You need this episode. Whether you are dating, engaged, married, or single! I want to help you throw out any desire to have the “exact perfect relationship timeline” and teach you what to do instead Inside of this episode: I get honest with you about why timelines don’t work I teach you the mindset for gathering data in relationships I help you realize how dating is similar to learning how to intentionally invest (and I tell you what to look for) I know this episode will help so many of you! And...
May 30, 2022•26 min
Anyone who has survived divorce knows you need all the help you can get when navigating this time of your life. On today’s episode I had special guest Nicole Sodoma, Divorce and Family Lawyer. Inside of this episode we discuss: -Practical tips for navigating divorce -Nicoles’ own healing journey after divorce -Takeaways from her upcoming book, Please Don’t Say You’re Sorry Nicole Sodoma, founder of the Charlotte-based Sodoma Law firm, has worked for 25 years in the often dreaded field of family ...
May 25, 2022•40 min
Wow-I have never talked about this before! And it’s a juicy topic. Today’s episode is a question straight from the audience. “What if I find myself caring about what my friends and family will think about my new boyfriend?” Inside of this episode : -I give you a comprehensive framework for making dating decisions -I help you understand the importance of protecting the early stages -I explain projection and why you need to be aware of it I know this episode will help so many of you! If you’re rea...
May 23, 2022•26 min
Get ready for a deep dive into WHY you are attracted to the “bad boys” Many of us have been there…we logically know they are bad for us, but our heart is screaming: YES, I’M INTO HIM! Inside of this episode I break down: Why relationship health is so important Beliefs that support attraction to unavailable partners How your attachment style can show up in these kinds of dynamics You deserve to heal, you deserve to choose the highest and best version of you. If you’re ready to do the work on heal...
May 18, 2022•25 min
This is a TOUGH LOVE EPISODE!! Get ready for a totally new way of looking at fear. Inside of this episode: - I break down a decision making framework that supports your best self -I share with you what it feels like if you’re making decisions out of fear -I teach you how to use fear to your advantage instead of letting it sabotage you I made this episode for everyone who struggles to really “go for it” These are the exact words I needed to hear at different points of my life. Times when I was at...
May 16, 2022•16 min
In today’s episode: ONE OF MY FAVORITE TOPICS OF ALL TIME! We are talking about the anxious-avoidant trap. That’s right we dive into WHY you are attracted to, who you are attracted to. In addition we are going to talk about what happens when this attachment dynamic experiences conflict. Inside of this juicy episode: -We look at the truth behind anxious / avoidant attachment dynamics -We examine WHY this duo is so toxic when they experience conflict - I share with you the ONE THING that causes mo...
May 11, 2022•24 min
Communication is KEY in any healthy relationship. In today’s episode I get to the CORE of why we struggle to communicate You will learn: -The FOUR WORD sentence that keeps people stuck in relationships - The power of Acceptance and embracing reality -How to never stay stuck in a toxic relationship ever again This episode is short and sweet but it is POWERFUL. If you’re ready to embrace your reality, and do the work, The Empowered. Secure.Loved. Program has limited spots this Spring! Don’t miss o...
May 09, 2022•15 min
You asked for it, and I delivered! Today’s episode is a good one! I talk about: -How to know if the relationship is worth your emotional investment -Dating mindset that sets you up for success -The Key to Confident and relaxed dating This is an extra juicy episode, and I know you will get A LOT out of it! The dating questions came directly from my DM’s!!! If you’re ready to do the work to become the securely attached version of yourself who can show up to create a great relationship-I’ve got jus...
May 02, 2022•25 min
Get ready for me to spill the tea on Netflix’s “The Ultimatum” I go over each couple’s dynamic, and ways I think they could have shown up healthier. Inside of the episode I give you: -My professional analysis of each relationship dynamic -I point out the relationships that were unhealthy (I discuss the exact instances of anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, and fearful-avoidant dynamics!) -I tell you which contestants displayed narcissistic traits Aaaaaand so much more! This is an extra juic...
Apr 27, 2022•47 min
Whoa this is a HIGH VALUE episode! I have my good friend on the podcast today, and she does not hold back. Inside of this episode: -Sophia opens up about why she walked away from an engagement -We discuss codependency and what she learned from co-dependent dynamics -We talk about dating after a major break-up and how to approach it in a healthy way Aaaaaaaand so much more! I love this girl’s vulnerability and she is a true gem of a friend! If you want to connect with her more go check out her so...
