Modern dating doesn’t have to be confusing! Join Matthew Hussey—New York Times bestselling author, world-renowned dating coach, and host of the #1 YouTube channel for relationship advice—for deep, funny, and brutally honest conversations on everything love, confidence, and relationships. He dives deep into helping people transform the three most important relationships we have in life: the relationship with others, with ourselves, and with life itself.
Every Wednesday, Matthew is joined by his cohosts: his wife and collaborator Audrey Hussey, who brings her signature warmth, wit, and insight; his brother Stephen Hussey, a New York Times bestselling author with a PhD in Philosophy; and Producer David, who adds his unique perspective and humor to the mix. In weekly episodes, they share practical advice, hard-won wisdom, and strategies to navigate finding a lasting relationship. No matter your relationship status, the Love Life podcast will meet you where you are.
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Work has a way of following us home—replaying that one frustrating meeting, stealing our attention from the people we love, and turning Sunday night into a countdown to stress. In this conversation with psychologist Guy Winch, we talk about why switching off feels so hard, and what actually helps when work starts to take over your life. We get practical about breaking rumination, handling that end-of-weekend dread, protecting your energy, and staying in that “just enough stress” zone where you c...
If dating apps have left you feeling judged, discouraged, or just tired of the whole process, this video is for you. A lot of the advice we hear sounds helpful on the surface, but when it’s applied the wrong way, it can actually leave you feeling more stuck, not more hopeful. In this episode, I share a more human way to find love offline, even if you’re introverted, busy, or over forcing yourself to “try harder.” These are small, realistic shifts that keep you in the game without burning you out...
Have you ever had an insecurity, a jealousy, or something that hurt you or made you feel threatened, but you didn’t know the right way to bring it up? Of course you have. We all have. Maybe you’re feeling that right now. It can be terrifying, can’t it? Well, here’s the good news . . . being vulnerable can actually create a deeper bond with someone, as well as reveal if they’re the right person for you in the first place. The bad news is that if we’re not careful, constructive vulnerability can m...
This week’s episode started as a quick 12-minute video about becoming a new dad . . . and became something way more raw. In it, Matthew talks about what surprised him, what scared him, and what fatherhood actually feels like in real time—messy routines, intense emotions, and a vulnerability he didn’t see coming. But this podcast isn’t just about having a baby. It’s about responsibility without resentment, how choosing the right partner suddenly matters in a completely different way, and that str...
Modern dating can mess with your head. You finally meet someone you like . . . and suddenly the pressure kicks in. You start overthinking texts, softening your boundaries, and trying to “win” someone instead of just being yourself. If you’ve ever caught yourself getting attached too fast or reading into every little signal, today’s new video will change the game. You’ll learn how to stay grounded, protect your confidence, and find the sweet spot between showing interest and keeping your self-res...
Matthew Hussey delves into the pervasive pain of regret, explaining how dwelling on past mistakes can hinder present happiness and obscure future potential. He proposes a powerful shift in perspective: recognizing that our past actions were performed by a 'previous self' and should not define who we are today. The episode offers a formula for transforming regret into constructive fuel, encouraging listeners to take small, immediate actions that build confidence and momentum, ultimately leading to a more courageous and fulfilling life right now, regardless of past choices.
Today’s episode is a proper grab bag—in the best way. If you’ve been feeling stuck on where you can actually meet people in real life, it explores the kinds of places that don’t just give you “options,” but actually help you grow as a person (and why that matters more than ever). It also tackles one of the most painful relationship realities: where there’s real love, the relationship is good . . . but one incompatibility makes it impossible. What do you do with that kind of heartbreak when no on...
Some big life changes don’t come with a plan. They just crack you open and make you see everything differently. Today’s unscripted episode is about what happens when priorities shift and you start choosing peace over pressure. It’s about fear, commitment, slowing down, and learning to create space for what actually matters. If you’ve ever felt pulled between comfort and change, this will resonate. --- ►► Try Matthew AI for 24/7 coaching and advice anytime at AskMH.com ►► The Year of Love is happ...
Narcissists walk among us . . . but what makes us stay with such people? In the beginning, sadly, many people fail to see the long-term damage a relationship with a narcissist (or narcissistically inclined person) can cause. From confidence to superficial charm or even intensity, it's easy to mistake narcissistic traits as positive ones in the beginning of a relationship. But after quickly sucking you in, they gaslight you, make you forget yourself, and cause you to start justifying all kinds of...
