Life Goals | How to Set and Achieve Them

all right let's do this i decided to go informal today wear the prime shirt it's been a long day I think I mentioned before I'm working extra hours trying to quit, which is frankly kind of perverted. For those of you who don't know, I'm leaving Amazon effective September 9th. i've said that before on channel but it turns out it's harder than i thought it's emotionally harder but it's also more damn work

Well, there used to be a lot more of me around and we'll talk about that because we're going to talk about the main topic today is going to be lifelong goals. And here's the story. The story is 10 years ago. I had some free time one day and I wrote out a set of goals I wanted to meet sometime in my lifetime. And then I was super busy at Amazon and I had a new job and they kind of sat on my hard drive for 10 years.

Well, now that I'm leaving Amazon, I'm cleaning out my hard drive. And I went and looked for this file because I knew it was there. So the thing you have to realize is I basically haven't looked at this file in 10 years. The interesting question is, how much of these things I set as goals in 2010 do I still care about today? And how many of them did I get done?

Because I have some life left, so I can get to some of the others. So, let's see. Wow, I'm going to have to update this message. Ethan Evans is... It's not yet, but it's going to have to say is formerly vice president of Twitch Prime, which now needs to say Prime Gaming. So I have some updating to do on that message, but I'll get to it. Yes, that's right. NVA Hitch, I have to make sure I've stored off all the files that I might want to one day use to keep myself alive when the coup comes.

So I need all of those stored. Wow. Yeah, thanks for all the subs tonight, folks. It's really nice. I appreciate them very much. And the hype train started awesome Okay This new interface is pretty interesting. These automated thank you messages. Will you still be involved, such as going to TwitchCon? God, I hope so. I wanted so badly to meet some of you in Amsterdam, and I wanted to go to TwitchCon this fall, so yes.

when there is twitchcon again i will go also when there is um the game developers conference i will probably go okay but let me jump into what i want to talk about first because I was sitting around today trying to think of what I wanted to talk about and I realized I was sitting through a meeting bored to death and just I found myself over like late lunch I was walking with my wife and

i was thinking god i just want this day to be over and then i thought how sad that was because i know all of us do it like let's be honest oh we're buffering that sucks what's up with that Too many kids on Somebody killing my bandwidth Anyway, hopefully you caught that if not we're back live look um All of us have sat around at one point or another and just wished for the class, the meeting, the quarter, the day, the whatever it is we wanted to be over to be over. We were all just.

We've all done this. And I thought, how sad is this? Because that's actually part of your life. It's part of your life that you're wishing away. And I... I found myself today wishing for part of the day to just be over, and I realized that sucks. Like, you only have, yeah, NBA Hitch, you are right, okay? You called it. I'm sure plenty of you are just like, oh, I can't wait for this year to be over.

And yet what a terrible thing to be sitting around waiting for your life to end. I mean, that's not what you're doing, but you're kind of waiting for part of your life to be over. So point advice. this will happen to all of us sometimes but if you find yourself too often wishing for time to just go by so that you can be later in life um you need to change something Change what you're studying. Change your attitude. Change your job. But life is too short.

If you have any flexibility at all, I mean, I understand some of you may be trapped in economic situations or whatever short term, but use the magic loop and get out. from under it sean123 yeah i understand that anybody who's a parent understands waiting for their two-year-old to go to bed and that's tough um uh Sean has three kids.

Which is normally the number it takes to figure out what causes it So we'll see if if he and his wife go for a fourth or if they've got a they've got a beeline now on the cause and they can avoid it so Anyway, my thought for you was... it sucks to be sitting if you find yourself in a situation wishing for your life to pass faster because you're trapped and it's hell think real hard about how to change that um so

Gary Vee would always say, if you're working for the weekend, you're doing it wrong. Yes. I've enjoyed most of my work. I've been fortunate enough to do that. And that is completely true. You don't want to be... Just working to survive Hello t weirdo. Good to see you I probably surprised you with a stream tonight because I was supposed to do it tomorrow But I'm doing my farewell with twitch staff tomorrow for my job there

And so tomorrow when I'm supposed to be on with you, I'll be on there. She broke her arm last week and there is no way number four is happening. Wow. well surprise streams are good so anyway i've made my point if you find yourself trapped consider getting out okay now second thing i'll need to stand up for this get out of my easy chair it's rant time

is i've had only a little bit of the big drink full of sean's whiskey and what do i want to talk about here so we all suck at some stuff and the key to having a good career is being good at realizing what are you bad at owning it and being able to take feedback on it and then focus on your strengths I had an incident this week, I'm not going to name names, where I had a member of my team just be totally tone deaf to feedback.

again i don't want to pick on any particular person at work because that's not the point but we're all terrible at a long list of things just like we all have some talents be humble about realizing like this person came out and made a really arrogant statement um and it just totally undermined his credibility at everything else because and then when i try to give him feedback like hey

you know you kind of stepped in it there he couldn't hear it um and he just kept doubling down on defending it um here's my point we all suck at lots of things uh i have a long list of things i'm not good at i'm Not that good of a listener. I'm not that good at, I've kind of lost my box of periods. It's why I stream, because I talk a lot.

You know, I'm not very agile or dexterous. I'm big and strong and powerful, but like you want quick and finesse. That's not me. You know, it's when I play hockey. I play defense because to be a forward, to be like the scoring guy, the Wayne Gretzky type, you need moves, hands and a shot. And I have none of those. So knowing what you're bad at.

is worth knowing because then you can go focus on what you're good at and when somebody says well you kind of suck at this you can say yeah i'm really sorry about that i work with this other person who handles it for me as opposed to saying what do you mean yes i do play ice hockey

um i also sometimes play hooky um and i am somewhat hokey so your typo covers them all um no deeks for me then no uh no i did once punch someone in a ronald mcdonald charity tournament in front of the net that is not the same as a deke that was my low light yeah he does have a mean left hook yeah The low light of my hockey career was decking a guy in front of the net in a charity tournament. I definitely had to go like they say you go to the box and you feel bad. I felt bad for a very long time.

so yeah at least i got all of it though if you're gonna get your two minutes get it all and and man i laid him out right in front of the net so yeah They wanted to eject me from the game, which probably, you know, it's a charity tournament. I wouldn't have objected, so to speak. I would have ejected. And yes. The good old joke, I went to a fight and a hockey game broke out. So anyway, finishing this rant to get to the point.

don't be shy about what you suck at we can't all be good at everything like i've had a good career and i'm bad at many things i'm bad at being sensitive to people's feelings a lot of the time um I'm bad at attention to detail, which is something Amazon is famous for, what they call dive deep. my eyes cross when i see big spreadsheets of numbers which awesome not awesome jossom but awesome p he's probably like spreadsheets of numbers oh my god yummy and

You know, I'm like, my eyes are rolling in different directions and I haven't even had the drink yet. So just know what you're not good at. Why did I hit him? He was up in my grill. that team was irritating me i felt put upon and i reacted in self-defense that's my story and i'm sticking to it i miss so much of the rant Look, the key is humility. If you get feedback, and I've said this before, say thank you and consider it.

And if a bunch of people tell you you're not very good at something or if people are really earnestly trying to help you see a problem, see it and start figuring out how you're going to compensate for it, not figuring out how you're going to convince them they're wrong. So, yeah, he was up in my grill. That's right. I mean, that's kind of a forward's job in front of the net, so he was kind of doing his job.

but i was kind of doing my job which was to lay them out so we kind of both did our job is the way i see it and i do think we won that game i will also say it was a charity game so i was playing with other people from amazon and uh one of the senior vice presidents uh was from boston he's quite a good hockey player he was a lot smarter than me he was good at i can't show this i gotta like get tall

punching people while using his body to shield it from the ref so he he was a lot better at that move whereas i kind of went this way and it's very visible so i need to get better at the in here so i learned from my leaders you can do that how do you give criticism without criticizing and stirring up resentment good question red jacket um And by the way, the QA widget's open. If you want to submit in the extension questions for later, I'm happy to take them. And other people can vote.

