In this episode, I use a low stakes situation to walk through the components of a common problem for sixes, worrying if someone else is going to be mad at us. Any perceived threats to loss of support can be VERY challenging for us. Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more ...
May 22, 2024•25 min
In this episode I break down a typical example of my adaptive strategies showing up and not only how I navigate it internally, but how I talk to myself about it on the back end. Use this as a case study and apply the bits to something similar in your life! Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questi...
May 15, 2024•27 min
This is a question, I get asked a LOT. It shows up in conversations around type 6 often in Enneagram spaces. This is a delicate conversation with a lot of nuance and room for interpretation. Here is how I’m currently thinking this through. Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to ch...
May 08, 2024•33 min
In this episode, I dive into YOUR questions about angst, anxiety, and what in the world we can do about it! Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching...
May 01, 2024•40 min
What are the areas to focus on in your life to get to a healthy version of you? Well, I don’t REALLY know, BUT I have some ideas. Here are the main pillars I live by that also inform my coaching philosophy and approach. Of course the Enneagram is a piece, but as with all things, tools used on the right foundation work better. This is the foundation. Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Se...
Apr 24, 2024•25 min
In this episode I reveal how the underlying beliefs we have impact that questions we ask. I show how, as sixes, we tend to reveal beliefs that disempower us and what we can do about it. I also share how we can work WITH the questions we are asking already to help us shift into a more empowered state. Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HE...
Apr 17, 2024•27 min
In this episode I talk about the importance of learning how to support past versions of ourselves at the level of thought AND feeling. Just doing one…trying to think differently, won’t work. What does? Tune in to find out. Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Lif...
Apr 09, 2024•26 min
There is no “health” without a strong, trusting, reliable, SUPPORTIVE relationship with ourselves. As sixes, what gets in the way and how do we overcome those obstacles to truly get on our own side and stay there as we build the capacity to meet the moments of our lives. Listen in! Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact ...
Apr 03, 2024•28 min
I’m back with Aaron Addonizio of Empathy Architects to dig into the topic of reactivity and how it affects sixes in their lives and relationships. An important topic and a fun conversation! Aaron Addonizio is a seasoned Enneagram teacher and coach, holding a Master’s degree in Human Relations from the University of Oklahoma with a focus on counseling and personality psychology. Additionally, she earned a Master’s Degree in Public Administration, specializing in nonprofit management from the same...
Mar 26, 2024•1 hr 12 min
In this episode I share something from inside my group coaching program that you can use to assess how you are doing in your life in 8 sixy specific areas. You can also use this process to decide exactly what you want to work on, a way to orient your brain on purpose! Sixy Check In Worksheet can be found HERE Join the Zero to Sixy Membership HERE Book a consult with me HERE...
Mar 20, 2024•26 min
In this episode I try to pull apart the idea that sixes have fear of fear. How can we understand this idea in a way that is useful? How can we recognize when we are acting in fear avoidance patterns? And how can we start giving ourselves evidence that we can face this experience of fear and survive it? Join the Zero to Sixy waitlist HERE Schedule a Consult HERE Other Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have ques...
Mar 13, 2024•26 min
In this episode, I share an example of making room for feelings I did not want to feel! I also talk about all the rules we make up to live life by and what the impact of that automatic habit is! Other Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching...
Mar 06, 2024•25 min
Listen in as I explore 4 automatic thought traps that catch sixes and what the antidotes are for these traps. Blame, Shame, Anxiety Spins, and Cynicism. Zero to Sixy is OPEN! Find out more HERE . Other Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching...
Feb 28, 2024•33 min
In this episode I explore our relationship to feelings in general, but really unpack the passion of 6. The passion is the emotional vice of each number…where we get stuck. What do we do about it? It’s all inside. Find the article HERE about Beliefs about Emotional Influence Zero to Sixy Waitlist Other Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching...
Feb 21, 2024•35 min
Doing self-awareness work without also doing self-compassion work is like being a Dr. who has the diagnosis and no bedside manner or capacity to be with the human they are diagnosing. Are you doing this to yourself? Find out in this episode and what to do about it. Zero to Sixy Waitlist Website on Self-Compassion Other Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in joining my Membership Coaching for Enneagram 6's, you can find ou...
Feb 14, 2024•37 min
Self awareness without self compassion….isn’t actually going to get you anywhere. There is a tendency to wield the Enneagram against ourselves and others without the compassion required to support the vulnerable work of seeing ourselves clearly. I hope this episode helps with both self revealing and the courage to do it with CARE. Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in joining my Membership Coaching for Enneagram 6's, you...
Feb 07, 2024•26 min
In this episode I revisit what the fixation of six is and why I think we can get so much movement directly addressing and learning to work with our thinking. As sixes we have thinking run amok! So much of our thinking is disembodied and contributing to our suffering. Learning skills to work directly with our thinking, to defuse from our automatic thinking, and access embodied thoughts is crucial work for sixes on their growth path. Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can ...
