Today's episode is all about Kink in Kansas City aka The Paris of the Plains. Yes, for a long time, KC has been known for it's wild side, and Vicky joined me today to help me learn more about what's available for people. Whether you're just getting started moving from fantasy into play, you're curious about kink but don't know what's what, or maybe you're already into it and you don't know where to go for a dungeon or community. She's got the answers for you. So just check the show notes below f...
Sep 29, 2020•59 min•Ep. 74
It is pretty common for couples to not talk about sex. But why? Why is it so hard for some people?! Kristen dives into a few of the reasons why, and how to get past it, especially if you've been together a while and never had The Talk. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming0/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming0/support
Sep 04, 2020•24 min•Ep. 73
Tapping into feminine energy isn't just for female identifying folks, it's for everyone. This episode with Dave Witcher is about feminine energy and its ties to sexual energy, creativity, and much more. He left the tech sector 5 years ago, and we talked about his journey to living the life, from a dark night of the soul to finding peace. Dave and Kristen's talk about how to use this energy to empower your entire life. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming0/message Support...
Aug 26, 2020•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 72
What do you do when you're stuck doing the same positions in the bedroom over and over again? How do you talk about it with your partner? In this episode, Kristen explores why it's important to change it up, how to get past the awkwardness of discussing sex, and how to keep it interesting without feeling like you're constantly coming up with new ideas. Mentioned in the episode: SFW email newsletter for the curious . You can put any email address here you like. The Dirty Bird NSFW email newslette...
Jul 25, 2020•23 min•Ep. 71
Keep Them Coming is back after a brief summer break! Monique Waters LMT joins me to have a conversation about dating and race. In this very frank talk, we share experiences, fears, red flags, and so much more. We discussed the fetishization of black and brown bodies, what it means when you exclude races from your dating profile, and how to have talks about race with your partner, especially when you have different backgrounds. I believe that talking about race - the nuances of our experiences, t...
Jul 15, 2020•58 min•Ep. 70
From the history of the the phrase to how to better enjoy the position, no matter what's between your legs, Kristen has information and advice to help you get the most out of 69ing. It's June 9th, what better day to talk about one of her favorite sex positions? Mentioned in the episode: Anne-Josèphe Théroigne - Female French Revolutionary who had an interesting life and coined the term soixant-neuf . --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming0/message Support this podcast: htt...
Jun 09, 2020•30 min•Ep. 69
It's my masturbation month episode for 2020. May is National Masturbation Month and some people have asked me, "how did that get started?" There's certainly a month for everything these days, so I researched and shared it's origins. I found this sex toy company called TENGA who does research into masturbation and I divulged some sexy deets from their 2019 Self-Pleasure Report. I also discussed sex toys to make masturbation more fun, especially for men, lube, and some thoughts on what parents can...
May 16, 2020•23 min•Ep. 68
I was incredibly honored to have a new friend that I made on the internet on my show today. Her Instagram handle is @KCBirdGirl, but just for short, we'll call her Bird Girl. Bird Girl participates in rope play. She shared some of her experiences at a recent roleplay conference happened before the shutdown, of course. And she talked about having to really show up and be present and just be her true self. She had to work through some imposter syndrome. She shared how she finds that rope can be ve...
May 06, 2020•49 min•Ep. 67
We are still under a stay at home order, so the CDC has politely asked us to stay home and masturbate. Not just the CDC, several state agencies have put out requests for people to be more cautious with their sexual activity. Right now, a lot of people are not staying at home currently with a partner, so that has had some effects on people's buying habits. And of course, specifically what I'm talking about is sex, toys. Vibrators, dildos, sex toys, all the things are flying off the shelves. I don...
Apr 28, 2020•45 min•Ep. 66
Eric Thomas is the Board President of the AIDS Service Foundation. He came on the show to tell me more about the Foundation as well as AIDS Walk Kansas City. With COVID-19 and Kansas City's stay at home order, we're certainly not going to get thousands of people together for an in-person walk. We talked about the pivots that they're making to still be able to service their organizations that help people in the region, not only with their diagnosis, but with living full healthy lives with HIV and...
