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Love Life With Matthew Hussey

Matthew Husseywww.howtogettheguy.com
Modern dating doesn’t have to be confusing!  Join Matthew Hussey—New York Times bestselling author, world-renowned dating coach, and host of the #1 YouTube channel for relationship advice—for deep, funny, and brutally honest conversations on everything love, confidence, and relationships. He dives deep into helping people transform the three most important relationships we have in life: the relationship with others, with ourselves, and with life itself. Every Wednesday, Matthew is joined by his cohosts: his wife and collaborator Audrey Hussey, who brings her signature warmth, wit, and insight; his brother Stephen Hussey, a New York Times bestselling author with a PhD in Philosophy; and Producer David, who adds his unique perspective and humor to the mix. In weekly episodes, they share practical advice, hard-won wisdom, and strategies to navigate finding a lasting relationship. No matter your relationship status, the Love Life podcast will meet you where you are.

Episodes

(Rewind): Is Modern Dating Destroying Commitment?

In this week's rewind episode, I take a question from Khalani on why, in modern day dating, many people are hesitant to jump into a relationship. We also discuss how she can be more trusting when meeting men who are looking for more than a casual fling. Enjoy! ►► FREE download: “9 Texts You Can Send To Get More Attraction” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “Why Men Disappear” → http://www.WhyHesGone.com...

Dec 24, 20228 min

196: When Is "Casual Fun" Dangerous in Dating?

Casual relationships and hook-ups are more common than ever. Some even talk about a "hook-up culture". But even though we have more choice than ever, there are sometimes consequences we never anticipate. Society says we shouldn’t have stigma around hooking up and casually dating - and that's a good thing - but it can also be painful if we aren't honest about what we really want. We always have to ask the question: is this serving us? Am I feeling respected or am I doing something because it's si...

Dec 21, 202247 min

(Matt Monday): When You Should STOP GIVING SO MUCH to a Relationship

OK, picture this . . . I’m in my local coffee shop, minding my own business—my business in this case is ordering an oat milk flat white (just in case we ever go to coffee and you want to know what my order is)—and I get talking to a woman who tells me she’s mad at me. She knows who I am, she’s a fan, she even said my program worked for her, and yet she told me she was mad at me. In this episode, I tell the full story . . . You’re going to want to listen to the full story, because it highlights h...

Dec 19, 20226 min

(Rewind): 6 Behaviors That Kill Relationships

Do you know what really makes relationships fall apart? I do. Having now coached for over 10 years on the topic of dating, I’ve seen the worst behaviors over and over again. And if we don’t work on eliminating these toxic relationship habits, it doesn’t matter how attractive we are: we’ll always find a way to self-sabotage and drive our partner away. I don’t know about you, but a lifetime of painful arguments and emotional mind games isn’t something I ever want to settle for in love. So here are...

Dec 16, 20225 min

195: How Do I Get Over Anger When My Ex Betrayed Me?

Ever been betrayed by someone you love? How about having an ex start dating your best friend after putting you through a toxic relationship? It can be especially painful when you feel like someone has changed for the better...but only for their new partner AFTER you've already experienced the worst of them! In this episode, Matt and the JAMS crew discuss how to let go of your resentment, make peace with and forgive the past, and how to stop worrying about what a toxic ex does after you've cut th...

Dec 14, 202229 min

(Matt Monday): 5 Reasons You're Single That Have Nothing to Do With Love

“Why am I still single?!?” If you’ve asked yourself this question long enough, you might be starting to feel like finding love is simply a matter of luck. And sometimes that’s true. But most of the time, we may not realize that the way we’ve set up our everyday life and habits can inadvertently make it harder to find “the one.” If you’re struggling to figure out why you’re still single, in this week’s video, I give you 5 honest reasons why, plus some quick changes you can make to attract the rig...

