So I keep hearing about the Salt Lake City finale, and I have so many thoughts before even watching it. I'm going to watch it, and I'm going to tell you what I think after I watch it, but having not watched it, I want to tell you what I
think about the whole concept beforehand. Okay, So people like Jennifer Lawrence are saying it was the most riveting television they've ever seen, and you know how people like Julia Roberts on watch What Happens Live talking about housewives in general, and the medium and the genre has evolved, devolved changed,
and here's what I really think. So what was explained to me was that this girl seems like a sociopath and that she's the villain, she's happy to play the villain, that she was a show fan, that she had to hate account. People have hate accounts about me. People that I know on the Housewives have had many people who
have had hate accounts about them. And what I do know to be true is while you make some friendships, like friendships, like people that you can enjoy, people that I like, like Sonya, who I text occasionally, but not that I see every day, not people that you know you've been able to sustain as a ride or die. It's next to impossible to sustain a ride or die on the Housewives. So I know that Teresa and Melissa weren't BFFs, but like, it's really disintegrated their relationship. Look
at Dina Manzo and her family disintegrated relationships. Nini's been through so many relationships. It really took a toll on Jill and my relationship, which hadn't been going on that long beforehand. It didn't have the strong foundation that some might have before going in there, and still disintegrated Carol in myself. It goes on and on, Eric and List So we're locked.
At the hip. Best friends.
Yes they're friendly now, but they're not the same level of friendship. Because the show makes you need these alliances. It just makes the concentration strategic. And it's not intentional. It's not on purpose. You're not just saying, oh, sometimes you are. Sometimes people are being friends with someone or aligning or having allegiances or alliances because of the show. They know the show's coming back. They've got to have people to cling on to. Everyone's going to hate them
once everybody hates one person. It's a feeding frenzy. Every scene is about that. You know, what goes up must come down, and it's a zero sum game. Someone's always hated or loved. But what I will say is that it is next to impossible to sustain positive relationships, whether romantic. But that's easier than friendships because with romantic the spouse or the boyfriend is usually not is not the main character, so they can not film much and they're not as
much on the front lines. So now we realize that a lot of it's not real, that a lot of it's manufactured.
That people.
Go to jail, that people have sort of alter egos, that people have secret lives, infidelity, owe people money, have illegal practices, have different scandals associated with them. So we realize that a lot of this is fraudulent. We realize that people definitely don't have the money they.
Say they do.
They may not live in the cities they're pretending to live in, they may not own the houses they're pretending to own in or the cars they're pretending to own. So it's all pretty fraudulent and it's really for theatrics.
No problem.
The Hills was similar, So now we're trying to assign real relationships to a show that is based on casted relationships. The relationships and the friendships for the most part, and the tight knit aspect of.
The group is usually not real.
People become friends with the people, or spend time with the people, or have to go on vacation with the people because they're working with them, they're filming with them. It's no different than you working down the office from Jane that you may have to go to a company retreat with, or you may have to see in the breakroom, or you just see it work every day. You're not
hanging out with them or doing holidays with them. So now it's this alternate universe where you're friends with people, you're not friends with them, and it's the upside down because you think it's real and it's not. And I've never ever learned more about people than when we've gotten off the show. That's when I really start to like a lot of the housewives because I'm not on the battlefield with them. I don't have to see them either
as sort of a manufactured alliance or an enemy. They're just people that I know socially that I'll see out and I can appreciate for who they are. They don't have to be my everything, they don't have to be my nothing. So now you have a person who was a fan and wanted some level of fame and had accountants and wanted on that show so badly, and this
person got what they wanted. They don't care about any of these people, and maybe they're more authentic than most because they're walking into this experience saying I'm coming in, I'm on the battlefield. No one really cares about anybody else in this whole experience, So I'm gonna walk in that way. I'm walking in not giving a shit. I'm walking in casting myself not as somebody who's going to
be beloved, but as the villain. So while everybody's around here pretending everybody's best friends, and I've been filtrated this group of really good friends, which is bullshit because all these people are constantly trashing each other and fighting. Anyway, I'm walking in as a villain. So when I get caught as a villain, and I get caught as being someone who hates these people, I'm dispassionate because I never promised any of them anything.
None of them are paying my rent.
I came in here for fame, for relevance, for reality TV, the bag of bullshit that it is.
So this woman.
