In today’s Rewind episode, I talk about what might be the most insidious form of ghosting. If someone ghosts you after a couple of tepid dates (which doesn’t feel good, don’t get me wrong) you can usually assume they just weren’t feeling the chemistry . . . But what does it mean when someone pulls away after saying they want to be exclusive, or after texting constantly and telling you they want to see you all the time? In this episode, I give you three reasons why someone might do this, what you...
May 16, 2025•15 min
Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen dive into what truly makes a long-term relationship successful—beyond the clichés. Whether you’re in a new relationship, struggling with resentment, or simply curious about what happy couples do differently, this episode is packed with insight from experts on what really makes love last. In this episode: Results from a 20,000-person Instagram poll on what people think makes a relationship last. The Gottman Institute on bids for connection , and the 5:1 ratio of posit...
May 14, 2025•1 hr 25 min
If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a pattern of falling for the wrong people, you’re not alone—but that doesn’t mean you’re doomed to repeat the same mistakes. In this video, I’ll show you how to rewire the way you experience attraction. In it, I share five specific shifts that will help you break free from the patterns sabotaging your love life. From microdosing on emotionally unavailable exes to losing yourself in someone who isn’t ready, we’re getting honest about the real cost of staying...
May 12, 2025•14 min
Does absence really make the heart grow fonder . . . especially when the person you’re into seems to forget you exist when you’re not in the same room? When you’re together, life couldn’t be better. You have off-the-charts chemistry, they’re totally focused on you, and your connection feels genuine. The catch? When you’re apart, you feel invisible as communication slows to a crawl and often drops off completely. As a result of these mixed signals, you’re essentially living in two completely diff...
May 09, 2025•12 min
In this episode Matthew and Audrey sit down for a review of the last quarter of the year and dive into the hidden forces that shape our relationships with others and ourselves. They also discuss the perfectionism that keeps us from connection, overthinking texts, and the emotional blocks that hold us back in our relationships. Plus, they answer a listener's question on whether showing interest in someone inevitably drives them away, and how to strike the balance between authenticity and attracti...
May 07, 2025•45 min
Why do amazing people—kind, self-aware, emotionally intelligent—keep falling for partners who can’t meet them halfway? In this week’s video, we uncover the five reasons behind this painful cycle and how to finally break free. From the scarcity mindset to the addictive highs and lows of unstable relationships, we’ll explore why we settle for less and how to rewrite the story we tell ourselves about love. If you’ve ever felt stuck between the chaos of unhealthy relationships and the “dullness” of ...
May 05, 2025•13 min
Have you ever found yourself stuck thinking about an ex who’s no longer in your life? It’s a painful trap, but one that so many of us fall into when we tie our worth to someone else’s story instead of our own. In this episode, we uncover the mindset shift that frees you from this cycle and helps you reclaim your confidence. By focusing on the one thing you truly own—yourself—you can start building a life that feels fulfilling, no matter what’s happening around you. If you’re ready to let go of w...
May 02, 2025•16 min
Why do great dates sometimes lead to radio silence? In this new Love Life episode, Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen dive into the mystery of why someone might pull away after what seemed like a perfect first (or second, or third) date. From the elusive “spark” to deeper compatibility issues, you’ll learn surprising reasons why people choose not to pursue another date—and how to avoid taking it personally. --- 💬 Feeling stuck knowing what to say? Download our free guide: 9Texts.com → 9 ready-to-use ...
Apr 30, 2025•59 min
Have you ever sent a text and immediately wished you could take it back—or worse, been met with silence? In this week’s new video, I’m sharing 7 texts that not only greatly increase your chances of a reply, but also build real attraction. These aren’t your run-of-the-mill messages, either. They’re crafted to create tension and spark desire. Whether you’re tired of ghosting, lukewarm responses, or conversations that fizzle out, these texts will help you go from being someone they kind of like to ...
Apr 28, 2025•17 min
How do you know if someone’s really over their ex? Sometimes you meet a person who ticks all your boxes, but they also haven’t 100% gotten over the heartbreak of their last relationship. Of course, the first questions you ask yourself are: “Is this a huge red flag? Does it mean they are emotionally unavailable? Should I walk away?” This is a really important topic in today’s video, and my answer to this probably isn’t what you’d expect. Give it a watch to find out the signs you can look out for ...
