Gaby's dog Beans has been acting out! Turns out dogs can get bored too! Allison and Gaby are then joined my Planned Parenthood's sex educator Dr. Sarah Flowers to discuss all things pandemic and sexual health. We're talking skin hunger, sex toys and decreased libido. And finally, HYPOTHETICALS. Sometimes your kid deserves toilet paper hanging out of their pants. Transcriptions: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1jjBBag6unI2n_dZT-9gmyUxtOEBKBtNx3fnAi1o84xY/edit?usp=sharing This has been a Foreve...
Mar 19, 2021•54 min•Ep. 105
Storytime! Allison suffered a massive knee injury in an airport bathroom and learned the extent of her resilience. A listener then asks for advice on whether they can continue watching The Bachelor despite its racism and toxicity. This causes Gaby, Allison and Melisa to go over their own problematic faves and whether or not to keep watching, listening or reading art by problematic people. Finally, the kindness of strangers and the thrilling conclusion of Allison's terrible, horrible, no-good, ve...
Mar 17, 2021•46 min•Ep. 104
First, personality tests. What's our enneagram number? What's our Myers-Briggs? Are personality tests even useful? Then, they're joined by relationship expert, columnist, and love coach Damona Hoffman who talks all about what makes a great, effective online dating profile, the skills you need to go from pre-date to pre-marriage, the racial biases of dating app data, and how to find exactly what you're looking for. Plus, hypotheticals starring a girlfriend in a coma and an alien who needs to make...
Mar 12, 2021•57 min•Ep. 103
Bangs or no bangs, that is the question? The girls start off the show with a VERY important hairstyle discussion. Allison and Gaby then advise a listener who feels guilty that she doesn't enjoy being around her partner's nine year old. And the episode wraps up with a lovely discussion of who we should or shouldn't judge. (Basically only people who aren't taking Covid seriously. WEAR A MASK PEOPLE.) Transcription: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1jy-ik0N3yZazGNVvm8tUqsi70LlrSOd_zc_kfr9RWpM/edi...
Mar 10, 2021•37 min•Ep. 102
Allison and Gaby are joined by bat expert and lover Merlin Tuttle. Merlin shares his own experiences with these incredible animals and explains why they don't deserve their bad reputation. He then plays an epic game of hypotheticals, which is almost as shocking as his bat facts! Merlin's famous bat portraits: https://merlintuttle.smugmug.com/Low-Resolution/Portraits/ Here's the video of a little woolly bat trying to train Merlin: https://youtu.be/zRSZjjubVe0 Of Agaves and Bats Film - https://vim...
Mar 05, 2021•57 min•Ep. 101
It's our 100th episode of the podcast, baby!! Gaby and Allison give a listener their thoughts on how to compassionately break up with someone who is still in love with them AND how to get back in touch with an old flame. Then, in honor of this special milestone, they share the best advice they've given and received and how that advice has allowed them to grow and change over time. Plus, Allison bought Melisa a Hinge Premium account for her birthday and we're all too invested in Melisa's love lif...
Mar 03, 2021•47 min•Ep. 100
A second hit of JBU?! How did you get so lucky! This Friday, we interview our highly esteemed guest, education activist Fatima Iqbal-Zubair. We discuss the history of inequalities in schools, the continued unfair disadvantages of schools in low-income communities, and what we can do to desegregate schools. Fatima then joins us for HYPOTHETICALS and RATINGS! That's right, we are making the guest rate the episode and it is uncomfortable! This has been a Forever Dog production Produced by Melisa D....
Feb 26, 2021•51 min•Ep. 99
Surprise! Just Between Us is now on both Wednesdays and Fridays. Twice a week, baby! On Wednesdays, we have international questions and topix. On Friday, our interview with a highly esteemed guest. Amazing! In this inaugural Wednesday episode, Gaby and Allison give advice to a listener who wants to maintain a friendship with her friend's ex and they get way too personal about their own break ups. Then, they talk about narrative therapy, the language we use to describe ourselves, and reframing ou...
Feb 24, 2021•49 min•Ep. 98
How do you know what to do with your life? How does work affect mental health? Are we more than JUST our jobs and education? Global Career Guy Brian Hutchison joins Gaby and Allison to discuss modern job counseling, prioritizing your health, and crossing your skills over into multiple career paths. But first, they give advice to a listener who is worried about bringing old baggage into new relationships. And finally, happiness! Does it exist?! Transcription: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Y...
Feb 17, 2021•1 hr 29 min•Ep. 97
Allison and Gaby try to help a listener who thinks she might be too self-aware for therapy to be helpful. They're then joined by Janet Hardy, the coauthor of The Ethical Slut, to talk all about kink, polyamory and word choice. And finally, fact vs. opinion. Why can no one seem to tell the difference anymore? (tw: d*ke and f*g usage during interview discussion). Transcription: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1CjVv8nXxQTQvLRJwowUzWIkrG0YbM-ZbOFQoG5M3k8M/edit?usp=sharing This has been a Forever ...
