💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina ! When people you love, even people in the church, don’t show up for you in your hardest seasons, the ache runs deep. In this episode, I share my own story of unmet expectations, quiet grief, and how Jesus became my true Good Samaritan: seeing me, stopping for me, and carrying me when others passed by. You’ll learn how to hold grief and gratitude together, release bitterness, and receive the healing presence of Jesus in places where people fell short. Le...
Sep 02, 2025•14 min
📞 Book a 1:1 call! Schedule here You know he’s not good for you, so why do you still think about him? If you've ever found yourself craving attention, safety, or affection from someone who hurt you, this episode is for you. In today’s conversation, I’m unpacking: - How I started to recognize addictive patterns and anxious attachment - What your cravings are really trying to tell you - Why your nervous system might chase the familiar, even when it’s painful - How to respond with love, not shame,...
Aug 26, 2025•15 min
📩 Want to talk with me 1:1? https://calendar.app.google/v7dKcC7aZVfH8YHL8 You cut off the relationship. You’re doing “the right things.” But the ache? It’s still there. Why do I still miss him? Will this longing ever go away? Yes, the ache is real. But it’s not about him —it’s about what you’re truly wired for: emotional intimacy, safety, and being seen. This episode is your gentle guide to reclaiming that connection… without outsourcing your worth. 💡 Here we explore: Why missing him doesn’t m...
Aug 19, 2025•17 min
📩 Want to talk with me 1:1? https://calendar.app.google/v7dKcC7aZVfH8YHL8 You cut contact. You deleted the number. You swore you’d never reach out again. So why does it still hurt? Why do you still miss him? I get it. No contact isn’t a quick fix. It’s like withdrawal. And healing is about way more than blocking someone. In this episode, I’m sharing: Why cutting contact can still leave you craving him What helped me actually move forward The difference between willpower and inner transformation...
Aug 12, 2025•13 min
Ready for your first step? Grab the Coming Home to Jesus Workshop here! Everyone talks about earning back trust from your spouse after an affair. But here’s the truth no one tells you: before anyone else can trust you again… you have to learn how to trust yourself. In this episode, I’m sharing why rebuilding self-trust is the root of true healing—and how to take small, safe steps toward integrity and alignment with who God made you to be. You’ll learn: ✅ Why obsessing over your spouse’s trust ke...
Aug 05, 2025•18 min
Ready for your first step? Grab the Coming Home to Jesus Workshop here! What if your continued struggle isn’t a sign that you’ve failed… but a sign that you’re still becoming? In this honest and hope-filled episode, I share what it means to walk through the messy middle without shame. You’ll learn how to reconnect with your future self, care for your body and spirit, and return to your values without trying to “fix” yourself. This is for the woman who feels tangled, tired, or tempted to give up....
Jul 29, 2025•20 min
Ready for your first step? Grab the Coming Home to Jesus Workshop here! If you’ve just ended an affair—or maybe you’ve confessed and you’re still spinning in shame—you might be wondering: Where do I even start? I know what it feels like to be frozen in confusion. To believe you have to fix everything. To feel like you’re the problem. But healing isn’t about fixing your marriage first or spilling every tiny detail. Your first step is coming home to yourself and God. In this episode, I’ll share wh...
Jul 22, 2025•15 min
Ready for your first step? Grab the Coming Home to Jesus Workshop here! What if repentance wasn’t about shame—but about coming home? In this tender and truth-filled episode, I share what it means to return to God not with guilt, but with grace. Through my own story of wrestling with desire, honesty, and identity, you'll be invited to reframe repentance as a loving homecoming, not a spiritual punishment. Whether you're still in the affair or navigating the ache afterward, this episode is a safe, ...
Jul 15, 2025•12 min
Ready for your first step? Grab the Coming Home to Jesus Workshop here! You thought things would get better after the confession. But now? You just feel stuck . In this episode, I speak directly to the woman still in the middle- maybe still in the affair, maybe just out of it, still wrestling with shame, spiraling thoughts, or disconnection from God and herself. You’ll hear my story of getting unstuck , the moment I finally found support, and how transformation often begins in the quiet, hidden ...
Jul 08, 2025•16 min
Ready for your first step? Grab the Coming Home to Jesus Workshop here! After an affair, it’s easy to withdraw, thinking you're protecting yourself or others. But withdraw turned isolation keeps you stuck, while solitude creates space for healing. In this episode, we explore the subtle but powerful difference between the two. You’ll learn how to recognize when you're numbing or hiding, how to build healthy rhythms of solitude with God, and why safe community is essential to your healing after in...
