People always ask us what it’s like to do our job. We get it. It’s a weird way to pay the mortgage. Our version of a business seminar is when we get to sit down with other creators and share our non-traditional job experiences. That's why we were excited to swap stories with fellow creators Kristin Hensley & Jen Smedley from #IMOMSOHARD on this week’s podcast. We guarantee these ladies will make you laugh, as we did PLENTY of times in this interview. You can find Kristin and Jen on the #IMOM...
Nov 02, 2021•48 min•Season 3Ep. 30
Penn and I have been married for 16 years, so we've gotten real comfortable with each other. So comfortable, in fact, that one day we realized... are we showing more gratitude and appreciation to a complete stranger than our spouse? In this podcast, we share our top tips to help when you are feeling a gratitude deficit and how to show appreciation more effectively. Leave a review or comment, and tell us how you make sure you show gratitude to your significant other! Thank you for listening! Your...
Oct 26, 2021•37 min•Season 3Ep. 29
This week we have Dr. Lisa Damour on the podcast, whose books have really helped us understand that teenage minds and bodies are going through A LOT. We ask her our questions about raising teens as well as questions we got from you! Having strategies from her to deal with the predictable stressors has been incredibly impactful--plus she has the most soothing voice. You can learn more about Dr. Damour (and her books and podcast) here: https://www.drlisadamour.com/. Thank you for listening! Your s...
Oct 19, 2021•56 min•Season 3Ep. 28
Penn and I went on Instagram to ask you about a time you took a huge leap and also what has held you back. (And wow, some of you guys are braver than we are!) We share your answers as well as our “pre-flight checklist” of things that helped us take a leap or things we wish we did. Have you ever taken a big leap? Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermessp...
Oct 12, 2021•35 min•Season 3Ep. 27
Surprise! This week the Holderness Family team steps in to share their favorite podcast moments while Penn and Kim are traveling. From funny to heartfelt, they guarantee these clips will make you smile. (And they promise Penn and Kim will be back next episode!) Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback: holdermesspodcast@gmail.com We wrote a book! Learn more here an...
Oct 05, 2021•37 min•Season 3Ep. 26
Have you ever realized the fights you have with your partner have a pattern? Taking a 30,000 foot view to look at stressful seasons in our lives and how that impacts our fights has changed our marriage. This week we asked our marriage coach, Dr. Christopher Edmonston, to join us on navigating fight cycles and patterns including how to approach and resolve them. Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider le...
Sep 28, 2021•47 min•Season 3Ep. 25
As our kids are getting older, we want to know the best way to support their athletic goals without pushing too hard. This week on the podcast, we spoke with licensed marriage and family therapist, Nina Westbrook, about the balance, the joy, and the struggles of competing in youth sports. Nina shares her first-hand experience working her way up to NCAA Division I Women's Basketball at UCLA. She also tells us how we can help navigate our kids through sports, other interests, and mental well-being...
Sep 21, 2021•44 min•Season 3Ep. 24
This week, Penn and I talk about how to really understand one another when in an argument. When you're in a fight, using the phrase “I’m Sorry” flippantly is really more about making yourself feel better than your partner. We used to use "I'm Sorry" as a "please-don't-be-mad-at-me-let's-just-let-this-go" Band-Aid, and it did us a lot more harm than good. Not taking the time to understand your partner can fester into having an insecure sense of attachment, among other things. Luckily, we have som...
Sep 14, 2021•31 min•Season 3Ep. 23
Would you rather potty train a toddler or teach a teen to drive? This week we have Dude Dad's Taylor and Heidi Calmus on the podcast to talk all about our different seasons of parenting. We discuss how we first met each other, what it was like to create content in a pandemic, as well as their new TV show Super Dad on Magnolia Network. (Yes, Magnolia like Chip and Joanna Gaines...) Penn also tells more than one poop story... we apologize in advance. You can find more hilarious videos from Taylor ...
Sep 07, 2021•45 min•Season 3Ep. 22
Right now, there's a trend on TikTok where people are sharing one small decision that changed the entire course of their lives. It got us thinking: What was that for us? Instead one small decision, we feel like we've made several big decisions that shaped who we are today. Join us for a storytime journey along all our forks in the road, including why Penn is solely responsible for Blockbuster going out of business. #donttrustthefart Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do...
Aug 31, 2021•44 min•Season 3Ep. 21
Why is it so hard to tell someone what you need? This week Penn and I break down a phrase we say often: “Mature people ask for what they want.” We talk about this as part of a chapter in our book, but we’re going to break down a few of the tips on the podcast. Also BREAKING NEWS! We just found out our audiobook is the Audible Daily Deal! If you’re listening to this on August 24th (the day this podcast came out) and you are an Audible Member you can get our audio book for only $2.95! Redeem the o...