Apr 20, 2020•56 min•Ep. 65
You might notice that today's episode is a little longer than normal, and that's for good reason. I did the interview with Shelley Fritz originally in February, and life's changed a little bit. So what I have at the end of today's episode is a followup interview. I've never done this before, but I thought it was worth it because Shelly had discussed some things that she had coming up with some workshops, and obviously life's changed. Shelly is a holistic healer. She's a coach. She focuses on hel...
Apr 10, 2020•1 hr 16 min•Ep. 64
I want to talk about how courting is back! Basically, unless you are married or living with your significant other, everybody is in long distance relationship mode. So this episode is for you, whether you are single and you are on the dating scene, or you are in a relationship but you're currently separated, this episode is to help you all out. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming0/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming0/support...
Apr 01, 2020•21 min•Ep. 63
This episode is special to me. I interviewed one of my oldest and dearest friends and we just went completely off the rails talking about whatever just is kind of came to mind. You're really gonna feel like a fly on the wall between two best friends just go into town and telling sex stories - some that are hilarious, some that are cringe-worthy, some that were just really good learning lessons. But the main topic I had Kelly come on to talk about today was her experiences with cancer. She's had ...
Mar 25, 2020•1 hr 25 min•Ep. 62
I live in Kansas City, Missouri, and on Thursday 3-12-2020 our Mayor declared a state of emergency. Any events of a thousand people or more are banned, canceled, whatever. Who knows how far this is going to go, but we like to party here in Kansas City (it's also known as the Paris of the Plains), so a friend of mine is going to host a party at his office today. And of course he posted in the event on socials, "Will Kristen be talking better sex stuff in small groups? Come find out." Someone aske...
Mar 13, 2020•16 min•Ep. 61
Pegging, Part 2: a female perspective. This episode was a hell of a lot of fun to record. I learned so much. My guest, HardToHandle is going by a pseudonym because while we are talking about pegging, she's also going to talk about her cam work, as she does live cam work online. That was a really fun conversation talking about some of her experiences with camming and how she is building that into a side hustle. We told some funny dating stories, some good, bad and ugly ones, including some storie...
Mar 11, 2020•58 min•Ep. 60
My guest, Tim, came on this show to discuss a lot of aspects of his sex life, his marriage, and his relationships outside of that. We talked about pegging, rimming, and basically all things anal play, non-monogamy, amateur porn, BDSM, and so much more. I've said on my show before that I do not believe that monogamy is the only way to structure a relationship. So, if you are a monogamous person, I would simply encourage you to approach this episode with an open mind. I am not here to judge how an...
Mar 04, 2020•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 58
With a title like "let the bra revolution begin," you might think that this episode is just for the ladies, but let me tell you, it is not just for breast owners. Gentlemen, I think you'll enjoy this episode because, I mean, come on... We talk about boobs, a lot, about boobs, a lot about tits. I even strip down and get fitted for a bra on this episode. So if you want to hear me talk about my tits, you'll enjoy this episode. But beyond that, Kerry Phillips is an entrepreneur. She has started her ...
Feb 28, 2020•58 min•Ep. 58
My guest today shared some very personal stories of abuse while brief and short on detail, some listeners should consider this their content warning. Victoria Henderson is a burgeoning life coach, a trauma survivor, and a student of the universe. I gave her that moniker. She did not give that to herself. I think that thats that's a great way to describe her. And I think you will too, after you listen to our conversation, she dealt with abuse from both family and partners, but the bulk of our con...
Feb 20, 2020•57 min•Ep. 57
Nyla Foster is a youth advocate, community leader, and political activist. She is the reigning Ms. Black Trans International. She sued the state of Kansas and won, making national headlines and she helps LGBTQ youth in crisis in Kansas city. We talked about her trans experience, what good sex is like, sex parties in Atlanta, and staying in her feminine energy. This is not a conversation to be missed! Mentioned in the episode: You can find Nyla at www.nylafoster.com , Facebook as Nyla Foster, or ...
Feb 13, 2020•41 min•Ep. 56
Timmy Gibson, who is a fellow life and relationship coach here in Kansas city was on this episode of Keep Them Coming. I asked about his perspective about something - since he used to be a clergy person, I asked him what he thought about post-divorce celibacy. It was just an interesting topic to explore with someone who used to be a minister. We talked about divorce, building new lives altogether and even some of the stigma that that can hold for us as relationship, dating, and for myself, a sex...