I haven't seen it yet, but from what I understands, it seems like a sociopath because she acted like she was friends with everybody and played this role where she was part of this group when she was really their enemy. I completely understand why this other woman, Heather, would feel completely violated, also by production and by the whole entire experience, because she feels like she's sleeping with the enemy. She's living in the same house with the enemy. But on
reality TV, most people are the enemy. I've seen people that have called up shows where I'm supposed to do a hosting gig for shows, called up shows these people are supposed to be my friends, and called up those shows and said, why Bethany not me, I'm so much better than her. I've had people call up brands that I'm working with and say why not me. I've had every single situation where different.
Housewives have trashed me.
I've had Andy Cohen trashed me to other housewives, and other housewives trash me.
To Andy Cohen.
This is what goes on in this environment. So for someone like Jennifer Lawrence. To love it as entertainment, that's one thing. But whether it's Jennifer Lawrence, Julia Roberts, or Jane in the cul de Sac in Ohio, they all need to know that these are actual, real human beings on these shows playing a role.
It's like, entertain me, you're in front of the king.
They're jesters. Entertain me at any cost. It doesn't matter. You're gonna go to jail, You're gonna be accused of something. Someone's gonna rat someone out, someone's gonna have a hate account on someone, someone's gonna say that someone's money isn't real. It's all's fair in love and war in this thing. And so maybe in some cases now I'm starting to realize that everybody, I guess does have to realize what they.
Sign up for.
I did not know that that's what I was signing up for all those years ago, which is why I left multiple times. So now I'm gonna say the public service announcement to anyone signing up for reality TV, you are signing up to possibly go to jail, be called a fraud, be called a cheat, or be called a liar, to be tempted to actually be a cheater, to actually be a liar, to want to pretend you have more money than you actually do, to want to rent cars, to keep up with the jones, is to have to
look rich. It doesn't matter if you are rich. It just matters if you look rich. It doesn't matter if you're a good person. It just matters if the audience thinks you're a good person. It doesn't matter if you're a villain. As long as you're a good villain that people love to hate. You need to be loved or someone who people love to hate. Don't get stuck in the middle. That's the riptide. That's when you get fired
from the show. So if you're trying to be famous and you're going in there and you want to be relevant, whoever that girl is, I think her name is Monica. She accomplished her goal. So I don't know if she's a sociopath. I don't know if she's a genius. It doesn't matter. She walked in, she was a nobody, and now everybody's talking about her, and she's a somebody. You go in, you have an affair, You fuck around with
somebody that you know. Alas Vanderpump rules, and the show has higher ratings and had so scandal sells, hate sells, hate accounts sell and evidently being a villain or being a sociopath also sells. It's all about the Benjamin's baby, It's all about business, the production company, Bravo, and that girl. They're all winning, and so are the victims. Heather's winning too.
Everybody's winning because none of it's real, none of it ever mattered, And no one should walk into reality television or the Housewives for that matter, thinking this is where you're going to forge real, genuine, authentic, meaningful, spiritual, deep relationships that enrich your life.
It's a cesspool, it's a garbage dump.
Go in there and get dirty and grab everything you can and pay those women anything that they want because they're in the mudpit getting dirty and it might.
Just affect the rest of their lives.
Exploitation with comp compensation, that's what they should get. So what strikes me about the Salt Lake City Monica character is that within the show, we're seeing these trolls that we see on tiktoks. There are hate pages about people. People host live instagrams and TikTok events where they just trash other people and speculate on their lives, their money, their sex, their relationships, and they thrive on it. And there are a lot of these trolls. This is a
very common thing. It's just that she's in plain sight. Now.
We see it all the time, people thriving.
And the funny thing about it is that everyone's acting so surprised because the name of the game on Housewives, the name of the game, the number one name of the game on.
Housewives is exposed.
Everybody's everything, So anybody would have exposed jen Shaw. This girl is just doing it as a sniper from the side. Everybody exposes everything. It could be something Luan's kids are doing. It could be something jen Shaw's doing. It could be something that anyone has in their past. Everything has to come to the surface on Housewives. That's what the producers want, That's what Bravo wants.
There can be no secrets.
Why is it that we have Teresa talking about Melissa's husband Joe and speculations about women that he's been with. Why is everybody always digging to look for stuff on Teresa's husband, Like everybody's acting like this isn't how everybody is And this is what the name of the game is. This is just a situation where the person didn't probably really as they'd ever get on the show, and they had this account doing it.
But you can ask anyone.
I've seen dms to and from Jill and Derinda and everybody from this franchise. With people gossiping, that's how people find a lot of their information. People civilians text Housewives and give them information and then they bring it into the show.