If you’ve ever walked away from a relationship thinking, “I’m never doing that again,” you won’t want to miss this episode. Heartbreak has a way of creating rigid rules—what you’ll never give, tolerate, or risk again—and those protective habits can quietly block the kind of love you actually want. You’ll learn how relationship stress can show up in your body, why some people feel lighter and healthier after leaving the wrong dynamic, and the surprising connection between big-hearted, nurturing p...
You open a dating app thinking, maybe this time will be different. Then it happens: ghosts, cancellations, silence, or that slow erosion of confidence these apps can create. If that feels familiar, this episode is for you. Because the problem isn’t that you’re doing dating apps wrong . . . it’s that most people use them in a way that drains energy, kills momentum, and makes real connection far less likely. If you want dating to feel lighter, clearer, and more intentional, listen to this before y...
How many dates should you wait before going over to someone's house? If you're worried it's moving too quickly and you're becoming "like a couple" (or even just too sexual) faster than you want, here's what you can do. --- ►► Make finding love in 2026 inevitable—without making dating your whole life. Join Matthew’s free live Year of Love event on January 20 or 22 at MHYearOfLove.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
In the first Love Life podcast of 2026, Matthew and Audrey are back for an honest conversation about simplifying your life and being more intentional about what—and who—you let in. They also talk about reducing chronic stress, protecting your mental health, and why the relationships you choose have an outsized impact on how happy and grounded you feel. They also answer questions about things you may be carrying into the new year: the people you can’t quite release, the stories your mind keeps re...
What if the fastest way to meet someone this year isn’t trying harder—but stepping back? In this week’s episode, Matthew breaks down a counterintuitive idea that could completely change how you think about dating in 2026. It’s not about forcing chemistry, endlessly swiping on apps, or summoning more confidence than you actually feel. Instead, he shows how small, everyday shifts can quietly create the conditions where connection happens naturally. If you’ve been doing “all the right things” but s...
When we meet someone we feel excited about, “love bombing” can feel like everything we’ve ever wanted. Someone we’re attracted to showering us with intensity and attention who is also happy to introduce us to their close friends and family . . . let’s be honest, it feels really good. Life suddenly transforms into our very own romantic movie. Sure, the pace of it might feel a little rushed and intense . . . but isn’t that what happens when you meet “the One”? But then, like clockwork, it happens....
In this conversation on the Know Thyself podcast with André Duqum, Matthew explores why we so often mistake familiar patterns for healthy ones—and how our “normal” can quietly keep us stuck. From gravitating toward emotionally unavailable people to operating from scarcity and self-protection, he breaks down how our past shapes what we tolerate, even when it hurts. This episode is a reminder that your past doesn’t get to dictate your future . . . and that real change begins when you stop staring ...
I’ve carefully designed these steps to address the stages you’ll go through. And while we all know this process can take an enormous amount of time to put into action, I hope these steps will serve as a compass that will keep you pointed toward your strength (in spite of any distractions the narcissist may try to throw your way). I also hope this episode provides you with strength, acceptance, peace, and progress as you finally move on with your life and remember what it feels like to be free fr...
December can be a strangely emotional time—even when everything looks festive on the outside. In this podcast, Matthew revisits “Complicated Christmas,” a message created for anyone whose holiday doesn’t match the picture-perfect version we so often see online. If you’ve ever felt the weight of loneliness, grief, anxiety, or that uneasy mix of emotions that tends to surface as the year winds down, this podcast is a reminder that you’re far from alone—and that what you’re feeling is more common t...
Early dating has a sneaky way of turning us into versions of ourselves we don’t even like. You start off calm, confident, grounded . . . and suddenly you’re overthinking texts or pulling back in ways that don’t feel true to who you are. If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t like who I am with this person,” there’s a reason for that, and it’s not because you’re broken. In this week’s episode, Matthew breaks down how early dating so often goes wrong without anyone meaning for it to. More importantly, h...
