On the last episode, towards the end, I talked about financial and emotional desperation and I said I'll explain what I mean in an episode of its own. Because I've been noticing how I've been growing and I've been noticing also how my dating life has been improving. And I just wanted to talk about some certain areas in my life where I have improved my standards that have definitely benefited me in the long term.
And if you told me about these things 4-5 years ago, I definitely wouldn't have understood. I don't know if it's 'cause my frontal lobe developed amacos. Actually, I know why, it's 'cause generally my life, my quality of life has improved. So of course, a lot of things have improved over the years. You know, with experience and with age, you become better. If you purpose to become better.
It just happens inevitably. As long as you're on this trajectory of trying to improve your life, everything else is touched. I always say it's like a domino effect. Before I dive into the topic, I just wanted to shout out everyone who watches me on TV. Every Tuesday on citizen TV at 8 AMI get so many messages people shouting me out saying they got to watch me. So many people also have followed me newly on TikTok.
I'd like to appreciate that. I went from like 1000 followers to 3000 followers in a very, very short time and I'm not quite active there. So that shows me that my work in a Fikiwatu, people are discovering me just even from the DMS I get on Instagram and Twitter. And I've been seeing, I've been seeing the feedback that makes me so, so happy. For the past week, I have been trying to rest on this marathon where I've been working consistently and very, very, I've really been disciplined, I
feel like. So it has been paying off, yes. But you know, because I'm a loner and I do most of the stuff I have to get done on my own, it can get quite exhausted. And I go through periods of times where I just need to sit and do nothing and rest and sleep. And then today I put up those posts, those questions on Instagram for You Can Ask Me Anything. And a friend of mine online asked me, how are you?
I really love that question because most times when we're asked how are you, we don't really answer it truthfully, especially Kamani small talk, you know, you meet someone, but someone who's always trying to be super intentional with everything I do, including answering such questions. And it made me have to sit back and actually think, how am I feeling? What am I doing? So I'm recording on Wednesday at 7:30 PM. All weekend I was outside the house doing activities.
On a Saturday, I was at A at a cancer event, a cancer meeting with my mom and my friend tagged along. So it's this support group meeting where cancer survivors and patients meet and they share ideas, they discuss ways to improve their lives, ways to heal better. It's just like, it's a support group, and it's really nice. I like to go with my mom because I show her all the support.
I feel like it makes such a difference because I see how her face lights up when I pull up on her, and it makes me feel really, really nice. And then I also noticed that our moms were not really given the emotional attention they deserved raising us. They they wanted to raise in very difficult times, like in times that were different from ours, says the mothers. Now they know better, they're
able to be much more present. But our mums, they were raised by angry parents, most of them, most of their generation, so they ended up becoming angry people. It's just it's tough for them to even connect emotionally. So I try my best to always make sure that I'm available for my mom, I'm there for her. I see how excited she gets when she sees me or when she has to introduce me as her kid.
It makes her so happy. Which also brought me to the realization that I have trouble with introducing myself. When people ask me this question for what do you do? I normally have a very difficult time answering it because I know they mean, I mean, they mean the question like professionally, like what do I do to make money or what. I guess. I guess that's what like 80% are trying to figure out. But in my mind, how that question is processed is like, how do you go by life?
What do you do in life? And I do so many things. I love to take naps, I love to sleep, I love to rest. I love to be around animals and plants. I love a lot of things. I love chilling and listening to music. And when I answer this question like that, it confuses them because they're expecting me to answer professionally and professionally. I'm actually a journalist. I'm a broadcast journalist. That's what I went to school for.
And in as much as I don't really practice, like primarily as a journalist, I apply all my journalistic skills into my blog and podcast. So I went to school for radio broadcast, print media, basically all the medias and I'm applying them in that. I have a blog where I write, I have a podcast which is like a radio show and I'm on TV doing the Tuesday show. That's the broadcast part of it. So I think that's how me being a journalist comes out.
And I hardly ever introduce myself as a journalist. Like, hey, I'm Roberta, I'm a journalist. It just sounds very, I don't know. I'm always so ready to talk about love and orgasms and how I talk about sex and how I speak about sex when I'm asked about what I do professionally. But even that is not like my job. Yes, it's a way to make I make money, but like, is it really a job?
