It’s true – goal setting can be detrimental to your success…if you set goals the way most of us have been taught to set them. If you’re intrigued, stay tuned. Goal setting is typically an external process, where you are targeting something outside of yourself that you want to achieve or change. All of your focus and attention is on achieving your external goal. One example could be, “You want to lose 10 pounds in 10 days.” Your focus is on the scale and what you are eating and your exercise rout...
Nov 16, 2021•36 min
When you set a goal, you are setting a direction for yourself. And setting a direction can change the course of your life; it depends on the goal that you set. In my 50s, I wrote a goal on my flipchart one day that I wanted to have a positive impact on the lives of at least a million people in my lifetime. I had no idea what that goal really meant nor how it would unfold when I wrote it that day. Then, many years ago, I found an anonymous quote online – “Set a goal so big that you can’t achieve ...
Sep 28, 2021•31 min
If you could get yourself to focus when and where you need to AND could shift your state or feelings so you feel like doing things you’ve planned, when it’s time to take action, would having those skills change your life? If you’re like other adults I’ve asked over the years, the answer is a resounding yes. But how? You are where your attention is. What you focus on grows. You are the meaning maker in your life. Your feelings are a direct result of your thinking. You create your own reality; we ...
Sep 14, 2021•32 min
I pursued an ADHD diagnosis with many professionals, only to be refused an assessment with two and granted an assessment with one who decided there was nothing significantly amiss with me – just a little anxiety. Seriously?! The two that turned me away said it would be a waste of time (whose time?) to assess me and the one that did, asked questions and did testing that would never have confirmed a diagnosis because they weren’t properly trained to assess me as an adult woman. It was very discour...
Aug 31, 2021•36 min
You may not know if being free of negative self-talk is going to be right for you. You may not know if you’re going to be SO happy with your new-found freedom that you’ll have to email me and tell me about it. You may not know if this transformation is going to be really fun and exciting. And, if it’s not as wonderful as others have experienced and you want your previous negative self-talk life back, you can re-create that life again – although you may want to give your new-found freedom a littl...
Aug 23, 2021•28 min
So many of us grew up without the opportunity to become the person we want to be. Whether our homes were filled with trauma or addictions or those who raised us were just missing the essential executive function skills to be able to pass them on to us, we didn’t get them. And so, it goes. Generation after generation of kids are growing up with under-developed executive function skills; the very life skills that are necessary for successful “adulting.” Some of you believe it’s too late for you to...
May 24, 2021•42 min
There's a lot of trauma that occurs as a result of not knowing what the source of our challenges are. And then so many mixed feelings when and if we get diagnosed, everything from a huge sense of relief, and having an explanation for entire life experiences, to a deep sadness over the missed opportunities. And we're left wondering what could have happened if we had known sooner? What if the bigger issue with all the problems that we adults with or without ADHD have is because of the not knowing ...
May 07, 2021•30 min•Ep. 84
Forgiveness is a gift. We can give this gift at any time - to ourselves or to others. It’s our “get out of jail” gift card – releasing each of us from a prison of our own making. When we refuse to forgive, and choose to hold onto mistakes and use them against ourselves or others, we are setting ourselves up for a miserable life. How many times do we need to relive the pain of the past before we’ve experienced enough pain or misery? To forgive is to stop feeling angry or resentful toward ourselve...
Mar 03, 2021•30 min
Jim Rohn said - "For things to change, you have to change." It seems very obvious when you think about it, for things to change, you have to change. I've been thinking about this quote a lot lately. And it's taken on a much deeper meaning for me, because he didn't say, for things to change, you have to change things. What he said is for things to change, you have to change. I understand now that means that I have to change in whatever ways are necessary for things to change for me, whatever thos...
Feb 17, 2021•28 min
Feeling overwhelmed isn’t automatically a positive or a negative experience; it depends on the emotion and on the meaning you give to the emotion you’re feeling. You could be overwhelmed with gratitude and self-love or overwhelmed with grief and shame. The meaning I give overwhelmed is that it implies “too much” or “more than someone can comfortably handle.” Is that you? Every time I imagine what life is like WITHOUT well-developed executive function skills before the pandemic, and then imagine ...
