Modern dating doesn’t have to be confusing!
Join Matthew Hussey—New York Times bestselling author, world-renowned dating coach, and host of the #1 YouTube channel for relationship advice—for deep, funny, and brutally honest conversations on everything love, confidence, and relationships. He dives deep into helping people transform the three most important relationships we have in life: the relationship with others, with ourselves, and with life itself.
Every Wednesday, Matthew is joined by his cohosts: his wife and collaborator Audrey Hussey, who brings her signature warmth, wit, and insight; his brother Stephen Hussey, a New York Times bestselling author with a PhD in Philosophy; and Producer David, who adds his unique perspective and humor to the mix.
In weekly episodes, they share practical advice, hard-won wisdom, and strategies to navigate finding a lasting relationship. No matter your relationship status, the Love Life podcast will meet you where you are.
This week’s video will help you cut through all of the anxiety, uncertainty, and stress. I go deep on three very specific questions you can ask yourself to determine whether staying or leaving is the right decision for you. I also break down a new model that will help you identify what to watch out for and the dangerous cocktail of certain traits we must avoid in someone . . . these are the traits that can make a relationship so toxic that over time, it will erode our confidence and identity to ...
In this episode, Matthew sits down with artist, activist, and author Mary Fisher ( @maryfisher ), whose landmark 1992 speech at the Republican National Convention changed the face of AIDS awareness and made her a global icon of truth-telling and compassion. Now in a new chapter of her life, Mary reflects on what it means to grieve not just people, but old lives, family, identity, and the loss of a place in the world. Together, she and Matthew explore how we rebuild, find chosen family, use creat...
Are you stuck comparing everyone you meet to an ex who felt like “the one”? In this new video, you’ll learn why we hold on to past relationships, and discover a surprising truth about closure that might just change how you see your breakup. If you’ve ever felt like no one measures up to the chemistry or excitement you had before, this is a must-watch. A powerful mindset shift I share will help you (finally!) let go of the fantasy and open yourself up to the love you truly deserve. --- ►► Want Yo...
When you’re texting with someone you like, do you struggle to know what to say next? Or maybe it feels like you’re in a texting rut, and keep having the same conversations . . . Today’s episode is a mini toolkit for these exact situations, with 5 high-value texting suggestions that restart attraction, lead to a date, or just bring you more emotional connection. Use these practical messages to inspire better communication in any dating situation! --- ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life Learn...
What really makes someone commitment-worthy in dating? And what qualities do we need to make sure are there if we want someone to choose us? In this episode, Matthew, Stephen and Audrey look at 4 crucial must-haves for commitment. If you’ve ever been unsure if you’re choosing the right person (or want to make yourself someone who is seen as a great potential partner), this is for you. Topics include: Why chemistry isn’t enough for commitment How to decide what is “enough” in the qualities you ne...
Why does commitment seem so hard right now? In this week’s video, Matthew sits down with entrepreneur and speaker Anas Bukhash to talk about everything from the addictive pull of dating apps to the unrealistic expectations created by the seemingly endless “buffet” of people from which we can choose a partner. The conversation also unpacks a better approach to finding love that stops you getting caught in the same trap as everyone else. (This may just change how you approach dating!) --- ►► Want ...
Why do we stay in relationships that erode our confidence, self-worth, and happiness? In this episode, we dive deep into the concept of trauma bonds and how empathy—one of our greatest strengths—can become our biggest weakness in toxic relationships. We’ll explore why we get stuck in these cycles, the danger of hoping someone will change, and how to reclaim your power by prioritizing your own well-being. If you’ve ever felt trapped in a relationship that’s draining your energy and warping your r...
In this powerful and deeply human conversation, Matthew sits down with Laurie Woolever —author of Care and Feeding: A Memoir —to explore the journey of reclaiming one’s voice after years of living in the shadow of larger-than-life figures like Anthony Bourdain and Mario Batali. Topics covered: Why Laurie finally chose to write her memoir after decades in food media. What it's like to stop headlining other people’s lives and start showing up in your own. Her path through addiction, shame, and sob...
