Today we look at the Enneagram Thinkers - 5, 6, 7. The Enneagram has been a tremendous tool to reduce our stress in family relationships. We have learned a lot about our blind spots and our family's strengths and weaknesses. Start here with an enneagram test: https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test Next, the enneagram Institute has a good quick overview: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions If you want to dive deep into the Enneagram, I love Beatrice Chestnut's boo...
Jul 03, 2020•17 min•Ep. 100
Today we lay out the heart/feeling intelligence types = 2, 3, 4 The Enneagram has been a tremendous tool to reduce our stress in family relationships. We have learned a lot about our blind spots and our family's strengths and weaknesses. Start here with an enneagram test: https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test Next, the enneagram Institute has a good quick overview: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions If you want to dive deep into the Enneagram, I love Beatrice C...
Jul 02, 2020•18 min•Ep. 99
Today we lay out the body/doing intelligence types = 9, 8, 1. The Enneagram has been a tremendous tool to reduce our stress in family relationships. We have learned a lot about our blind spots and our family's strengths and weaknesses. Start here with an enneagram test: https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test Next, the enneagram Institute has a good quick overview: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions If you want to dive deep into the Enneagram, I love Beatrice Che...
Jul 01, 2020•16 min•Ep. 98
We all have blindspots in our character and personality. Just like in a vehicle, if you drive without paying attention to your blindspots, then you will run over stuff. We share a story about how the enneagram helped us understand our 14 year old son. The enneagram is sort of a personality test, but it assumes that the personality we have is a coping mechanism, a false self, that we have developed to deal with the world around us. We share the structure of the enneagram with the 3 centers of int...
Jun 30, 2020•19 min•Ep. 97
Everyone struggles with family devotions. Why? We talk about a couple of the issues: 1st - we have this false belief that information = transformation. With all the info available in our society, people should becoming smarter and smarter. But this just isn't the case. Gaining lots of information does not guarantee transformation. Talking and learning lots of Bible facts doesn't mean your life has changed for the better. 2nd - For the past decades, churches have relied on lots of programs (from ...
Jun 29, 2020•18 min•Ep. 96
This episode comes from our stress of trying and doing all the things in life, but still feeling so disconnected from people that we love. The solution comes by asking your spouse and kids - what are the 3 most important things I can do for you on a regular basis. Even if you can only do one of these a day, you will start to have a deeper connection with those you love.
Jun 26, 2020•13 min•Ep. 95
Our kids seem to have hit a new stress level during this re-opening Covid summer. Things are open but not "normal". We as parents have been trying to work through this stress processing with our kids. We came across this article and spend our time talking about how good leadership always bring you back to the basics. And if you are a leader, you will get so tired of repeating these type questions. But asking questions and really listening are the keys to the best leaders. https://www.lollydaskal...
Jun 25, 2020•17 min•Ep. 94
We use metrics to measure everything. Whether it is the fuel gauge in a vehicle or metrics on a website. Today we talk about the metric of creating quality relationships with the people we love. We are entering a time of "social poverty" that existed prior to COVID but has been intensified even more during isolation. We have to prioritize and that means scheduling time for meaningful connections with each other. We dive into some practical ways of doing this. This episode was inspired by this ar...
Jun 24, 2020•18 min•Ep. 93
No child ever picks up a coloring book and then colors a person in the book "black" or "white" Even a child sees the shades of color that each person carries. In this episode, we share about our separate experiences in Ethiopia and Kenya when we were both corrected for not understanding that "white" and "black" are not good terms to describe all the many colors of people. Our society is stressed out for many reasons. One reason seems to only be speaking binary code about everything. It must be t...
Jun 23, 2020•20 min•Ep. 92
Jun 22, 2020•22 min
When I read that Wim Hof was able to share his amazing feats of health to a small group of volunteers in just a week, I was interested in learning more. The Ice Man has spread his healthy lifestyle design to millions all around the world. Wim Hof took the tragedy of his wife's suicide to discover how to use breathing and the cold as his primary tools to health. I love the Wim Hof Method and how it has improved my own health. In just a few minutes, I can feel stress leaving my body. In this episo...
