You’re in for a treat with this episode! I am interviewed by Robin Ducharme from “Real Love Ready” and Host of the “Let’s Talk Love” podcast (Go RLR IG: Real Love Ready on Instagram ) Robin asks me all of the important questions about: My personal healing journey Healing after Toxic relationships Attachment Theory informed Dating My exact advice on dating strategy for healthy relationships Aaaaaaand so much more! Ready for an in-person event for healing? Check out the Willow Retreat: https://rea...
Aug 02, 2023•52 min
Click Here to Apply to The Empowered.Secure.Loved. Program How can you have “the whole meal” kind of relationship when all you’ve attracted before was crumbs?? I’ve got a great episode for you on RAISING YOUR STANDARDS! Inside of this episode: I discuss the importance of releasing your past so that you can create new standards How to set relationship standards How to hold the space for partners who match your standards What you need to know about Standards vs. Expectations when dating This episo...
Jul 31, 2023•27 min
Have you ever wondered: Who do I need to become in order to attract the kind of relationship I want?? Inside this episode: I give you the truth around securely attached identity development You learn my favorite strategy to help you be securely attached in the moment We uncover the most important thing you can do in healing: Change your Identity This is a value packed episode that will have you thinking differently about dating, relationships, and finding your soulmate. Don’t miss it! Ready to h...
Jul 26, 2023•21 min
This episode is SO GOOD! Host of What Your Mom Forgot to Tell You, Claire Calfo, asks me all the questions you’ve been dying to ask about relationships, dating, and attachment theory. We go deep on this episode and discuss: Attachment styles Best first dates Green/red/yellow flags in dating Long term relationships + conflict navigation And my personal morning routine Want more from Claire? FInd her pod here: What Your Mom Forgot to Tell You Pod On top of the value in today’s episode, I also have...
Jul 24, 2023•46 min
This episode is juicy! I am giving you five signs that you need to start your healing journey Inside this episode: The toxic trap of linking your self-worth to your relationship status Dating with an anxious, avoidant or disorganized attachment style The truth about disproportionate responses to triggers You won’t want to miss this episode!! On top of the value in today’s episode, I also have a very special announcement; 🎉Securely Attached Summer Limited Time Offer 🎉 You won’t want to miss you...
Jul 19, 2023•41 min
Okaaaaaay let me tell you: you won’t want to miss this episode. My friend and colleague Ashley Caprice, is someone I’ve had the privilege of coaching, and now she is coming to provide massive value with everything she has learned on her journey! Inside of this episode: Healing the relationship with yourself after toxic relationships What are relationship GREEN FLAGS How you can create a relationship vision that feels good to you (and attract that level of partner into your life) So much relation...
Jul 17, 2023•51 min
These sneaky relationship lies will get you! In today’s episode I tell you the three most common lies people tell themselves about relationships. Inside the episode: -A lie that you are not aware of and WHY you keep telling yourself this lie -The real truth about being “too busy” for a relationship -What you need to do in order to drop the lies an make yourself available for love You won’t want to miss this episode! If you’re ready for high self-worth, and becoming a boundary setting QUEEN, then...
Jul 12, 2023•27 min
Today’s guest has done something truly vulnerable in the hopes of finding love. She went on reality TV in Colombia in order to search for her person. Today’s guest Susan Boasi is vulnerable and brave. She opens up about her love journey and how she ended up on reality TV! Inside today’s episode we discuss: What it was like to go on Reality TV for love Her experience with match-making Her hope for women in their 50s who are dating and looking for love Aaaaand so much more! Don’t miss this juicy e...
Jul 10, 2023•57 min
It’s time to talk about BOUNDARIES!!! I get so many questions on boundary setting, and how to do it “right.” Inside this episode I go over: Why Boundary setting is necessary for great relationships. My exact formula for setting boundaries that support secure attachment. Bonus: The miracle question for when you want to repair after an argument with your partner. This is a juicy HIGH VALUE episode you won’t want to miss. If you’re ready for high self-worth, and becoming a boundary setting QUEEN, t...
Jul 05, 2023•24 min
Whoa! You won’t want to miss this vulnerable podcast interview! In today’s episode we hear from E.S.L. Relationship Program graduate, Dr. Rachael Knotts! Inside today’s episode, Rachael and I discuss: What life was like prior to doing the work on herself and committing to her healing journey. The shame she experienced while going through divorce. Her journey inside of the E.S.L. program, and her current role as a coach for the program. Aaaaaand so much more! I am forever grateful to women like R...