We all know the feeling. We start speaking to or dating someone and we begin to get excited about them . . . but then as soon as we show interest, they start to pull away. This can be painful and demoralizing. But why does this happen? Is it them, or is it us? In this episode, Stephen and I break down a number of “them” and “us” scenarios. For instance: • Some people loathe themselves so much that they devalue anyone who starts to see value in them. • Others might have an obsession with attainme...
Long distance relationships can feel intoxicating. The late-night calls. The fantasy. The sense that if it weren’t for geography, this could really be something. But when does distance deepen connection—and when does it quietly keep us stuck in something that can’t truly grow? In this episode of the Love Life Podcast , we go deeper than ever on long distance love. We talk about why these connections can feel so powerful, how fantasy can sneak in and blur reality, and the often-overlooked skill o...
Breakups can flip your whole world upside down, and in this week’s video, Matthew and Jay Shetty get real about what those moments actually feel like. They discuss why healing doesn’t follow a timeline, and why some seasons of pain simply have to be lived through at their own pace. They also talk about how heartbreak can shape you in unexpected ways and why “right person, wrong time” doesn’t exist. Don’t miss this honest conversation between two friends about finding strength in the very moments...
Does it sometimes feel like men are afraid of commitment? You could be dating someone for a few months—and have a ton of chemistry and a great emotional connection—and yet, like clockwork, you hit a wall the moment the relationship gets to a stage where it feels like it should be progressing to the next level. Just when you start to feel that this could be something real, he puts his guard up and isn’t ready to commit. Situations like these can be unbelievably painful, and they can leave you fee...
There are breakups that hurt . . . and then there are the ones that feel like they’re splitting your life in two. In this episode, the Love Life Podcast team unpacks the kind of pain that’s so shocking and overwhelming that you can barely make sense of it—the heartbreak that leaves you questioning everything you thought was real. If you’ve ever been blindsided by a breakup, this conversation is for you. You’ll learn what you can do when the pain feels unbearable and what your greatest power can ...
If you’ve ever found yourself obsessing over someone who barely knows you exist, or clinging to a connection that’s all spark but no substance, this video with Lisa Bilyeu is going to hit home. In it, I break down the four levels of attraction . . . and reveal which ones matter most. You’ll learn how to stop overinvesting in situations that aren’t going anywhere, how to recognize when you’re confusing impact with character, and how to stop grieving someone who was never your person to begin with...
When someone’s betrayed or hurt us—especially when we didn’t see it coming—it’s hard to avoid the lack of trust that latches on to us and shadows us into our next relationship. Is there an antidote to this? Is it possible to regain trust after heartbreak? In this episode, I share 8 rules you’ll want to write on sticky notes and keep handy whenever you need a reminder. --- ►► Every Friday, Matthew Hussey writes a personal letter to help you strengthen the three most important relationships in you...
What if the first “fight” in a new relationship isn’t a red flag at all? Maybe it’s your first real chance to see how you both show up when things get real . . . and whether you can grow together on the other side of it. This week on the Love Life Podcast, Matthew breaks down the early conflicts most of us dread, why attachment styles hijack our reactions, and how a moment that feels like the end of chemistry can be the beginning of something deeper. You’ll walk away with tools for arguing in wa...
Brave enough to date? Then you’ve almost definitely run into ghosting, inconsistency, or someone who disappears then pops back like nothing happened. It hurts the most when hope runs low, and love feels like a race everyone else got a head start in. The issue? We obsess over “Do they like me?” when the real power question is “Do they respect me?” Standards aren’t just defense—they’re offense. Delivered with warmth and a bit of humor, they spark attraction instead of shutting it down. And in this...
You’ve been seeing someone for months. They give you attention, consistency, and intimacy—but when it comes to commitment, they always have a reason why “now isn’t the right time.” Sound familiar? In this episode, Matthew Hussey coaches a listener through one of the hardest situations in dating: when someone gives you just enough to keep you hooked, but never enough to move things forward. You’ll learn how to separate reasons from reality, protect your time and energy, and finally stop waiting f...
In this week’s Love Life Podcast episode, Matthew and Producer David dig into a big question: Is stoicism helping modern relationships . . . or shutting them down? They unpack how the pressure to stay “strong” can make men harder on themselves for having emotions, why vulnerability creates deeper connection, and how anxious impulses in early dating can quietly sabotage attraction. They also break down what helps couples grow together instead of drifting apart, and how sharing what you want—witho...