The way you do it is you ask for permission. You say, could I give you some feedback or would you mind if I made an observation or could I offer a perspective? That's generally how you do it. because very few people will look you right in the face and say no i don't want to hear anything you have to say and then once they mentally say sure i'd love to know your perspective then you can say my perspective is you're a hairy ape who stinks paraphrasing um

And they kind of have to take it. But the other thing is you're trying to be helpful. The human animal is incredibly good at sensing intent and knowing whether you're intending to eat them or carve them up for dinner or if you're trying to help.

so if what you're calling criticism and you don't want defensiveness if you're truly trying to help someone your tone of voice and your body language will convey that you're helping and if you really just want to bag on them you can't do that without getting defensiveness So, and I see people here talking in chat. NBA Hitch, who's pretty sly and is a good commentator, says it's a lot of hurt ego, right? It's very hard for people to separate their ego. And that's what I'm telling you to do here.

get good at keeping your ego in check and trying to listen to the feedback not feel it you can go feel it later on your own time but in the moment try to listen try to just say well i'll i'll process my feelings about this later all right old man burger he sinks he doesn't stink he sinks all right so let's get on to the main fun Let me show you this. It'll be good fun, hopefully. I've got to make sure I have the right file up. Is there anything in here? Yeah, so this should be fun.

I wrote these goals in 2010, like I said, and I lost this file. Like I filed it away on my hard drive, never saw it again. So I will bring it up and show it off. And I resorted it. to list all the goals I completed first and then I'll talk about the ones I haven't. So we're going to talk about long-term goals but I thought you'd find this fun to see because I wrote this in 2010 and I scored it yesterday.

So over the weekend, I found this file and I went and scored it. So I had these life goals. Climb Mount Rainier or some similar. technical snow mountain i climbed ranier and a bunch of other peaks in washington state that would qualify for this so i did that i helped found a coffee plantation in uganda in about 2000 i went there to um the idea was uganda is right next to kenya so everybody knows about kenyan coffee nobody knows about ugandan coffee why is that uganda had a dictator problem so

They had this guy called Idi Amin. Idi Amin killed people so fast and threw them in the Nile that the way... people outside the country knew Idi Amin was killing people, was the crocodiles in the Nile couldn't eat all the bodies until they floated downstream into the next country. So he was killing people pretty fast, and he wiped out their coffee industry.

so we went back to try and help restart it and then i wanted to go back and see how it had done and visit my friends there so i did that and i actually took my daughter with me which is one of the many ways in which i met the next goal so um my nine um have at least one major adventure with each child um uh yeah i took my nine-year-old daughter

uh or i took my daughter when she was nine to india as well as when she was 11 and then to uganda when she was 12 and so a lot of people wouldn't travel to those places with a young kid but she had a blast and so did i um when i got to this one get a patent on an invention i had to laugh because in 2010 i had zero patents um and in 2020 i have more than 60 so i kind of feel like i was very

I don't know. I kind of undershot on this one. It's the one I crushed the most. And when we get to the end of the ones I've met, I'll talk for a minute about why I think these goals are kind of fun. I wanted to speak to an audience of 1,000 or more. TwitchCon a couple years ago was 1,500 in the auditorium and 70,000 online, so I met that. Some of you know, many of you don't.

uh i grew up very uh very heavy and um i weighed 272 pounds i'm six foot two and so i was technically obese i was not yet morbidly obese but i'm now under 200 pounds and i've been there before and i've maintained it for 12 months So there's a lot less of me to go around, about 80 pounds less. I did become involved in practical help for the homeless. I'm not very good, by the way. Let me define that.

I'm not very good at working with homeless people myself. So I realized the best thing I could do is support others who are. So I mostly give money because. That's what I'm good at when it comes to homeless. The thing I do personally is here. I realize my best contribution to paying things forward is helping you. I wanted to do this hike in Switzerland.

that i had done as a younger man that was the most beautiful hike i've ever taken it's um in the louder brunnen valley and so i went back and did that hike The YouTube videos that come off this channel, I hope are the advice for my kids. So I hope some of them choose when they're older to watch these or listen to them. But I feel like I met that because I don't.

Writing isn't as much fun as streaming. So this is my video journal. I've been to Ireland. I managed to go to India for work five times. For any of you who are Indian or in India or know about India, I got to go to Diwali in Mumbai. And I did a bunch of other fun stuff. I've ridden an elephant. yeah i've been a few interesting places in india all in south india though i need to come back and do the north we have a big dog or a medium-sized dog again twitch and youtube is my advice book or blog

And I'll foreshadow, I never got to where I was content if none of these ever happened. This was the first thing on the list before I sorted it. Be content even if nothing on this list ever happens. I didn't get there yet. All right. So let me come back and talk about goals and why I think they matter. So I wrote these goals 10 years ago and I, you know, what's interesting and you'll see when I go to the goals.

that uh yeah well good i see this comment i'm going to interrupt myself somebody said i just came to your stream for the first time and holy smokes watching just five minutes of your stream makes me want to go out there and do what i want to do

fantastic that's exactly and you can it may take some time um and yes welcome to the stream it may take some time to go check off some of your goals the interesting thing though is there were about 40 goals on this list so i met 13 of them i have about 27 left to go As you'll see, I'm going to cancel a couple of them. There's a couple of them I don't care to complete anymore. But the first interesting thing is 10 years after I wrote these goals, I'm probably going to cancel two of them.

So the goals are 95% accurate 10 years later. Like you don't change that much, particularly when you're a little bit older like I am, or even like I was 10 years ago, I was only 40, which I know only 40 for some of you sounds like, oh my God, 40. But to me now as 50, it's only 40.

It's all perspective. We'll get to that, Sean123. We'll get to the goals that are left and which ones I'm eager for. We'll do that in a minute. The first thing, though... have long-term goals spend some time thinking about what do you want to do with your life and what do you want to set out to do you'll notice by the way if i flip back to this list almost all these goals are fun

Now, a few of them have to do with like raising children or physical health or charity. So they're not all play, but a lot of them. were things I wanted to do for fun. So this was a fun exercise. This wasn't some like deeply thought out guided by a spiritual guru and an expensive coach. This was just me writing down like, hey, how do I want to spend my life?

You know, I'm at Amazon. What do I want to do? Where do I want to go? And it's so much fun to have these. Well, so I set these as life goals. Someone, Opal in chat says, what's long term? I have a friend who does this. He revises his goals every 10 years. And that's when I found these. I realized I should update them and talk to you all about them. Long term is what you decide when you're younger. I don't know how old you are.

When you're younger, two or five years is very long term because it's hard to imagine your life more than two or five years in the future. When you're a little older, 10 years is long term, five to 10 years. And then now as a 50 year old, I absolutely think about I only have so much life left. I don't want to be morbid about it. But let's say I have a normal life expectancy in the 80s.

How am I going to use the rest of that time? So I'm now thinking about goals that cover the next 20, 30 years. What is important to me to get done in case, you know, tragedy strikes or poor health strikes? So I'm going to see what Ricky Rye has to say here. Yeah, so.

the exercise he's talking about where you write your obituary or you write your um epitaph so what would go on your tombstone is a pretty good exercise at least to think about it again you don't have to be morbid but back when i was in college i actually wrote my epitaph so exactly the

exercise he's talking about and in my case what i wrote was um he stood by his friends because loyalty is very very important to me and so i my sort of watchword or what i said would be on my tombstone is he stood by his friends

And I think I've done that. I think I have lots of good friends and a number of them are here in this channel or know me. And there's some people I've just started to get to know. But I think the people I've made friends with would say I invest in them and I stand by them. So, so far that one's on track. Yeah, Theon, make a bucket list because you can update it. This was something of a bucket list before that movie came out and the term was popular. So...

