How do the passion of cowardice and the virtue of faith interact as sixes? What does it mean that the virtue can act as an antidote for the passion? How can faith work to transform our relationship to and experience of fear? It’s all in today’s episode! Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in joining my Group Coaching for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! You can contact me HERE if you have ques...
Oct 25, 2023•31 min
This idea that we might or have done something to impact our OWN security or support system is a major threat to our living in a more Uninhibited way. Learning when this is at play for each of us goes a long way to helping us have the kind of insight that actually leads to more self-support and choice in our lives. Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in joining my Group Coaching for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more ab...
Oct 18, 2023•34 min
In this episode we take a closer look at what it means to be self supportive and self reliant as a six. I talk about practices for how to develop this crucial relationship with ourselves on our journeys. Purchase the Live Confidence for Sixes Workshops HERE You'll be working through my Confidence Course with me during 2 live workshops: Oct 12th 11am-1pm CST Oct 13th 11am-1pm CST Zoom link will follow via email. Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram ...
Oct 11, 2023•30 min
In this episode Kristin and Abbi explore the amount of time and attention sixes give to what *might* be going on in other people's brains. What it really looks like to be others oriented is one of the main places sixes can develop awareness to help them begin to see where and how they disempower themselves regularly. Hanging out in other people's brains does not provide us the security we think it does. Purchase the Live Confidence for Sixes Workshops HERE You'll be working through my Confidence...
Oct 04, 2023•57 min
In this episode Kristin and Paula discuss the nuance around inviting and supporting our systems to do challenging things without shame. They also get into real strategies to help you make feeling feelings more accessible. As with all things, it’s in the doing, that real change happens. Paula Engebretson is an ADHD coach and productivity enthusiast. Her mission is to help fellow ADHDers step out of the neurotypical box, embrace their strengths, and make time for the things they value most. Throug...
Sep 27, 2023•1 hr 2 min
In this episode I go out on a limb and explore the why behind the need to learn to manage our attention. I talk about in terms of science, quantum science at that! How do particle physics and our sixy personality strategies relate? Tune in and I will explain it. I also have an invitation for you. Purchase the Live Confidence for Sixes Workshops HERE You'll be working through my Confidence Course with me during 2 live workshops: Oct 12th 11am-1pm CST Oct 13th 11am-1pm CST Zoom link will follow vi...
Sep 20, 2023•36 min
We’ve talked about how one of the type six survival strategies, our fixation, is to self-scare. In this episode, Kristin and Nicole share some of the personal ways their brains self-scare. We do this with a good dose of laughter to help ourselves feel less alone in the experiences created by our brains and get a good dose of laughter at ourselves. Hopefully you can laugh along and feel less alone in your own self scaring as well as understand this isn’t something that has to change for you to ha...
Sep 13, 2023•48 min
In this bonus episode I take you into my own sixy system and how I am managing some big emotions in a situation in my life. I talk though the various moving parts, how I notice my patterns wanting to take over, and what I do instead. Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in joining my Group Coaching for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to cha...
Sep 06, 2023•21 min
Today we are talking about feelings, our relationship to our feelings and how feelings are what drive so much of our lives as sixes. Developing a conscious trusting relationship to our own feelings is nothing short of transformative for sixes. And we can all do and benefit from this particular piece of work. Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in joining my Group Coaching for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zer...
Sep 06, 2023•29 min
In this episode we look at the enneagram of fixations, specifically, of course, the type fixation of cowardice. I take the lens of what does the fixation DO? When we can orient to a process, we have more ability and capacity to interrupt the process and do something different. Patterns repeated subconsciously automatically over time, are just that…patterns and processes repeated over time. Removing the judgment of the pattern can be it’s own intervention. I also explore ways to directly interrup...
Aug 30, 2023•35 min
This week I dive into the levels of health of type 6 as well as weave together some of the core pieces of Enneagram Basics. I cover passion, fixation, virtue, holy idea and how that all works together to inform our levels of health and what we can do to resource ourselves at any level. I also share a personal example of my own descent and rise back up through the levels through the anatomy of an argument. Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE I...
Aug 23, 2023•38 min
In this episode, I talk through one of the most ingrained parts of the type six strategy: the ways we orient to authority in unconscious attempts to feel safe, secure, and independent. I also include context for how we frame these ideas when we apply them to ourselves. It’s very important we look for the wisdom inside of these strategies rather than continue to search for things we need to “fix”. This is all an invitation for expansion for our systems to hold and experience MORE of us, not less....
Aug 16, 2023•35 min
In this episode we discuss the theory of how sixes are present time oriented. This is confusing for sixes as our minds always seem to be in the past or the future. I break down why I think the theory makes sense, what being “in the present” actually means. I also discuss the elusive “inner authority” and you can begin to orient to your unique authority/internal knowing separate from all the narratives appearing in the mind. Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me ...
Aug 09, 2023•30 min
In this episode we dive into the concept of emotional realness aka emotional reactivity and what this actually looks like in sixes. Sixes are emotionally complex, and we tend to doubt our own ability to handle the emotions created in our bodies. What then do we do? What are the narratives that are unconsciously driving this strategy as well as the narratives created BY this strategy? Understanding the relationships between our emotional experiences and the narratives connected to them is a cruci...
Aug 02, 2023•40 min
In this week's episode I show what happens inside my mind on a particular day and how I manage my thinking, my emotions, and the doing of the things. Understanding our patterns, owning our own emotional reactions, lots of permission for being a human, and orienting our minds on purpose are all tools we can use to get through our days with more choice and less automatic sixiness running the show. Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're i...