The rules of modern dating can feel so confusing. You don’t know how much texting is too much, how to make the first move, or whether to keep trying if their interest is hot and cold. In this week’s video, I sat down with bestselling author Jay Shetty for his On Purpose podcast to talk about how to have confident, attractive communication and reject the shallow culture that defines so much of modern dating. If you’re tired of playing games and want to find real, honest love, this is for you. ---...
Can you relate to this . . . You’ve been dating someone for months and see them once or twice a week. You’ve gotten into a pretty good rhythm, but at the same time, things aren’t really moving forward either. You’re wondering: “Do they like me? I feel like they do, and yet, I don’t know whether this is going anywhere . . .” In this week’s brand-new video, I give you 3 specific things to look for when you want to know if someone’s serious (or headed in that direction). --- ►► Transform Your Relat...
What REALLY kills relationships? We often think it’s huge differences in personality or values that cause break ups, but just as often it’s the small, subtle, repeated behaviours that lead to relationships ending. From the "Four Horsemen" of relationship conflict to the resentments that go unspoken until it’s too late, Matthew, Stephen and Audrey explore how these silent killers show up—and how to catch and heal them before they do lasting damage. Topics include A deep dive into criticism, conte...
What does emotionally available love really look like? In this new video, I break down six key signs of emotional availability so you can spot the difference between fleeting attention and real intention. If you’re tired of wasting time on people who aren’t serious, I also share how to recognize emotional availability early on . . . without coming across as too intense. Plus I reveal the subtle behaviors that separate healthy connection from love bombing, so you can protect your heart and invest...
In today’s Rewind episode, I talk about what might be the most insidious form of ghosting. If someone ghosts you after a couple of tepid dates (which doesn’t feel good, don’t get me wrong) you can usually assume they just weren’t feeling the chemistry . . . But what does it mean when someone pulls away after saying they want to be exclusive, or after texting constantly and telling you they want to see you all the time? In this episode, I give you three reasons why someone might do this, what you...
Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen dive into what truly makes a long-term relationship successful—beyond the clichés. Whether you’re in a new relationship, struggling with resentment, or simply curious about what happy couples do differently, this episode is packed with insight from experts on what really makes love last. In this episode: Results from a 20,000-person Instagram poll on what people think makes a relationship last. The Gottman Institute on bids for connection , and the 5:1 ratio of posit...
If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a pattern of falling for the wrong people, you’re not alone—but that doesn’t mean you’re doomed to repeat the same mistakes. In this video, I’ll show you how to rewire the way you experience attraction. In it, I share five specific shifts that will help you break free from the patterns sabotaging your love life. From microdosing on emotionally unavailable exes to losing yourself in someone who isn’t ready, we’re getting honest about the real cost of staying...
Does absence really make the heart grow fonder . . . especially when the person you’re into seems to forget you exist when you’re not in the same room? When you’re together, life couldn’t be better. You have off-the-charts chemistry, they’re totally focused on you, and your connection feels genuine. The catch? When you’re apart, you feel invisible as communication slows to a crawl and often drops off completely. As a result of these mixed signals, you’re essentially living in two completely diff...
In this episode Matthew and Audrey sit down for a review of the last quarter of the year and dive into the hidden forces that shape our relationships with others and ourselves. They also discuss the perfectionism that keeps us from connection, overthinking texts, and the emotional blocks that hold us back in our relationships. Plus, they answer a listener's question on whether showing interest in someone inevitably drives them away, and how to strike the balance between authenticity and attracti...
Why do amazing people—kind, self-aware, emotionally intelligent—keep falling for partners who can’t meet them halfway? In this week’s video, we uncover the five reasons behind this painful cycle and how to finally break free. From the scarcity mindset to the addictive highs and lows of unstable relationships, we’ll explore why we settle for less and how to rewrite the story we tell ourselves about love. If you’ve ever felt stuck between the chaos of unhealthy relationships and the “dullness” of ...
Have you ever found yourself stuck thinking about an ex who’s no longer in your life? It’s a painful trap, but one that so many of us fall into when we tie our worth to someone else’s story instead of our own. In this episode, we uncover the mindset shift that frees you from this cycle and helps you reclaim your confidence. By focusing on the one thing you truly own—yourself—you can start building a life that feels fulfilling, no matter what’s happening around you. If you’re ready to let go of w...