My point is, either you can go through life undirected and random, which works for some people, or you can have some goals.

and i chose to set some goals so let's look at the ones i didn't i have not yet completed i'll bring the list back up and let's talk about the ones i haven't done and what i think about them whoops that's not the right thing here we go so um my daughter is adopted from china many of you know that and so 10 years ago she was seven and i thought well i should finish learning or i should start i should learn a little bit of chinese so i can share it with her

she's 17 and doesn't uh seem to be that interested in her chinese heritage and i have limited time and chinese is comparatively hard if liger were here he'd tell me no um you can learn it but That's probably one of the two goals I would cancel now. I speak a little bit of German. I speak a little bit of Spanish. So I want to improve those. I am Christian.

So someday I may go on a long-term mission. I would love to spend a year living abroad. And my wife and I aspire to that. We also like to sail. So sailing in the Caribbean is really easy. I think we'll get that one done. Sailing across an ocean is comparatively hard and dangerous. so i'm not sure i'll do that so somebody nva hitch comments go on the go on a cruise so let me tell you why i put that on there

I actually don't care that much for cruise ships. It was more like be not uptight enough and not hyperactive enough to sit still on a boat for a week and enjoy the pool and the cocktails. It had less to do with like enjoying the cruise life than the fact I'm a little bit overstimulated. And yes, I am talking about actually sailing a yacht.

uh there are different types of cruises by the way big cruise ships duke i kind of agree with you could suck um i did a cruise as a kid on a 100 passenger boat from seattle to alaska and that was pretty cool uh hike to base camp someone asked me base camp what uh base camp of everest i think it would be fun i don't aspire to climb everest um i can rant on that if you'd like uh

But I would love to do the hike to base camp. Danny, we can definitely go sailing. My wife, 40 Pink Dragons, and I, we're in a sailing club. We have access to boats. I think you do too. So we can connect and go sailing when you're ready. So why would I not climb Everest? They've ruined it. The Sherpas now control the main route up Everest. They fix lines, which means they nail in ropes every climbing season from base camp all the way to the summit.

And when you go to climb the mountain, they clip you into the rope, and it's now basically a Disney ride where the Sherpas drag your arse up the mountain. from 17 000 feet to 29 000 feet take a ceremonial football a photograph and charge you 70 000 for the experience um Look, it still takes a lot of effort and conditioning and dedication, but that's not climbing a mountain. That's something else. It's a guided high-risk Disney ride.

um so that's why i would not climb everest it's the same reason i would not climb kilimanjaro uh it's just instead of sherpas it's the local tribes there you have to be guided And yes, it's $70,000 roughly to go to on an Everest summit trip, which, yeah. I don't generally like guided experiences because I like to do things myself. Now...

If you saw the pictures I shared a week or two ago, my wife and I do guided trips sometimes because sometimes it's a good way to learn. And if you have a private guide, it's not as oppressive. But yeah. I'm with you, Austin. Might as well just get a helicopter at that point. The only problem is helicopters have a service ceiling below 29,000 feet. But as soon as they invent one that can helicopter the top of Everest, you'll have people doing it.

I was on Everest. I paid $7,000 and got the ride. Yeah, it galls me. All right, let's do the rest of them. i will climb devil's tower my wife is into it she's a better climber than i am so we'll climb that because i struggle with weight i wanted to break my lust for chocolate i'm not going to cancel this goal but it seems tenuous i will ever achieve it what i can say is i've improved my taste for chocolate and now i'm pickier and eat less of it i just eat better

But I don't cheat on goals. We won't call that one done. And Sean asked me which of these goals I most want to do. I'll get through them and I'll answer that. Meanwhile, I hope all of you are coming up with the like. You can hate all of my goals, but you should come up with your own goals.

And I really think it's worth it to have some idea and some way to keep score and be inspired. This list, when I read it, when I found it after 10 years, I went back and read it. I'm like, oh, I want to do that. I want to do that. And I took it and I showed it to my wife and I'm like, we should do this and we should do that.

we're going to do this and we're going to do that and you can see just from my animation i was like energetic and happy and she's like yeah we should do that having goals is cool um i wanted to fly an ultralight this could become fly a plane i'd like to be a pilot I don't know if that'll happen. My parents are from the Great Depression, which tells you I'm old and they were really old. And so I got taught to like hoard money and it's a sickness.

I'm getting better here, but I spend only a tiny fraction of what I make. i put it all in the bank uh i bury gold in the woods no i don't at least not as far as you know and you'll never find my coordinates um but i'm broken this way and i know it so i'm trying to become more normal i can report cautious improvement this was the one that i'm not sure i'll meet but it would be cool i would love to see the earth from orbit

It's not a high priority, but if it becomes really easy, I would love to do that. Don't want chat to invest in the markets for me. No. Bury it into ETFs. Excuse me? Uh-oh. Yeah, chat is my investment. Unfortunately, I cannot say I've mastered the work family God self balance yet. I'm working on it. Maybe if I put a strike through. in the line that says work which by leaving amazon i might do i'll get better at this um i would love to climb the eiger uh this would be a dirty trick

The hardest climb in Europe is the north face of the Eiger. It is well beyond my capability. But it has other faces, and some of them aren't that hard. They're like difficult hikes with a little bit of climbing. the eiger is a mountain in switzerland um so you can google it if you google north face of the eiger you'll get a picture of a really big well i'll go do it pictures are fun and we have time Why not stand by? Because we're having fun here today

We're talking about the value of goals and we'll take questions on it in a minute. You guys need to be putting questions in about the value of long-term goals to make me explain this better. So go ask me hard questions while I type this in. I need hard questions. They make... Alright. Wow, I'd love to play this video. This guy's crazy. I don't know if it will play. Let's find out Yeah, I had to wait through an ad one minute one minute

So there was this crazy Swiss climber known. My God, I missed the skip ads button. Come on. Let me out of this. All right. So here we go. You probably won't have volume. I don't care. I'm just going to show it in my file display window. So that's the North Face of the Eiger. This guy, Uli Steck, is of course now dead. He was nicknamed the Swiss Machine, but that's the North Face, and you can see it's basically a bunch of pure rock. He held the speed record for climbing it.

And the first 13 climbers to attempt to climb this wall in the 30s died. Uli climbed it.

alone without ropes or anything else in like two hours 30 some minutes um and so uh yeah look at him go like he's just like chugging up it he was capable of climbing at a rate of over a thousand meters um he could climb at over a thousand meters an hour which just it's unbelievable um yeah so there he is like i mean he's just sprinting across this vertical wall uh and like i said the first 13 climbers who attempted to climb this all died and here he is just like oh i got this

so of course he then proceeded to die on Everest so on the Lhotse face so he was doing something like this and got caught in an eye yeah oh hell no that is so now you see why I don't intend to climb the north face um but just look at this dude uh yeah that's the 1938 route the first route people attempted yeah you know why this guy was called the swiss machine he came to seattle and i saw him talk um and he talked about the sherpa problems but like look at that no ropes um

you know crazy let's see i'll try and make this better for you all since we're watching more of it let me see if i if i full screen it what happens boom there you go dramatic yeah look he's like a speck I mean, my God. So anyway, I would like to climb to the top of this mountain by some other route so I could say without disambiguating, I have climbed the Eiger.

um it would totally be because i'd have gone up the backside which is like it's technical mountaineering but it's not harder than stuff i've already done um so by the way this is the second time he's doing it and the reason it's the second time he's doing it you saw the footprints all through it um he basically uh he went

and climbed it and then he had to do it again for the cameras because the first time he didn't want cameras so that he knew he could do it and he could concentrate on speed so that's enough of Uli uh crazy though eh so um we'll go back yeah i mean it's just nuts it's just nuts to do that okay So anyway, I would like to climb that I think it would be super fun to shell something with a real cannon

So you can tell I was having fun with some of these goals. I have not done that yet. I don't care if that's a howitzer or if that's like an old pirate cannon, but come on. You said first wrong. I don't know. If you climb like that, yeah. No, that guy was skinny. Oh, my God. He was a little dude, and he was ripped, of course. so i'm gonna retire we own an rv i think this one's in sight uh it is true i would like to do a bob ross painting i enjoy him

I'd like to live to help grandchildren get started in life. I don't have any yet, but my daughter says she wants some. I love Yellowstone and Yellowstone Lodge, so I would like to stay in a room in the old historic Yellowstone Lodge. That one's pretty easy to pull off. It'll probably get it done. I haven't yet been to Scotland. Scotland is not top on my list right now, but it's high. My daughter's name is Ty, and she's from the town of Tyjo, which is where her name comes from.