It's something fun I do that I love, that consumes all my time, but it hardly feels like a job because when I'm doing love and orgasm stuff, it just feels like life. Like it's my life. Because it's me writing on my journal, speaking on my podcast, doing a lot of research, doing a lot of writing, doing a lot. It's just me doing stuff that I like. That's part of life. The same way I go chill with the horses, the same way I go for a run. This same way I go for to the
gym. I don't know if you get what I mean. So yeah, I'm starting to embrace, or rather I'm trying to teach myself how to answer that question. Yeah. What do you do? Like, Kimmy, hopefully before you ask me, if you meet me and you listen to my podcast, just understand that this is how I feel about that question. Hiya. So has anything else new that in my life been happening? I think like I always say, my life is pretty chill. I hardly have Oh my God, the
best thing. How can I, how could I not have begun with this news? So my elder brother had a baby this over the weekend with his beautiful wife. And that's by far that's the most amazing thing that's happened to me in a very long time. I think the baby looks just like me, but I haven't, I haven't said that yet. I don't know if that might come off as offensive or invasive, but I really think that the girl looks like me. She's so beautiful.
She's the most, she's the most beautiful baby I've ever seen and I'm yet to see her. I'm planning to go and see her within the week, but I'm very, very excited and I'm very, very happy. That's definitely some big news that has happened in my life. Something else. Today I woke up on an impulse and I started going through my following list, my followers list, my phone book, my emails,
my stuff. And I just started decluttering, deleting things that I no longer need, people that I no longer talk to, people that think there's just not a reason to keep these things. And I normally go through such pages once in a while. A few weeks ago, it was my house. I cleaned out the whole house. I took out everything and I threw out everything that's extra. I gave out everything that I did not need and I threw out all the trash.
Everything that I have been keeping that I know I will not use or I have not used in the longest time. And decluttering helps a lot with clearing my mind, clearing my soul, bringing more space, adding more space for me to receive extra blessings, extra things that are coming into my life. So it's, it's a way to decompress the mind and it feels good. Other than that, I feel like my life is good. I really, really am enjoying life.
I love everything as it is. Love being able to rest when I need to, being able to, to relax when I need to, and also how disciplined I have been with myself and my life. I'm really, I'd, I'd say me being who I am right now is really good for myself because I'm thoroughly enjoying how I take care of myself and how I love myself and how I choose
myself consistently. I'm definitely reaping the fruits of every good decision I have made in the past and so I want to talk to you guys about all the work I have done for myself financially and emotionally to remove desperation and anxieties for my life, especially in my dating life. Have a listen A year ago, around a time like this a year ago, I was on the on field director's show, becoming ACEO on YouTube, your field
director. And it's interesting because when I was doing this interview, I was at a very confusing space in my life. I had just lost my job. I was dealing with. I always say this too. I just bring it up to show you the emotional implication like the the space I was in in my mind. So that time I had just lost my job and my mom had just been diagnosed with cancer. She was in India for treatment. So my life was pretty much crumbling.
Also me and my I was in the back and forth of breaking things off with my car situation ship. I was really, really going through it. But also a lot of really amazing things were happening in my life. I was getting better deals, my career was starting to pick up. I was making more money even though my job was dying. I was making like love and orgasms all of a sudden was picking up again and, and I was, I was just receiving so many good things and I was at a time where I was unable to.
I wasn't really unable to. I just didn't know how to yet, how to balance between feeling like I'm dying, being grateful at the same time. It was a very, very difficult thing to do. Looking back now, I'm so proud of myself for being able to handle it. And honestly, I have to give most credit to my friends who rallied behind me and they really stood by me that period. Really. Hey, Lini Sidri, I was cruising. I was cruising on autopilot, but my friends really held me
through that period of my life. I bring that up because Phil brought me on his show because his show is basically about, he brings on people who he feels warmer bobeh in their fields of work, people who he, I could say, admires. And they come on and speak about their journey on how they started off after where they are so basically becoming a CEO. So Phil was asking all these financial questions and I was just confused. I couldn't really pinpoint.
I wasn't doing any budgeting, any planning, any what. I mean, yes, I was doing them, but not seriously Ilati like kujra, what I'm doing with money, how my money is coming in and where it's going in, out. So after I left, I was able to answer the questions on a very basic level, but I remember leaving that interview feeling like I have to actually do the
work. I've been just cruising through life without putting things to pen and paper and being able to record the coming and goings of my money. Like just to be on top of my game, to know, is what I'm doing sustainable and how how long will it sustain? How will I manage to keep things running in my home, especially now that one source of income had been ripped away from me.
