Send us a text Do you have an anxious or disorganised attachment style? If you've ever felt that gut-wrenching fear that your partner might leave, that sinking feeling when someone else gets too close, or the endless overthinking that keeps you up at night... I'm sure you know exactly how all consuming jealousy can be! In this episode, Carly Ann is diving deep into the jealousy through the lens of attachment theory, inner child healing, and reparenting. We’re unpacking why it feels so all-consum...
Mar 08, 2025•20 min
Send us a text If you feel like life is against you, like nothing ever goes right and you’re stuck in a cycle of frustration...this 7-minute episode is exactly what you need. When big/small, daily challenges pile up, it’s easy to slip into a victim mindset, but staying there only keeps you stuck and creates so much pain and negative energy. This episode will help you shift your perspective, break free from resistance, and start seeing setbacks as stepping stones. What if life isn’t out to get yo...
Mar 02, 2025•7 min
Send us a text Struggling to let go? Whether you're anxiously attached to a person, an outcome, or the way you thought life should be by now - this episode is for you. When you're constantly waiting for reassurance, obsessing over what might happen, or clinging to control, it only fuels more anxiety. Feeling secure and peaceful comes from learning to detach.. as you will hear in this episode... that doesn't mean caring less from caring less in fact it's something else entirely. In this episode, ...
Feb 23, 2025•31 min
Send us a text This podcast is for anyone stuck in a cycle of being attracted to unavailable partners and ready to make a change. If you want to start attracting secure, available types then you need to hear this! Join Carly Ann for practical steps, mindset shifts, and real-talk on how to start choosing secure, healthy love. No overanalyzing - just how you can change your type for good. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Foll...
Feb 18, 2025•13 min
Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment style? Are you doing the work to heal attachment wounds but keep repeating patterns? In this episode, Carly Ann dives into key psychological techniques that can help break free from the anxious attachment drama cycle and create real, lasting change. If you’ve ever felt stuck in overthinking, emotional highs and lows, or unhealthy relationship patterns, this episode is for you. Carly Ann shares how these tools can help you regain control, build sec...
Feb 16, 2025•42 min
Send us a text Is your inner critic running your mood? Be honest, has it been running the show for too long? Usually the inner critic is loud, especially if you have an anxious attachment style. In this episode, Carly Ann explores how this harsh inner voice keeps you stuck, settling for less than you deserve, and holding back from true happiness. She shares a simple but powerful two-step process to start shifting the way you speak to yourself this week, so you can begin reparenting yourself and ...
Feb 12, 2025•11 min
Send us a text Do you have an anxious or disorganised attachment style? So, you know that moment when your stomach drops because they took too long to text back? Or when you convince yourself they’re losing interest, even if nothing has actually happened? And then, before you know it, you’re overthinking, checking their socials, or panicking about being left? That’s the anxious attachment drama cycle... and it’s exhausting. In this episode, Carly Ann walks you through 7 key steps of this attachm...
Feb 08, 2025•22 min
Send us a text In this episode, I’m joined by Frankie Olivia ( @Frankiestherapy ) , a trauma-responsive creative psychotherapist and EMDR psychotherapist, to discuss living with and healing anxious attachment . We explore: ✨ Understanding needs & unmet needs ✨ Separation anxiety and why it feels so intense ✨ The first thing to do when you notice you’re triggered ✨ Techniques to regulate your nervous system ✨ How progress and healing can feel slow ✨ Navigating guilt in the healing process Dis...
Feb 05, 2025•55 min
Send us a text If you always lose yourself in love, put everyone else first, and feel like your happiness depends on someone else...this one is definitely for you today. Carly Ann gives you a key principle from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) that will help you stop abandoning yourself in relationships, dating, and even situationships with unavailable partners. This goes beyond just love...because when you keep sacrificing yourself to make others stay, it affects your confidence, mental ...
Feb 02, 2025•26 min
Send us a text Have an anxious attachment? If you’re stuck in patterns of overthinking, self-doubt, and craving reassurance in love, relationships & dating... your inner critic might be running the show. That harsh voice keeping you small, making you question your worth, and pushing you into relationships where you give more than you get...it’s exhausting and you've probably had enough! In this episode, Carly Ann is bringing you a favourite idea that helped her on her own journey to becoming...
