Welcome to it's a Single Mom Thing , the show for single moms by single moms . This is Share your Host , and I am happy you are here today . Remember it's a single mom thing and not the single thing that stops you as a single . Have you ever wondered what in the world are we waiting for in this single season ?
Are we waiting for HE double hockey sticks to unfreeze over ? Seriously , as single , my guess is , you are no stranger to the expression . You are in a season of waiting . Well , how does that resonate with you ? I'm curious . Do you like me ?
When you hear the word waiting , do you think of I don't know , being stuck in a small room with 103 degree fever , chills , body aches , runny nose , constant cough with other germs ? You don't want Just waiting to be seen by a doctor , whether it's an urgent care or an ER . You've been there .
You want to be seen , you want to be heard , you want your medicine and you want to get out of there and you want to get on to being better . Am I right ? Or is your version of waiting more like stuck in a rush hour traffic for an hour to get to your destination that is only 10 miles away ?
Maybe today I'm being a little over sensitive or cynical , but if I'm honest , I generally don't think of the word waiting as a feel good word . It's more like are we there yet or how much longer . It's kind of like when a person prays for patience . You know what I'm talking about .
You are going to wish you never prayed that prayer when God has you go through what A season of patience . To me , waiting is kind of like that One long , endless winter season with no patience . Listen , I live in Florida , so I don't have to deal with the winter season . I'm just saying .
But as I sit here and write by the shoreline , as the thick fog rolls in covering up the sun , banking down on the water , so I can't even see where the fog ends and the waves begin , I begin to wonder maybe it's me that can't see Meaning . Maybe the season doesn't need to change .
Maybe it's me that needs to change the way I think about the season , getting out of my head and getting on with my blessed life . Welcome to another episode of it's a Single Mom Thing . Seasons change , so why can't we ? Seasons come and go , but sometimes we don't go with it . We stay stuck in a season . For me it's spring .
Spring is my favorite season as everything is new , fresh , abundant and vibrant . In Florida . If you get to experience the spring as it's usually one long , hot summer here you enjoy being outside all day with no humidity , no sweat , no sweater and endless sunshine .
It is easy , breezy living , the birds are chirping , the air is crisp , people are cheerful riding their bikes , working in the yards , at the park or even the beach . Oh how I love me some spring and oh how I hate when it ends . Honestly , in Florida , spring may only be like two weeks long , as we don't have many seasons here other than summer .
So when it's spring , a sister gets sprung . Now , like I said , I live in Florida for a reason , but at times , especially after the summer we had last year , it was one long waiting season . You wait till the last two hours of the day before you go outside your AC-filled home and you are waiting months before there is a break in the weather pattern .
Now , if you're listening in a different part of the world or a different part of the United States , your summer may be more like a winter . You wait for the weather to change so you can change your clothes and go outside . Now can you see some similarities to the way you experience , let's say , those seasons .
With your season of waiting , do you find yourself anxiously sitting inside , just waiting to get outside , waiting for the temperature to change so you can go do what ? Do what you want to do In this season of waiting ?
Are you two waiting on another person to be present before you live your blessed life as singles , especially if you've been single for a while , it can be easy to get caught in the trap of I will do this when that person comes or I will be happy when that person comes .
Waiting becomes about a time , a season , when that person shows up , so you , so we never show up in our present season , and who knows really what presents remain unfound in this season if we're never there to unwrap them . Maybe there's a gift of solitude , courage , confidence , humility , forgiveness , reconciliation , recovery or even living a limitless life .
Think about it . Who knows what blessings your present life has for you ? And who doesn't love some presents ? I think Christmas is about the only time I was excited about waiting , because I knew they were going to be presents , and not just one , several of them .
But listen y'all , if we are never in the present , then we are never there to receive the blessings from what the present moment offers . Why ? Because we're looking for a person who currently is living in another dimension of time . Now , that is seriously messed up , if you really wrap your mind around it , pun intended .
So , yo , what if this season never changes ? Or what if it doesn't change anytime soon ? What are you going to do ? You're just going to keep living on ice ? Or do you need to change ? I know I do . Is now a good time ?
As a single , it's easy to forget that your life doesn't begin or end with another person showing up , especially when the longing has gone on for a long time . We have to be mindful not to have this abundant savings account that holds all our joy or fullness of time to a time when that person is presented . Nor do we change when another person shows up .
We are just simply happy they showed up . Listen , you know , I know that the future person will only compliment us . They won't complete us . Only Jesus can do that , and he can do that now . Now , some of you listening may still be dealing with the after effects of Valentine's Day and may find this message timely but painful , as you have been waiting .
So I want to share with you what several of my formerly single friends , now married , have said to me . When they found their random man that's what I like to call them Each of them would say girl , I was walking my walk when one day I turned to my right and I noticed my random man walking right next to me .
I promise you , I was doing my thing and he was doing his thing , and we both took notice and nodded at each other . Now they too struggled time to time with the waiting , but the secret they learned and shared was not to let their blessed life wait until another person showed up . They lived their blessed life .
Now Is now a good time for you as single parents . You have your blessed life right in front of you . You have your gifts from God that he has entrusted you to care for .
Listen , you know better than I you don't become a better parent when you find someone else to parent with you , to pay the bills with you , to adapt with you through the many seasons your kids will go through . Now you may think it may get easier , but honestly it may not .
It may add another next level of heartache trying to fit another person , their children and their plans into your family equation . In this present moment , you are blessed . Right now you have your breath , you have your babies and you , hopefully , are filled with the best helper , the Holy Spirit .
If you know Christ , if you don't stay with me to the end of the podcast , I need to connect you with some Christ . For those listening in the US , you are blessed beyond your belief , living your blessed life Even if you are down with the struggle . It is better than how the third world struggles . I'm just keeping it 100 here .
But if your mind is in another time or future season , then you are missing the magnificence in this one . You are missing what Jesus wants to give you now . And here's a fun fact the future only shows up as the present . Are you ready to come back ? And when you do , just so ?
You know you may find yourself wandering to the future again , but the good news is your present never leaves you , even if you left it .
So when you do come back , or if you are there right now with me , how about we just come back to living our blessed life , and not one defined by a season , one that is not defined by waiting , but rather living as the seasons change and Punx-a-Tonny-Fill just revealed to us that spring is near . How about we change with it ?
Maybe some of us , and that's me included need to just live and let others live right where they're at , too Meaning you're random man or woman for the fellow's listening In time , when God sees fit , they won't be in your future . They will simply be in your present , living their blessed life next to you . So stay present , my single peeps .
You won't want to miss them and you don't want to miss your present moments . So so long to our season of waiting as we get out of our head and get on with our blessed life . Now Want to live your blessed life now Want to learn more about this helper , the Holy Spirit . You got questions , we got answers . Call us day or night at 855-822-Pray .
We are here to help you find Christ in your crisis and the true love who has been waiting for you . Have a wonderful week and remember it's a single mom thing and not the single thing that stops you . Thanks for listening to . It's a Single Mom Thing . I hope you enjoyed our time together .
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