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Love Life With Matthew Hussey

Matthew Husseywww.howtogettheguy.com
Modern dating doesn’t have to be confusing!  Join Matthew Hussey—New York Times bestselling author, world-renowned dating coach, and host of the #1 YouTube channel for relationship advice—for deep, funny, and brutally honest conversations on everything love, confidence, and relationships. He dives deep into helping people transform the three most important relationships we have in life: the relationship with others, with ourselves, and with life itself. Every Wednesday, Matthew is joined by his cohosts: his wife and collaborator Audrey Hussey, who brings her signature warmth, wit, and insight; his brother Stephen Hussey, a New York Times bestselling author with a PhD in Philosophy; and Producer David, who adds his unique perspective and humor to the mix. In weekly episodes, they share practical advice, hard-won wisdom, and strategies to navigate finding a lasting relationship. No matter your relationship status, the Love Life podcast will meet you where you are.

Episodes

(Rewind): If You Want To Heal Your Heartbreak, Listen To This...

I’ll keep this short. If you’re experiencing any kind of pain right now from a “situation” or a relationship ending, this clip is a must-watch for you today. It could be the pain of having been ghosted . . . It could be the pain of someone you were seeing regularly going cold on you . . . Or it could be the terrible heartbreak of a long-term relationship falling apart when you didn’t want it to end. In this clip, my brother Stephen and I are not merely talking about how to get over your pain, bu...

Oct 14, 202212 min

186: How To Overcome Anxiety About Your Biological Clock When Dating

Do you want marriage and kids? Feel like you have a sense of urgency because of your biological clock? It’s common for our desires for the future to bring up all kinds of anxieties in dating. Especially when we are torn between “playing it cool”, or being honest and up front about what we want (which could scare someone away!) In this episode, Matt, Stephen, Audrey, and Jameson dive into the thorny topic of how to handle dating and honest communication when you feel hyper aware of your biologica...

Oct 12, 20221 hr

(Matt Monday): Why He's Not Giving You the Respect You Deserve

Wondering why the guy you’re seeing doesn’t seem to respect you? You might be surprised by the reason . . . If your tendency is toward anxiety, you’ll go to great lengths just to restore the peace and get things “back to normal” as quickly as possible. This often includes the compulsion to say “sorry” even when something’s not your fault. The danger with this is that when we make it clear to someone that we’ll do anything to avoid difficult conversations, it becomes easy for them to take us for ...

Oct 10, 202212 min

185: Why Aren’t You More Attracted To Him? + What Makes Bad Boys Sexy

There are 2 kinds of men that can be dangerous to fall for: (1) the guy who is a “project”, (2) the bad boy. It’s common that we date similar types throughout our romantic life. In this episode, Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson talk about why we look for these characters over and over again and how we can break free from chasing people who are wrong for us. --- Join our next Virtual Retreat (November 11th - 13th)! - Claim Your Spot Today at MHVirtualRetreat.com --- Email us! You can in touch wi...

Oct 05, 202257 min

(Matt Monday): If He's Sending Mixed Signals, Text Him THIS

Does absence really make the heart grow fonder . . . especially when the person you’re into seems to forget you exist when you’re not in the same room? When you’re together, life couldn’t be better. You have off-the-charts chemistry, they’re totally focused on you, and your connection feels genuine. The catch? When you’re apart, you feel invisible as communication slows to a crawl and often drops off completely. As a result of these mixed signals, you’re essentially living in two completely diff...

Oct 03, 202212 min

(Rewind): Unrequited Love is Bulls**t!

Yeah, I said it. Have you ever been in love with someone who doesn't share your feelings You live in hope that one day they'll light up your phone with a text that says how much they can't live without you. Or, you fantasize that they'll leave their partner and run back into your arms. They'll say what a fool they've been and how much they need you by their side. It's romantic, right? Nope. And this kind of "perpetual hope" can be so dangerous for your relationships that I feel I have to say som...

Sep 30, 20225 min

184: Are You A Recovering "People Pleaser"?

“Would you call yourself a people pleaser? Tell us how it shows up in your life…” And you answered! Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson sit down to look at your top responses to how you fall into the trap of people pleasing and the problems this causes in our lives. Do you say “yes” to things you don’t really want to do? Feel like you’re always giving emotional energy with nothing in return? Do you feel you have to avoid being your honest self in order to keep the peace and make everyone around yo...

Sep 28, 202255 min

(Matt Monday): The Dangerous “High Value” Guy You Should Avoid

Have you dated someone you find so amazing and impressive that you almost start to feel not good enough for them? Maybe it’s their attractiveness or intelligence . . . or perhaps it’s their success, wealth, or status (such as the example in today’s video) that has you feeling lucky whenever they turn their attention to you. Whatever it might be, the reaction we often have to this feeling is highly toxic for our happiness . . . because we start to shrink our needs. We become pleasers and find it ...

Sep 26, 202212 min

(Rewind): Full of Regret for Screwing Up Your Relationship? Watch This...

