On this episode, I interviewed Bella, aka Bellatrixortreat2 on Instagram. What you're going to find out from Bella is that nudity is not synonymous with sex. The internet right now is ripe with censorship and it's the lack of consistency that is really bothersome. Women, women of color, black women, trans and non-binary folx, all these content producers are forced to highly censor themselves online, and many peers who do not fall into those categories are not held to the same standards by the pl...
Nov 20, 2019•54 min•Ep. 44
I'm joined by a fellow Certified Sex Coach, Kristine D'Angelo, from Portland, OR. I wanted to have her on because I wanted another Sex Coach's perspective on the work we are doing, and current events. She's also the Coach I'm partnering with for a Couples Intimacy Retreat in Jamaica . She is doing amazing work to help make it a more sex positive world, one with less stigma, more normalization, and more pleasure. Mentioned in the episode: Couples Intimacy Retreat at Couples Tower Isle, Ocho Rios,...
Nov 13, 2019•57 min•Ep. 43
On this episode, I’m joined by two of the Barrier Babes. They are bringing sexual health to the Midwest! This organization was founded because Kansas City has a high STI rate and low budget for things like education or resources like condoms. I’m joined by CEO Madison Womack and Enviromentral Educator Michaela Mathiesen and we talked about condoms, period products, purity culture, the fallacy of the Magnum condom, and so much more. They also may have *finally* convinced me to try a menstrual cup...
Nov 06, 2019•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 42
Have you ever read a romance novel? This weeks guest is Sierra Simone, a USA Today Bestselling Former Librarian who spent way too much time reading romance novels at the information desk. She lives in Kansas City with her husband and family. We talked about what it's like being a romance author, how queer romance is taking off thanks to more diversity in the genre, but there's ways to get even more diverse voices, especially for women and men of color. Yes, men (15% of readers are male identifyi...
Oct 30, 2019•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 41
You've heard LGBTQIA, and sometimes people don't know what the last letter stands for. Courtney Lane joined me on this episode of Keep Them Coming for Asexualtiy Awareness Week. A self-described professional weirdo, she's a Victorian hair artist, historian, and an Ace (short for asexual), as is her spouse, and I was so grateful to have her on the show to help dispel myths, give some great perspectives, and to share resources. I feel way more informed after talking to her and I'm sure at the end ...
Oct 23, 2019•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 40
Foreplay is not just for early in the relationship before you have sex. Foreplay helps you connect, relax, and experience better pleasure. Today I'm discussing some of the reasons it's important, and a refresher on many of the ways you can use foreplay with your partner. Mentioned in the episode: Visit my Patreon page to become a supporting patron of Open the Doors Coaching. OMGyes.com – take a look for different ways to explore a woman's body. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/keep...
Oct 21, 2019•25 min•Ep. 39
Yoga teacher, life coach, public speaker, and author of Emotionally Bankrupt , Jennifer Martin joined me to tell her story of how she overcame eating disorders through stepping into her own worth. She now helps teach others by focusing on helping show them how worthy and loved they are so they too can overcome diet culture. Jennifer is trying to change the narrative around workplace dress codes as well. We talked about our personal coaching philosophies, including how self care is often about ra...
Oct 16, 2019•1 hr 12 min•Ep. 38
A good dating profile matters, but what really makes you stand out from the crowd? How do you showcase your personality in under 400 characters and 6 pictures or less? I'm giving you all my best tips for making your profile catch people's attention. Visit my Patreon page to become a supporting patron of Open the Doors Coaching. Find Sensatia Cabaret at sensatiakc.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming0/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming0/sup...
Oct 14, 2019•22 min•Ep. 37
There's a lot to consider when it comes to picking the right lube, that's why I've got Kelsey Beach, DPT back on. We are talking about a lot of information that you need to know about lube that is not on the bottle. She and I agree on one thing - lubrication has gotten a really bad rep. Everyone should be using lube!! It doesn't matter your gender or orientation, there's information on here that you need to know! Mentioned in the show: Visit my Patreon page to become a supporting patron of Open ...