Jul 03, 2023•41 min
It is my pleasure to announce this episode’s guest, Dr. Dick Schwartz, author of the best-selling book: “No Bad Parts.” Dr. Schwartz and I dive into: What is Internal Family Systems, and how you can apply it to your healing journey. The concerns with traditional psychotherapy models and why “self-healing” is necessary for true human transformation. Why self-soothing and choosing your “highest self” or the “true self” is the only way to sustain long-term relationship wellness. What an honor to in...
Jun 28, 2023•46 min
RAISE YOUR STANDARDS! (said in my best Tony Robbins impression!) In all seriousness, today’s episode is a very important one for all areas of your life, especially your relationships. This one concept could dramatically improve your love life. In this episode, you will be able to: Learn about the power of standards, and understand how they are created. Boost the quality of your love life with improved relationship standards. Identify your core relationship values for more meaningful connections....
Jun 26, 2023•29 min
Join me as we delve into the ongoing conversation of starting a family with your partner. But what happens when one partner wants children and the other doesn't? Stay tuned to find out. Inside this episode I discuss: The proper mindset for having the discussion about children. What factors to bring up when talking about parenthood. When is it appropriate to bring up the desire to have children (hint: it’s not date # 1). How to think about dating as a single parent. You won’t want to miss this ep...
Jun 21, 2023•27 min
The modern dating world is filled with OPTIONS! Online dating websites, a plethora of dating apps to choose from — it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. So how do you cut through the options, and save yourself time and energy?! In todays’ episode, I give you what you need to be successful in modern dating. Inside this episode: I discuss the three factors I consider when evaluating a potential relationship. We explore why you need to know your partner’s attachment style, and the attachment dynamic of yo...
Jun 19, 2023•35 min
I used to think vulnerability was weakness, until I took a chance and shared my true self with those around me. What I discovered was unexpected: vulnerability is a superpower. The more I let my guard down, the deeper my connections became. I felt seen and understood like never before. Now, I encourage others to embrace vulnerability and experience the same transformative power in their relationships. Don't be afraid to take the leap and open up - the reward is worth it. But, what happens next? ...
Jun 14, 2023•16 min
Vanderpump Rules oh my!!! Never in my life did I think I’d be watching Vanderpump Rules. It wasn’t until numerous people started asking me my opinion on “Scandoval” that I knew I had to tune in. And my oh goodness! This last season was packed full of toxic relationship dynamics. Inside of this episode: -I fill you in on Scandoval incase you have never heard of it -I unpack the dynamics between Ariana & Tom, and Tom & Raquel -I examine the factors impacting Raquel’s mental health and toxi...
Jun 12, 2023•33 min
Are you tired of constantly chasing after emotionally unavailable partners, hoping to finally feel validated and loved? Have you been told to just move on or find someone better, but can't seem to break the pattern? The truth is, seeking validation from emotionally distant partners only leaves you feeling more alone and unfulfilled. It's time to discover the root of this pattern, understand the impact of attachment styles and cultivate a secure mindset for healthier, thriving relationships. In t...
Jun 07, 2023•28 min
***TW: Death by Su*cide, Grieving, and Loss** *Mental Health Resources Available Below* In this episode I get vulnerable about something I’ve kept private for years. Something that dramatically shaped who I am today, and how I live my life. This episode talks about grief, loss, and spirituality in a way that I have never talked about before. Inside of this episode you will find: My first person account of losing one of my closest friends The lessons I’ve learned from grieving and loss How grievi...
Jun 05, 2023•43 min
Too many of us never learned to practice discernment and have paid the price for it! Discernment is such a powerful tool that will transform your life and relationships. Inside of this episode, you will be able to: Tap into the art of discernment in order to protect your peace and create a better life. Steer clear of non-reciprocal relationships to safegaurd your emotional health. Discover accessible tools to upgrade your dating experiences and romantic connections. “Your new life will cost you ...
May 31, 2023•25 min
Get ready for a value packed episode that will get you set on the path towards accepting securely attached love! In this episode, you will: Release constraining beliefs and narratives that block love from flowing freely. Learn how to establish unwavering self-trust, fostering a connection between safety and affection. Cultivate emotional regulation strategies to build a stable and Breathe in and out and know: Love is safe. Need help with learning how to regulate your nervous system, rewire your ...