Dec 19, 2020•26 min
Being an Achiever isn’t just about developing your EF Skills; you also need to become the person who is the Achiever, instead of thinking of yourself as the person who is the ADDer. Saying “I am an Achiever” is the first step to taking on an empowering new Identity, just as saying “I am an ADDer, is a step that reinforces keeping the same old disempowering Identity. Are you telling yourself stories or reliving your past failed attempts and making that your reality today? You’re probably not doin...
Nov 18, 2020•36 min
According to government statistics, last updated in 2018, there are a lot of unhappy people that are suffering in the world. In the U.S. alone: 32 million people suffer from anxiety 17 million suffer from depression Around 12 million suffer from PTSD And, according to Forbes magazine, the Self-Help industry generates over $11 billion annually. What I find interesting is that many of the self-help books and videos that get purchased sit on the shelf collecting dust. So for today’s podcast, I want...
Jul 01, 2020•36 min
I have something a little different for you today. In case you missed listening to my interview with Meredith for Real: The Curious Introvert, she was kind enough to share the episode with me, so I could share it with you all directly. I love responding to questions and thoroughly enjoyed my interview with Meredith. If my podcast show is the first time you’ve been hearing about the difference between ADHD and executive function skills, you're not alone. If you’re an adult who received a diagnosi...
Jun 15, 2020•28 min
I love responding to questions and enjoyed being interviewed by Meredith for Real so much that I decided to change the format of my show to focusing on a topic and responding to questions about it. If my podcast show is the first time you’ve been hearing about executive function skills and strategies, you are not alone. If you’re an adult who received a diagnosis of adult ADHD, executive function skills should also have been assessed and discussed with you, in my humble opinion. The odds of havi...
Jun 08, 2020•37 min
For those of you who don’t know me yet … Albert Einstein is quoted as saying, “ Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid .” That was me; living the majority of my academic life believing I was stupid, and chasing degrees to prove I wasn’t. The degrees never resolved the feelings; only accepting the truth did. I was smart; just differently. I wasn’t broken. I didn’t need fixing. I needed to understand wh...
Jun 01, 2020•37 min
We have a multi-dimensional mental health problem in the world. Many professionals aren’t trained to recognize nor address issues with ADHD or executive function training. Our family members might have had the same challenges we experience and just made the best of them. And of course, whatever they modeled for us is what we learned. Plus, nowhere along the way was it ever mentioned that we could do something about these challenges ourselves – even without a diagnosis! Prescribers aren’t recomme...
May 28, 2020•29 min
The topic of menopause and ADHD is an important one and not often talked about. It’s important if you’re pre-menopause, peri-menopause, going through menopause or post-menopause, and wondering at any point what hit you! And it’s important even if you’re a male listener, since you most likely live with or work with such women. In this episode Dr B talks about: Drops in estrogen and cognitive functioning Importance of gut health for brain health Not turning your behaviors into your identity The im...
May 25, 2020•30 min
Today’s episode is part 4 of 4 of my interview with Danny, a writer and director who has been sharing the ups and downs of his life with ADHD. We begin this section discussing the use of alcohol or other substances to slow down what Danny calls the “cacophony” going on in his head. And then we dive into all the ways your brain can be retrained so that you can get better outcomes for your life. That is, how to work with your unique brain, how to love it’s quirkiness and how to envision a positive...
May 21, 2020•29 min
Today I’m continuing my interview with Danny, who, in the last episode, described how getting diagnosed with ADHD and learning about wins from something I taught at our local MeetUp group pulled him out of darkness and started him on a bright new path. In Part 3 of this interview I discuss “cognitive hyperactivity,” which is barely being talked about even though it causes huge problems for people. And then we start talking about solutions. So settle in for some great tips as we continue Danny’s ...
May 18, 2020•13 min
Today I’m continuing my interview with Danny, an artistic soul who was diagnosed with ADHD in his 40s. When we left off at the end of the last episode, Danny had just experienced an epiphany that ADHD might be the source of many of his struggles in life. This episode starts with Danny’s revelations from listening to an audio book on ADHD and then he describes a very dark time in his life and where he found a lifeline. Let’s jump right in. Developing your Executive Function Skills and shifting yo...