Ever sat ruminating obsessively over something you could have or should have done differently in your relationship? Something you said, something you did, or something you wish you’d have done more? It’s a dreadful, sickening feeling. I know because I’ve felt it. It leads to regret, anxiety, self-loathing… not to mention a lack of appetite and insomnia. We turn over every memory, imagining where we could have been with that person had we just behaved differently. And this feeling isn’t limited t...

Sep 23, 20229 min

183: Is He Losing Interest Or Is He Just Comfortable?

How do you know if a guy has stopped trying, or if your anxious attachment-type fears are making you panic for no reason? In today's episode, Matt, Stephen, Jameson and Audrey talk about what to do when someone you're dating changes their level of affection and gives mixed signals, but says they want to be with you. If you tend to overthink and find yourself worrying your partner might have changed their view on the relationship, make sure to listen to this one! --- My 30-Day Confidence Challeng...

Sep 21, 20221 hr 8 min

(Matt Monday): How to Be Confident When You DON'T FEEL ATTRACTIVE

If you struggle to feel confident because you don’t like the way you look, make listening to this episode the top priority of your day today (and be sure to stay until the end for a special bonus!) I promise you won’t regret it. Your coach, Matthew x --- My 30-Day Confidence Challenge is back by popular demand! There's still time to claim your place on this FREE training taking place September 27th. Simply visit MHChallenge.com to sign up. --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and giv...

Sep 19, 20228 min

(Rewind): Was Breaking Up With Him The Right Decision?

You decided it’s time to break up. And now you’re single again. But for some reason you don’t feel at peace. You’re still haunted by that eternal question: Did I make a HUGE mistake? Even if it was YOU who decided to call off a relationship, at some point you’re always going to get that horrible feeling inside of you that questions your decision to dump someone. Your friends and family say it’s for the best. But maybe they don’t really know. Plus, there was that one friend who advised you to giv...

Sep 16, 20228 min

182: How To Leave A Narcissist

What do you do if you’re dating a Narcissist? It’s one thing to recognise the signs: questioning your sanity, feeling devalued, never having your needs account for. But what about when you FINALLY decide you have to leave? That can be the hardest part. A narcissist can make you feel guilty. They can make you feel like you’re being impulsive, unfair, or even outright cruel for abandoning them. Taking the decision to get your life back can mean unwinding years of entanglement, but it’s the first s...

Sep 14, 20221 hr 36 min

(Matt Monday): Is the Person You’re Dating a Narcissist?

I’ve carefully designed these 7 steps to address the stages you’ll go through—in the exact order they’re likely to arrive. And while we all know this process can take an enormous amount of time to put into action, I hope these steps will serve as a compass that will keep you pointed toward your strength (in spite of any distractions the narcissist may try to throw your way). I also hope this video provides you with strength, acceptance, peace, and progress as you finally move on with your life a...

Sep 12, 202218 min

(Rewind): Don’t Settle For Less. Settle On What You Want

There's a huge difference between settling FOR something in life and settling ON something. When we "settle for" something, it's often the result of us lowering our standards. We accommodate bad behavior and accept less than what we truly desire because we don't think we're worthy of it. We think "this might be as good as it's going to get" whether in our love life, family, or career. But when we "settle on" something, we take control of it. At this point, we're deciding that at the very least, ...

Sep 09, 20224 min

181: How To Deal With The Pain Of Not Getting Closure

When a relationship ends, or someone stops calling after several dates, do you need to know why? What does it mean to get “closure” in dating? As humans we put a lot of emphasis on how things end. We want answers: “Was it the way I dressed? Is it something about my body? Or something I did that turned you off? Was it too desperate?!” But what answers are we looking for? And how much brutally honest truth do we really want to hear? Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson try to figure out whether closu...

Sep 07, 20221 hr 34 min

(Matt Monday): 8 Revealing Questions You Can Ask Him on a Date

Dating is tough. The person we’re meeting up with may have been on multiple other dates this month. How can we stand out when there seems to be so much competition? The #1 way to separate ourselves is through great conversation. And yet most of us spend all of our time trying to look hot without ever thinking about what we’re going to say when we get there. I’m sure you already have the “looking great” part taken care of. But in today’s video, I cover the “what to say” part—specifically, how to ...

Sep 05, 20229 min

(Rewind): Not Where You Want To Be By Now? Watch This...

We all long for financial independence, relationship bliss, greater familial connection, and a generally peaceful life with fewer hardships. But as it happens, life doesn’t care about the straight-line trajectory we've planned for ourselves. But life is cyclical and doesn’t trend in just one direction. This is why it is imperative for us to take our focus off of where we feel we “ought to be” and make peace with life as it is today. It is our job to cherish and learn from the wisdom gained from ...

Sep 02, 202210 min

180: The Dangers Of Dating Someone High Status

It's easy when we like someone to feel like we have to make excuses for their avoidant behaviour. Sometimes they may have genuine psychological issues that need to be resolved. But how much should you wait in limbo if the person you're dating still hasn't figured themselves out? Should their issues with their previous ex be an excuse to not move forward? And what can you do about it? Matt, Jameson, Stephen and Audrey sit down to talk about dating a celebrity, being a "challenge", valuing yoursel...