Apr 25, 2025•13 min
Are you stuck in a cycle of tolerating disrespect or avoiding tough conversations? In this episode of Love Life , Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen dive into why so many of us stay in challenging relationships—whether romantic, familial, or platonic—for far too long, and how to reclaim your power by setting boundaries and addressing the issues. You’ll learn how to stop obsessing over someone else’s actions and start focusing on why you’re allowing it, plus practical tools for having those difficult c...
Apr 23, 2025•1 hr 6 min
How do you flirt without looking desperate? When you meet someone you’re into, it can feel like walking a tightrope—you want to show interest, but not come off as too eager. In this week’s episode, I share five subtle-yet-powerful flirting techniques that create attraction . . . without the fear of looking desperate or risking rejection. (Plus, I reveal a playful way my wife flirted with me early on that left a lasting impression—and it’s something you can easily try yourself.) --- ►► Want Your ...
Apr 21, 2025•22 min
We all know we won’t connect with everyone we meet . . . but one of the most frustrating situations we can find ourselves in is one where we feel an initial spark and a connection, but things just don’t seem to progress. And in the end, they end up fading as we feel a lack of momentum. Rather than giving in to our desire to double down on communication, there’s a simple shift we can make on a date that allows unique attraction to grow. And it’s the kind of thing that will leave them thinking of ...
Apr 18, 2025•11 min
Are you walking away too fast—or staying when you shouldn’t? In this episode, Matthew Hussey shares an honest look at how we misread red flags in dating in an interview with Lisa Bilyeu ( @LisaBilyeu ). You’ll learn how to spot real red flags vs. amber lights, when to pause instead of panic, and how the right relationship can help you heal. 🎯 Topics include: The difference between a red flag and an “amber light” 🚦 How fear and past hurt can make us overreact or shut down 😬 The danger of going...
Apr 17, 2025•28 min
If you’ve ever found yourself saying, “I’m so done with dating,” this video is for you. Dating burnout is real, and it’s easy to see the process of finding love as a chore. But what if there was a way to make dating fun again? That’s right. Going out, dating, finding a meaningful connection—this can be a rewarding part of your life, regardless of whether you’re looking for a committed relationship. So if you need a refresh for your brain right now, here are 7 powerful mindsets that will make dat...
Apr 14, 2025•18 min
Breakups are incredibly hard. And a split can be even more excruciating when your partner moves on while you’re still healing. It can leave you with all kinds of painful questions like: “Why wasn’t I good enough?” “What does that person have that I don’t have?” “Have I lost the love of my life to someone else?” It’s one of the worst types of pain there is. And if we don’t learn the right lessons from our breakup, it can create baggage in the form of insecurities and an unwillingness to open up t...
Apr 11, 2025•9 min
In this episode of the Love Life Podcast, Matthew, Audrey, Stephen, and producer David dive deep into one of the most common struggles in dating: flirting. So many people feel stuck when it comes to creating chemistry, worrying they'll come off as desperate, awkward, or get rejected. This episode breaks down how to define “flirting” rather than just talking, and gives some simple-but-powerful ways to do it in early attraction. 🎯 Topics include: Why people often lose their flirtatious spark when...
Apr 09, 2025•1 hr
If finding love feels harder than ever in 2025, it’s not just you. In today’s episode, I explore the cultural shifts and challenges that are fueling the “relationship recession.” Drawing inspiration from the Netflix series Adolescence , we’ll dive into the disillusionment many men are facing, the frustrations women are experiencing, and the hidden dynamics making connection feel so elusive. From surprising stats to the subtle mindsets that sabotage us before love even begins, this video connects...
Apr 07, 2025•25 min
Have you ever deeply fallen for someone only to feel them gradually fading away? It feels awful. You panic. You overthink every text message. You worry that losing this person could mean losing your chance at a real connection, or your dream of a relationship with someone truly special. I’ve found there are 3 common mistakes people make when they get into this panic mindset, and in today’s new video, I’ll show you the best strategy to give yourself the maximum chance of salvaging the relationshi...
Apr 04, 2025•14 min
In this episode, Matthew, Stephen, and Audrey dive into the “box theory”—the idea that people get placed into one of three boxes when dating: "Want to date," "Just for fun," or "Not interested." But is it really that simple? And can you change boxes over time? We break down the psychology behind first impressions in dating, whether it's possible to shift from casual to committed, and what really makes someone decide we’re ‘relationship material’. Topics Covered: What is the “3 Box Theory” of dat...