Feb 10, 2021•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 96
Allison and Gaby answer a listener's question regarding workplace activism and burnout. They're then joined by music writer Darryl W. Bullock (David Bowie Made Me Gay, The Velvet Mafia) to discuss queer music history and the impact queer people have had on all things music (in front and behind the scenes). And finally, memories! What do we remember and what do we wish we could forget? Transcription: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1kmqHT6RlQgk_yGFr_cSeSMxNWvE-0rllfMFXUBXFPvo/edit?usp=sharing ...
Feb 03, 2021•1 hr 21 min•Ep. 95
Allison and Gaby answer a listener's question regarding OCD tendencies and her family's (unfavorable) response to them. They're then joined by social psychologist Dr. Devon Price to talk about laziness (it doesn't exist) and the importance of context before judgement. And finally, found family! Who says you need to be related to be family? (Not us!) Transcription: https://docs.google.com/document/d/17mBt9rWtbbDFFZwXDS9uvzXdVDIxxWuEfHIPfy3gK9g/edit?usp=sharing This has been a Forever Dog producti...
Jan 27, 2021•1 hr 25 min•Ep. 94
Gaby and Allison answer a listener's question on how to spot and avoid toxic people. They're then joined by beekeeper and small business owner Jessica Gonzalez to talk about her CBD honey company and the intricacies of bee colonies. Finally, we discuss cultural identity, where producer Melisa D. Monts comes on to chat about how we see ourselves. tw: cheating, relationship abuse Transcription: https://docs.google.com/document/d/13b_soXkwObYPPI7Dkpz4cAlfLIrcjfrnn4V38LM0Q7k/edit?usp=sharing This ha...
Jan 20, 2021•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 93
Allison and Gaby try to help a listener who fears her partner isn't able to provide her the emotional support she needs. They're then joined by writer and cartoonist Ellen Forney to discuss her experience writing about and living with Bipolar I. And finally, exercise! How can we reframe it as something that nurtures our mind and body vs. a way to change how our bodies look? (tw: addiction, crime, weight, suicide) Transcript: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1rmtSR7FbrIIdhhEJZE6_bnjNKVSDnhAEH0J...
Jan 13, 2021•1 hr 25 min•Ep. 92
Happy 2021 Everyone! To start off the New Year, Allison and Gaby discuss a listener's email that brings attention to the existence of harmful therapy and institutionalization. They're then joined by one of the podcast's greatest guests of all time (in our humble opinion), disability activist Alice Wong to discuss ableism, covid and the importance of filling your bookshelf with diverse voices. And finally, compliments! The good, the lovely and the harmful! Also Allison reveals how she chooses the...
Jan 06, 2021•1 hr 35 min•Ep. 91
Gaby and Allison give advice to a listener who feels they can't make or keep friends because of their mental illness. Then, they chat with Caroline Rose Guiliani about being open about her liberal politics, her complicated relationship with her father Trump lawyer Rudy Guiliani, and growing up a politician's kid. And lastly, schemas. And how do they limit us? tw: suicide, transphobia Transcription: https://docs.google.com/document/d/11xJxlvPjjPNh5meaXg417nTCYOxFCW3NuHe2PLYmH5Q/edit?usp=sharing T...
Dec 23, 2020•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 90
Allison reads a listener's question about navigating and sharing her gender identity with their partner and Gaby takes the opportunity to share her own gender journey. They're then joined by occupational therapist Vanessa Gorelkin to explain what the hell occupational therapy is (and provide some much needed support to Allison). And finally, education! What's wrong with it and how can we reimagine what it means to learn? TW: transphobia Transcription: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1zRwnpaIY...
Dec 16, 2020•1 hr 21 min•Ep. 89
Gaby and Allison answer a listener's question on how to battle the monotony of working from home. They're then joined by podcasting icon, Sarah Marshall, to discuss the Satanic Panic of the 1980's and its connection to QAnon. And later: can we fix the divisions in this country? Or are there more important things to worry about? Trigger warnings: homophobia, child abuse. Transcription: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1bbEcnNaZLl6CK69MKQEDEs3OsvfDi2O7rf8Yr-c0N8M/edit?usp=sharing Listen to Just ...
Dec 09, 2020•1 hr 21 min•Ep. 88
Just Between Us is back, baby! And things are...not good. To start off, Allison shares some devastating news--her (former) fiancé decided to leave--and how she is handling it. Gaby and Allison then answer a listener's question regarding self-judgement and not feeling worthy of joy. They're then joined by Chloe from Stripper Stories to discuss sex work from many different angles. And finally: emotional support animals! Joy does still exist! (TRIGGER WARNING: Discussion of kink, murder) Transcript...
Dec 02, 2020•1 hr 22 min•Ep. 87
Gaby and Allison give a listener advice about battling imposter syndrome in the male-dominated field of quantitative finance. They then have a delightful discussion with Allison’s former middle school music teacher Mirna Valerio, who has since become a FAMOUS RUNNER due to her blog Fat Girl Running. Lastly, sexism in the media. How are female politicians, celebrities and astronauts treated differently? Also, we released this early because of the election. Oof. Good luck, America! (tw: fatphobia,...