Oct 09, 2019•52 min•Ep. 36
Cuffing Season! What is it? Should you participate or not? I took gave it some thought, took a stance, and offered suggestions for this fall and winter. I also took time to thank Dr Patti Britton and Sex Coach U as I have completed my program and I'm now a CERTIFIED SEX COACH!! Woot woot!! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming0/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming0/support
Oct 06, 2019•19 min•Ep. 35
My guest has been a Physical Therapist for 21 years, and she's done a little bit of everything, but Katy Rush decided to be a Pelvic Floor Therapist 16 years ago because she realized how underserved this part, our inner core, really was and how much it effects other areas of people's lives and health when something is off kilter. Did you know it takes a woman an average of 8 years to get to the point where she sees a pelvic floor therapist for her issues? This is why I'm having 2 on in a month's...
Oct 02, 2019•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 34
Most people would call Booker a boudoir photographer, but he's so much more. His work with intimate portraiture helps women, and even some men, with things like self acceptance, body positivity, and something that makes my heart happy, sex positivity! It's still World Sexual Health Month, so I am happy to round out the month with my friend Booker. We discussed the process of doing a shoot, why and when you should do one, and what he's seen from his clients after. "Sexiness cannot be given," he s...
Sep 25, 2019•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 33
I had someone ask me about why I made a recommendation on a lube, and since I'm super slammed finishing school with Sex Coach U , I gave a list of what I'm reading, watching, and listening to. Mentioned in the episode: Reading: Pleasure Activism by Adrienne Maree Brown Watching: Euphoria on HBO Listening to: Call Your Girlfriend on any podcast platform --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming0/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming0/support...
Sep 21, 2019•16 min•Ep. 32
LPC and personal trainer Jessica Nickels joined me for this weeks show. She's such a sex positive counselor I would love to just replicate her! Since it's still World Sexual Health Month, we discussed what sexual health means to her, how sexual illiteracy is playing out in issues with intimacy and healthy sexual expression, and that intimacy is more than intercourse. Hallelujah, Jessica! You're singing my song. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming0/message Support this p...
Sep 18, 2019•43 min•Ep. 31
Since September is World Sexual Health Month, I hosted Max Sheffield-Baird on Keep Them Coming this week. They shared a lot about their journey, including healing past trauma, exploring kink, why pronouns matter, and how the power of story can transform us. A night of incredible storytelling by Amanda Palmer at her June concert got both of us in the feels. AFP said, “If you can share your story, you must.” So thank you to Max for sharing their story with all of us. --- Send in a voice message: h...
Sep 11, 2019•59 min•Ep. 30
There is no magic wand that will change the world overnight and make it a safe place for trans folx. However, we have to start somewhere. What can allies do to learn more, to grow, and to create acceptance for trans and non-binary people in their lives and networks? One small action we can take is to start talking about our pronouns – She/Her/Hers, He/Him/His, and They/Them/Their, and I explain why it matters for cis gendered people. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming0...
Sep 08, 2019•19 min•Ep. 29
Two things you probably didn’t know before listening to this episode – there’s a World Sexual Health Day, and that there’s such a thing as Pelvic PT. I talked to Kelsey Beech, DPT of Foundational Concepts about why people need to think about their pelvic floor health. She explained what pelvic floor therapy is all about. Take note – this conversation is not just for women! Men have pain in their genitals too that can be solved by seeing someone like a pelvic floor therapist. Kelsey even taught m...
Sep 04, 2019•54 min•Ep. 28
Today I'm answering listener questions! The first was about what to do about body hair removal, so I reviewed lots of options, which includes maybe you don't remove it at all! The second listener question was from my first piece of "fan mail". The listener asked what they should do about a very awkward topic - the dude she's dating has a small penis. I love answering listener questions like this! Keep them coming by emailing me at kristen@openthedoorscoaching.com. Mentioned in the episode: The W...
Sep 01, 2019•25 min•Ep. 27
Ever wake up and think, "I just need to write a book about all my embarrassing sex stories"? Well, Shelby Simpson did, and then she turned her book tour into a stage performance that was absolutely delightful, funny, and oh so relatable. We talked about her journey to becoming an author, her travels around the world, why women talk about our embarrassing sex stories (and men don't) how she's not considered a "sexpert" and invited to talks that also happen to involved panels about dildos on a sti...
Aug 28, 2019•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 26
Your mom may have said to you before to "watch your dirty mouth". The only time I want you to watch your dirty mouth is when you're practicing how to say something sexy to your partner in the mirror. Dirty talk can actually enhance your experiences in the bedroom for a number of reasons, and if you're not any good at it, you can practice with Slutbot. Yes, there's a bot that can text you and practice with you so you can get really good at dirty talk without ruining the moment with your partner. ...