Jul 26, 2023•21 min
In this episode Kristin and Scott explore the experience of sixes and anger. We share how very different sixes have experienced and are learning this very important human emotion. Having a conscious relationship with anger can add depth, nuance, and self-finding to your sixy life! Dr. Scott LaGreca has a PhD in botany from Duke University, where he works curating a large collection of preserved lichen specimens. Ever since a pastor introduced him to the Enneagram five years ago, his life as an a...
Jul 19, 2023•56 min
This episode is about taking the long view and building the capacity to break large challenges into bite size pieces in our minds. We build connection to our inner authority one day, one decision, one choice to support ourselves over believing the doubt at a time. Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in joining my Group Coaching for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! You can contact me HERE if yo...
Jul 12, 2023•36 min
Listen in as Kristin and Sam discuss the importance of personal practice and understanding our own automatic patterns as avenues to experience more regulation and connection with our true selves apart from personality. Samantha Taroni is the author of ‘Take it to the Trees’ and the founder of The Soul Shed ( www.thesoul-shed.co.uk ) - a project to support inner journeying that’s informed by the Enneagram teachings. She is dedicated to offering nourishing and re-sourcing creative practices rooted...
Jul 05, 2023•56 min
Listen in as Kristin shares her process around a recent big decision and Stephanie shares decision making framework for sixes. Lots of gems in this one around the ways we can take care of our minds and bodies as we work through decisions. Stephanie Spinelli is a life coach who uses Astrology, Human Design and her signature Higher Self Activation framework, to help people suffer less, make better decisions, and become more responsive and less reactive in their lives. You can find her on Instagram...
Jun 28, 2023•1 hr 4 min
In this episode, Kristin explores the complex relationship sixes have with their inner authority and subsequently outer authority. She also explores in detail how to get to know your specific relationship with the “red flag” sixy fear. This is an episode that can begin to unlock a lot of the “whys” in some of the things that we do and begin to be able to see them more clearly, so that we can move into more choice and less automatic unconscious behavior in these core sixy areas. Helpful Links: Si...
Jun 21, 2023•38 min
In this episode Kristin and Laura discuss leaning on strengths and breaking free from the personal development hamster wheel of doom. They discuss how control shows up in various domains and different ways to consider allowing for uncertainty as well as how to be on the journey with a sense of holding it all a little bit lighter. Laura Anthony is a lawyer who is fascinated by the intersection of law and human behavior. She is an education lawyer as well as a mediator, investigator and hearing of...
Jun 14, 2023•1 hr 8 min
In this episode we are going to explore the various ways that sixy self-inhibiting shows up, as well as the scariest thought that keeps our anti-selfing locked in place. We’ll also look at some strategies to start creating a new orientation we can lean on to help us begin to create some internal safety to shift this personality pattern. Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in joining my Group Coaching for Enneagram 6's, yo...
Jun 07, 2023•33 min
In this conversation, Kristin and Liora discuss the difficult realizations that can land on us when the things we think will finally bring us contentment…don’t. We discuss connection, community, and different ways that is helpful and challenging for us. We also discuss some ways to orient to ourselves in supportive ways that help us meet the world with more security and capacity for uncertainty on board. Dr. Liora Elias is a university professor, Enneagram coach & speaker based in Minneapoli...
May 31, 2023•1 hr 5 min
The Thinking Center Listen in as Kristin explores the importance of intentional relationship to thought. This is not an episode about CHANGING thoughts, but RELATING to them and using your thinking center for you, on purpose. As sixes, our thinking center is automatically wired to utilize doubt and cynicism to keep our tender parts “safe” and as adults we get to develop a new relationship with our thinking center. Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagr...
May 24, 2023•35 min
Sixes and Toxic Relationships In this episode Kristin and Misty discuss being in toxic relationships and some ideas around recovery after. Hopefully this episode shines a NON-shaming light on the experience of being in a toxic relationship and explores the idea of self-responsibility in a useful and self-supportive way. Sixes often get stuck using “responsibility” against themselves rather than for themselves. Misty Lynn is an Enneagram 6, Pacific Northwest native and a devoted mother to three b...
May 17, 2023•1 hr 20 min
In this episode we look at the origins of projection as a psychological theory and places to look for it in our lives, if we want to. We also explore what it looks like to psychologize less and humanize more. Enjoy! Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in joining my Group Coaching for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life ...
May 10, 2023•43 min
In this bonus part of my conversation with Nicole, we explore the complex waters of new motherhood and all the pitfalls therein. So much tenderness and truth telling in here. We hope you connect with the core idea that your experience makes sense. Nicole McCharen is a Somatic Coach specializing in the significant transition of adding a new baby to your life and family. She is a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC) and is currently training in Somatic Experiencing. She has a background i...
May 04, 2023•24 min
Listen in as Kristin and Nicole discuss becoming friends as adult 6's and all the internal stories and sixy things that can exist and how we manage them. They also get into exploring the experiential differences of having different gut fixes. Nicole McCharen is a Somatic Coach specializing in the significant transition of adding a new baby to your life and family. She is a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC) and is currently training in Somatic Experiencing. She has a background in soc...
May 03, 2023•58 min
In this episode Kristin and Mandy explore counter-phobic six-ness, and what it’s like to feel pulled and guided in a direction you don’t understand. They explore the concept of faith….the mysterious, personal, journey and the holy idea of point 6. Judge Mandy Hopkins Hays presides as Justice of the Peace, Precinct 3 in Wise County, Texas. She is also Mom to 3 young adult daughters. Enjoy! Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interest...
Apr 26, 2023•1 hr 5 min
In this episode I answer more of your questions around boundaries and focus on internal boundaries, setting boundaries without guilt, and how we can orient toward this work with self-support on board. Enjoy! Helpful Links! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in joining my Group Coaching for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching...
Apr 19, 2023•45 min
