Welcome to it's a Single Mom Thing , the show for single moms by single moms . This is Sherry , your host , and I am happy you are here today . Remember it's a single mom thing and not the single thing that stops you Now . Picture this You've been married 19 years . Your stay at home mom , have two fabulous kids , now teenagers .
You have dedicated your life and your savings to your husband's emerging career , cooked countless meals , kept a tidy house and everyone healthy . You host dinner parties for people you didn't know and don't care to know , aka your husband's work family . You make sure your family has everything they need and think very little of your own .
One week before your platinum 20th wedding anniversary , you'll wonder to yourself is this the year that he surprises me with the romantic vacation for two ? I have been waiting and we have been saving for On the day your marriage turns 20 , you make sure the house is extra specially kept , as you are too .
You put on your best dress and your best face as soon you will be face to face with the love of your life . Excited , you hear a car door shut , taking notice that your husband has come home early for work while the kids are out with friends , you peek outside the window and notice that he quickly turns around , as it appears he has forgotten something .
As he heads back towards his car , you gleefully think to yourself why he never comes home early , and certainly never before the kids . Oh , I know , he remembered , I am certain of it . You cheerfully sigh . Oh , I just love my man . And to think I have 20 or more years with him . Oh , yes , girl , yes .
As he grabs the door handle , you grab a quick peek and look in the mirror as you check out your dress and your lips . Excitedly , he walks through the door , takes a step closer to you and , with an immense expression of passion on his face , you close your eyes as you wait for the words to roll off his lips , softly touching yours .
There's a long pause , a sigh , a faint smell of your favorite cologne , the warmth of his breath and the vibration of his words that tickle your neck I want a divorce . Brother , say what ? Yes , I want a divorce . I'm not happy and I don't love you anymore . Husband say what I have spent the last 20 years of my life For what A love like that .
Welcome to another episode of it's a Single Mom Thing . Yes , girl , yes . All too often , as of lately .
This is the cry I have heard from an emerging group of single mothers , many who are close in age to me , who now find themselves in this single situation and , to be fair , it is a cry that isn't necessarily gender bias , as it is now happening to husbands too , as we have noticed more single fathers in our divorce care classes than ever before .
No matter how the relationship ends and the single situation begins , it is heart-breaking to witness the devastating hurt from a love like that , especially when it happens before the next season of life . You know the one when the birds prepare to fly the nest and you are preparing to be in an empty one with your spouse Love Loss .
If you have been tracking with me for the last 99 episodes , you may have noticed there are many crooked paths that have led to one person becoming a single parent , all sharing the same feelings as they experience love loss .
Not just love loss for the relationship , whether married or not , but a love loss for the person you were once in love with , the life you had and the one you now don't want .
Love loss for even friends or family that were once tied to you as a part of your wedding knot , the co-workers you hosted , opening your heart and home too , the things you once enjoyed to do with your family , and the few occasions alone with your spouse , even the church and church family you shared your life and many memories with .
As you sit in the pew alone . And , yes , a love loss of the greatest love and relationship you have ever known . Jesus . You love nothing and no one , possibly not even yourself . Love loss for a love like that , it is easy to quickly backside and become bitter , developing a root of disdain , despair , hate , jealousy and judgment for all those around you .
You did everything right , but yet life seemed to go wrong for you your friends who are still married planning upcoming graduations and vacations , while you sit at home writing a short resume , trying to stand apart amongst other applicants your age or even younger , not sure how you're going to pay for a graduation party or where you soon will live as he gets the
marital home . You have love loss and not sure if you ever want it back . Love finds a way , dear friends . You may have love loss , but love hasn't lost you .
No matter where in the hurt you are , you need to know he is there with you , sitting right beside you For some of you listening , the love loss may be so great that you don't even feel him , and that is perfectly normal . Know that where you are is normal , and so are you .
You , my sweet friend , have experienced a great loss and a life you were so certain would continue on , now coming to an abrupt stop without your participation or solicitation . Much like the physical death of a loved one , a part of you too has also died . The feelings are the same , although the situation is different , but you will rise again .
Ahead of you is time you will need to spend grieving the loss of once was , but it will be time well spent . You will rise again . There is an awkward pleasure that awaits you as you uncover and discover the purpose in this pain that is preparing you . You will rise again .
There is a strength that walks on with you as you continue on the straight and narrow path with a partner that has never left your side nor will leave you . You will rise again , much like on Friday . Your Sunday is coming . Sunday is coming . A great light dawns in Galilee . Some say madman , some say king , wonder-working rebel priest , jesus Christ the Nazarene .
He knew well what it would take to free us all from sin and grave , a perfect man would have to die , and only he could pay that price . Friday's good cause Sunday is coming . Don't lose hope . Cause , sunday is coming . Devil , you're done . You better start running Friday's good cause . Sunday is coming .
So he let those soldiers take him in as his friend betrayed him with a kiss there before the mocking crowd , like a lamb to the slaughter , didn't make a sound . Then he carried that cross to Calvary and he shed his blood to set us free . As the nails went in and the sky went dark , the redemption of the world was on his heart .
Friday's good cause Sunday is coming . Don't lose hope . Cause Sunday is coming . Devil , you're done . You better start running Friday's good cause . Sunday is coming . Then he breathed his last and bowed his head . The son of God and a man was dead , with bloody hands , tears on their face . They laid him down inside that grave . But that wasn't the end .
That wasn't the end . That wasn't the end . Let me tell you what happened next . The women came before the dawn to find that stone already gone . When they looked inside , the angels said why you looking for the living among the dead ? He's alive . He's alive , hallelujah . He's alive . Give him praise , lift him high , hallelujah , he is alive . He is alive .
He is alive . Hallelujah , he is alive . Give him praise , lift him high . Hallelujah , he is alive . Hallelujah , hallelujah . Don't lose hope , cause Sunday is coming . Hallelujah , hallelujah . Now Jesus reigns upon the throne . All the heaven sings to him alone . We watch and wait , like a bride for a groom . Oh , church , arise , he is coming soon .
If you are familiar with these words , you know they are lyrics from well-known Christian artist Phil Wickham . I did you a solid by not singing them to you . You are welcome , but they are not Phil's words either per se . He's just retelling the greatest story , the greatest love story that continues to be told .
My single peeps , if you are his , your Sunday is coming . You will rise again . Because he has risen . Love found a way to conquer death , to conquer your sin , to conquer your divorce , to conquer your love loss , to conquer your bitterness . Love wins and love will breathe new life back into you , even after the death of your marriage .
You may have my sister may have spent the last 20 years for a love like that , but you have a worry and pain . Free eternity ahead of you . Oh yes , with Jesus who loves you like that . Do you have questions about Good Friday and the Sunday that is coming , easter , call us at 855-822-Pray and learn more about the gift of love that awaits you .
Dive deeper in some inspiration and information , taking an e-course on what's the big deal about Jesus . Visit us at Shepard's Village University by visiting sb-universityorg Looking for a divorce care support group near you .
Visit divorcecareorg and , of course , come back this Easter Sunday for our 100th episode and some special love that awaits you from my friends at Indian Rocks Christian School . Have a wonderful week and remember it's a single mom thing and not the single thing that stops you .