Dec 12, 202218 min

(Rewind): Long-Distance Relationships: The Brutal Truth About How To Make Them Work

For a long time I thought it was crazy how many women asked me to talk about this topic. But now, I realize the reason is obvious: In 2022, more of us are doing long-distance relationships than ever. You meet a great guy on Instagram who doesn’t live in the same country... You start dating the perfect man in your city, only to find out he’s been offered a new job 1000 miles away… And suddenly, you find yourself having “Skype dates”, and you now spend half your work day sending silly photos to ea...

Dec 09, 20228 min

194: 5 Reasons You’re Still Single

You might feel like you’re seeing all your friends in couples, and you wonder why it hasn’t happened to you yet. Although we can’t control the exact moment we’ll meet “the one”, there are things we can do that make it MUCH more likely we’ll find a great relationship by having the right habits and mindset. So in this episode, Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson discuss 5 reasons you’re still single and what you can do TODAY to maximize your chances of getting the partner you desire. --- Download my...

Dec 07, 20221 hr 10 min

(Matt Monday): This Dangerous Guy Keeps You Single

I’m curious if you can relate to this . . . You know you have a lot to offer someone, but you can’t seem to get out of the cycle of dating the wrong people—bouncing from one emotionally unavailable guy to the next. What you may not notice is that—without even realizing it—you’ve likely conditioned yourself to attract those types of guys. While a casual fling with someone like that may feel harmless, you may be surprised to learn just how much it can shift the way you approach dating. In today’s ...

Dec 05, 202215 min

(Rewind): How To Recover When Your Ex Moves On Too Fast…

Breakups are hard. Really hard. Especially if you didn’t do the breaking up. You’re left with questions about your own self-worth. You punish yourself for your deficiencies. You retrace the steps of the relationship like a detective on a mission to find out where you screwed up. And so we meet Roy, the subject of our clip today. Now you know Roy’s story. What can he do to wake from this fever dream? Let’s find out. Please share this episode someone who needs to hear this message. P.S. And if you...

Dec 02, 20229 min

193: How To Handle A Toxic Relationship You Don’t Want To Lose

Do you have a relationship that you are unwilling to lose, but that causes you daily resentment and frustration? Where you feel like you are giving, but not getting much in return? In this solo episode, Matt explains how to take a step back and reassess a toxic or difficult relationship we want to keep in our lives, whether it’s reasonable to expect someone to change, and what we can do to protect ourselves if we are going to endure relationships that drain our energy. --- Email us! You can in t...

Nov 29, 202219 min

(Matt Monday): Confusing Sh*t Men Say (And What They Really Mean)

“Let’s just take it day by day.” “We may not be ‘official,’ but I basically act like your boyfriend. Aren’t actions enough for you?” “I like you too much to be with you . . .” Any of these sound familiar? Trying to decode the excuses guys give for the reason why they don’t want an exclusive relationship can get incredibly confusing. How is it that you can have great communication with a guy in nearly every area . . . yet when it comes to talking about the relationship, you feel like you’re speak...

Nov 27, 202217 min

(Rewind): Never Make This Flirting Mistake In Conversation

You're on a date with someone. You're both sharing stories. He tells you that he plays the guitar. You notice that he seems really proud when he tells you about playing his first gig. Then without missing a moment, you start enthusiastically telling him about your friend who's also in a band, is the best guitarist you've ever seen, and has just released and album. Suddenly, his eyes narrow and he seems emotionally checked out, maybe even less interested. Why? What happened? In this episode with ...

Nov 25, 20225 min

192: Does Porn Count As Cheating??

There may be few more controversial and divisive topics than that of watching porn in relationships. For some, it’s cheating. For others, it’s a useful way to balance out differences in sexual appetites. For others still, it can be a fun thing for couples to share and explore sexually together. So in this episode, Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson get together to discuss healthy vs unhealthy attitudes to porn, how to communicate your boundaries around porn in a relationship, and what to do when ...