Why do great dates sometimes lead to radio silence? In this new Love Life episode, Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen dive into the mystery of why someone might pull away after what seemed like a perfect first (or second, or third) date. From the elusive “spark” to deeper compatibility issues, you’ll learn surprising reasons why people choose not to pursue another date—and how to avoid taking it personally. --- 💬 Feeling stuck knowing what to say? Download our free guide: 9Texts.com → 9 ready-to-use ...
Have you ever sent a text and immediately wished you could take it back—or worse, been met with silence? In this week’s new video, I’m sharing 7 texts that not only greatly increase your chances of a reply, but also build real attraction. These aren’t your run-of-the-mill messages, either. They’re crafted to create tension and spark desire. Whether you’re tired of ghosting, lukewarm responses, or conversations that fizzle out, these texts will help you go from being someone they kind of like to ...
How do you know if someone’s really over their ex? Sometimes you meet a person who ticks all your boxes, but they also haven’t 100% gotten over the heartbreak of their last relationship. Of course, the first questions you ask yourself are: “Is this a huge red flag? Does it mean they are emotionally unavailable? Should I walk away?” This is a really important topic in today’s video, and my answer to this probably isn’t what you’d expect. Give it a watch to find out the signs you can look out for ...
Are you stuck in a cycle of tolerating disrespect or avoiding tough conversations? In this episode of Love Life , Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen dive into why so many of us stay in challenging relationships—whether romantic, familial, or platonic—for far too long, and how to reclaim your power by setting boundaries and addressing the issues. You’ll learn how to stop obsessing over someone else’s actions and start focusing on why you’re allowing it, plus practical tools for having those difficult c...
Learn five subtle yet powerful flirting techniques that create attraction without the fear of looking desperate or risking painful rejection. Discover how to start small, build tension, create shared worlds, vary your energy, and make subtle observations. These low-risk methods help you show interest and build chemistry gradually.
Many people get friend-zoned despite being great communicators. This happens when we lean too heavily on one strength (like deep talk) and neglect other attractive qualities. The key is contrast: showcasing unique pairings of traits, like sincerity mixed with playfulness or sexuality, creates irresistible attraction and keeps someone wanting more.
Are you walking away too fast—or staying when you shouldn’t? In this episode, Matthew Hussey shares an honest look at how we misread red flags in dating in an interview with Lisa Bilyeu ( @LisaBilyeu ). You’ll learn how to spot real red flags vs. amber lights, when to pause instead of panic, and how the right relationship can help you heal. 🎯 Topics include: The difference between a red flag and an “amber light” 🚦 How fear and past hurt can make us overreact or shut down 😬 The danger of going...
If you’ve ever found yourself saying, “I’m so done with dating,” this video is for you. Dating burnout is real, and it’s easy to see the process of finding love as a chore. But what if there was a way to make dating fun again? That’s right. Going out, dating, finding a meaningful connection—this can be a rewarding part of your life, regardless of whether you’re looking for a committed relationship. So if you need a refresh for your brain right now, here are 7 powerful mindsets that will make dat...
Breakups are incredibly hard. And a split can be even more excruciating when your partner moves on while you’re still healing. It can leave you with all kinds of painful questions like: “Why wasn’t I good enough?” “What does that person have that I don’t have?” “Have I lost the love of my life to someone else?” It’s one of the worst types of pain there is. And if we don’t learn the right lessons from our breakup, it can create baggage in the form of insecurities and an unwillingness to open up t...
In this episode of the Love Life Podcast, Matthew, Audrey, Stephen, and producer David dive deep into one of the most common struggles in dating: flirting. So many people feel stuck when it comes to creating chemistry, worrying they'll come off as desperate, awkward, or get rejected. This episode breaks down how to define “flirting” rather than just talking, and gives some simple-but-powerful ways to do it in early attraction. 🎯 Topics include: Why people often lose their flirtatious spark when...
If finding love feels harder than ever in 2025, it’s not just you. In today’s episode, I explore the cultural shifts and challenges that are fueling the “relationship recession.” Drawing inspiration from the Netflix series Adolescence , we’ll dive into the disillusionment many men are facing, the frustrations women are experiencing, and the hidden dynamics making connection feel so elusive. From surprising stats to the subtle mindsets that sabotage us before love even begins, this video connects...