May 29, 2023•34 min
You are going to love this episode! I have a special guest, ESL Program graduate; Michelle Peth. In this episode you will hear Michelle and I discuss her vulnerable journey to becoming the securely attached, emotionally healthy woman she is today: Michelle shares about how “doing the work” changed her life. She opens up about the “messy middle” of healing and shares her own experiences with unhealthy relationships. We discuss how anyone can learn to tap into their inner guidance to transform unh...
May 24, 2023•52 min
ROI isn’t just for finances anymore! Discover the importance of ROI in relationships as I share how to invest your energy wisely and prioritize your own growth in a romantic partnership. With the help of this episode, you will be able to: Appreciate the benefits of attending to personal emotions as a way of self-care. Explore the intriguing concept of return on energy investment in interpersonal connections. Distinguish healthy relationship progress, from relationships that drain your energy. Un...
May 22, 2023•28 min
This episode was inspired by a conversation I overheard from two women. They were talking about: “Love Addiction and Sex Addiction.” Is it really an addiction, or is it your attachment style? Oftentimes anxious attachment FEELS like an addiction. Inside this episode I unpack: Anxious Attachment Strategies for Reassurance Anxious / Avoidant Relationship Traps The challenges faced by anxiously attached folks when seeking reassurance If you resonate with this episode, I want to personally invite yo...
May 17, 2023•29 min
Are you tired of constantly being told to 'just be yourself' and 'practice self-care,' yet still feeling unfulfilled and disconnected? Ditch the ineffective advice and join me in this episode, where you'll learn practical steps to cultivate drama-free relationships, experience emotionally available intimacy, appreciate evolving friendships, and prioritize authenticity and self-care for true well-being. THESE are the things that turn me on at this stage in my life! In this episode, you will learn...
May 15, 2023•28 min
Discover the power of radical self-acceptance and forgiveness as I challenge you to take ownership of your own relationship struggles — so what if you're the red flag?! Are you tired of being told to just forgive and forget in order to have healthy relationships? But despite your efforts, you still feel stuck in toxic patterns and unfulfilling connections? It's time to explore a different approach. In this episode, we'll show you how self-forgiveness, compassion, and curiosity can transform your...
May 10, 2023•25 min
How can we break the cycle of trauma from our upbringings? This one dives deep! In this episode, I delve into the often overlooked topics of father and mother wounds and discuss how they impact our sense of identity, confidence, emotional safety, and self-compassion. But what happens when these wounds are passed down from generation to generation? This episode will teach you to: Uncover the influence of parental wounds on your identity and relationships. Nurture self-compassion and adopt benefic...
May 08, 2023•24 min
You won’t want to miss this episode! Today I am answering audience questions and specifically addressing how you can have a great relationship, after being in a toxic relationship. Inside this powerful episode you will learn: The power of self-trust: how to show up securely attached and regulating emotions. How to identify your securely attached relationship vision to help make decisions in your dating life. Use the Red Flag Checklist for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery to help identify potential wa...
May 03, 2023•32 min
Anxious, Avoidant, Disorganized, Secure, OH MY!? If you’ve wanted a deep dive on attachment styles, this episode is for you. We are picking up where we left off last week, and diving into Disorganized and Secure Attachment Styles today! Inside this episode I discuss: Where the term “disorganized” came from Why I dislike the BPD label The thoughts, behaviors, and definitions of both secure and disorganized attachment styles Also, don’t forget I am going LIVE on May 18th! You won’t want to miss it...
May 01, 2023•33 min
Let’s get into it! Today’s episode is about Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Styles. Inside this episode: I review the evolution of Attachment Theory Research I discuss the thoughts, behaviors, beliefs of the Anxiously attached person We review Avoidant Attachment (and discuss the growing edge for avoidantly attached folks) This episode is JAM PACKED with relationship gold. Don’t miss out! Also! I want you to come hang out with me. For one day only, I am hosting a live experience on May 18th! Sex...
Apr 26, 2023•41 min
Time for a tough love episode! TRUTH: In my past, I was caught in a vicious loop of self-doubt,and I was unable to break free from the false beliefs I had about my worth. I know what it is like to not see your own worthiness, and believe the lies that other people are worthy and you are not. Inside of this episode I discuss how you can: Uncover and free yourself from restrictive beliefs and narratives. Master the balance between therapy and coaching for lasting change. Embrace high self-worth fo...
Apr 24, 2023•27 min