Nov 23, 20221 hr 4 min

(Matt Monday): The #1 Thing Men Say to Avoid Commitment

In the early days of dating, figuring out if someone is actually open to a relationship is key. But what does it mean when you ask them whether they're interested in a committed relationship and they respond, "I could be open to that. . . with the right person"? This sentence can make us feel safe to dive in, but do we really know whether they're truly looking for a relationship. . . or just telling us what we want to hear? In today's episode, I give you three things to look for in those early d...

Nov 21, 20227 min

(Rewind): The 3 Compliments That Make Someone More Attracted To You

Compliments are like gifts. In fact, they’re even better, because the right compliment can be something the receiver never forgets. When in a relationship, most people don’t give enough compliments, despite them being so powerful in creating connection and making people feel loved. So here are 3 compliments men love to hear that can get you started! --- ►► FREE download: “9 Texts to Get Any Man” → http://www.9texts.com ►► FREE download: “5 Compliments to Get Him Addicted to You” → http://www.Say...

Nov 18, 20225 min

191: Confusing Sh*t Men Say (And What They Really Mean)

Have you ever had a guy say things that give you completely mixed messages? Or you've heard a phrase several times and are left scratching your head wondering what it actually means? You're not alone. In this episode we asked YOU for your best examples of confusing phrases you've heard from guys and got together to crack the code once and for all! --- Email us! You can in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at [email protected] --- Follow Matt on Insta @thematthewhussey F...

Nov 16, 202248 min

(Matt Monday): 7 Ways To Create Chemistry (Make Him Ask You Out Again)

You felt like the date couldn’t have gone better. They told you they had the best time, and as soon as you got home, you started counting down the minutes until you could see them again . . . Except you never got that second date. Why would someone disappear after saying they had a really great time? Today’s episode reveals the #1 reason why this happens, and what you can do about it. I’ll give you a hint: chemistry is the key factor that turns a first date into a second one—and in this new vide...

Nov 14, 202212 min

(Rewind): If You’re Thinking About Other People In A Relationship, Listen To This…

Back in ye olden times, the fear that a partner might be cheating was enough to keep someone up at night. But in recent years, we’ve added a new layer of anxiety to the mix: “micro-cheating,” a.k.a. “back burner relationships.” In fact, when Psychology Today recently polled people who are in a relationship, 56% revealed they had a back burner person: someone they’re in contact with who could be an option if their current relationship doesn’t go the distance. That’s not to say that everyone reali...

Nov 11, 202210 min

190: How To Leave A Narcissist (Part 2)

Why are toxic relationships so hard to leave? One reason is because you hold onto the small good moments and fail to acknowledge the extent of the bad. And when we feel sympathy for someone, this also makes us doubt ourselves. We think "Maybe I'm wrong?", "Maybe I'm being too harsh on this person?", "Maybe it's actually ok?" In this episode, Matt, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson talk about how to get the courage to let go of a narcissistic or toxic relationship and feel certain in your decision when...

Nov 09, 202227 min

(Matt Monday): How to Stop Obsessing Over Someone You Want

Have you ever created an entire relationship in your head before going on a date with someone? Perhaps you’ve been texting with them for weeks and have already deduced they could be “The One,” or maybe you live for the two minutes of conversation you have with them before spin class. And in order to fan the flames of your excitement, you turn into a social media detective, where their posts and information become “compatibility clues” that either build up or tear down the relationship you’ve cre...

Nov 07, 202217 min

(Rewind) The Obvious Red Flag You Should Never Ignore When Dating

People always ask how to spot red flags in relationships. But often the red flags are right in front of our eyes - we just choose to ignore them. In this clip, Matt and Stephen explain why this happens and how you SHOULD respond when the warning signs appear. . . --- ►► FREE download: “3 Secrets To Love” → 3SecretsToLove.com --- Email us! You can in touch with the show and give your feedback/thoughts at [email protected] --- Follow Matt on Insta @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen on Insta ...