So from that day leaving that interview up to now, when I think about it, I feel like I've been much more intentional with my finances all the time. I used to say I'm just a girl, and yes, I am. But now that I have like big girl bills, I have real bills at the end of every month. And anytime when you're an adult, anything can happen. Gassin is tokens definitely have to be much more aware of your finances and just like your finances, your emotions as well.
You have to be on top of being able to name the feelings that you're feeling. Being able to say, am I sad, am I happy, do I feel good, Am I content with where I'm at? Am I grateful? What feeling am I feeling? Am I angry? Because this helps you to be able to manage, regulate and understand your feeling and your emotions. And basically this is just financial and emotional literacy. It makes you much more intelligent.
Most of us cruise through life without thinking that these things are important life skills. But I promise you, you'd rather know and get better at the game than be ignorant and just cruise through life and listen any way you choose. Remember, I'm not here to tell you what you do to do. So remember, you can do what you want. You can definitely do what you want and live life how you please.
But I'm just sharing that I'm finding the quality of my life improving the more I decide to be intentional with things. And this means also intentionality in my money, in my emotions, in my relationships, and especially in my sexual life. OK, my sexual life is non existent, but like, you know what I mean? I'm talking about my relationship with me and my toys higher. I'll start with the financial
part. So growing up, when I can say, let me say, when I was around 19 was when I started dating much more consciously. I think I was in uni at that age. You tend to date around your age group, around your age gap, the people who are closer to you in age, I guess I, I guess I think, OK, during my times, those are the boys we had access to. And I could tell even from my younger age that I was kind of more financially stable than my counterparts from the other gender.
And it's not at you because I was rich and I was from a rich family. It's just because I had better money management. Most times we'd we'd even go for trips, we'd go for things like the girls always had money and they always had money saved. But the boys were a bit more reckless with their money management. I'm not saying it's a gender thing, just hear me out. I'm just telling my story. So nobody at home ever taught me about financial literacy. Nobody ever told me about money.
Nobody ever explained how to make money or how money acts or what it's about. And I've had to figure these things out on my own as I went. So dating these men that were always less than me, like even the rich boys, even the cool kids, they always had issues with money. I don't know why. I think it's a, it's a financial literacy thing. Nobody was really talking to us about money, especially in the African home.
This is not an easy discussion. You just, you hear about money when it's inheritance discussions, but nobody really tells you, you know, this is what to do when you get money, blah, blah, blah. You just figure it out along the way as you go, you make your own mistake and you fail as you go. So when I was in some relationship, I think I was 19 or 20 years old, Apple 2021, I dated this guy and this guy definitely put me on. So we were walking.
He brought me on, you know, to whatever the things he used to do. And we used to work for the same organizations. And I think at that time was when actually I made my fast almost mealy. It was almost a mealy and I was like 2021 years old. That was a lot of money those times. That's like 8 years ago. You nikitambo OK, sikitambo sana. But it was a big deal.
So this guy, he definitely elevated me in some ways because hanging around him also just made me much more vocal, much more confident, such a go getter. Like he taught me to go for the things that I wanted and to do the things I wanted. So finally, Liliana hey, doing as a come iodo tuliblo kaimalize kaisha nikabaki 0 kabisa. Actually, by the time the relationship was ending, I was bankrupt. I had 000 in my account.
I ended up even closing that bank account because nearly decide to there's no need to to continue. Let me just open a new bank account and start over afresh. And not only did the end of the relationship leave me bankrupt, it also left me very emotionally drained and I ended up writing an article. I think it's still on about it. It's called broke, Broke boys don't deserve no pussy where I explain more what I mean about the correlation between finances
and love. And you see, before then before is a sequel. I could never make the correlation, the direct correlation between money and love, especially between different agendas. You see, I'm a very, very independent woman. And when you're independent, you tend to show up as dominant. And this is really, really intimidate dates weak men. They will never know how soft I am and how almost naive I am because I grew up very sheltered and then I'm very introverted.
But because learning how to manage my finances has made me much more assertive and has given me so much more conviction in the things I do, it's helped me be able to trust my intuition. And you just gain a lot of experience with age. So already bums don't stand a chance. Like they can never be attracted to a girl like me. They can see me and like me, but they already know Apple sita Toboa.
