What if you could step into the version of yourself who’s already healed, empowered, and thriving after divorce—right now? In this episode, Doreen and Jeff explore how to embody your future self today to navigate the emotional storm of separation with clarity, self-respect, and purpose. Whether you're in the middle of legal battles or quietly grieving the end of a chapter, this conversation will help you reconnect with your inner strength, rewrite your identity, and start making choices from a p...
Jun 30, 2025•37 min
The phrase "the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results" is widely used as a cautionary statement about ineffective habits. In this episode Doreen and Jeff explore how the phrase is often used metaphorically to highlight irrational persistence without meaningful change. Want to explore how this idea applies to decision-making and behavior? This episode is for you.
Jun 16, 2025•32 min
Considering divorce or coping with a spouse’s decision to end your marriage? This episode explores the complex emotional landscape and practical realities of divorce, unpacking both its potential benefits and challenges. We delve into how divorce can bring freedom, personal growth, and relief from unhealthy relationships, while also addressing common struggles like financial difficulties, emotional stress, and the impact on children. We discuss the pros of divorce such as gaining independence, e...
Jun 02, 2025•28 min
In this heartfelt episode, we dive into those overwhelming days when getting out of bed feels impossible—especially during the emotional storm of divorce. Hosts Doreen and Jeff explore the delicate balance between honoring your feelings and taking small steps forward. They share practical strategies like gentle movement, self-compassion, and mindful separation of facts from fears to help navigate the emotional weight that divorce brings. Jeff offers insights from his personal experience, highlig...
May 19, 2025•33 min
In this episode 182, Jeff and Doreen discuss a powerful tool that has been invaluable in everyone’s own life, exercise. It might seem like a simple solution to complex problems, but trust me, the benefits of regular physical activity during challenging times, including divorce, are profound and far-reaching. So, let's dive into why I call divorce and exercise "the perfect marriage".
May 06, 2025•28 min
In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss the Fresh Start Effect. It’s that Intrinsic power of starting over and fresh. There are moments that promote this like a birthday, the New year and even a divorce. This is why so many people experience this start fresh mind set throughout even other milestones and other times, like a new semester in school, a new sports season (elaborate on…) , a new job, the birth of a child, a wedding, or even a death. These are all times when something ends and somethin...
May 06, 2025•32 min
Divorce is often perceived as a culmination of failure, marked by heartache and loss. Yet, beneath the surface of this challenging experience lies a powerful journey of vulnerability and courage. Embracing vulnerability allows individuals to confront their deepest fears, express their emotions, and acknowledge their struggles. This raw openness can lead to profound personal growth and healing. At the same time, courage plays a crucial role in navigating the tumultuous waters of divorce. In this ...
Apr 07, 2025•33 min
Divorce can significantly impact children's well-being, affecting their emotional, social, and academic development. It is a difficult period for all family members, necessitating understanding and support to navigate the transition effectively. The effects vary depending on the child's age, temperament, and the support system available. In this episode Jeff and Doreen explore the issues with parents and their children after divorce. Book your free call with Jeff at: https://lad-coaching.com/sch...
Mar 10, 2025•32 min
In a divorce, the fate of the marital home can vary significantly depending on several factors, including state laws, the couple's financial circumstances, and the agreements made during the divorce process. In the episode Jeff and Doreen will talk about the ins and outs and the dos and don’ts of what happens to the family home during the divorce process.
Feb 24, 2025•30 min
In episode 177, Jeff and Doreen dive into the complexities of divorce proceedings, particularly highlighting the advantages of settling a divorce case prior to going to trial. They emphasize that while emotions can run high during this process, finding common ground and reaching an agreement can lead to a more favorable outcome for both parties.
Feb 10, 2025•36 min
Jeff and Doreen discuss “Learning to let go of the things that don’t matter”, being inspired by Mark Manson’s incredible book, *The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F***. Divorce can leave you carrying a heavy load—expectations, regrets, and societal judgments—but today, we’re going to explore how to choose where to invest your energy and focus on what truly brings value to your life. Book your free call with Jeff at: https://lad-coaching.com/schedule-appointment/...
Jan 27, 2025•23 min
In this episode Jeff and Doreen wishes you the best New Year ever and talk about new starts and the opportunities we have with a brand-new year ahead of us. The reality is, we can choose to have a new start whenever we want, not just at the beginning of the year. We have more control over our lives than we often realize. Book your free call with Jeff at: https://lad-coaching.com/schedule-appointment/
Jan 13, 2025•36 min
Divorce can feel like an emotional battlefield, but the key to surviving and thriving through it is understanding that not every fight is worth your energy. During this episode, we will dive into why and how you can make smarter decisions on what to fight or not fight over during one of the most challenging transitions in your life. Book your free call with Jeff at: https://lad-coaching.com/schedule-appointment/...
Dec 30, 2024•33 min
The holidays are here once again and if you’re not feeling the warm and fuzzies we understand. The holidays can bring up some memories that can be both good and bad. TV commercials, social media or just people in general are telling you to be thankful, merry and joyful. Easier said than done! In episode 173 Jeff and Doreen discuss some tips to help you make it through the holidays. Book your free call with Jeff at: https://lad-coaching.com/schedule-appointment/
Dec 16, 2024•33 min
Remember the fairy tales we read as children? Snow White? Cinderella? Beauty and the Beast? Each ended with one version or another of “…and they lived happily ever after.” In this episode, Jeff and Doreen discuss how the idea of "They lived happily ever after" is not possible because life is 50/50. Imperfect and full of trials and disappointments. This story book phrase is a romantic illusion that can lead to disappointment when people expect life to be perfect. Book your free call with Jeff at:...