Apr 25, 2022•48 min
Have you ever been so heartbroken that you’re certain you’ll never love again?! Or perhaps you’ve tried to “get back out there” and you’ve felt haunted by your past experiences and unable to open yourself up to anyone No matter your dating woes, I’ve got you covered! Inside of today’s episode I am talking all things: -Fully Releasing the Past -Gaining Clarity on exactly what you want in a relationship -Learning to date in a way that is fun and sustainable You won’t want to miss this episode! If ...
Apr 20, 2022•23 min
“I hate the dating apps” I hear this multiple times a day from people I coach, or those of you messaging me in the DMs And I get it, I really do. That is why I wanted to share this special episode with you that will help you with your dating mindset and will give you the tools to meet people the “old fashioned way” Inside of this episode I discuss: -Four Key Words to use to support a healthy dating mindset -How to go places where your ideal partner is -Tips for conversation and no pressure “get ...
Apr 18, 2022•29 min
This week on the podcast we have a very special guest! It was my pleasure to interview Dr. John Delony Inside of the episode we did a deep dive on: -Understanding what trauma actually is (and how to begin to heal) -Building Self-Trust and Strengthening your Identity -The power of Secure Attachment in Relationships Aaaaaaand so much more! Dr. John Delony is a bestselling author, mental health expert and host of The Dr. John Delony Show . He has two PhDs and over two decades of experience in couns...
Apr 13, 2022•52 min
Ready to add a new self-love practice to your toolbox?! I’ve got you covered, boo! Inside of this episode you will learn: -The benefits of Dialectics -How to practice acknowledging what we feel and moving forward -Practicing calling in our highest and best self If you loved this episode and realize you want to receive more tools, and finally do the healing work; I’m here to support you! The Empowered. Secure.Loved. Program has limited spots this Spring! Don’t miss out. Click Here to Appl...
Apr 11, 2022•21 min
Your relationship with your body impacts your relationship health. I used to believe I needed to reach my ideal body weight in order to “get the guy” This approach damaged my mental, physical, and emotional health Inside of this episode I discuss: -Why we fall into the trap of correlating our physical appearance with our worthiness -Ways you can stop this toxic pattern -How to begin to rewire your beliefs about your body I also share what has personally worked for me when it comes to body image ...
Apr 06, 2022•22 min
You don’t want to miss this episode!!! In a never before released format, you will get a sneak peak into an ESL program coaching session. Inside of this episode I coach on the following: -Securely attached dating and chemistry -Understanding boundaries as a means for creating desire -Differences in dating when newly securely attached Aaaaaaaaand so much more! I know you will love this episode. Huge shoutout to Kate for allowing me to share it with you. She let me know she was fine with it becaus...
Apr 04, 2022•31 min
I didn’t think I’d ever share an episode like this. Not really sure I remember exactly what was said in this episode, but I know this: I openly talk about parts of my childhood experience. Inside of this episode: -I discuss the early childhood family dysfunction and loss I experienced -I get really vulnerable about one of the most painful memories from my childhood -I talk about my healing journey and express my hope for anyone who has experienced childhood trauma I will likely do a part two of ...
Mar 30, 2022•32 min
Andrea Ashley is my incredible guest today on the Let’s Get Vulnerable Podcast! She is vulnerable, real, and very entertaining. Our conversation is unfiltered and I know you will find it extremely beneficial. Inside of this episode: -Andrea opens about her recovery from alcoholism and growing up in a dysfunctional home -She tells us the story of reaching her rock bottom as an adult; it’s called “The Tale of Two Bryans” and you don’t want to miss it. -She gives us the inside scoop on a recent dat...
Mar 28, 2022•55 min
I get this question a lot: “Are they a narcissist or is it their avoidant attachment style?!” I break it down for you very simply so you will never have to ask this question again. I give you everything you need to distinguish narcissism from avoidant attachment attachment Inside of this episode provide a deep dive on: -The clinical definition of narcissistic personality disorder -One Key difference between narcissists and someone with an Avoidant Attachment Style -Why Avoidant attachment is eas...
Mar 23, 2022•26 min
The podcast episode you have been waiting for! Today on the podcast I am joined by my good friend, and colleague Dr. Tracy! Inside of this episode we are talking about: -What happens in relationships when you can’t work through conflict -Why you need repair (And a framework for implementing it!) -Difficulties with repair through an attachment style lens You do not want to miss this episode! P.S. If you’re ready to become the securely attached version of yourself so that you can make your relatio...