And when I was dating these guys that now these are those days when I was dating these guys that were not as financially stable as I was, I was very, very desperate. I had I was always used to dating these guys who were not as financially stable as I was. And I used to be Barbara the builder, I would give them, I would give him fare, I would buy food, I would pay for everything. I would give him things, I would fuel. I had a car that OK, it was my dad's car, but I was using my
parents let me use the car easy. So Mimi imagine when I was that age, I was able to fuel the car, do my things, go anywhere I want. But the guys I was dating who are my age, they were not on that level. Cup Sir, for me to get someone who was understanding me, I had to start dating all the guys. The disclaimer, I always have to say this disclaimer. Listen, I know when I'm 21, dating at 30 year old was weird, but hear me out. What was that? What was I going to do with
like? Kids who didn't OK, at the time, I thought I was mature. I thought this guy's liked me because I was mature. But yeah, I know about possible grooming. But these older men who also had cars and were driving, they were the ones who understood like we could have conversations with on the same level. And so Ikafanania Check could date the younger guys. So when I started dating older guys, I realized that yes, this
this man. Now they're much more financially stable, they have money, they can do anything they want, they can travel and they're very generous. I got used to men spoiling me from a very, very young age. By 21/22/23, I had, I was already dating like men who are very, very rich, who are rich. I was driving and yes, I had this. But remember, I was still very young. I was living in my mom's house and I wasn't as mature as I thought I was. I wasn't as grown up as I thought I was.
But then there's this lifestyle these people introduced me to. Like of course my parents couldn't afford this. But now I'm dating a man who takes me on vacations away, fuels my car, pays for the detailing, pays for everything I need, takes care of me, gives me money every week, takes me on dates multiple times a week. We were always doing fun stuff, he was always giving me money, he was always spoiling me. Flowers, gifts, jewelry, clothes, shoes.
You know, when you're dating such a man, it's really hard when you guys break up because this guy basically can control you. You know, if you don't do what he wants, he's going to take away the privilege that he's accorded you. At that time, I didn't know that
that was financial abuse. I just thought, you know, katuma kosana MI normal lucini pepesa like sinisawa, like ini mutu anaku flani and then aki feel like when I caught this guy cheating and I asked him about it, we had a fight and the favour started reducing. And I started wondering, you know, that time you start getting scared because there's a direct correlation between you having no money and this man
controlling all your moves. If he says you're not going out, you're not going out because he gives you the money to go out. If he says you're not wearing that those clothes, you're not wearing those clothes because he buys the clothes. When he says he doesn't want you to do this and he finds you doing it, it's beef. So Siku Kwana realized I was being like conditioned not to ask questions in the relationship when and I was being financially and
emotionally abused. I just thought it was a normal reaction from someone you know. And this would go on until I ended up breaking up with that guy because of course I found a richer boyfriend. I started dating someone who had more money than me and these allowances grew even bigger. This guy anyway, dating Richmond when you don't have money is very crazy. You also realize that these men, they really don't invest in your in your goals and in your
dreams. If you're not an intentional person, if you're just this girls for happy happy fun drinks nini, they just teach you like that. Unless you become very aware of the things you require and you have higher standards than that, then they just treat you like that. So I started dating a guy who was richer than him and I also wrote about this story. I link every story in the description box that I talk talk
about. And this guy, now the abuse was even worse because there's a time we went, we went on vacation. I mean, Afadali, by this time I was saving. I had money, but because he used to give me a lot of money. So I was a really smart girl. I had been saving. But this man, we went on vacation and he wanted to have unprotected sex with me and I refused. I refused Kabsa this time. I was like 23 years old. I refused Kabisa, Kabisa Kabisa. And he was a very, very wealthy guy.
Hey, Sijini Penne details father. But he's a high profile guy. And this guy also walked around with a gun. So that day I was very, very scared. He he would put it on the dress, on the dresser in the hotel room. And yes, we would do stuff. And I didn't feel like I was in love with him. It's just, you know, he was doing all these things for me and he was treating me really well. So I kind of felt felt compelled to always go back. Alafu pesa raisi.
And this is all because I was not used to money. I wasn't Pesa Visuri because money. Hiya so this guy intimidated me and he forced me into having sex with him. I refuse. I refuse to accept. And what he did was he took off he left me in the hotel room in a completely different city. But good thing is I had my own money. I just booked my flight and I came back home and I deleted his
number and I blocked him. He tried to apologize years later, but honestly, for him to do that to me and he was like 33 years old, I was like 23 years old really. I was a baby and he was a fully grown man, so he knew what he was doing. And I don't think that also showed me he wasn't really serious with me. He wasn't, you know, this men pretend, and when you're young and yet naive, it's so easy for you to fall for it, especially
when they're leading with money. That day when I went back home, I felt so disrespected. It started to occur to me that he probably, he didn't treat, he didn't treat me like I was a human being. And maybe he took me for a prostitute. Maybe he just saw me as one of his prostitutes or something like that. That feeling made me feel very, very bad and I swore to myself that I was never ever going to let I was never going to date a man with money and stay with him just because he has the money.