Aug 31, 20221 hr 16 min

(Matt Monday): Man Humbles Room Full of Women . . . And It Was Me??

Who pays on a first date? Six years ago, I made a controversial video tackling this very subject, and it went viral. Millions of people watched and reposted it (wikiHow even used it as the definitive video answer to the question) . . . It was so popular that it went viral AGAIN earlier this year when someone posted it under the title “Man Humbles a Room Full of Women.” So this week, I decided to make a reaction video to my own video. --- Get My Best Solution to Your Current Love Life Issue. To G...

Aug 29, 202217 min

(Rewind): How To Express Your Needs In Early Dating

In the early stages of dating someone we like and feel excited about, everyone is worried about coming across too keen and blowing it. This is a very human experience felt by men and women alike. And it is that very emotion that will have us mute our needs and desires as we go into overdrive to impress the other person. But as we know, people like what they value, and communicating our standards early on is a key part of attraction we often overlook. Expressing your needs in early dating can see...

Aug 26, 20224 min

179: Men Reveal TRUTH About Why They Stay Single

We asked men "what is the brutally honest truth about why you get scared of committing to someone?", and boy do we have some answers for you! Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson talk about whether they agree with the reasons men give for avoiding commitment, what makes some men want to stay single, and what we can do to influence it. --- Join our next Virtual Retreat (November 11th - 13th)! - Claim Your Spot Today at MHVirtualRetreat.com --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give yo...

Aug 24, 20221 hr 12 min

(Matt Monday): 3 Brutally Honest Reasons Men Don't Commit

Does it sometimes feel like men are afraid of commitment? You could be dating someone for a few months—and have a ton of chemistry and a great emotional connection—and yet, like clockwork, you hit a wall the moment the relationship gets to a stage where it feels like it should be progressing to the next level. Just when you start to feel that this could be something real, he puts his guard up and isn’t ready to commit. Situations like these can be unbelievably painful, and they can leave you fee...

Aug 22, 202218 min

(Rewind): Text Him This ONE Word To Get His Attention

Is there someone in your life who keeps going hot and cold with the attention they're showing you? One minute they want to see you, and the next, you feel them pulling away... What's up with that? When someone you like disappears and then reappears, it's easy to drive yourself crazy trying to work out the BEST way to get their attention again. You think, "Do I ignore them to teach them a lesson? Do I play it cool and pretend it was no big deal? Or do I show them I'm hurt that they disappeared?" ...

Aug 19, 20223 min

178: What It REALLY Takes To Start Over In Love

One of the unchanging truths about love is that even though it's beautiful when we find it, there's always a chance we can lose it. But how do we move on from an old chapter when it's over? How do you develop the right mindset to get back in the game when you've faced a major setback? Matt and the team sit down to discuss starting over and why it can be both a painful and beautiful experience. --- Join our next Virtual Retreat (November 11th - 13th)! - Claim Your Spot Today at MHVirtualRetreat.c...

Aug 17, 202241 min

(Matt Monday): Feel Them Pulling Away? AVOID THIS MISTAKE

I’ve heard this story a thousand times before . . . A woman goes on a date with a guy and they hit it off. Things seem to be going well, and pretty soon, they’re seeing each other all the time. He’s texting her daily, making plans with her for the future, and every time his name pops up on her phone, she feels a surge of happiness and excitement. That very same excitement keeps hitting new peaks until, suddenly, she feels a shift. He grows more and more distant, and at first she’s not sure wheth...

Aug 15, 202213 min

(Rewind) Transform Your Present Pain Into Personal Power

It's easy to feel like our struggles, or past, our pain, is holding us back in life. And I'm not here to pretend it's easy to deal with those burdens we carry with us. But they don't have to define you. In fact, if you choose, you can make them the start of a completely different story that gives you more power than you could possibly imagine. So today, here is a personal message on what it takes to create light even in the darkest moments... --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and ...

Aug 12, 20226 min

177: Think You Have A "Dating Type"? Here's Why That Might Be A Problem

Do you have a dating type? Have your previous relationships always been with a similar person, in terms of looks, personality or behavioural dynamics? It's easy for us to look at the past and tell ourselves, "This is who I am. This is who I like." And it can affect how we date now simply because of what we're used to. But is it helpful to lock ourselves in on a single kind of person? Or should our tastes be more flexible when finding love? Matt and the team talk about the topic of dating types a...

Aug 10, 20221 hr 32 min

(Matt Monday): 3 Texts You Can Send to Get Their Attention INSTANTLY

On dating apps, first impressions matter. And after you clear the first hurdle of endless swiping and find someone who piques your interest, it’s often the next step that’s the hardest . . . That is, of course: What on EARTH do you say to them?! You scan their bio, hoping inspiration will strike and you’ll manage to figure out the perfect opening gambit. You think: Would a simple “hey” or “great photo” show a lack of imagination? I’d like to just be myself, but it can feel so hard to be authenti...

Aug 08, 20229 min
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