Feb 06, 2020•56 min•Ep. 55
Have you ever felt completely stuck? As in, just paralyzed with fear and indecision, whether it’s about your relationships, your business, or both? Jennifer White is a fellow coach and entrepreneur and her focus with Clearing For Launch is not on launching new companies, but rather helping guide people through decision making to get some forward motion. We discussed ways we think gaining clarity can help your sex life and relationships. We also chatted about what effect relationship quality has ...
Jan 29, 2020•1 hr 28 min•Ep. 54
Ayurvedic health counselor and entrepreneur Jessica Rousseau came on Keep Them Coming to talk about sex! Sexual energy is such an integral part of relationships for most people. We talked about seasonal cycles of our intimate lives, how pelvic floor therapy and coaching helped her overcome vaginismus, and we revisited the notion of the patriarchal mother (Ep. 48 Mama Sutra with Natasha Ria El-Scari). Mentioned in the episode: Find Jess on her website vedajess.com or on Instagram @vedajess or Fac...
Jan 22, 2020•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 53
As you head into a new year, a new decade even, there are some things you may want to consider before setting goals for you and your partner. Assessing the state of your relationship takes care and compassionate communication. I walk you through how to not let it turn into an argument, how to pick your priorities for a stronger relationship together, and how to keep that change going well beyond winter time. Mentioned in the episode: Mating in Captivity – Esther Perel The 5 Love Languages – Gary...
Jan 15, 2020•26 min•Ep. 52
Christi Clemons Hoffman is a lifetime intuitive, teacher, and consultant whose passion is connecting people with their spiritual team. She’s a Reiki master, does hypnosis, and lives in Kansas City. We discussed our sacral chakras and how we often hold a lot of tension in that area due to shame and trauma. We also talked about how you can pull energy from your lovers, how you need to find someone who’s energy matches yours, as well as what akashic records are. You can catch Christi speak at the G...
Jan 08, 2020•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 51
Cici Glasgow is the Outreach and Education manager at the KCAVP. This non- profit organization provides dedicated services and advocacy to LGBTQ+ victims and survivors of violence. She is also a member of Alpha Psi Kappa fraternity which is an organization for masculine of center lesbian women in various identities. She is also one of the hosts of Lez Be Real, a queer women identified podcast. CiCi has dedicated her life to liberating her community in any facet possible. Freeing herself from her...
Jan 02, 2020•58 min•Ep. 50
Friend, fellow single lady, and total boss babe Karla Martinez joins me on the show today. She’s the co-host of Domingo-ing, a Spanglish podcast, creative writer, and strategic decision maker AKA corporate strategist by day, so of course we had to dissect some things like making the first move and qualities that we find desirable in a modern man. We also talked about what makes us swipe left or right, why it is so difficult to talk about sex and sexuality to our parents, and how to maintain frie...
Dec 18, 2019•56 min•Ep. 49
In this powerful conversation about parents, kids, and sexuality, I was joined by author, poet, feminist, and all around super badass Natasha Ria El-Scari. She recently wrote a book called Mama Sutra, Love and Lovemaking Advice to My Son. Her son came to her and helped her see she should write about the honest and detailed discussions they had, because children are little sexual beings who will one day grow up to be fully functions sexual beings, so long as they are given the tools to be good lo...
Dec 12, 2019•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 48
Some people think it’s a terrible time to try to date. However, as a dating coach, I disagree! Have a listen for ideas about where to meet people, how to date during the holiday season, and what do do if you’re in a new relationship. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming0/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming0/support
Dec 05, 2019•22 min•Ep. 47
She's back! Lauren AKA Miss Ugly Shoes joins me again for a review of all the top dating apps and sites out there. She even shared some stats that one of the sites sent her. She totally nerded out with her research, and I was glad she came on to share what she found, along with some personal experiences. Of course I tell some stories, too! We got a little tipsy enjoying some eggnog together, so have fun laughing along with us, or at us, whichever. Visit my Patreon page to become a supporting pat...
Nov 27, 2019•1 hr 30 min•Ep. 46
Many couples struggle with having the amount of sex and intimacy that they want. But how do you start having more sex? I offer a simple perspective to shift your mindset about scheduling sex. Visit my Patreon page to become a supporting patron of Open the Doors Coaching. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming0/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/keepthemcoming0/support...
Nov 22, 2019•15 min•Ep. 45