May 14, 2020•17 min
Are you someone who struggled with ADHD your whole life and finally received a diagnosis later in life? If so, then you're not alone. Today I'm interviewing Danny, a writer and director whose story is similar to a lot of folks. We met at a local ADHD MeetUp group back in 2013 and have been friends ever since. He’s come a long way, and I want you to hear from him how ADHD almost ruined his life, and he overcame his depression and addictions by working on unique ways to retrain his brain. In this ...
May 13, 2020•25 min
Hey ADDers! So glad you could join me for today’s episode – ADHD and Executive Function Skills Through Dr B’s Eyes. Back in the late 1970’s I had Graves Disease, which simply put is an overactive or hyperactive thyroid gland. ...Being an options thinker, I explored acupuncture, which addresses issues of energy directly and visualization techniques, which have been researched as very effective in the treatment of cancer. Plus, some reading in Louise Hay’s book “Healing Your Body” helped me to und...
Jan 02, 2020•37 min
Hey ADDers! So glad you could join me for today’s episode - Executive Function Basics about Focus, Priorities and Effective Decision Making. I wanted to share some important tools with you that I’ve taught students before. Without the skills to focus, prioritize and make effective decisions, you are most likely going to be stressed and spinning your wheels a lot, seeing very little results at the end of each day. And like you, I know how awful that feels, and am grateful to have developed the sk...
Jan 02, 2020•1 hr 14 min
Hey ADDers! So glad you could join me for today’s episode about Executive Function Basics - Planning, Scheduling and Following Through. I decided to change up the format for a couple of weeks and provide you with some important tools that I’ve taught students before. Without the skills to plan, schedule and follow through there is a lot that you won’t be able to do very efficiently. I trust the information in this episode will give you a start at developing these critically important skills and ...
Nov 28, 2019•1 hr 2 min
Hey ADDers! So glad you could join me for today’s episode about ADHD Coaching and Therapy – Differences and Similarities. Before I talk about the similarities and differences, I’d like to take you on a little journey. ADHD that is diagnosed in adulthood doesn’t travel alone; rather it often comes with “companion challenges” such as depression, anxiety, addictions, trauma and even illnesses. Sometimes these “companion challenges” are there as a result of this later in life diagnosis and sometimes...
Nov 16, 2019•44 min
Hey ADDers! So glad you could join me for today’s episode about getting organized – the fun way. If you’re like other adults with ADHD and under-developed executive function life skills, you may be thinking, “no way can getting organized be fun!” And then there’s the maintenance after you get organized, so you can stay that way. It’s the #1 issue that many of you voted on in my Facebook group, and said you dread, procrastinate on and hate to do. I get it. I made sure to include fun in this episo...
Nov 08, 2019•36 min
Hey ADDers! Many of you are living without well-developed executive function skills and strategies and perhaps don’t know it. Or maybe you do…but you don’t know what can be done. You’ve had these struggles in one form or another for most of your life and if they were going to improve, they certainly would have by now. Fair enough… You’ve come to the conclusion that you must have treatment resistant ADHD or really bad ADHD because it just isn’t getting any better; in fact, it might even be gettin...
Sep 30, 2019•48 min
Hey ADDers! We’re going to start off a little different today and look at a correlation I’ve been thinking about for some time. The title of today’s episode comes from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, and pertains to more than just those in recovery from alcoholism. And even if you don’t favor AA for whatever reasons, please do listen for the deeper logic and meanings that I want to share with you today in this introductory part of today’s episode. A seemingly hopeless state of mind and bod...
Jun 18, 2019•38 min
Hey ADDers! Do you feel as if you’re on a runaway train? Is valuable time – and your life – passing you by in the blink of an eye? Do you feel lost or overwhelmed because you’re not getting the important things done in your life? I was once there, too. I spent thousands of dollars on programs, therapists and books that promised to show me the way out of the chaos in spite of my ADHD brain. But they didn’t. Instead, they left me feeling angry and more desperate than before. Perhaps this is your s...
May 29, 2019•43 min
Hey ADDers! Foresight is the secret ingredient to success, because without foresight you cannot prepare for the future. With our fast-paced lives, it is becoming harder and harder to establish foresight because our world is changing faster than ever before. Are you someone who has no idea of what sort of world you should prepare for? And if that is you, have you given up and decided that you can’t know or do anything about your future? That you will just have to deal with the cards that get deal...
Apr 03, 2019•38 min
