How often do you do the prep work for your tasks? Do you know what I mean by prep work? Most people I know really dislike the prep work and just want to get down to doing the task. They even feel that the prep work is a waste of their time because it isn’t getting the job done. And, they are short on time as it is, so this is just a non-essential thing to do. But is it really? Everything in life needs prep work and maintenance. If you are the cook in your family or home, you need to prep the mea...
May 24, 2023•33 min
Do you have the blueprints to build a new model of yourself? One of my favorite quotes is by Buckminster Fuller, who said, “You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.” Thinking along the same lines as Fuller, I realized years ago that with so much that happens on our journey from birth to adulthood, unless we build a new model of ourselves and then move into that new model, we will be fighting the exist...
May 17, 2023•33 min
Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria or RSD is a hot topic these days. It is one manifestation of emotional dysregulation, which is a common but misunderstood and under-researched symptom of ADHD in adults. Individuals with RSD feel unbearable pain (physical and emotional) as a result of actual or perceived rejection, teasing, or criticism. And, this symptom is not alleviated with cognitive or dialectical behavior therapy. I’ve read that this symptom is attributed to a different brain structure, a se...
May 11, 2023•37 min
I often hear from many accomplished adults that they feel like imposters. They have been able to hold things together and advance in their career, yet the toll on them is huge. They have created workarounds to get the job done but fear being found out. Work takes so much time and leaves little if any time for pursuing their dreams, hobbies or even cherished time with family and friends. Over time, their self-confidence and happiness has disappeared. Enter… imposter syndrome. In order to feel con...
May 01, 2023•49 min
I’ve been giving a lot of thought to what is commonly believed to be the process we adults need to go through if we suspect ADHD. That process takes time and money. And depending on what part of the world you live in, your access to a specialist may be limited. For that reason or others, many adults are self-diagnosing these days. Some are questioning what having an official diagnosis will give them that a self-diagnosis won’t. The answer to that question is simple – potentially a lot of valuabl...
Mar 14, 2023•26 min
This episode is a little different than most. It’s kind of a public service announcement - a message in the public interest that is meant to raise awareness about an important issue and change behavior. This episode is dedicated to you, my listeners. The topic was inspired by a few emails I received this week, and they brought back the strong feelings I have about what I have been called to do and why I continue to pour my heart and soul into this calling. Every day someone emails me with inform...
Feb 10, 2023•42 min
Whether you are dating, are in a committed relationship, living together or married, your well-developed Executive Function Skills make a difference in many aspects of your relational life. And, even though I focus on helping you develop your Executive Function Skills for yourself, that does not mean that their development isn’t essential for a healthier and happier marriage. Let me explain. When we enter a relationship, we bring whoever we are and whatever is part of us with us. If there is dep...
Jan 31, 2023•37 min
Desmond Tutu once wisely said that “there is only one way to eat an elephant: a bite at a time.” What he meant by this is that everything in life that seems daunting, overwhelming, and even impossible can be accomplished gradually by taking on just a little at a time. Robert Maurer, Ph.D. tells us in his book, “One Small Step Can Change Your Life – The Kaizen Way” that small steps bypass your brain’s built-in resistance to new behavior. Kaizen means improvement and moreover it means continuing i...
Jan 17, 2023•29 min
Procrastination is simply the act of delaying or postponing something; nothing more. Most people think of procrastinating as a negative thing. We procrastinate on filing our taxes, paying our bills, keeping our homes tidy, returning phone messages and responding to important emails. We even procrastinate on making plans for our summer vacations. These are all just the act of delaying or postponing something; nothing more. It’s just a behavior. And, we can use this behavior for good or harm; it’s...
Jan 10, 2023•30 min
Hi Aspiring Achievers, There is a serious, widespread problem with the educational requirements in the mental health field. Most professionals are studying the same outdated information about ADHD, Depression, Anxiety, Trauma and Addictions in preparation for licensure. They aren’t studying what happens to your executive function development because of those conditions. The most common treatment recommended for adults with ADHD is medication, and the same is true for Depression and Anxiety. Unfo...