Mar 21, 2022•46 min
This episode came straight from an audience question! I will give you an exact framework for how to make this important decision. Inside of this episode I will discuss: -Exactly what you need to consider when deciding to get back together with your ex -How to know you’re making this decision for the RIGHT reasons -BONUS: I also discuss how to get over a relationship when you don’t know why it ended This is the kind of episode I wish I had in my 20’s! The reality is that it is RARELY a good idea ...
Mar 16, 2022•29 min
If you have been googling: “how to get over my ex” I’ve got you covered with this episode, girl! Inside of this episode I will cover all things forgiveness Inside of this episode I explore: -Why it is so important to forgive others (hint: it benefits YOU in a huge way) -The forgiveness practice I’ve used for years -The exact mantra I’ve used to support forgiveness I also talk about redefining relationships with family. This episode gets vulnerable, and I know you will find a ton of value in it. ...
Mar 14, 2022•26 min
You can really want a relationship and be emotionally unavailable… Inside of this episode I answer audience questions and I get into a few things you’re gonna want the answers to! You will get the inside scoop on: -How to have more engaging dating app conversations -How to properly use the dating apps in your dating strategies -How to know when you’re truly emotionally available (and what to do when you are not) You’re going to love this episode whether you’re dating, in a relationship, or simpl...
Mar 09, 2022•26 min
I hope you enjoyed the last podcast episode, because this episode will dive even further into the Love is Blind Season Two drama! Buckle up y’all you are getting my opinion on what we saw go down on the show! There are definitely SPOILERS so if you have not watched the show and want to see for yourself how it unfolds, definitely wait on this episode! Inside of this episode I am giving you my perspective on: -Danielle and Nick’s relationship dynamic -What Natalie’s dad represents from a secure at...
Mar 07, 2022•29 min
Have you binge watched Love is Blind season 2 like me? If so, you will LOVE today’s episode. I am discussing the dynamic between Danielle and Nick. Inside of this episode I break down: Danielle’s attachment style The unhealthy relationship patterns they find themselves in How the couple could save their relationship if they desired to This episode will be so helpful to you if you’ve ever experienced relationship anxiety, and it will help you conceptualize the importance of “doing the work” Danie...
Mar 02, 2022•25 min
This might be my most vulnerable episode EVER Seriously y’all-I am hoping my parents don’t listen to this episode, lol. Inside of this episode designed to support you in having a great sex-life, Dr. Tara and I do a deep dive on: Infidelity and Divorce; how a great sex life is a protector against divorce How to communicate your sexual desires to your partner Pleasure mapping: what it is, how to do it! Feminine energy and allowing sexual pleasure in your life And soooo much more! If you want more ...
Feb 28, 2022•45 min
TOUGH LOVE ALERT Inside of this episode I talk about: -How your friendships might be getting the way of your healing -How to protect your dating journey -The importance of reconnecting to your inner guidance system and building self-trust I also dive into the importance of this during the early stages of dating! This episode will give you the kick in the butt you need to get your dating life on track, and lovingly set boundaries with your friends. Want to join a girl gang that has your back on y...
Feb 23, 2022•28 min
Get ready for a truly vulnerable episode! Let’s talk about securely attached sex; how can you create desire AND maintain a secure attachment?! Women ask me this all of the time. And after reviewing Ester’s Perel’s work, and re-reading her book: “Mating in Captivity” - I have some answers for you! Inside of this juicy episode I talk about: Why sex with emotionally unavailable partners is so “hot” How to maintain a great physical connection even with an emotionally safe relationship How identity w...
Feb 21, 2022•22 min
Let’s Get Vulnerable (and nerdy!) Today’s episode is also on our YouTube Channel! (Wanna watch instead of listen?! Check it out here! In today’s episode we do a deep dive on: Why your attachment style impacts your reassurance seeking behaviors Where your reassurance behavior came from My top tip for beginning to heal your reassurance behaviors This episode is PACKED full of my own knowledge, and research findings on the relationship between reassurance and attachment styles I think it will expla...
Feb 16, 2022•35 min
Happy Valentine's Day or Single Awareness Day or Whatever you’d like to call it! I am glad you’re here and tuning in to this special episode. Today’s episode will offer you a little bit of everything to help with your journey to high self-worth and great relationships. Inside of the episode I discuss: The power of Attachment theory when applied to your dating life The importance of mindfulness - self compassion (and how to start using it today!) An important relationship truth about self-love Th...
Feb 14, 2022•14 min