Jan 29, 2025•13 min
Send us a text DOWNLOAD YOUR ACCMPANYING PDF (DOC 12) Do you feel trapped in endless “what if” thoughts, especially in relationships? For anxious attachers, uncertainty can feel unbearable, fueling overthinking and constant worry. In this episode, Carly Ann will explore why uncertainty triggers anxiety and share practical tips to help you break the cycle. Learn how to sit with the unknown, challenge anxious thoughts, and regain control in relationships. If you’re ready to stop overthinking and s...
Jan 26, 2025•25 min
Send us a text Going no contact? Are you feeling torn, uncertain, or even panicky about breaking no contact? As an anxious attacher, it’s easy to feel consumed by the urge to reach out, even when part of you isn’t sure it’s the right thing to do. In this episode, I’m sharing three powerful questions that will help you connect with what you’re really feeling and give you the clarity and guidance you need in this challenging moment. Whether you’re stuck in overthinking or overwhelmed by emotions, ...
Jan 22, 2025•5 min
Send us a text DOWNLOAD YOUR ACCMPANYING PDF (DOC 11) Anxious attachment can keep you stuck in obssessing, overthinking and self-doubt. In this episode Carly Ann shares how to shift your perspective on your thoughts so you can approach relationships with confidence, calm, and reduced reactivity. Discover how to zoom out and step back from overwhelming thoughts to create space to respond - helping you build stronger, more secure connections. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ...
Jan 19, 2025•28 min
Send us a text In this episode of Lessons in Attachment , I’m sharing a sneak peek from the Attachment Recovery Gym with guest expert Holly, also known as Breakups and Love . Holly, an accredited EFT International practitioner combining EFT tapping & journaling to help with stress and life's challenges. You’ll hear why these tools are so powerful and how they can support your healing journey. Plus, I share an inspiring moment about savouring positivity to transform attachment patterns...and ...
Jan 15, 2025•19 min
Send us a text Download PDF for Accompanying this Ep (10) Do you have an anxious attachment style? Do you feel panicked when it seems like someone you care about is pulling away? Maybe you start overthinking their messages, checking your phone non-stop, or reacting in ways you wish you hadn’t. You’re not alone, and there’s a way through it. In this episode, Carly Ann dives into the 3 things anxious attachers often do that actually make things worse—and how you can calm yourself instead. She brea...
Jan 12, 2025•28 min
Send us a text Have you ever felt like change is impossible? Like no matter how hard you try, you keep slipping back into the same patterns? If you’re on a healing journey with anxious attachment, you’ve likely experienced moments of doubt, frustration, and even hopelessness. In this episode, Carly Ann offers a powerful exercise to help you rebuild your belief in yourself and your ability to change. Whether you’re feeling stuck or just need a little motivation to keep going, this episode will re...
Jan 08, 2025•15 min
Send us a text Do you find yourself overthinking every little thing in your relationships? Like making up reasons to text them, holding back your true thoughts, or even pretending you’re totally fine when deep down, you’re not? Maybe you’ve noticed you’re moulding yourself into what you think they want or making excuses for behaviour you know isn’t OK. Sound familiar? In this episode, Carly Ann is getting into the habits that keep you stuck in anxiety and insecure attachment. If you’re tired of ...
Jan 05, 2025•12 min
Send us a text As we step into a brand new year, it’s time to focus on how to create the life you truly desire. In today’s episode, I dive deep into practical goal-setting techniques that will help you design your dream 2025. Whether you’re looking to transform your career, relationships, or personal development, I am giving practical steps to align your goals with what's important to you. Using mindset shifts, intentional planning, and powerful strategies, you’ll learn how to set goals that not...
Dec 28, 2024•16 min
Send us a text In this special episode, I’m bringing you affirmations designed to support you through the holiday season and beyond. Living with anxiety can make boundaries, self-love, and emotional security feel like constant battle but today, we’re flipping the script. These affirmations are here to help you reclaim your power, set boundaries that protect your peace, and nurture the secure version of yourself you’re striving to become. Whether you’re navigating tricky family dynamics, reinforc...
Dec 25, 2024•6 min
Send us a text Have you ever felt that gut-wrenching moment when someone you care about pulls away? You’re left questioning everything from what you did wrong, why this always seems to happen, and if it’s somehow all your fault. But what if the reason had nothing to do with you? In this episode, I dive deep into why people suddenly withdraw and what you can do to protect yourself as the anxious attacher. You’ll learn how their early experiences shaped their patterns and why their self-protection...