Dec 30, 2022•32 min
Toxic shame is a killer. It’s an internal message that tells you that you are defective, bad, wrong, and not valuable. Toxic shame isn’t personal; it’s like poison. It doesn’t matter who gives you the poison or who does the shaming, either one will eat away at you and take you down. And, when shame comes flooding in and causes us to retreat into ourselves, our transformation is put on hold while we navigate the toxic shame. Shame and guilt are different: Guilt tells me that I made a mistake. Sha...
Nov 29, 2022•31 min
Executive function skills are important for us to function well as an adult, whether this means raising children, running a household, working for a company or ourselves, or being in healthy relationships. These skills are necessary so that we can get things done and not be in a constant state of overwhelm or frustration because we can't keep up with our adult responsibilities. We all need to be competent in Executive Function skills in order to feel confident in our adult life. In this podcast ...
Nov 22, 2022•36 min
Hi Aspiring Achievers! Do you have any or all of the following challenges? Limiting beliefs that hold you back and make it impossible for you to succeed? An outdated sense of yourself or identity that is a limited version of you; not a version that is able to move forward with confidence and conviction? A disempowering relationship with time, where you find it difficult to manage yourself within the time you have? An ongoing struggle with procrastination, where you can’t seem to eliminate it fro...
Oct 10, 2022•40 min
In this podcast episode, Dr B answers the question from Christine in Florida: "Does Codependency often play a role in executive function deficit?" Developing your Executive Function Skills and shifting your limiting beliefs is the fastest and most effective way to overcome ADHD limitations, find focus, gain confidence, and a newfound freedom in your life! My mission is to put an end to the worldwide needless suffering of adults with ADHD and those with under-developed Executive Function Skills -...
Sep 19, 2022•24 min
In this episode, we're doing something a little different. I was on a call a few days back with a couple of my team members. And I realized that that conversation would make a great mini podcast that I wanted to share with you my listener, because it's how I feel about the work that I'm honored to do with you, and why it matters so much to me. So, here's a brief bit of that conversation. Enjoy. Developing your Executive Function Skills and shifting your limiting beliefs is the fastest and most e...
Sep 06, 2022•12 min
What if we're doing it all backwards and wrong? People start identifying that they have ADHD and they want to fix it. Or people start identifying they have underdeveloped executive function skills and they want to fix it. And everything is oriented towards fixing something that's deemed to be broken. But what if it's not broken? What if what we're identifying is the cause; the underlying cause? And let's say it's underdeveloped executive function skills. The effect is everything we're seeing in ...
Jul 06, 2022•41 min
There’s a difference between what you say you want and what you say you intend to have. One is “desire” and the other is “it will happen.” When we set our intention, we are willing to go to any lengths for it to happen. We are willing to become a better or upgraded version of ourselves; to take with us the best of who we are and leave the rest behind. Are you willing to go to any lengths? I wasn’t 40 years ago and I learned in codependency recovery that I would need to be willing to go to any le...
Jun 20, 2022•40 min
Let’s jump straight to what’s important here. You definitely need certain capabilities to succeed in life. These capabilities help you to get and keep a job, provide appropriate care for children, manage a household and contribute meaningfully to your community. They also enable you having a satisfying personal life with whatever is most important to you. And based on what you are sharing with me when you complete the Information List form, you are in desperate need of the EF skills to be able t...
May 31, 2022•40 min
If you're on the Information List for ADDventures In Achievement Foundational Skills Program, then you've been receiving some exclusive emails this week. As I was reviewing the emails you've been receiving again, I was thinking of how easy it would be very easy for you to not believe what I'm saying in the emails, and maybe not even believe what I say in my podcast show because after all. If you're in your 30s or 40s, or 50s or older like me, you've had a lot of years of experiences in which thi...
May 05, 2022•32 min
Have you been suffering long enough? Whether your suffering is due to your limiting beliefs or outdated identities or missing pre-skills or underdeveloped EF skills – if you’re suffering, then you’re suffering – no matter which of these are the source of your suffering. In this episode, I talk about: Suppressing emotions Stories you tell yourself that keep you suffering How to break free from suffering And more! Developing your Executive Function Skills and shifting your limiting beliefs is the ...