Jan 31, 2024•31 min
As sixes, part of our strategy to avoid our core fears is to disempower ourselves in situations in our lives. Listen in as I break this down with a personal example and what we can begin to do about this painful pattern Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in joining my Membership Coaching for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy Membership HERE! You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to c...
Jan 24, 2024•30 min
Sixes benefit from knowing their core values in so many ways. Listen in for the why, an example, and the HOW! VALUES WORKSHOP: https://www.kristinmessegee.com/offers/uLEhmqon Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in joining my Membership Coaching for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy Membership HERE! You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching...
Jan 17, 2024•23 min
Each of us over-focuses on an instinctual strategy. Self-preservation, Social, and Sexual instincts are present in all of us to different degrees and levels of sub-conscious focus. Listen in while Kristin and Aaron bring the teaching as well as what this looks and feels like in real life. Aaron Addonizio is a seasoned Enneagram teacher and coach, holding a Master’s degree in Human Relations from the University of Oklahoma with a focus on counseling and personality psychology. Additionally, she e...
Jan 10, 2024•1 hr 24 min
In this episode I explore the dichotomy that while we REALLY do not like uncertainty, we are set up to create a lot of it internally. Listen in to discover how that is true and some ideas for what to do about it! Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in joining my Group Coaching for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coa...
Jan 03, 2024•28 min
New Years Resolutions are generally not a great idea in terms of building self trust, however, you can capture the energy of a new year by considering a long term project for your life and brain. A six brain will be solving problems. The more we can CHOOSE the problems we are working on, the more evolution of ourselves we will experience over the course of our lives. Here are some ideas from my six brain to yours of some projects you might want to take on in 2024! Helpful Links: Sign up for my F...
Dec 27, 2023•24 min
When we take the time to slow down our automatic patterns and get real truthy with what is going on inside of us, we build a connection to a more complete holistic picture of ourselves. Yes, that means we might contact things we aren’t wanting to see, and we build a connection to the positive things about us that we disown as easily as we disown the harder stuff. This practice helps us develop more of the sense that we can meet the moments of our lives…and loosen the need to predict and control ...
Dec 20, 2023•26 min
I had the honor of sitting down with Aaron Addonizio co-founder of Empathy Architects to discuss the ins and outs of Trifix. We cover the theory itself as well as drill down into how sixes can explore this concept not just in their minds, but in their hearts and bodies as well. Aaron Addonizio is a seasoned Enneagram teacher and coach, holding a Master’s degree in Human Relations from the University of Oklahoma with a focus on counseling and personality psychology. Additionally, she earned a Mas...
Dec 13, 2023•1 hr 12 min
In this episode I go into 3 practices that can help you build awareness of your sixy strategies and simultaneously begin to build more self trust from within. These are things you can begin to do right away. Sometimes it’s good to shift from the theoretical and just get going on some practical application. Out of our heads and a bit more into our lives! In this episode I explore why emotional awareness and growing a capacity to feel new feelings is so important in our journeys. We can figure out...
Dec 06, 2023•25 min
In this episode I explore why emotional awareness and growing a capacity to feel new feelings is so important in our journeys. We can figure out a lot about what emotions would benefit us by knowing which ones we “prefer” or are most familiar with. The discomfort of NOT doing our strategy is the discomfort we need to access more choice and psychological flexibility in our lives. Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in join...
Nov 29, 2023•40 min
In this conversation, Anastasia and Kristin explore the landscape of emotion in sixes with a focus on Love, Fear, and Anger. They explore healing modalities, their own journeys, using our personality for us, trusting the unknown, and an upcoming event you are invited to join! Learn more about the Healthy Love Show ! Anastasia supports high-achieving women to create healthy connected love with themselves & a super aligned partner. She has supported thousands of women to create connected, comm...
Nov 22, 2023•56 min
In this episode, I take us through some high level Enneagram teaching of type 6. It centers around the Super Ego Message of 6, “You are good or okay if you do what is expected of you.” How is this subconscious message impacting our day to day choices without our even knowing? Who have we given permission to determine what is expected of us? And what can we start to do about it when we realize we have disempowered ourselves so thoroughly? Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence Yo...
Nov 15, 2023•43 min
In this interview, Kristin and guest Emily Aborn discuss all things sixes and curiosity. What is it? What isn’t it? How does all this work together in sixiness? Why might we actually avoid being genuinely curious. You will have a more clear sense of some of your internal workings and all those questions after this episode! Emily Aborn is a Content Copywriter, Speaker, and Podcast Host of Content with Character and She Built This. Since 2014, she’s had experience running brick-and-mortar as well ...
Nov 08, 2023•57 min
In this episode I answer a listener questions and give an overview of some internal protector parts to be on the look out for as an Enneagram 6. Per the theory of Internal Family Systems, we all have various parts inside of us doing their best to help us navigate life. Similar to our ennea-adaptive strategies, these parts formed when we were young without our permission and can be maladaptive for us in our adult lives. How we relate to these parts holds a key for more access to our core self and...
Nov 01, 2023•40 min