Aug 24, 2021•35 min•Season 3Ep. 20
Let’s be real, middle school was (all-caps) AWKWARD. Between the braces (and for me, a bad perm) and hormones, it’s a wonder we survived. Michelle Icard has made it her life’s work to help kids through these awkward years. Bless. Her new book, Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen guides readers through the fourteen essential conversations parents need to have with their kids before they start high school. Also - her first book, Middle School Makeover: Improving the Way You and Your Child Experience th...
Aug 17, 2021•40 min•Season 3Ep. 19
In the past year we've spent more time together than ever before, so why does it feel like we haven’t had as many good conversations? You know I love a list, so I wrote these questions for an after-dinner discussion launching point. Penn and I decided to bring the discussion to our podcast and we learned a little about each other (which is a big deal because we’ve known each other for almost 18 years.) Here is a link to the 9 questions we asked each other: https://theholdernessfamily.com/9-quest...
Aug 10, 2021•30 min•Season 3Ep. 18
A major theme of this years’ Olympics has been mental health and the pressure athletes face. We wanted to know - what’s the right balance between working hard and performing, but also listening to your gut and taking care of yourself? On this week’s podcast, we have JJ Birden , former NFL player turned motivational speaker who talks to us about reaching your potential - especially as an underdog. Tune in to hear our conversation on Simone Biles, concussions, youth sports, a 31-year marriage, ado...
Aug 03, 2021•38 min•Season 3Ep. 17
For the first time ever, our whole family is on the podcast together! Lola and Penn Charles answer all your questions, including which parent they would take with them to a deserted island. What questions did we miss? We wrote a book! Learn more and if you've read it please leave us a review: http://everybodyfightsbook.com/ Thank you for listening! Your support means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedback:...
Jul 27, 2021•29 min•Season 3Ep. 16
Everyone has one of those friends who has you in stitches every time they open their mouth. For us, that guy is comedian and author, Charlie Berens . (He is also a journalist turned online content creator, kind of like us!) We ask Charlie where he gets that comedic gift. Turns out, it’s not about sitting around dreaming up jokes; it’s more about paying attention to the world around you. As one of 12 kids, he got plenty of comedic material... bless his parents. His new book, The Midwest Survival ...
Jul 20, 2021•38 min•Season 3Ep. 15
Til Death Do Us... Fart 💀 If wedding vows were realistic, what would they say? Penn and I rewrite our vows If we knew then what we know now. (Also is watching episodes ahead of your partner on Netflix the worst kind of infidelity? You decide.) We wrote a book! Learn more and if you've read it please leave us a review: http://everybodyfightsbook.com/ Thank you again for your support. It means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Join our Facebook family: www.fac...
Jul 13, 2021•30 min•Season 3Ep. 14
Penn and I get asked all the time, “How do you make so many videos all by yourselves?” The short answer is, we don’t do it alone. Enter Ann Marie Taepke and Sam Allen. We interview them and let them dish all the dirt on what it’s like to work with us. We wrote a book! Learn more and if you've read it please leave us a review: http://everybodyfightsbook.com/ Thank you again for your support. It means the world to us. Do you have ideas for podcast guests? Send us a note! Join our Facebook family: ...
Jul 06, 2021•46 min•Season 3Ep. 13
We talk about our recent trip to Florida then dive into why arguing with your family isn't the worst thing ever with Lynda Cormier. You can learn more about Lynda at: https://www.lyndacormier.com/. We wrote a book! Learn more and if you've read it please leave us a review: http://everybodyfightsbook.com/ Thank you again for your support. It means the world to us. Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Follow the journey on Instagram: @theholdernessfamily Find us on YouTub...
Jun 22, 2021•47 min•Season 3Ep. 12
The end of the school year is finally here, and I feel like we are crossing the finish line being held together with tape and glue. Last August, I wrote a blog post about what I hoped my kids would learn this school year. This week on the podcast, we revisited these goals for our kids and we asked our audience to tell us what non-academic lessons their kids took with them. We wrote a book! Learn more and if you've read it please leave us a review: http://everybodyfightsbook.com/ Thank you again ...
Jun 08, 2021•34 min•Season 3Ep. 11
Penn and I talk about our recent experience ON AN ADULTS-ONLY VACATION. (Yes, we actually left the house. I'm just as shocked as you are.) It was a fun and anxious rollercoaster of emotions. Can you relate? If you haven’t gotten our book, you can get $3 off on Amazon! Available for a limited time: https://www.amazon.com/gp/mpc/A1Q851OQRFV5B3 If you've read it please leave us a review! We hope you get a lot out of this book: http://everybodyfightsbook.com/ Thank you again for your support. It mea...