The funny thing here is I offered to take her there. We had a trip all set up and she didn't want to go. So I'm not sure how to count that goal, like done or not. So this one I kind of sort of... I don't know. I have to decide is 50 still young because I'm going to now take six months off at least. But I did take a three month leave of absence five years ago. And then the last one is, I don't know if any of you know what a portal edge is. It's basically like a flat platform.

that you camp on when you're mountain climbing and there's no flat spots you just have to hang it so like let's see it's another for sean it's another hell no cancel due to uncontrollable factors I like that Danny that's not bad portal edge images there we go let's switch over so you can see it So that's portal edge camping. Like there's somewhere in Yosemite Valley. They're hanging off gear placed into the wall and they're going to sleep that way tonight. So I've heard.

that if you do this it's very clarifying like if you if you spend the night because you have to strap yourself in right because rolling over would be uh would be a little bit bad um rolling over the wrong way so you have to wear your harness to be clipped in um i've heard it's very uh you know it's kind of like going on a vision quest or fasting or maybe

Devin Nash and his flair for edibles of different types. I've heard you have quite a mental experience. And yes, what do you mean sleep? Anyway. Yeah. So I'd like to do that. I'd like to do it to see if I could handle it. So, all right. So those are all my goals. So now I'll go see if you guys have asked good questions about them, but we can talk about long-term goals. They're fun and they can guide you. And here's the point by thinking through what do you want to do in your life?

it forces you to then be able to think okay so let's go back to this goal sheet real quick if i want to do that what's it going to take like what do i need to do in order to be able to do some of these things so like well Some of them don't take as much planning, like shell something with a cannon. Great. Find someone with a cannon and a target. This is possible. Climbing the Eiger requires getting in better shape and going to Switzerland.

flying a plane requires planning climbing devil's tower requires planning then there's the really long-term ones like do you care you know

Obviously, I already had children at the time I started thinking about grandchildren. And yes, a lot of these goals take a lot of money. But interestingly, if you've ever read, and I recommend this book all the time, if you've ever read... four hour work week let's talk about it most of these goals there's a couple of these goals that are freaking expensive but most of them aren't so like let's look at the ones i haven't done yet

Be content if nothing on this list ever happens. Okay, so like that's totally internal zero dollar cost There's free apps for this stuff So you can learn all these languages like either a little bit of money for something like Rosetta Stone or free If you wanted to go on a long-term mission, you could find a mission organization that would pay you, you know, or join the Peace Corps or whatever. You can do this kind of stuff. You won't make money, but you don't have to spend money.

Thea and LC, the mods will pop up my book list. I have a list of my favorite books, but you're new here, so you should go look at them. 4-Hour Workweek's good book. It's not... the most impactful in my life so spend a year living abroad well if i get a job there my first plan for this was to have amazon transfer me abroad again if i'm still working this one doesn't cost net money

um sail in the caribbean to rent a sailboat's about five grand a week so this one's five grand like legit five grand sail across an ocean okay now this is expensive unless you go as crew on someone else's boat so there are ways to do this cheap people who want to do transatlantic passages need crew and they may not pay you but again they'll take you along for free if you can stand them

um a cruise depends on how good but you can get a discount cruise for a thousand a nice one for three or four so that one's easy hike to base camp that's like a airplane ticket to katmandu and then some money so i don't know call it three grand um you just want to live in new york city again all right Cruises right now are pretty cheap. Wonder why. Yes, wear a mask. Kilimanjaro is going to be a little bit of money for sure.

Devil's Tower, it's about the skills and the gear. So say $1,000 of gear and then having the skill, maybe 500 bucks of travel. Stopping something is free. Learning to fly. Getting a private pilot's license is $10,000 to $15,000. So we'll forget what I'm going to fly.

um but if you just want to fly something one time like go co-pilot it while somebody else flies it you know so you're flying but not really a couple hundred bucks so i want to point out most of these are not they can be a lot of money but they don't have to be so i don't want everybody to think like oh hey thank you mr rolling and money guy

good goals for you but also remember i didn't have the money when i was your age assuming you're in your 20s i have more of it now um see this point right because i spent my life hoarding it so i saved it up and you know now i have it so go see the fire movement right um financial independence retire early see if you can do better than me

This one would be the expensive one. There's no cheap way to do this. It's definitely the most expensive goal on here This one's a self mastery goal. It's free this one five grand again fly to Switzerland hire a guide The Canon one, I bet you can pull this off for under $500 plus travel costs. I bet I could do it cheaper than that if I really worked on it. In fact, now I'm curious. Let's find out. Let's do this. always got to make sure um fire a real cannon

I'm trying to find out. All right, here we go. I haven't vetted this article. We're just going to make sure it's not got any porn. But here you go, right?

google in 10 seconds and here's someone offering like want to fire a civil war cannon here's how you can so you know i bet that i bet this isn't that hard and you know whatever let's see what they say it costs or something uh la la la the program will be held between 10 and 2 i guess it was probably only on some specific day the fee for the course is 10 bucks i mean come on you can go fire a real cannon for 10 bucks

Yeah, so I didn't figure it would be that hard. But the point is the four-hour workweek makes the point. Goals don't have to be crazy expensive. Okay, this one's a little more, but it's retirement, so you're trading in your house or whatever. This one's free. This one's the cost of a hotel room. travel to scotland's whatever you spend this one's travel to china the bob ross painting 50 bucks it might be a bad painting if you want it to be better like 250 um this one's six months of lost income

So depending on what you make, it's kind of expensive. And then this one's virtually free. It's travel plus the cost of one of those portal edges. So my point is most of the things here are free. Sean, one, two, three, are you still here? Oh, there you are. You can probably fire a cannon in Vegas. Check out Battlefield Vegas. You ask which of the things I haven't done I most want to do. I really want to live abroad.

I love America. I'm an American. I'm very proud to be an American. Maybe right now I'm not very proud of American conduct, but I would love to live in Europe, maybe some other places. So that one's very high on my list. This has been a dream since I was a kid and I first saw the thing. Prince Ricky Rye. Well, you know, that's possible to go hiking here. I've done that with people before. Depends on how fit are you the last set of people I took hiking were very nice, but they weren't up for it

They were all younger than me. There was one kid. There was one sorry. He's a young man There was young one young man who could hang he was fast I was giving up like 25 years to him I did not pick what I consider to be a hard hike awesome, but I definitely put some stress on some people. Anyway, so next time I'll be more clear.

be good at hiking reasonably good like if you don't hike regularly don't ask to go on a hike with me like if you're like oh the woods that's new i have tennis shoes probably not the right thing for you to do What else do I really want to do on this list? Live overseas, climb Devil's Tower. Scotland's pretty high on my list. Travel is so much a thing. What you guys haven't asked is, what do I want to add down here? I haven't started adding to it, but the thing I need to do with my wife is...