Jul 01, 2025•18 min
Ready for your first step? Grab the Coming Home to Jesus Workshop here! After betrayal, the shame can feel unbearable. You wonder, Who even am I now ? In this episode, we explore the shock of your choices, the myth of the "good girl," and the invitation to rebuild your identity through the eyes of grace. You're not beyond redemption—and you're not alone. If you’re asking, “How could I have done this?” then join me! In this episode, we talk about the identity crisis that follows infidelity, how s...
Jun 24, 2025•16 min
Ready for your first step? Grab the Coming Home to Jesus Workshop here! You finally told the truth. You thought it would bring peace. But now you feel more confused, ashamed, or overwhelmed than ever. This episode is for the woman who confessed her affair and is now wondering what comes next. I’ll walk you through why confession is only the beginning, what real healing looks like, and how to rebuild trust in yourself and intimacy with God. Next steps: ✨ Your first step toward healing starts here...
Jun 17, 2025•22 min
Ready for your first step? Grab the Coming Home to Jesus Workshop here! If you’ve been trying to fix your marriage, your emotions, or your image… and you're exhausted, this episode is for you. Healing doesn’t start when everyone else changes- it starts when you slow down enough to listen to you . In today’s honest conversation, I’ll share how I stopped overfunctioning, started trusting the Holy Spirit within me, and began healing from the inside out. The first step isn’t doing more—it’s getting ...
Jun 10, 2025•21 min
Ready for your first step? Grab the Coming Home to Jesus Workshop here! Sister, this episode has the MOST downloads of all time, so I know that it resonates with many of you! Are you stuck in an affair and wondering how to get out? Who can I talk to, and where can I go where I won’t be judged or feel shame? Let me reassure you now- not everyone gets access to your heart and story! Today I dive into the very FIRST step of finding freedom, and that is finding and creating safe spaces in your life....
Nov 05, 2024•12 min
New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com Friend, if you follow my Instagram stories ( @kristinajoycoaching ) then you know I've begun working with a fitness coach. I've worked with personal trainers before, but in this season of life, it's hitting differently. Having walked through several years of a healing journey, I found so many similarities between the personal growth of my heart + soul and the growth of my physical health. So today, let me be a tour guide that tells you ...
Oct 29, 2024•14 min
New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com Sister, today's episode is unique because I want you to think about sharing it with a friend. Is there something you wish your friend knew about your marriage or affair? Or is there something you want them to understand now that it's in your past? These are my top 8 things I wished my friends knew before, during, and after my infidelity. I pray they help you begin a conversation and reconcile a relationship. SHAME wants to keep you hidi...
Oct 22, 2024•15 min
New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com Friend, I'm getting honest here and sharing a few of the lies I believed during and after my affair. In my healing journey, I've learned to 1) become aware of my thoughts and 2) repent of the lies I come into agreement with. SHAME wants to keep you hiding. I'm here to help you expose what's in the dark so you can begin to walk in Truth and freedom. Always remember: You are not alone! xoxo, KristinaJoy Next Steps : New Devotional-Journal...
Oct 15, 2024•15 min
New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com Have you ever stopped to consider the thoughts and stories you let race through your brain all day? Can you answer the question, What are you thinking about your marriage? Or the affair? Or yourself? I want to challenge you to consider that your thoughts about a situation are not Truth. But you CAN pause and consider- are these thoughts serving me well? Are they Truth? Or should I gain some clarification and more insight? Your thoughts ...
Oct 08, 2024•14 min
New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com One of the greatest pieces of advice I've been given on my journey is: Honesty is kindness. It took me a while to grow into that, but when I did, it radically changed things for me. It all starts with honesty. Yes, speaking truth instead of lies, but also speaking UP instead of hiding in fear and shame. Who do you need to be more honest with right now? And always remember: You are not alone! xoxo, KristinaJoy Next Steps : New Devotional...
Oct 01, 2024•15 min
ONE spot left to begin coaching in September! Let's connect HERE ! One of the biggest lessons I learned after confessing my affair and beginning my healing journey was that God wasn't interested in an agenda. He was not in a hurry for me to heal. He was after my heart, and He wanted me to slow down enough to hear Him. So what did I do while 3 kids were in school and the baby was napping? I sat at my kitchen table and opened my Bible. I didn't have a plan to follow. I just listened for what He ha...