I needed to work hard for myself to have my own money S that in case anything happens, I'm able to to bounce, I'm able to take care of myself just the way I paid for that flight and came back home. Imagine if I had nothing branded Apple. And now, years later, now that I can afford things I need, like if I need food, if I need, I'll just refund you, I'll buy my I can buy my own flowers.
I can buy my own flowers. Utter surgery is a competition like Kimi. Having my own stuff gave me back my dignity because now I was very become very able to leave situations that do not show me any respect. And this goes even for job offers. Come up to a Fiki Bay. I'm about to our exposure.
We'll pay you the exposure. When they hit me up, I'm able to say no. There was a time when I didn't have the confidence to. There was a time I was not able to. But it teaches a point in life where you have to know your and you have to understand that you deserve to be compensated for your time, your feelings, your importance, your space. You're supposed to be recognized and acknowledged. And when someone takes you for granted especially, you're supposed to be able to just walk
the fuck out. Leave them alone. Watch our account. Having my own money has made me able to make better decisions. And I call this, I see people call it fuck you money. I call it buy buy a home money because I've seen my mom rebuild over and over. My mom. I talked about this also in the in the last episode. We've been auctioned like thrice when we were in our when my mom was in her 30s, when she was in
her 40s when she was in her bro. Like I've seen my mom start over from nothing like a phoenix from the ashes. I've seen her start over so many times. So I'm not really afraid to walk away from nothing. I'm not afraid to walk away from someone who thinks they can hold me back because of financials or material stuff. I'm just gonna walk away because I know it's so possible to buy new stuff to improve my life financially. I've also been there so many times. I've lost money. I've made money.
I know money comes and goes. It's like it's just an energy. You have to vibe on the same frequency with the money. You have to treat money like you like it being around you like you. You enjoy money. You have to speak well of money. Let money go so that it can come back like there's no control. It's just an energy thing. And once I started to learn how to be in tune with my finances, I just make better decisions. No one can wave money in my face
and say I'm going to do this. I'm going to take this away from you, Daisy Miniko. Sour Namina feels sour. So my mom taught me this because she's the one who's shown me that it's possible to start over so many times. And these days, it is true that only date rich men, but even these rich men, sometimes they think that that's the only thing that really they require to be able to be around me.
And when they realize that I, I require more, they get so shocked because I'm not afraid to walk away from nonsense. I'm not afraid to walk away from when you don't have a great personality, when you're not a kind person, when you're not considerate or empathetic, I'll just leave you alone. And this is also part of me being able to build a very secure attachment style because I already know what I want and I know what it looks like. I'm not living in confusion.
Where exactly Nataka those days? Kitambo when I was broke and when I was very disorganized and anxious. Even with my attachment attachment styles, I find that I always wanted validation and I always required to be loved. This would leave me in situations where I was always begging people to stay and I was always also stuck in relationships because I was scared like, how will I pay for that Akinacha, this circle of friends, you know, they have great networks. How will I survive if I leave
them? But taking that leap and going on on my own and doing my own stuff has taught me Kumbe, I can just make my own connections. Kumbe, I can just make my own money. I didn't really have to be stuck anywhere. And in the moment, I understand it feels very scary. But once you make that leap and especially as a woman, and you make the firm decision that yo, I want to take charge of my life. I want to have my own stuff, not depending on anyone who can take
it away because they please. Then it just gives you so much more power and the more you uphold your standards, it kind of gets lonelier, but it also gets you a higher quality of interactions and experiences. Everyone I'm around nowadays is just people I really look up to, people who inspire me in so many ways and they teach me so many things. And this is the the direct consequence of overall improving my life, eluding financially and emotionally.
You see, because now I'm secure in my attachments to people. I'm able to enjoy very emotional relationships. I'm able to enjoy the intimacy of relationships, whether romantic or platonic. I'm able to attract people who are on my level. And so hakuna desperation, neza tuma, I love you. And I will not feel scared because everyone I'm friends with is on that same vibe. Then on that same frequency, the people like date the lovers I have, they're very romantic, very present, very consistent.