This happens with everyone.
This woman just reflects something that is completely rampant and that we've all seen a million times. It's just that now she's a cast member. That's what makes it so different. But I have had so many people from the show, Sonya, Derinda, all of them show me and talk to me about messages that fans have sent saying this is this, this one's doing that, Ramona is doing this, Sonya's doing that.
That's not real. This isn't real. That's not a real job, it's not a real product.
That business person really wanted to go into business with me, the Tipsy Girl guy, for example, that guy I wanted to go into business with. This one and that one and the other one. Everything about the Housewives is about information and dirt as currency. This is just the one episode that is highlighting and showcasing it, and the four women standing on the beach looking aghast as if this is something so shocking. They're just shocked that the wolf
is in sheep's clothing living in their house. But everybody is an iteration of this the sala He's crashed a party at the White House that they were grifters. Jenshaw went to jail for fraud. Erica Jane's husband was defrauding people out of their retirement and taking playing crash victims money. Dorrit and p K have been accused of owing people
money and things not being what they seem. Kyle's husband accused of infidelity, like Luan trying to Alley that Dennis and I were cheating while he was still married or because I was still legally married.
This is the name of this game.
So that's why when I see people like Jennifer Lawrence, who I'm a big fan of glamorizing it, or John Hamm or Julia Roberts, they don't realize what this entire cesspool that I was knee deep in the middle of for several years perpetuates and It was never as bad as it is now. It is another level now, Garcelle her Son, he was getting threats online. Wasn't Lisa werenna accused of being some account or of calling some publicist.
Wasn't the dog in Lisa vander Pump. Wasn't there a situation where there was, like some other publicists, the source talking about that dog or that situation with that dog gate It's endless. Was it Jill Zarren's assistant who asked for the funeral to be filmed? This is what this show is about. This is just the single crystallization of this aspect. Every successful member of this franchise is guilty of this crime.
Let's go back to the beginning. Let's go back to the book Coop.
Without a badge on the table to expose Danielle in her past engage, nineteen times criminal record, blah blah blah, Alex McCord nude pictures. That's what this show is about. And anyone that wants to pretend that this show is about female empowerment, women elevating women, women supporting women laws is delusional. It's about the demise of women. It's about the gotcha of women. It's about the trashing of women.
It's about the catching other women in mistakes. It's about finding out that someone's not worth the amount that they say they're worth, that they're sleeping with someone who they say they're not sleeping with, that they don't really come from where they come from, that their accent isn't really real. That's what the entire show is about. Accountability to the core, but to a damaging effect. People have gone to jail. Multiple people have gone to jail. How many mugshots like
That's what the show is about. So any person celebrating the show is celebrating that I walked out twice. Someone's got an addiction issue, someone's over consuming.
What's happening.
Is it being handled, No, it's being exposed. Is it under the guise of being for their best interest?
Baby? Is it truthfully? Just gotcha?
They say that they're recovering, and we know that they're drinking. Bring it to the table. When Jill's Arren and I came back after a summer hiatus, the first thing she said to me is you didn't call Bobby when he had cancer. It didn't matter if that was entirely true. The first thing I said to Carol when I came back, was that Adam wanted to be paid for a relief trip.
The point of the matter is the rules of engagement on the Housewives are dig up every piece of dirt that you can put it in the middle, because it takes the energy, emphasis, and focus off of you and puts it on someone else. What kind of worse example can we set for our daughters than that? Do another rant? Once I watch, I don't think it will be all that different.
Watch what happens.
So I finished the Salt Lake City finale, and it's a very interesting dynamic because the one girl, Monica, is the gossip girl, and it sounds like her account is definitely comprised of information from a lot of different people. That's what happens in this sphere. It's constant exchanging and lots of dms from civilians, from people in the Bravo
crossover sphere, and that's what basically happens. And that's why things like Bravocon really concentrate all of that, because Bravocon is like a massive Bravo trip, Like if the Real Housewives of New York go to Mexico, Bravocon is bringing all of the different shows into one place, so it's that in greater scale, and that's where all kinds of information is shared and everything does come to light. And this girl walked in as one of these troll blogger
people that takes other people down. She's just a Hall of Fame version of what all housewives do, which is constantly dig up and expose information about each other. This woman just did it in a very stealthy and sleuth like manner where she was the self elected villain who was going to accumulate all of this gossip about a bunch of different people. And it did sound like it did start with Jenshaw and she said the rest were collateral damage because people just talk about everyone. That's just
what this is about. And the name of the game is exposure. And all of the girls, I actually think the girls say, I don't know the show that well, but I've met Lisa and they all seem like fairly nice people overall. It's just the nature of this beast that it's killed or be killed. And they weren't very articulate in just screaming at each other and you're a piece of shit, and you're a piece of shit, And it did sound like there's a lot more under the surface.