Start talking about what goes on lines 42 and following. So, you know, this one should clearly, because it's number 42, say experience life, the universe, and everything. So I'm not going to interactively build out the rest of the list, but my wife and I need to collaborate on what goes on lines 42 to 60. For example... She would have traveled to Greece on here if it was her, if it was a shared list. And I'm good with that. So.

She would add travel to Greece and I would add travel to New Zealand. And, you know, there's some other stuff we'd add. Soapbox wants to know if Jeff can help me get to space. Maybe. How do you set goals with your family best practices? You got to talk to them. This is a good topic, Ricky, and I'm going to go to the questions if anybody's asked questions in our extension.

you've asked a very good question i will go ahead and answer because i want to give a better answer i want to give a longer answer and people should vote there's a few questions there but they have very little vote very few votes and there's a lot of you here so go vote It's patriotic. It's required. Danana, thank you for popping up the question thing. So, Ricky, what people do too little of is talk.

to their spouses and family about sensitive issues and it's hard but um four hour work week has a quote in it it's not tim ferris it's tim ferris quoting someone else And the guy says, I can generally determine how successful someone will be by the number of hard conversations they're capable of having. If you want to set goals with your family, you have to go talk to them

and find out what's important to them so i've had lots of conversations with my wife about travel about one day living abroad about all kinds of stuff I've had lots of questions or lots of conversations, and some of them have been debates or arguments, things that were very important to her.

that mattered a lot to her that i was not as supportive of or things that were very important to me that she struggled with um people suck at actually just speaking their mind and you don't have to be rude you don't have to be confrontational um it's a little bit like the question was asked early in the broadcast where someone asked

how do i give feedback without making people mad and so if i want to talk to my wife i i ask her things like is this a good time for conversation is this a time i could ask you some questions And if she says no, I wait till later. But then we go and have a conversation. Oh, Prince Ricky, some of your comments there in chat will get me in trouble. As far as I know, by the way, having met him, Prince Ricky Rye is African-American or of African descent, but only he can then say that people of that.

ethnicity don't really hike we're trying to fix that by the way i'm on the board at the washington trails association and we're trying to diversify hiking so Items to add. Sean has suggestions. Antarctica, interested, not the top. Audrey, my wife, would add Patagonia. Shark diving, I've done.

So check that one off. Australia I've done. Check that one off. African safari I've done. Check that one off. So you're going to have to work harder. See, one of the things is I've done a lot of things that aren't on the list. I've just had that chance. But 40 Pink Dragons would add Patagonia for sure. I asked my company and I have a non-compete agreement. Ha, fun question. All right, so we have some questions here. I'm going to jump in on them.

Polynesia, Micronesia, Hephaestus, good question. The place I most want to go is Truck Lagoon. The US, the Japanese used it as a base in World War II. And it got the hell bombed out of it, which tends to happen in a war.

and at the bottom of this relatively shallow lagoon is covered with world war ii wrecks and now you can like dive and see the tanks still on the deck of old warships and stuff truck lagoon yeah so it's got tons of um yeah here check this out i'll switch to the display this is where i'd want to go there i like the scuba dive this is like uh all the different things

That you can go see, you know, all the sunken wrecks. And obviously there's like more to it. So this is all the things that got sunk in the harbor. I mean, look at all those like. Man, I so want to go do that. The different places where stuff got bombed crazy. So anyway, so I don't know. That just seems like completely fascinating. and diving in wrecks is really neat adding that to my list seventh fleet good good man all right so let me i promise to do some of the actual questions y'all voted on

And then I'll come back to stuff in chat. And I love suggestions. If you have things I think that you think, I have prayed at the Western Wall, Rich. I did that. I got sent to Israel on business and I had a Jewish colleague.

um who asked me to put a note in the western wall i don't know if rich you're jewish but there's this tradition that notes placed in cracks in the wall go directly to god and so she sent a um she sent a note with me for me to put in the wall so if you're not Jewish or you don't bring your yarmulke the little round hat they give you a paper one so there's a picture of me like holding it on my head because it's windy and trying to

put things in the wall but i had the chance to do that i've had a lot of good luck in my life so i did not visit the church of the holy sepulcher i visited a lot of other things around jerusalem um i went to the dome of the rock um i went to a bunch of other sites and i was very very lucky um so this is a story none of you have heard actually so i was with this guide

Because the company we were with hired us a guide to take us to Jerusalem for a day. And while we were in Jerusalem, he was translating the radio. And they were talking, it was like a talk show, just totally dishing on their then leader, Itzhak Rabin. And the talk show was just really down on the guy. And bottom line is... At the end of the show, or the day I was supposed to leave Israel, I got on my plane and left, and he was assassinated like an hour later. And so my boss...

They closed the airport like they closed the country because they weren't sure who had assassinated him. And she was trying to figure out the time zones to figure out if I had gotten out or not. So. I would have been trapped in Israel for at least a period of time after his assassination. So I was there. I mean, Israel has a lot of unsettled times, but I was there the day he was assassinated.

Anyway, question, should you establish plans for your goals or simply attempt to complete them as you sojourn through life? Both. sometimes it will be opportunistic obviously i didn't in this story i've told where i wrote this file of goals and then tucked them away um i was not planning through most of them uh but i think planning is good so

Some of them are long-term plans that I was working on either subconsciously or without referring back. But I would say a goal without any kind of plan is basically a hope or an aspiration. So I would say goals should have some kind of plan. The thing is you need to be flexible. Things will change. Some goals will get done for free. Like travel to India. I put that as a goal because I had a lot of friends from India.

And then I got a job where we opened an office in India and I got sent to India five times for work. So that goal got met for free. So that's cool. And then some of the others, like losing weight or maintaining my weight or saving money for retirement, were plans. So I think you can have a mix. So good question. With many speakers and books, next question, pointing towards achieving many short-term goals to be successful and happy, how are these different than setting long-term goals?

Short-term goals are mainly about getting stuff done. They're not telling you why. It's a difference. A short-term goal is generally not about a why. it's not about a big life question or a big achievement it's about something that needs to be done so it's take the dishes out why or sorry take the garbage out why it smells and gets picked up on tuesdays

Do the dishes. Why? Because they're dirty and they'll smell and we need to eat off of them tomorrow. Like it's much more. I'm obviously talking about really small short term goals there. But the point is, short-term goals are often more about stuff that needs to be done. They're not about places you're going or things that will give you meaning. Raise healthy, well-adjusted children. That's a long-term goal. Have financial independence. It's a long-term goal.

that can have short-term goals like live within a budget this week don't spend more than x dollars on entertainment uh you know break my gambling habit whatever it is you need to do but they're different in that the short-term goals are usually things you do in order to attain a long-term goal and if you don't have some idea what your long-term goals are then here's the important point

This is one of the golden points. This has been a fun show and I've rambled some. An important point is if you don't have long-term goals, the world will set them for you. In other words, somebody is managing your time in your life. Is it you or is it somebody else? Is society setting your goals and is Madison Avenue feeding them to you through advertising? Or are you thinking about your goals and are you, we all have limited agency in life.

you can decide how much self-determinism is available to you that's a philosophy question but to the degree that we each have some autonomy and choice Are you using it or are you letting someone else use it for you? Are you letting time, media, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, TikTok? decide what you think and what you do and how much. We all are to some degree. We're all influenced by media.

But how much are you fighting that influence and trying to think for yourself versus how much are you drifting through life doing what your friends, your significant other, your parents, et cetera, tell you? I speak to no one, oh, I mean everyone, particularly in chat. How much are you letting your friends and parents or social network dictate what you think is important versus deciding for yourself?