Nov 02, 2020•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 86
Hold onto your butts, this one is a wild ride! Allison and Gaby start off by answering a listener’s question about people making assumptions that she is gay when she identies as straight. Gaby’s partner, Mal Blum, also pops in to help by sharing their similar personal experience! They’re then joined by podcaster Angela Tucker to discuss transracial adoption and why we might need to rethink hypotheticals. And finally, trust! Followed by Allison sobbing. We told you it was a wild ride! (tw: mentio...
Oct 28, 2020•1 hr 22 min•Ep. 85
Gaby and Allison give advice to a listener newly diagnosed with bipolar disorder that worries about disclosing it to the people in their life. They then talk to BOB THE DRAG QUEEN, of HBO’s We’re Here -- and one of Gaby’s favorite people -- about political drag, online cancellation, queers turning on each other and overcoming fear in order to do on-the-ground activism. (Omg!!! So exciting!!) Lastly, cognitive dissonance. What is it and how is it affecting the election? (tw: sexual assault mentio...
Oct 21, 2020•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 84
Gaby and Allison (and Tomeka!) advise an indigenous Mexican college freshman who is worried about her white roommate that only has white friends. They then talk to Bachelor Nation’s Bekah Martinez all about being a liberal on a conservative show, knowing when to speak up and what happens when you become famous very quickly. And finally, OnlyFans, celebrities and Gaby’s past experience with sex work. Let’s get into it! Listen to Just Between Us Ad-Free on Forever Dog Plus: http://foreverdogpodcas...
Oct 14, 2020•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 83
Allison and Gaby encourage a listener to tell her friend about her romantic feelings, even if it’s a risk. They’re then joined by healthcare expert Andy Slavitt to discuss Medicare vs. Medicaid, Biden’s health care plan and why America is struggling in it’s response to COVID-19. And finally, birthdays! Are they worth celebrating? (Short answer: YES!) Listen to Just Between Us Ad-Free on Forever Dog Plus: http://foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus FOLLOW JUST BETWEEN US: https://www.instagram.com/jbupodc...
Oct 07, 2020•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 82
Gaby and Allison give advice to a listener who wants to set boundaries around her boyfriend’s friendship with a girl who tried to sabotage their relationship. (YIKES!) They then speak to journalist Phillip Picardi about his new religion podcast, Unholier Than Thou, being queer and spiritual and how his relationship to God has changed over the years. Lastly, QAnon! What the actual fuck?! Listen to Just Between Us Ad-Free on Forever Dog Plus: http://foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus FOLLOW JUST BETWEEN ...
Sep 30, 2020•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 81
This week, Gaby and Allison help a listener who wants to speak more openly to her family about grief following her mother’s passing. They then speak to community advocate and city council candidate Nithya Raman about running for office as a woman of color, defunding the police and why it’s so important to care about local politics. And finally, a look at our values. Is it possible for them to align with our daily life? What are our values? (Mostly dogs.) (JK.) Listen to Just Between Us Ad-Free o...
Sep 23, 2020•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 80
Gaby and Allison give advice to a listener who is wondering if she should give up on dating apps. They then interview narcissism expert and author of “Should I Stay Or Should I Go?” Dr. Ramani Durvasula about the red flags of dating a narcissist, how to survive the toxic patterns of doing so and why expecting them to change is a waste of time and energy. And finally, body hair! Did you stop shaving during quarantine? Why did something so personal become so political? (Content Warning: Discussion...
Sep 16, 2020•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 79
Gaby and Allison answer a listener’s difficult question about how to let a date know you’re not interested in seeing them again. They then speak to Richard Rothstein, author of The Color of Law, about the long lasting ramifications of housing segregation by the American government. And finally, they discuss billionaires and boy, do they have a bone to pick! Plus, Allison’s dad, Ken Raskin, joins the podcast for Hypotheticals. Finally! (Content Warning: Discussion of racism) Listen to Just Betwee...
Sep 09, 2020•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 78
During the first live streamed episode of the podcast, Gaby and Allison give advice to a listener who is hesitant to start medication for her mental health. They’re then joined by Brooklyn 99 star and all around bicon Stephanie Beatriz to discuss everything from wedding planning to representation inside families. And finally, normal versus common: Why word choice matters! Listen to Just Between Us Ad-Free on Forever Dog Plus: http://foreverdogpodcasts.com/plus FOLLOW JUST BETWEEN US: https://www...
Sep 02, 2020•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 77
Allison and Gaby advise a listener who thinks her “feminist” mom is stuck in the second wave and won’t accept asexuality. They’re then joined by Theo Henderson to talk about his experience being unhoused in Los Angeles and how we can all help the unhoused community. And finally, writing tips and tricks! (Content Warnings: Discussion of food issues, transphobia, acephobia and violence against the unhoused) Donate to Theo and his podcast, We The Unhoused, below! Theo's Patreon: https://www.patreon...
Aug 26, 2020•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 76