Jun 19, 2020•15 min•Ep. 90
The best way to operate in the "zone" is to have a great team around you. Each person can do what he/she is good at and the task gets done. When people in your home (or office) are not working as a team, then you will feel lots of stress. People can develop a "martyr" mindset as life without teamwork can unravel. Also, when a team mindset is not cultivated, the members become stagnant. We share about why you need to consider: What, When, Who, and Where when considering your team....
Jun 18, 2020•21 min
https://uniqueability.com/the-book/ This is a book review of Unique Ability 2.0 from a concept that Dan Sullivan developed. In a nutshell, each person is a Michael Jordan at something, but schooling, institutions, and careers do not necessarily show you how to find your Unique Ability. This leads you to a life of stress and angst. We briefly go over what your Unique Ability looks like in your life. We discuss the 2 paths to help you discover your Unique Ability. This book is awesome and we highl...
Jun 17, 2020•21 min
You cannot be good at everything all the time. We realized that we have done so many strategic tasks during the Covid shutdown, but we have been so focused on our tasks that our diets have become much worse. We cant do it all, but we can focus on 1 thing for 1 month. We have so much more stress when we only see the perfection side of social media. The superman/woman complex is real in our heads but not in real life. You are not going to be a superhero in every area. Stop trying. Stop trying to m...
Jun 16, 2020•19 min
Let's be honest. No one saw 2020 creating so much stress for all of us. Current events are impacting us in so many new ways that we have not felt before. We need to understand that a lot has happened in 2020 and it is okay to feel emotionally wiped out. Our generation has not see anything like this before and we need to continue to work through it together; in face to face dialogues. Today we talk about what is going on in the world around us. We talk about how we need to have core beliefs that ...
Jun 15, 2020•20 min•Ep. 86
We (mostly Shawna) have struggled with our kids becoming a bit bored through this Covid crisis. But do not stay stressed and do not blame yourself as a bad parent. There are several benefits from boredom: improve mental health, increase creativity, increases novelty, creates new goals, improves self control. “ A certain power of enduring boredom is therefore essential to a happy life, and is one of the things that ought to be taught to the young.” Bertrand Russell
Jun 12, 2020•17 min
Well, with the Covid lingering, protests, and being inside too much, it is time to reinvent your local vacation options. All of us are having higher levels of stress from what just coping with this new normal of life. We are looking at taking multiple micro vacations. People are camping out or finding major discounts for a week hotel rate. We are shelving out plans for a bigger, more traditional “vacation”. We are scouting out local trails and places to explore that are nearer our home....
Jun 11, 2020•16 min•Ep. 84
Part 3. Well, this is not a typical podcast for us and we struggled to share these concepts. But if we are indeed in the midst of a 4th Turning, then we felt obligated to let you know. We hope we are wrong and this model doesn't work out. However, the trends seem to be aligning and building. If we know something is coming, we can mitigate the stresses of life better. This is part 3 of a very important 3 part series about generational cycles and the changing times that lie ahead of us. We are all...
Jun 10, 2020•22 min•Ep. 83
Part 2. Well, this is not a typical podcast for us and we struggled to share these concepts. But if we are indeed in the midst of a 4th Turning, then we felt obligated to let you know. We hope we are wrong and this model doesn't work out. However, the trends seem to be aligning and building. If we know something is coming, we can mitigate the stresses of life better. This is part 2 of a very important 3 part series about generational cycles and the changing times that lie ahead of us. We are all...
Jun 09, 2020•19 min•Ep. 82
Well, this is not a typical podcast for us and we struggled to share these concepts. But if we are indeed in the midst of a 4th Turning, then we felt obligated to let you know. We hope we are wrong and this model doesn't work out. However, the trends seem to be aligning and building. If we know something is coming, we can mitigate the stresses of life better. This is part 1 of a very important 3 part series where we discuss the generational cycles of Strauss and Howe who foretold difficult times...
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