And while yes, it's villainous and heinous and and you know, a very explosive finale, none of it's really surprising because it's just a crystallization, a condensation, an ultimate reflection of what this entire atmosphere is about. And there are no secrets and anybody who decides to do this show needs to just know that because they're all just playing the game well, which is why they're now going to have
a reunion about this. And I don't even know that the girl will be asked to leave the show or they'll have something of her next year. Probably a lot of people won't film with her. It's shocking, but it's not ultimately it's shocking. It was like shock value, but it's not ultimately surprising because it's just a more I keep saying, concentrated version of what's going on everywhere in this space.
Is it disgusting? Yes? Do any of these women need to adore this? No? Do they choose to endure this? Yes? Are they being paid to endure this? Yes? Is any of it real?
No? Because you're going on TV and you're doing press about this, you're perpetuating this you're being paid to dig up all of everybody and yourselves dirty laundry. Jennifer Lawrence and Julia Roberts get to play other characters.
They don't have to be.
On screen playing themselves in the name of the game called gotcha and trash somebody else, So you're not getting trashed in that moment. It's just all strategy. It's just all hunger games and Game of Thrones. And when we first started out years ago, it wasn't like that because it wasn't just there wasn't decades and hundreds of women's worth of cattiness and competitiveness and jealousy and bringing the worst out in women. It just wasn't like that. It
was a fresh, blank slate. And then add social media, add fake Instagram, TikTok accounts, ad trolls, add cyber bullying, add all of it. People are miserable, and people viewing this it makes them feel better. It's just gossip that's
not on them. It's the same thing in a macro scale, like the people viewing at home, it's like, thank god, they just don't have to talk about what's going on in their own lives or their infidelity or their miscarriage or their financial issues, because they get to talk about the people on the screen, so they don't have to be the one in their own call de sac being
talked about. This is just a gigantic public cul de sac where you just want the bag of shit to be on anybody but yourself, and this one girl was holding many people's bags of shit. She's got the bag, you know. It's basically, let's take it all of the bag of shit. But that's what the whole entire thing has been for years, whether it's Teresa's tax evasion, Jenshaw being a criminal, Luan going to rehab getting arrested. That's what the show's about. Don't be so surprised. Just think
about it. I'm not defending a sociopath or a troll or a person who runs hate accounts. That's an animal in and of itself. I'm just saying that every woman who is so aghast at this compilation of information all does the same thing, just not in one concentrated format. It's just that this is a switchboard for all this
gossip about this one group. This hate account is just a formalized accumulation of hateful gossip, which is what The Housewives is all about all day, air day with every woman doing it to each other in the name of ratings and money. Successful accounts like Desmois are basically a combination of sources that provide vetted information about different people in the media, reality television, celebrities, etc. And then that
information is combined and then disseminated to the public. And that's a real credible site that has a podcast, and they're giving the tea. They're basically spilling the tea that they've collected from mostly reliable and credible sources with some exception. So the fact that an entire cast and society would be agast at this, people are just aghast at the
fact that this girl got away with it. But what she got away with was doing a combination and a culmination of the same thing every other person in this entire medium and genre does. Was it any different than when everybody had you dig to the bottom of the
barrel and get all the meat off the bone. As to what Kathy Hilton did or did not say to Lisa Rinna in that van an Aspen, or what happens on The Real Housewives of Orange County when the cameras go down after dark, and the girls are using their personal phones to film everything that happened because it all has to be spilled out onto the table. Nobody's safe, nobody's secrets are safe. So this was just somebody that orchestrated and organized it and pulled one over on anyone else.
And I'm not saying any of it's right, because it's all disgusting and I was part of it. But I'm saying no one should be shocked and aghast, and that this girl should not be excommunicated from this church any more than anyone else. That would just be bullshit. Let's not forget this is the name of this game. Please
do not act, Please do not act surprised. But also people who are for female empowerment and women supporting other women shouldn't pretend that this genre and this vehicle does that, because this is part and parcel for what this entire medium does.
No surprise is there