So it's a good feeling. It's actually a great feeling. It's just how could I desperation anymore? No more relationships where I have to beg for attention and affection and love and everything or beg for money, beg for gifts, beg for it's I can do it for myself. Anyone else who comes into my life. It's just an addition. It's just extra. It's not something that will take away, say anything from me. I'm complete on my own as myself. And you also have to realize that people can sense the
desperation. Anytime you're desperate for something or you're very anxious, people can sense it. And that's why you have to make sure you work towards being self-sufficient. And hear me out, being self-sufficient and independent doesn't mean that you don't need people or you don't need help or you don't want money and love from people. It just means that you're able to be secure in yourself. Everything else people bring
into your life is extra. If there's a guy who likes you, well and good, that's just extra. You already like yourself, but if they like you, that's good. If they don't like you, okay. Doesn't take anything away from you. Doesn't it doesn't throw you into this spiral of you being so desperate for them that you forget to to like yourself and to treat yourself really, really well. I have a friend who likes to joke about. I know it's not a joke.
I know, I know she it's her way of calling me into recollection, into wake up before you fuck up. And she likes to tell me that. Miminez Adanganovi raising a romance. And it's true, kinda is true because I'm such a sucker for romantic lovers and romantic friends. But and I really, I feel like sometimes love warming makes sense to me because yeah, I do believe it's normal to teach me
in a very grand way. But the difference is because of my awareness, the moment the honeymoon phase is stripped away from me or someone is withholding love or someone is withholding affection or someone is withholding even money, you know, in terms of generosity, I just start to notice this person is not ready to love even. Yeah, you might lie to me, you might catch me with your romantic gestures. But you know, people can't pretend for too long.
And also for people to catch my attention, most times they have to go above and beyond because I I can do it for myself. Like like I said, Otani Katiana chips, otani Katiana chicken, Otani Katiana vacation, otani Katiana sea plenty. Those are things I can buy for myself. You actually like yes I would love a vacation, but I would also love for you to be a very kind and responsible human being that loves to show love and is very emotionally available.
Otherwise the relationship is gonna end and do you just want me to use you for money and then I leave you OK if that's what you want you can also just DM me and let me know but you get what I mean. Having high standards, expecting from others, the things I feel like expecting from others, the the kind of treatment that I give to myself, like at least at par or on that level, it keeps me from low experiences, lowlife
experiences. And I never have to settle for less because even things like flowers, I buy my self flowers. So someone buying me flowers and then mistreating me will not make me stay with them. I'll just leave you with your flowers and I'll go and buy my own flowers. It's a good lesson to learn. So my whole point in this is people can sense when you're desperate. You have to love yourself a little more.
You have to be very intentional with the way you treat yourself because this helps you become able to could you talk or situations and yeah, they're not good for you anymore. Do not be financially desperate, do not chase people because you know of what they can do for you financially. And hear me out, I do believe in the sprinkle sprinkle lady. I'm not going against anything she says. I'm just saying the whole point of this whole thing is to have
your own money. It's not to enter relationships because Ukonanja, find a way to feed yourself and take care of yourself so that people don't abuse you for the little stuff that they can do for you. And when the abuse starts, you should be able to leave and leave them alone for good, because you already know you deserve better and you want better. And this goes for all sorts of relationships. Don't let anyone have the upper hand of being able to say I did this for you.
That thing really traumatizes me because I grew up hearing it a lot. So I became the kind of person who does things for myself so that no one ever has the, the, the audacity to tell me that they made me. And also, even if they do, I try to be consciously never around people who speak like that, people who give selflessly, people who give because they want to, people who do things for me because they love to and they enjoy.
That's my kind of people because it helps me mirror them, it helps me able to be myself around them and reciprocate their actions as well. So please do not be desperate for love, for affection, for anything. The more desperate you are, the more in a kuchenga. Just flow and be in an energy of receiving and of loving and enjoying. Stay within a lot of gratitude. Let go of things that are not yours, Forgive much easier and love yourself. Thank you for listening to this
episode. I just wanted to remind you in case you know, sometimes your only reason for being with someone is 'cause they buy you food, bro you, you are eating before you met them. Please choose better. Choose better and leave. Try to teach yourself to leave situations that are abusive by becoming more aware so that you're able to pick it up before it gets farther and it's more difficult to leave because they've conditioned you psychologically. Toodles.