Dec 02, 2024•30 min
Can a Marriage Survive Adultery? Yes, many marriages do survive infidelity. For thousands of couples, working through the pain and betrayal, learning to forgive, and establishing firm boundaries to prevent future issues have all helped them to rebuild their relationships. With commitment, a renewed focus on growth, and the actions that make love deepen, some marriages even become stronger than they were before. It’s essential to recognize that it’s not the affair itself that strengthens the bond...
Nov 18, 2024•40 min
During a divorce, you’re surrounded by a sea of information—but not all sources are equally reliable. With just a few taps on your phone, you can access an entire library of legal documents, guides, and more. Alongside what’s online, you’ll likely receive advice from friends, family, and acquaintances, many of whom may have their own experiences to share (or at least think they do). In this whirlwind of input, it can be challenging to separate helpful guidance from misguided advice. Should you t...
Nov 04, 2024•36 min
One of the lessons that we have teach often is how to recognize the 50-50 good/bad of the world. And a big part of that is learning how to accept pain and to develop the capacity to feel. In the episode Doreen and Jeff discuss the benefits of excepting your feelings and working through the emotions you will experience in marriage, during divorce and after divorce. Book your free call with Jeff at: https://lad-coaching.com/schedule-appointment/...
Oct 28, 2024•27 min
Running away from emotions and the feelings you’re experiencing before, during and after divorce is often a coping mechanism that can make your problems harder to deal with in the long run. In this episode Doreen and Jeff talk about getting unstuck during your marriage, divorce and afterwards. They discuss that getting unstuck doesn’t mean that you will suddenly going to have clarity about what the rest of your journey will look like, however, baby steps will be the catalyst to get started. Ofte...
Oct 21, 2024•35 min
In this episode Doreen and Jeff give you more clarity on when it’s time to divorce. If you are in any stage of confusion, this episode is a must listen to. They discuss the warning signs that just might give you the ah ha you need to make the correct discussion in your best interest. Book your free call with Jeff at: https://lad-coaching.com/schedule-appointment/
Oct 14, 2024•39 min
In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss different ways to speed up the divorce process. They will give up ways to speed up the process and will not only save you time, but it may also save you money, emotion, and stress. The less confrontational the divorce, generally, the less time it will take. Book your free call with Jeff at: https://lad-coaching.com/schedule-appointment/
Oct 07, 2024•46 min
We are talking about the big things, little things. We are talking about daily things, talking about hourly things, and lifelong things. Today in episode 165, we are talking about honoring your own wants. We think it’s impossible to live the fullest expression of yourself if you don’t honor your own wants. There are a lot of people either accepting, “I don’t know” and not caring enough about what they want, or denying what they want for what someone else wants for them. Let’s discuss your wants....
Sep 30, 2024•28 min
Regret is typically not a very useful emotion. It has us worrying and stressed. It’s usually over something that’s happened or been done. It’s like a missed opportunity or a failed event is kind of how I think about it. And the feeling is this intense disappointment over having made the “wrong” decision. In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss how regret will not serve your wants or your goals. Book your free call with Jeff at: https://lad-coaching.com/schedule-appointment/...
Sep 23, 2024•24 min
In this exciting episode you’ll find out how Doreen Yaffa, a high power Board Certified Family Attorney of almost 30 years and her husband, 4th degree Black Belt, Sensei Jeff Wilson both became Life Coaches and started their business Life After Divorce Coaching in Boca Raton, Florida. This episode will also appear for the first time on YouTube. So, hear or see them explain their motivation and love for helping others before, during and after divorce.
Sep 16, 2024•36 min
About half of all American children will experience their parents’ divorce. While divorce is often stressful for families, a great deal of the stress gets thrusted onto the children trying to adjust to their new life. One important factor linked with child outcomes after divorce is the quality of the divorced couple’s co-parenting relationship. In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss some of the do’s and don’ts of coparenting and how to your children’s best interest first.
Sep 09, 2024•31 min
In this episode, Doreen and Jeff dive into the impact of relying on hope and luck, and how these attitudes can actually hinder your future results. They explore the common mindset of saying "someday if I’m lucky enough" or "I hope so," and explain why these thoughts can keep you stuck in place rather than moving forward. Learn how to shift your mindset from wishful thinking to setting powerful, intentional goals. Doreen and Jeff share strategies for making a commitment to your goals and taking m...
Sep 02, 2024•32 min
In this episode, Jeff and Doreen explore the transformative effects of slowing down your mind. During the divorce process taking the time to calm our mind and body allows us to think more rationally and make better decisions. Deep breathing serves as a powerful tool to achieve this state of calmness, allowing us to think clearly and make choices that align with our wants. By combining a calm, rational mind with intentional deep breathing, you not only enhance your decision-making abilities but a...
Aug 26, 2024•36 min
People are often taught to see the world in black and white, categorizing things as either good or bad. There are good guys and bad guys, and the goal is to eliminate the bad so that only the good remains. However, this binary thinking can lead to unrealistic expectations and an intolerance for anything less than perfection from yourself or others, ultimately making you miserable. In this episode, Jeff and Doreen discuss the pitfalls of perfectionism and how it can negatively impact your relatio...
Aug 19, 2024•23 min
In this episode, Jeff and Doreen explore how a cost-benefit analysis, commonly used in business, can be a powerful tool during a divorce. This method involves evaluating the worth of a relationship or action by subtracting the costs (such as time, money, and effort) from the benefits (such as friendship, companionship, and social support). This analysis can help you strategically approach the divorce process. By conducting a thorough cost-benefit analysis, you can gain clarity on your priorities...
Aug 12, 2024•33 min
Fitness and exercise have many benefits to your life after divorce. Join us as Doreen and Jeff discuss the many ways you can benefit both mentally and physically from exercise.
Aug 05, 2024•19 min
