wrong way to approach this. In today’s episode, I explore the #1 way to approach dating, advice for texting, and small-but-effective ways to move things forward. ►► Ask Matth...
Sep 16, 2024•21 min