May 25, 2021•39 min•Season 3Ep. 10
Have you ever wanted to want "ice cream" more? Our friend and entrepreneur, Cindy Eckert, is back to talk more about Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder — also known as HSDD. Low sexual desire in women is a medical condition and there is something you can do about it. You can learn more about Cindy and her work at @cindypinkceo on Instagram or by visiting her websites at https://thepinkceiling.com/ and http://iwanticecreamagain.com/ . Get your copy of Everybody Fights here and if you've read it pl...
May 11, 2021•41 min•Season 3Ep. 9
Danielle and Adam join us to talk about their experience in marriage counseling and how to start more meaningful conversations with their new e-book, Date Night Questions! Pre-order Your Copy: https://www.marriageandmartinis.com/dnq Get your copy of Everybody Fights here and if you've read it please leave us a review! We hope you get a lot out of this book: http://everybodyfightsbook.com/ Thank you again for your support. It means the world to us. Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theho...
Apr 27, 2021•39 min•Season 3Ep. 8
Surprise! We're back to give you a free BONUS chapter of our audiobook. The lessons we learned in this chapter are something that we revisit often. Get your copy of Everybody Fights here and if you've read it please leave us a review! We hope you get a lot out of this book: http://everybodyfightsbook.com/ Thank you again for your support. It means the world to us. Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Follow the journey on Instagram: @theholdernessfamily Find us on YouTu...
Apr 13, 2021•51 min•Season 3Ep. 7
Penn and I celebrate today's book launch on this week's podcast and give you a free chapter of our audiobook. It is so surreal to say our book is here and we cannot wait to share it with you. Get your copy of Everybody Fights here: http://everybodyfightsbook.com/ . Thank you so much for your support. It means the world to us. Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Follow the journey on Instagram: @theholdernessfamily Find us on YouTube: www.youtube.com/theholdernessfamily...
Mar 30, 2021•50 min•Season 3Ep. 6
We discuss common marriage fights with Dr. Christopher Edmonston in advance of our book release. We also reflect on all the diary-level detail of our marriage in the book. Penn and I believe if our stories can help couples grow closer, this is worth it. WE WROTE A BOOK, GUYS! Get your pre-sale copy of Everybody Fights here: http://everybodyfightsbook.com/ Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Follow the journey on Instagram: @theholdernessfamily Find us on YouTube: www.y...
Mar 16, 2021•42 min•Season 3Ep. 5
As we approach the one year anniversary of the pandemic, Penn and I revisit how life has changed for us and we give an update on his parents. WE WROTE A BOOK, GUYS! Get your pre-sale copy of Everybody Fights here: http://everybodyfightsbook.com/ Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Follow the journey on Instagram: @theholdernessfamily Find us on YouTube: www.youtube.com/theholdernessfamily Thank you for being here! Would you consider leaving a review? We also love feedb...
Mar 02, 2021•32 min•Season 3Ep. 4
The adrenaline that fueled my productivity early in this pandemic is officially zapped. Penn and I talk about what we've been up to lately and how we've been getting through. WE WROTE A BOOK, GUYS! Get your pre-sale copy of Everybody Fights here: http://everybodyfightsbook.com/ Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/theholdernessfamily Follow the journey on Instagram: @theholdernessfamily Find us on YouTube: www.youtube.com/theholdernessfamily Thank you for being here! Would you consider lea...
Feb 16, 2021•38 min•Season 3Ep. 3
This week we caught up with our best friends, Page and Jake Fehling, on our podcast about their experience writing a book together... in a pandemic. It was refreshing to share some laughs and compare notes on what it's like to be productive with your spouse. Learn more about Holy Crap, We're Pregnant and get your gear here: https://holycrapbooks.com/ WE WROTE A BOOK, GUYS! Get your pre-sale copy of Everybody Fights here: http://everybodyfightsbook.com/ Join our Facebook family: www.facebook.com/...
Feb 02, 2021•55 min•Season 3Ep. 2
We're back for 2021, guys! As everyone knows, Penn has ADHD. Basically it’s his superpower. My superpower? Constant worry and dread thanks to anxiety. So how can we learn to work better together being so opposite? Marcy M. Caldwell, Psy.D, a licensed clinical psychologist who specializes in the treatment and assessment of adult ADHD, joins us to help tackle our different brains instead of each other. Learn more about Dr. Caldwell and her upcoming course at: https://www.addept.org/ WE WROTE A BOO...
Jan 19, 2021•40 min•Season 3Ep. 1