At least trying to. Trying to have just the tiniest modicum of independence from what other people think you should do. All right, that was my one, you know, we have a new tradition where I end up calling out chat. So I did. This was a huge drink. I can feel it. If you could be 20 again, how would you figure out this is the next question?

How would you figure out to make certain things short-term goals versus long-term goals, i.e. trying to get a job while applying for grad school as a backup, studying for the GRE GMAT, and trying to learn new skills for those companies you're applying to? all while trying to stay sane. That sounds crazy. So all of you will end up wishing you could be young again with the wisdom.

you've acquired over the years like I don't know anybody who's older who doesn't say oh I wish I could go back to be 20 but with all the wisdom I have now and do it again could you do it so much better In fact, the point of this show is to try to let you do that, to try to give you my 50-year-old wisdom so you can adapt some of it and not make all those mistakes I made or make fewer of them.

And Gunnar, I'm really glad that you feel you always leave the stream with something to think about. That's a high compliment. Thank you. And Fighting Pickles, same thing. I appreciate you. So figure out how to make certain things short-term goals versus long-term goals. So you can't do everything. You have to prioritize. This is like a question on prioritization because it lists grad school, job, GRE GMAT, new skills. You got to pick.

What I read in this question, and I think I may know the author, but you got to commit to something and put your heart into it. yes, you need a backup plan, but do you really want a job or do you really want to go to grad school? Well, whichever one you want to do, put 80, 90% of your effort into that and live with the fact that you may fail or struggle.

It turns out in America, it's very unlikely failing or struggling will kill you. It's very unlikely that you will really be set back i mean i say this all the time and some of you always gripe when i do in chat but let's go for it you're all english speaking english reading um Have a computer, have internet access. Most of you are in America. Most of you who aren't in America are in Western Europe. So you're in rich countries.

that have good social networks social support networks if you're not in the u.s where you have good opportunity or both yes you may struggle some But you're probably gonna end up being in the top 1%, top 5% of the world. Well, you're already in the top 1% of the world. You're gonna end up being in the top 1% or 5% of the economy.

So I know it doesn't seem that way right now when you may be eating ramen noodles and worrying about what's going to happen next. But the fact is, when you're an old geezer like me, you're going to be rolling in it like Crash Drops says. You're going to be golden. And so try not to over worry and pace yourself a little bit. And I'd rather you either get a really good job or you apply to a really good grad school.

By trying to do everything, you're going to do everything half-ass. Pick a couple things and try and do it really well would be my advice. All right, moving on. Next question. What are your goals for 2020 to 2030? Do you plan on taking more risks, assuming that you didn't take risks when you were young being physically conservative? Yes. One of my biggest regrets is that I took too few risks. I was too conservative.

I grew up with extremely conservative parents and I was too conservative. And so between 2020 and 2030, I will be more ambitious. And you can see that right now I'm quitting my job. When I told my sister I was quitting my job, the first thing she said was, oh, my God, what are you doing? You have a great stable job at a great company. Are you out of your mind? So my family will put in the not supportive bucket.

you know that was literally the first thing she had to say but i'm leaving because i'm ready to do something else and i've realized all that advice i just gave applies to me too like i'm in a great situation The odds that I won't be able to get by, maybe, for example, here, you'll say like, oh, well, you're a VP. You must be fine. Everything will be great. The economy could totally tank tomorrow.

Lots of people are unemployed. We have a big pandemic. We have an election coming. I won't get into the politics, but... we have two very different people they could lead in very different directions you could have war you could have trade war you could have socialism you could have all kinds of stuff

You have pandemic, might get sick. I can list all kinds of fears. Why on earth would you leave your job and your healthcare and whatever to go teach more and mentor more and try and meet some of your goals? I'm trying to be better at taking risk. This, again, I know I've quoted him a lot. Tim Ferriss in the 4-Hour Workweek.

He talks about the fact that we overestimate risks and most risks probably work out and most of them are recoverable. There are a few risks like, say, playing Russian roulette and losing. that don't have recovery paths but most risks are reversible so i leave my job at amazon i can probably get it back if i can't get it back i can certainly get a job in another company um i move abroad let's pick a country that i'm not planning on um tajikistan i move there i don't like it i can move out

I used to fear international travel a little bit. And then I realized basically from anywhere in the world with a credit card, you can be home having your McDonald's in 24 hours.

there are a few places where you might be taken hostage and it would be longer but yeah i'm i was way too risk averse and so i would say totally take risks uh yeah duke of thought i will totally bankroll your startup idea as long as you can do it on a budget of a dollar and a collection of gum wrappers i got you if it's more than that we'll have to take up a collection and chat we'll see i'll give you you know five percent of uh whatever they donate so

well i have the gum wrappers right here anyway i'll front you the gum wrappers and the dollar will come later so all right sweet so yes i hope to take a lot more risks check in with me in a few years look

If you follow me on any social media or here, I'm going to be posting more things I'm doing, partly as a way to inspire you and show you that we can do different things, and partly as a way... for you um uh for me to challenge myself to have interesting things to post so pages shipping all right um what else we got for questions if you could be a college grad again a fresh college grad what would you do differently when setting goals

Trying to figure out what you enjoy and don't enjoy. You can't get an internship, so you've graduated, so where should you go? This is a complicated question. I think the biggest mistake I made coming out of college... was i didn't immediately start studying what am i good at and not good at what do i like and not like i discovered it all experimentally i would have sought

career coaches and mentor i didn't have any idea of a mentor i was too arrogant to ask for a mentor i thought i knew everything and so i just started working and learned everything the hard way so Whether I'm your mentor or somebody else is, the fact that you're listening to advice makes you way better and smarter. than i was i just charged in and figured i knew everything and started telling people what to do and the people who didn't hate me listened to me and it kind of worked out so um yeah

So. I think I would go get some. The main thing I would do is I would seek more advice and be more humble and ask more questions. I was an arrogant son of a bitch, and I don't recommend that as an approach to life. you can be confident you should be but being closed like i was all the things look why do i lecture you all so hard why do i teach so much because i did every single thing you hear me talk about i probably did

I resisted feedback. I was mean to people. I was short with people. I didn't prioritize. Pretty much everything I've ever talked about on this channel is don't do. It's because I did it and burnt my hand on the stove. And then it's like, oh, the stove is hot. Maybe I should tell other people the stove is hot. Don't touch the stove. All right, we'll do a couple more questions and I'm going to wrap it up.

we have a good one here this is a tough one would you change your spending in your mid-20s knowing your income level now I struggle with financial hoarding as well, and I'm not sure how to find balance in my 20s. I lived with less distance between my income, you know. But the answer to this is probably yes. I'd probably spend a little more because I robbed myself of a lot of joy.

um by being so worried about money what i would really try and do is not spend more but be less stressed about what i was spending if i could magically lighten up that i'm type a and lightening up would have been worth more than spending more but I probably should have spent a little more at times. I've cheated myself out of some experiences. Here's an example. Many of you know I'm divorced and remarried. If you don't, now you do.