Nov 04, 202210 min

189: The Difficulties Of Planning For Marriage And Kids (When The Outcomes Are Uncertain)

In a previous episode, we talked about the struggles dating can pose when women are thinking about their desire for children and their biological clock, and all the associated anxieties that can come with it. And we had some incredible and thoughtful responses to what is rightfully a very difficult and emotional topic to discuss (but also an essential one). In this episode, we take the conversation further and look at the disparity between men and women in future planning, why freezing your eggs...

Nov 02, 202252 min

(Matt Monday): He Said He Wanted You Then Pulled Away? HERE’S WHY…

It’s Halloween time, and for the occasion, in today’s video I talk about what might be the most insidious form of ghosting. If someone ghosts you after a couple of tepid dates (which doesn’t feel good, don’t get me wrong) you can usually assume they just weren’t feeling the chemistry . . . But what does it mean when someone pulls away after saying they want to be exclusive, or after texting constantly and telling you they want to see you all the time? In this brand-new episode, I give you three ...

Oct 31, 202215 min

(Rewind): Mindset Shifts for When You Think “They’re Out Of My League”

Ever notice how you completely fall apart when you try to speak to that guy you’re really attracted to? It’s like with your best friends you can be effortlessly funny, talkative, and smart, then suddenly you’re talking to this guy and your brain turns to mush. Then begins the negative self-talk: “I’m not pretty enough,” “I have nothing interesting to say,” “He’s not going to like me.” It’s like you instantly lose all of your game. You go into “impress” mode. You over-analyze everything you say. ...

Oct 28, 20226 min

188: I'm Not Attracted To The Men Who Want Me

What do you do when you're not attracted to men who want you, and the men you ARE attracted to are unwilling to commit? In life, as we get older, we can find the dating world changing around us. We want different things, we're not as young and carefree as we were in our twenties, and we feel like we want something serious in this phase of our life. In this episode, Matthew, Stephen, Audrey and Jameson go deep on the dilemma of attracting the wrong people when you want to get serious, how to get ...

Oct 26, 202256 min

(Matt Monday): Keep Confusing Red Flags With Excitement?! WATCH THIS...

Do you feel like your brain is wired wrong because despite your better judgment, you’re only attracted to the bad boys or the players? You know . . . you love the idea of a great, stable guy who treats you right, but somehow you’ve become so accustomed to the highs and lows of roller-coaster relationships that you can’t imagine feeling chemistry with such a man. At this point, you may be asking yourself if it’s possible to feel a spark with someone who isn’t always playing games with you . . . I...

Oct 24, 202216 min

(Rewind): Is Your To-Do List Making You Miserable?

The technique I give in this clip shows us how to feel connected to the things we have to do in our day so that we don’t become list-checking zombies with no real joy in our lives. You can use it to be ultra-productive AND happy at the same time. This technique has become an indispensable part of my daily practice. Perhaps it will for you too. --- Follow Matt on Insta @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen on Insta @stephenhhussey --- Email us! You can get in touch with the show and give your feedback...

Oct 22, 20226 min

187: Have You Ever Fallen For THIS Guy??

There are certain types of romantic partners who present themselves as having amazing qualities: deep, thoughtful, self-aware, spiritually evolved… But, can these qualities be just another form of seduction that hides ego and selfishness? What if someone is good at appearing have all the right character traits, but then you find out yourself feeling neglected or hurt when you’re in a relationship with them? Matt, Steve, Audrey and Jameson talk about how you can get fooled by first impressions, a...

Oct 19, 202245 min

(Matt Monday): If He Pulls Away, This Will Make Him Chase You

What can you do when you’re sick of the excuses and deep down want to see them more? Well, you can listen to this brand new Matt Monday, in which I’ll share with you how to avoid the most common mistake in this scenario and finally see some progress. --- Get the Exact Scripts to Communicate Confidently in Dating. Unlock a Chapter from How to Talk to Men for FREE → http://www.GetTheFreeChapter.com

Oct 17, 202210 min
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