Apr 02, 2025•1 hr 1 min
Why do so many people struggle with the idea of commitment—even when they want love? What fears do you have to confront? And what does it really take to feel ready? In this conversation, I interview newly-married bestselling author and entrepreneur Lewis Howes about managing the “storms” of life, avoiding the self-doubt trap, and what it means to give your heart fully to a relationship. But we don’t stop there. We also get into money—why it’s so emotionally charged, and how unhealed financial wo...
Apr 01, 2025•2 hr 7 min
We’ve all been told that we should never come on too strong, and that playing it cool is the best way to get someone interested. But how much interest is the right amount to show in the early days of dating? If we show too much interest, we worry we’ll lose all our “power,” but if we show too little, they may not even realize we’re interested. In today’s Rewind episode, I share 5 tips on how to approach this in the early stages of dating so you can not only show the right amount of interest, but...
Mar 28, 2025•19 min
In this episode, we dive deep into the biggest challenges people face in dating — from rejection and insecurity to feeling like the odds are stacked against you. Whether you feel stuck due to age, lack of experience, body image, or financial worries, this episode is packed with reframes, real-life listener questions, and practical mindset shifts to help you get out of your own way and start moving forward with confidence. PLUS: A special interview with Lewis Howes on handling overwhelm, emotiona...
Mar 26, 2025•1 hr 17 min
You may have an idea of your perfect partner—the person who feels like the missing piece you’ve been searching for. When you finally meet someone who appears to tick all your boxes, you tell yourself, “This is it—the search is over!” But is that really what makes someone right for you? What if that person rejects you? In this episode, I show the TRUTH about compatibility in a relationship and what really makes someone “The One,” so that you never obsess over the wrong person again. --- ►► Order ...
Mar 24, 2025•15 min
We’ve been told from a very young age to “play it cool” . . . But as we grow up, we realize that when we feel we need to “play it cool” to keep someone interested, that often means we’re feeling anything but cool . . . and it usually comes from a place of insecurity or a fear of being rejected. Pretty soon, we find ourselves calibrating our conversations and contorting ourselves to meet the other person’s needs so we don’t come off as needy or a nuisance, and little by little, we start to show t...
Mar 21, 2025•12 min
In this episode, Matthew, Stephen and Audrey have a candid conversation about whether dating your "type" is actually helping or hurting your chances of finding love. Topics include: Are you stuck dating your "type"? How being overly attached to your type can blind you to better matches The difference between chemistry, compatibility, and long-term happiness Why your “type” might be based on old patterns or insecurities The modern fear of commitment: How people get stuck in relationship “TV shows...
Mar 19, 2025•1 hr 12 min
Ever had that sinking feeling that something in your relationship isn’t quite right—but you push it aside because everything seems too good to be true? We’ve all been there. And no film captures this better than Anora , this year’s Best Picture winner at the Academy Awards. If you’ve ever rushed into commitment, been swept away by grand gestures, or felt like you’re in a one-sided relationship, then you need to watch today’s episode. I break down the 5 biggest red flags that signal your relation...
Mar 17, 2025•12 min
Have you ever dated someone who’s so hard to stay away from EVEN THOUGH they’re not interested in a relationship and you know you should keep your distance? It’s like a drug . . . or the worst kind of junk food . . . even after you swear it off for good, your resolve crumbles the moment they reach out. When you’re in this vulnerable position, the hope that they may change and that things could be different is what drags you back in. And before you know it, you go right back to feeling powerless—...
Mar 14, 2025•15 min
Welcome to the new re-branded Love Life Podcast , where Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen bring you fresh relationship insights, answer your questions, and throw in a silly game or two every week! In this inaugural episode, we're flipping the script on dating talk—everyone loves to discuss red flags , but today, we're diving into green flags : the subtle but crucial signs that someone is truly relationship material. Topics Covered in This Episode: Why society is obsessed with red flags and how to shi...
Mar 12, 2025•1 hr 11 min
We tell ourselves we have high standards—but is that actually true? Or are we just prioritizing the wrong things? And what if we meet someone who’s perfect on paper, but there’s no spark? Can chemistry slowly grow, or is it something we either feel instantly . . . or never will? For today’s new episode, I sat down with Kristin Cavallari on her “Let’s Be Honest” podcast to talk about chemistry vs. compatibility, one of the biggest mistakes people make in dating, and what actually matters when you...
Mar 10, 2025•24 min