When I got married the first time, we got married in a winery and it was a great ceremony and we had rented out the winery for four hours for a party. So we had a private party at a winery. 55 people drank 33 bottles of wine. We did pretty well. I still remember those numbers to this day. But at the end of it, they came and offered us. Everybody was having a good time.

my wife had found out they said oh we can extend our rental on the fly um you know we can extend the rental do you want to have everybody stay another hour or two so these are our 55 closest friends at the time and i said no No, we're four hours. We're done. You know, we paid for some wine. It's like one hundred and seventy five dollars an hour. So, OK, there's a long time ago. Imagine it's like three hundred bucks an hour. Modern money. And I said no. And that was a huge mistake.

everybody was having a good time we had our friends and family together i should have used the 300 bucks um you know or 600 bucks because it was my damn wedding um but i was too cheap So I was pretty cheap. I used to say to my dad, who taught me a lot of this, that he could rub two pennies together.

well he could squeeze a penny hard enough to make lincoln scream and he could rub two pennies together and make a nickel um and that's how i thought and so i missed opportunities that i should not have Yeah, so Awesome has a good quote here. I don't know where it's from. He usually can cite his sources. Live without fear or you'll end up living with regret. Within reason, that's true.

um now if you live too much without fear you won't end up living or you'll end up living maimed and sad but generally he's right all right we're going to jump to the next question um which i'll probably have to do myself which is okay. Save that one off. Next question is, So soul searching will probably be a lifelong endeavor. You may get better at it and be more refined. In Iceberg Gaming, you're very welcome for the answer. I believe you should start soul-searching right now.

However old you are or young, you should start because you're going to want to know something. And you're going to want to know about yourself. The unexamined life is not worth living. So I would say. you should start but that doesn't mean don't get a job like you don't have to go off in the mountains and live poor as a guru or not work in order to soul search it can definitely be a nighttime activity

It can be a laying awake in your bed at night activity. It can be a early morning in the shower activity. You can soul search tons of time. The unexamined life is not worth living is not my quote. If you Google it, Hephaestus, you can find out who it is. But it's someone, alas, currently more famous than me.

yeah so clown face i would spin to my last penny to have more memories with my family so i did not understand that and i missed some of those opportunities and so i'm trying to do much better now And that's why our good friend T weirdo is over at our house a lot because we try and surround ourselves now with friends and friends and family. And I learned that too late.

I did not grow up with a closed family. I grew up with a family that fought like cats and dogs. If you have a closed family, treasure it and suck it up and own it. Get all you can out of it. If you have a distant family that fights like cats and dogs, go make your own family with friends and have some people who care about you. But either way, surround yourself with people who care about you because money won't hold you. and keep you warm at night, and money won't be there by your deathbed.

But family and friends will. And so, yes, that's like very, you know, now we're deep and we're no longer career coaching. We're life coaching. But money won't hold you and keep you warm. So you need people who will. You need mixologists who will make you giant drinks that are now gone. Switching to water. I swear it's water. No, really. It's another big cup. Who knows? All right. So that's how I'd go about it.

um if so how would you go about approaching the construct of soul searching get a coach get an older person go go talk to older people about what's important to them or how they figured it out read a book there's a million books about finding yourself A million books about how to know what's important or how to find meaning. There's lots of ways to do this. This is not hard. It's a matter of being willing to spend the time and look into yourself and ask the questions. And it's fun.

I love it. A few of you will hate it. I love it. All right, I want to answer this next question, and then we may speedrun the last few.

define your view on what is the difference between arrogance and confidence sure arrogance is being certain that you know what you're talking about because you're you and you're so goddamn smart confidence is having proof of your past abilities and saying I know I've done this before and so I know I have a certain level of competence and ability until proven otherwise.

But I am open. In fact, I enjoy learning new things. So arrogance is about how great you are and therefore you're right. Confidence is about, look, this is what I've done. And unless... You have a better idea or we have time to explore alternatives. Here's what I propose and here's what I put forward. Arrogance.

comes at things from how great you are confidence comes at things from i have done this and i would love to be shown better but if you can't show me better i know this will work so sure it's a bit of a nuance and you can always you can always look no arrogant person ever says oh i'm actually arrogant they always say oh i'm just confident i know

But there is a difference. Confident people don't. They want to learn better. They're open to the idea that there could be a better way. Arrogant people are not. That's probably the crystallizing it.

arrogant people can't hear that there might be a better way because it threatens who they are because they must be the best they are the best of course i'm the best how could you not think i'm the best oh my god i can't even be around you you disgust me go away worm that's that's the internal thought and no crash drop you're clearly not the best you don't even rate but you're a nice guy so anyhow um

all right let's see uh of the completed goals which are you the proudest of this sounds like a sean question i'll have to go back and let's look at proud of let's go back and look at the list it'll be fun we'll do this real quick I gotta go scroll that list because that's on the ones I haven't done. Which am I most proud of? Rainier, Uganda, Major Invention.

major adventure patents audience so keeping weight off i've kept off 70 plus pounds for 25 years statistically that's very unlikely like fewer than 10 percent of people who leave that lose that kind of weight keep it off for life so i did um yeah so the competitors for top here Doing something really cool with my kids is probably number one. Keeping the weight off is probably number two. Patents is number three. The rest of them, I'm super glad I did them, but I wouldn't say I'm proud of them.

I mean, I don't know. I might be skipping one, but family, right? So doing something cool with family, doing something to help others. taking care of myself, and having the chance to invent things. Those matter. Places I've been, the rest of these were fun. Hiking was fun. Going to Ireland was fun. Going to India was fun. Yeah.

i don't know and then if we look at the stuff down here i think the person asked like um which you most wish you had accomplished i talked about these but which do i care about the most like the most meaning Finding internal peace and harmony, which is this one. It's related to this one.

Some of these goals overlap, by the way. If I were writing these goals now because I know more, I would be more careful to try and make them distinct. Like 29 and 31 overlap, and they have to do with internal peace and harmony. uh but which of these would i be let's say i could do any of these and be telling you i've done it which would be most would i be most proud of um helping grandkids get started in life again people goals

I would add more people goals. Like if I were writing these goals and adding to them now, spend lots of time with friends and family. Get out. And here's a goal for all of you. Invest in others to improve their lives. So if 10 years from now, I can write 10,000 lives improved, I will feel really good about that. And I think it's possible.

Right now, I'm not helping a thousand people a year. I'm helping more like a hundred, like really change their lives. But I see your stories in our Discord server about how I've changed their lives or how the advice of this channel and the community is. help people get jobs, help people get internships, help people get to grad school, help people get raises. That's incredible, and I wouldn't want to give that up. So if I can do that, that would be well worth it.

So, yeah, that would be completely worth it. So there you go. There's a goal for all of you. And now I got sad. Alcohol sometimes makes me weepy and I love you, man. So I love you, man. I want to help you all. Hopefully I've done some of that tonight. Okay, so we answered that question. We'll go back to one camera. Oh, that's sweet. Woodcrest Mafia. Big sub from Woodcrest Mafia. Thank you so much. That was an incredibly kind gesture for you from you. So thank you.

That's awesome. So I don't know if I've met you before, but welcome to the community and thank you for being here. And now... The new interface says, I can also thank you for the emote, which really, the emote, not such a big deal. But you being here is awesome, so thanks. And I appreciate the support. All right, what else we got?

How do I know when to search for a partner? Oh, my God. Wrong channel. Wrong channel. You know, I'm always talking with my wife, 40 Pink Dragons, about having her on the show. because she would be better at answering some of these questions. And she always says quite truthfully that I'm willing to answer authoritatively. uh when i'm only 51 sure whereas she wants to be like 90 sure uh oh woodcrest mafia okay i know who you are congratulations again on your raise uh

I appreciate that. Yeah, Woodcrest managed to get a good raise, and that's fantastic. um yeah so t weirdo 40 pink will probably come on some shows in the future we agreed she'd probably sit in the back and mod though because she's not going to want to talk as much as i do um So you do need a partner, I think.

But let me finish reading the question. I'm 18, college freshman, working hard in an internship, and I'm very motivated to further my career. But I feel rather empty without a partner, and I fear I'll go too far through life and end up alone. So you're young. You're probably not at risk of ending up alone yet. But what I would say, and this is really important, really important. I married poorly.