Sep 24, 2024•15 min
ONE spot left for coaching in September! Let's connect HERE ! One thing I hear often is some rendition of "I really miss my affair partner, and what can I do about it?" First I'm here to tell you- it's a completely normal response. And the good news is, you don't have to stay stuck in that feeling! Let's chat today about how your feelings stem from your thoughts, and your thoughts come from an identity issue. Always remember: You are not alone! xoxo, KristinaJoy Next Steps : Interested in coachi...
Sep 17, 2024•16 min
Looking for immediate coaching? Let's connect HERE ! When was the last time you "stopped to smell the roses"...or the dandelions? What's the big deal about these weeds anyway? And what's that got to do with healing from an affair?? Today, I open up my journal from the season after ending my affair, and I share a way that God spoke to my heart through a flower. I guarantee you'll never look at a dandelion, or yourself, the same way again! Always remember: You are not alone! xoxo, KristinaJoy Next...
Sep 10, 2024•16 min
Looking for immediate coaching? Let's connect HERE ! The question that prompted today's episode came from real people with real stories. We live in a world with hurt. And unmet needs. And people who are willing to meet those voids - whether or not they should. But what do we do with the butterflies in our stomach? How do we handle the compliments that are truly flattering? Let's chat, sister! And always remember: You are not alone! xoxo, KristinaJoy Next Steps : Interested in coaching? Let's Con...
Sep 03, 2024•15 min
Looking for immediate coaching? Let's connect ! I was an adult when I learned "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" was a lie! Words have the power to bring life or death . And that goes for the words you speak as well as the thoughts you think. So today, let's chat about how words can change your perception of a situation, your health and the health of those around you, and your identity. That's a HUGE one. I'd love to know your answers: What labels do you need to ...
Aug 27, 2024•16 min
Sister- I am THRILLED to be back with you! Summer was a time of great refreshment, and I'm excited to get back into routine and hanging out with you each week. In this episode, I wanted to break down what I mean when I say Intimacy After Infidelity . It's important to know because that's what I'll be talking about and coaching about! So come hang out with me in all the different ways! And remember, You are not alone! xoxo, KristinaJoy Next Steps : Interested in coaching? Let's Connect Join our s...
Aug 20, 2024•13 min
Friend, I am so grateful Jesus was a human just like us. That means I can study Scripture to see what He did, and I want to do that too! One thing Jesus did was have regular times of REST. He got alone. He prayed. He listened. He enjoyed God's presense, on purpose. I'm so excited to do that too. Stay tuned for future episodes of Intimacy After Infidelity- after this season of resting in God! As always, you can still message me and find me in the Facebook Community . You are not alone!...
May 24, 2024•8 min
What is it that you really want? Could you describe your ideal life and family in detail? If not, it's time to get serious about dreaming with God again! "Your body cannot go where your brain has never been." Today is all about coloring in the picture of your life and marriage. Begin to tell your brain what is safe and familiar and what YOU choose to pursue. No more letting old patterns control you. Come share your answers in our community! You are worth dreaming with Daddy, my sister! And alway...
May 04, 2024•20 min
Do you cringe at words like boundaries or rules ? I do! But when I reflected on that because I was looking for a new M.O., I realized, I need structure and support . Ahh, that feels better. Last episode we talked about a plant and how we can choose success in thriving instead of failure to thrive. Now, let's dig deeper into some practical applications of what that might look like for you! Come share your structure in our community! You are a beautiful and precious flower, my sister! And always r...
Apr 27, 2024•16 min
Do you cringe at words like boundaries or rules ? I do! But when I reflected on that because I was looking for a new M.O., I realized, I need structure and support . Ahh, that feels better. Today, let's dive into an example of a plant and how we can choose success in thriving instead of failure to thrive. Next week, we'll dig deeper into some practical applications of what that might look like for you. You are a beautiful and precious flower, my sister! And always remember: You are not alone! Co...
Apr 20, 2024•18 min
Last episode, we talked about getting out of your head and taking back control of your mind and thoughts. Today, I think it's equally as important to talk about our bodies. God made our bodies and called them very good . But do you ever struggle with wanting to go back to your former way of living? The one that didn't honor your body how God intended? Join me as I walk through a few Scripture passages and remind us of what God says. Stop focusing on the past. We have a new nature, created to be ...
Apr 13, 2024•19 min