Aug 23, 2019•16 min•Ep. 25
As promised, here’s another perspective on poly life. Rose Hinsz AKA Rae AKA Self Care Siren is in the health and wellness industry like I am, but hey since this is a podcast about sex and relationships, she was on KTC to share more about ethical non-monogamy, and what she practices which is called relationship anarchy. We discussed her journey into this, because it’s not like she just woke up one day and decided she could love more than one person. Mentioned in the episode: Enbyby Wild Flower S...
Aug 21, 2019•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 24
If you’ve been considering a female led relationship (FLR), there are a number of things to consider. I discuss what it is, who it may be right for, a wide range of how this can be expressed and practiced, WIIFY, potential pitfalls, and how to avoid them. Mentioned in the episode: Yes, No, Maybe list: Download the PDF from Scarleteen.com Books about FLR – A Woman’s Guide To a Female Led Relationshipby Victoria West Visit my Patreon pageto become a supporting patron of Open the Doors Coaching. --...
Aug 16, 2019•26 min•Ep. 23
Jaree Basgall is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and a trauma-informed yoga teacher. Jaree offers an integrative approach to therapy, incorporating methods supported by neuroscience, including EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, Yoga, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, inner child healing, and mindfulness. Jaree has over 7 years of experience helping individuals who have been impacted by trauma, anxiety, and depression. Jaree’s primary intention is to provide a safe space where individuals fe...
Aug 14, 2019•51 min•Ep. 22
Many of us are not accustomed to tuning in to what our body is saying in situations. It’s often the first thing to say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ before we utter a word. Our bodies are constantly giving us signals, and some people call that their gut instinct. This brief exercise will help you become more attuned to what your body is telling you. With practice, you can learn to recognize physical signals and use them to make better decisions. Visit my Patreon page to become a supporting patron of Open the Do...
Aug 09, 2019•18 min•Ep. 21
Keli Jackson is a sexual health educator who has her own Pure Romance business. She’s been in the industry for over a decade. She helps women explore the most intimate relationships in their lives – those with their partners and those with themselves. That’s a really fancy way of saying she likes to help people have waaaay better sex! We talked about sex education, the orgasm gap, the hookup culture, why men often fear sex toys in their relationship, LGBTQ representation in her industry, and of ...
Aug 07, 2019•51 min•Ep. 20
Emily is a wife, mom, educator, and a listener of KTC. She and her husband lost a a child this year, and she reached out to me about being on the show. Content warning – we do talk about some heavy topics surrounding their loss, but there is a lot of beauty and healing in her story. We also discussed emotional intelligence, empowerment around childbirth, fertility issues, and even strayed into talking about some humanist principles. Visit my Patreon page to become a supporting patron of Open the...
Jul 31, 2019•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 19
Ever stand on stage next to a vibrator and talk about sex? Well, I did! During a storytelling performance of Shelf Life called Guilty Pleasures, hosted by David Wayne Reed, I told a room full of strangers a story involving sex toys, religious upbringings, purity culture, and finding inspiration. Mentioned in the episode: Sex Coach U Hitachi Magic Wand Visit my Patreon page to become a supporting patron of Open the Doors Coaching. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming0/mes...
Jul 26, 2019•18 min•Ep. 18
She may not like the title of “influencer”, but Teresa Maly surely is one! She’s a social media entrepreneur and blogger who focuses on health, fashion and body image. She really seems to try to help women from all walks of life love what they’ve got and feel good, in and out of their clothes, no matter their budget. Her story of growing up in a working class family in rural Iowa really shaped how he moves through the world, and we talked about her recovery from disordered eating, as well as bei...
Jul 24, 2019•56 min•Ep. 17
I talked with Ryan Westa of Neandertalk Podcast. He's the one that got me to finally start my own show! We talk about a lot...this is a long episode but we just couldn't stop chatting. He shared his perspective on dating as a single dad. I educated him a little about pelvic floor therapy, which is not just for women. Ryan asked about those gas station pills, you know, the "extenders". And while talking about my experience at Bonnaroo Music and Arts Festival, I talked about my first LSD trip. Men...
Jul 17, 2019•2 hr 21 min•Ep. 16
Since my last episode, some listeners have emailed me and said they wanted to know more about what the f*ck we were talking about with all this polyamory stuff. Here's a sort of beginners guide to ethical non-monogamy. Mentioned in the episode: The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy More Than Two by Franklin Veaux --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming0/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming0/support...
Jul 12, 2019•25 min•Ep. 15