By the way, sometimes my ex-wife occasionally watches this channel. She would agree she married poorly. Like we were young and didn't know better. We were not well matched. My current wife. My second wife, 40 Pink Dragons, also married poorly. We were not old enough to know ourselves. So see the earlier question on soul searching. you can't find unless you get blind lucky you aren't going to find a partner without knowing what's important to you because

It happens. For example, I made this list of goals before I met 40 Pink Dragons. So if we switch back over to the goals, here's the fun part. Because I knew what I was looking for and I talked to my partner about my prospective partner, I don't think there's a single goal on my unmet goals. that she would disagree with. And so she's listening to this show. She's modding right now. She's seen all of these. When I met her, she said one of her dreams was to sail to Patagonia.

So that's sailing across the whole Pacific Ocean. I know, therefore, she likes to sail. We talked about living abroad. She's a Christian like I am. So long-term mission, she wants to work with orphans. She likes to climb. So like climbing Devil's Tower, you know, she'll probably be leading the climb. I don't think there's a single goal in here. There's some she's uninterested in. I don't think she could give a shit about shelling something with a cannon.

She probably quite correctly is like, oh, that sounds like some testosterone overdrive. But she doesn't object. And most of these, she's never seen them. before I found this list the only one I think she's not into is this one because she likes her camping to have reasonable bathroom opportunities and that one does not

And so there's like one goal on here. I'll go talk to her after this or she can sound off and chat. But there's only one goal on here that I think she'd be like, yeah, so that's all you, bud.

You know, I don't know. Is there anything else? Yeah, no portal edge for So everything else, you know and why is that why is it that my life goals are so aligned with hers and then the one she would add i said she would add grease and some other stuff it's because i knew myself enough to talk to her before we got married about what was important to me and what i wanted to do and she knew herself enough to be sure what she wanted so mr 18 year old

Who's hopefully still listening if you're here. First get to know yourself. And if you have a lot of lust or whatever. Tinder will take care of that for you. In the meantime. But don't. get into a long-term relationship um without first uh knowing yourself well enough to know what you're looking for because both

Forty Pink Dragons and I and also T-Weirdo and probably lots of other people in the chat, older people, have nasty divorces behind them because they didn't know themselves well and their spouses didn't either. And they basically had a Tinder date and thought, wow, that. felt really good and uh i like sex and maybe some other stuff and so they got married and like that's not a very good marriage algorithm so

Yeah. And being more honest, and I'm not a great marital advisor or relationship advisor, but I would say... The key word that you got to watch out for in this question is, I feel rather empty, but more than that, I fear. Fear will drive you to bad decisions. Fear is a bad... reason to do something now fear is not against a bad reason to run from a charging tiger but generally

In higher level society, fear is a terrible reason to do stuff. You take a job out of fear. Yes, marriage algorithm. It's true. I'm a geek.

yeah fear isn't even a it's hard to even classify it as a thought right fear is an emotion or a feeling which then drives irrational thinking and so what i would say about what you've written here is i would challenge the question or i would challenge some of your premises you feel empty without a partner got it you want friends and companionship got it you're lonely Okay, make connections to friends and try to build society around you, but don't make a lifelong commitment out of fear.

Particularly, you're 18. You will not go through life alone. People get married at 20, 30, 40, 50, 60, 70, 80, 90. Some of the many, many times, far more than me. You will not go through life alone. You have to have some confidence in that. The Buddhist idea is being comfortable sitting with your discomfort is what it's called. All right. Two more questions and we're done. We're going to finish up by 745.

At the latest. Should I take the plunge buying a house or hold for economic collapse? Housing prices are going up right now because everybody wants out of city. So if you want a house in a city or a condo.

uh wait buy later if you want a house in the country of the suburbs buy now and wait for it to go up there there's your free no no nuances economic advice for the afternoon or evening or whatever time zone you're in next next question last question of the night any advice for someone who wants to start going to school in their 30s long-term goal of having a career instead of a job first god bless you do it second god bless you do it third Um,

uh to kimchi uh thank you for the prime sub and i hope you're doing well by the way i wasn't expecting a relationship advice on my first time watching in a while well we're a variety show now we're moving up in the world if you haven't heard i'm gonna leave amazon so i'm branching out apparently i'm gonna be dr ruth westheimer um have you developed any recent hobbies i'll answer that next ivy um yes so what i would say is uh

totally try and have a career instead of a job my advice is do it do it do it and do it um look you're 30 um you're probably going to live to be at least 80 you got 50 years schooling is two years three years four years You can do it all from home now. Homeschool is the new way so you don't have to go somewhere. You can do it on the cheap. Hell yeah, improve your life. Totally. If you have a job and you want to change, I have lots of videos on that. Do it.

Do what you dream of. Someone else, I don't know if he's still here, I think it was Thiel, was saying this stream tonight inspires him to chase his dreams. Do what you love. Oh my God. Yes. So my advice is pick a school and be sure you know what you want to do. What you don't want to do is run away from the fact, whatever, you're a plumber, you're a welder, you're a cashier at the local quickie stop.

whatever it is that you're trying to get away from it you're just doing any job um instead or in getting any degree hopefully by your 30s you know what the hell you want to do and so Yeah, my sister has, my God, she's got dietetics.

by botany drafting education she's got a teacher's certificate a library and now she's got a librarian's degree she's got like four different degrees at least three um and doesn't really do use any of them so but pick one thing that you you in your 30s you should now know what you're good at and what you like don't just pick something that's supposedly about money

Pick something that you really want to be a part of and do. Okay, and then Ivy asked me a fun question. I'll take it out of chat and we'll wrap up with that. Recent hobbies. Yes, two. Three, since the pandemic started, I've started riding a bike. I never was a big biker and I really enjoy it. I got a decent bike and I ride on the local bike trail. My wife is a distance runner, so I took up running with her so I could do it with her.

And I can proudly say I've run up to five miles now, which for some of you are like, whatever, five miles, like I ran 50. And for others of you are like five miles. That's like. 4.8 miles further than I've ever run in my life without something chasing me. And then the last new hobby is we just bought paddle boards. So they're all outdoor stuff, running, biking, paddle boarding. The bike is a specialized Sirius X5. So it's an all carbon cross bike, but mid range, simple for riding trails.

Awesome has a friend who was a... an international competitor if you didn't see him John Coyle was on our show a little while ago a little while ago meaning a few weeks ago John Coyle was a Olympic medalist in speed skating big leg muscles and he was a

bike racer also big leg muscles he's yeah the videos coming out shortly awesome we were getting the thumbnails made today so it should be out very soon it's been delayed but um yeah so here's a guy with like he's all leg power and uh he recently he had like 14 bikes but he wanted to live on the road in an rv so he had to cut his bike imagine this he had to cut his bike collection down to just five poor guy no so he has much better bikes than i do and that's probably what awesome's asking

all right everybody it's been all over the place it's been fun i as a part of my new life i'm going on vacation next week so i don't the place i'm going is so remote um it's supposedly has no cell signal and only Wi-Fi in the resort lobby. And so I will be out in the mountains having fun with my family and friends. hiking climbing some mountains there will be good pictures so when i get back we will do a picture show ether night good to see you here um so

And then as of today, I have five days left in my Amazon career. Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, and two days when I come back. And then I'm out. I'm free. Doc Saint, appreciate the streams as always. Enjoy your vacation. Thank you. So for everyone here, you have been awesome. You have been a great audience tonight. I love you all to death.

Have a wonderful, wonderful evening, and I will see you for pictures and more education. Please drop by our Discord if you have had a recent career success. Share it in the career success. channel um just like woodcrest mafia did that way um others can benefit from knowing it's possible because there are some people here who are struggling to find jobs and they need inspiration that it can work out shirt clock homes nice of you to check in

All right, everybody, you've been wonderful. I will see you in a couple of weeks. I haven't decided if it'll be on the 8th or the 9th, but here's your offline screen. Good night.