Apr 27, 2022•35 min
Hello, everyone. This is not Dr B. This is Maya Brewer, and it is Dr B's 100th podcast episode for Living Beyond ADHD. So, I am here with Dr B. I'm a student and a freelance writer. And when I say student, I mean student of Dr B's ADDventures In Achievement Program. So welcome to your own show, Dr B. Well, are you ready? I'm ready. Let's do it. Awesome. So, it is your 100th podcast episode. Wow, that's quite a milestone. So, Dr B, how do you feel about reaching this milestone? In this episode Dr...
Apr 06, 2022•51 min
In episode 098, I talked about being the Gifted Underachiever and the 5 pivotal elements to become the Empowered Achiever. While I was creating that episode, it occurred to me that there are many traumatic life experiences, big and small, when we don't have well-developed EF skills. We need to acknowledge them, in light of our underdeveloped EF skills, so that we can embark on our extraordinary healing journey, and manifest the pure potential contained within us. It’s not enough for us to develo...
Mar 30, 2022•33 min
When I refer to “gifted” adults, I am not talking about I.Q. I am talking about something more important, which is gifted temperament. Additionally, a lot of the challenges you experience could be due to being a gifted adult, since there are many similar challenges with ADHD as with giftedness. According to Reis and McCoach (2000), gifted underachievers typically have low self-esteem, low self-concept, and low self-efficacy, which refers to your belief in your capacity to implement behaviors nec...
Mar 26, 2022•29 min
Did you get up this morning and have to stop and remember who you are? Like in the movie “50 First Dates” where Lucy had to watch a video of her life every morning because her memory was damaged from an accident? Most likely not how your mornings start. Habits are great when they are shortcuts that save us time and benefit our lives. When they are destructive and remnants from the past, we need to get out of the habit of doing them. It’s the same with who we are and how we are. We are in the hab...
Mar 09, 2022•30 min
If you’ve ever been disappointed or frustrated with the information or care you’ve received for your mental health and well-being, stay tuned. Carl Jung said, “I feel it is the duty of one who goes his own way to inform society of what he finds on his voyage of discovery.” Jung’s quote inspired this episode. I feel it is both my duty and moral obligation to share with you what I’ve found out that I trust will benefit you and help you create a better quality of life. So, here’s some hard truths h...
Mar 04, 2022•34 min
80% of the new students coming into the ADDventures In Achievement Foundational Skills program feel powerless over their current behaviors, are filled with self-loathing, and feel like an impostor - having lived with so many challenges their entire life. They constantly look over their shoulder least they be found out. In today’s episode, I’m focusing on feelings you’re probably familiar with, and how shining a light on these feelings, and the beliefs that feed them leads you to heal your needle...
Jan 27, 2022•27 min
The title of this episode is a real question I am posing to all of my listeners. If you knew that you would not fail once again to achieve your desired outcome, what would you do? Would you tell yourself that’s not possible because you always fail? Or, would you be curious about what makes that opportunity different from all the other ones – to wonder how is it possible that failing isn’t an option? If you’re curious to know more, please listen carefully. And after you do, if you want to know ev...
Jan 18, 2022•23 min
Achieving your goals is connected to how well-developed your EF skills and strategies are, and if they’re not well-developed, well, you know the rest of the story. And I get it. Getting the right help for yourself is a Catch-22. It’s challenging because the very skills you need to help yourself are the skills you’re missing. And, there’s plenty of resources in the world that offer you a piece of what you need, but not all of it. How do I know? Because I was offered a piece here and there for yea...
Jan 18, 2022•28 min
Hearing that ADHD is a gift is hurtful and confusing to many adults. In my Facebook group, whenever we create a post about ADHD being a gift, many members are angry because they don’t experience their ADHD as a gift at all. And, they are right. Without well-developed Executive Functions skills, the gifts of ADHD aren’t available. If you don’t take steps to more fully develop your EF skills, you could be locking yourself out of access to your creativity, unique problem-solving abilities, associat...
Jan 13, 2022•40 min
I have something a little different for you today. I did a live video last Friday, and people said it was great, so I turned it into a podcast episode so you all could benefit as well. As you may have heard me say before, you don’t have to have a diagnosis or even suspect ADHD to have under-developed EF skills. The developmental energy that was intended for their development could have gotten derailed by depression, anxiety, addictions, traumas, illnesses and more. All of these conditions, inclu...
Dec 07, 2021•59 min
