Choose To Feel To Build Connection and Self-Esteem

Today, it's easier than ever to ignore our feelings. A bit of stress? Reach for the cellphone. We feel down? Brush it off. The problem is that when you don't put out a fire, your whole house burns down. Neglected thoughts arise in the body. Yet we feel like we're not allowed to feel different from the perfection advertised around, which is especially exaggerated through social media. If our feelings don't deserve to be acknowledged, why should our brains believe we should? Numbing hurts our self-esteem. Choosing to feel and asking for help gives our partners the chance to be there for us. It prevents many problems. And it makes it easier for them to support us, leaving us able to carry our own stable self-esteem. Remember RAIN: Recognize, Acknowledge, Investigate, and Non-Identify. We can use what we learned about habits to make starting this new trend simpler. The hardest part is often always starting!