Dec 22, 2024•9 min
Send us a text Do you ever feel like your anxious attachment is just too much for others to handle? Maybe you’ve been in situations where you needed support, but the person you turned to couldn’t quite meet your needs. This can trigger big emotions, anger, or feelings of rejection, leaving you wondering why they don’t understand what you’re going through. In this episode, I dive into what it feels like to be met with misunderstanding as an anxious attacher and explore how to navigate those momen...
Dec 18, 2024•10 min
Send us a text Are your expectations in love setting you up for heartbreak? If you identify as an anxious attacher, your ideas about love and relationships might not be as "normal" as you think. This episode isn’t about dismissing what you deserve, it’s about redefining realistic expectations in relationships. From craving constant reassurance to feeling like you should always be someone's top priority, these expectations can keep you trapped in a cycle of overthinking, disappointment, and emoti...
Dec 15, 2024•16 min
Send us a text Are you stuck in a cycle of overthinking, replaying every moment, and wondering what you could’ve done differently? In this episode, we’re diving into the heartache of obsessing over an ex and uncovering how to break free from that mental loop. Whether you’re fresh out of a breakup or it’s been months (even years), those intrusive thoughts can hold you back from healing and moving forward. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTA...
Dec 11, 2024•9 min
Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment style? When it comes to the future, anxious attachers often fall into patterns of overthinking, fear, and doubt - ones that can feel overwhelming and even hold you back from the life and love you want. In today’s episode, we’re bringing these patterns into the light, helping you become aware of the ways they might be shaping your thoughts, decisions, and emotions. This is your chance to step back, reflect, and begin noticing when this happens to y...
Dec 08, 2024•10 min
Send us a text In this episode, we dive deep into the pain of holding onto someone who’s made themselves unavailable. Whether it’s an ex or someone you have deep feelings for, this episode explores the emotional turmoil of wanting someone who’s not emotionally present. If you tend to lean toward anxious attachment, this pain can feel amplified, as it’s often accompanied by the belief that you need this person in your life to feel complete or secure. Together, we’ll unpack why it’s so hard to let...
Dec 01, 2024•13 min
Send us a text In this episode of Lessons in Attachment , I'm feeling inspired and to speak to those of you with childhood wounds and unmet needs. Inspired by a juicy session inside the Attachment Recovery Gym , let's discuss the lasting impact of emotionally immature parenting and unmet childhood needs. I share insights from our recent workshop, Heal Your Inner Child for Self-Worth & Healthy Love , where we explored themes of grief, forgiveness, and self-compassion. From navigating feelings...
Nov 26, 2024•9 min
Send us a text Are you wondering why anxious attachers have intense reactions that feel out of proportion to the situation? In this episode, we’re diving into the psychology behind those big emotions and over-the-top responses. You’ll discover how past memories and unresolved core wounds shape your sense of threat, leaving you feeling vulnerable in relationships. We’ll also explore how your brain’s logical side seems to “go offline” during these triggering moments, making it so hard for you to r...
Nov 24, 2024•10 min
Send us a text Do you ever feel like your relationships are stuck in a frustrating cycle of chasing unavailable and avoidant partners? You might be reliving dynamics you learned as a child. In this episode, we're diving into 5 Signs You Had Emotionally Immature Parents and how those early experiences might be influencing your adult relationships. From unmet emotional needs to the deep-seated urge to "fix" or "earn" love, we’re exploring how your upbringing shapes who you chase and why emotionall...
Nov 17, 2024•13 min
Send us a text In this episode of Lessons in Attachment , we dive into a common but unspoken challenge for anxious attachers, 'separation anxiety' for adults. While we might think of separation anxiety as something only children experience, actually, it can be a deeply distressing reality for adults with anxious attachment patterns. Whether it’s the constant “what if” worries about your partner leaving, fears for their safety, or anxiety about time spent apart, the thoughts become overwhelming a...
Nov 14, 2024•16 min
Send us a text In this episode, Carly Ann shares a powerful 5 step-tool designed to help you find calm when anxious attachment leaves you feeling triggered and overwhelmed. If you’re someone who struggles with anxious attachment and you have reactive impulses, this tool will guide you to pause, ground yourself, and regain control before taking action you might regret. I walk you through each step of using this technique effectively, sharing insights on how to get the absolute most from it so it ...
Nov 10, 2024•13 min
