On today’s episode, Sam describes why pronouns and treating our non-binary family with care is of great importance. Then we air a gender 101 from Rob & Sam. We get into transgender identities, non binary identities, pronouns, biology, gender roles, biological sex, the animal kingdom, and much more! Relevant Links & Notes: Merriam Webster on “they” as a singular pronoun: https://www.merriam-webster.com/words-at-play/singular-nonbinary-they The original, un-truncated version of 54 Genders ...
Feb 03, 2021•59 min•Season 7Ep. 4
This week we’re talking about the high demand for sperm donors across the US, lesbian rabbits, punani scented candles, couples therapy but as friends, the danish kids show about a big dicked man and much more. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/YJr1wUpioW0 Self Care Tip: Learn more about breast cancer & genetics in the Black community: https://www.instagram.com/p/CKVIPyJgFPR/ Animals do be Gay tho: Lesbian Wabbits Fuck is this?! (Pop culture ridiculousness): Gwyneth Paltrow’s vagina candle e...
Jan 27, 2021•1 hr 28 min•Season 7Ep. 3
Portland has the most strip clubs per capita out of any city in the US. Portland also has severe issues with equitable work conditions when it comes to Black and indigenous sex workers. On this ep we speak about these work conditions as well as the Portland strippers and labor organizers who are leading the PDX Stripper strike — A movement that seeks to create fair working conditions for Black & Indigenous sex workers. Our guest is regional stripper award winning Cat Hollis of the Haymarket ...
Jan 20, 2021•1 hr 20 min•Season 7Ep. 2
The hoes chat about managing your time in the new year and beyond, Tech giants anti sex work pro white supremacist histories, the gen Z romantic ballad Throat Baby, a queer black feminist review of CyberPunk 2077, PLUS using kink to work thru sexual trauma. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ALvPLSmYIpc Self Care Tip: Clear your mind and schedule deeply in the future Fuck is this?! (Pop culture ridiculousness): An in depth analysis of the song “Throat Baby” Fuck That (Currents Events): How Insta...
Jan 13, 2021•1 hr 30 min•Season 7Ep. 1
On today’s episode What would you do if a test could scientifically locate your SOULMATE. That’s the premise of AMC’s latest sci fi anthology series from one of the brains that brought you Black Mirror. This week two futuristic hoes are gonna review that series and discuss some themes like compulsory monogamy, faith, psychopathy, and if the grass is really greener on the other side. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/YPZ4vGGObSc Self Care Tip: Get the conversation started at your VIRTUAL dinner ...
Nov 26, 2020•2 hr 27 min•Season 6Ep. 42
We’re talking all about reproductive rights. Specifically the United States history of Eugenics and sterilization abuse, Climate Change and negative birth outcomes for marginalized people, and the myth of "over population." Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/czxrs6tDCSM Fuck It (Topic of the Day): Points of discussion include Eugenics, scientific racism and sterilization abuse in the United States; climate change, extreme temperatures, air pollution, Wildfires, flooding, hurricanes, environmenta...
Nov 18, 2020•1 hr 21 min•Season 6Ep. 41
The non monogamous homies, the fight for LGBTQ Philly Foster parents rights, a discussion of adopting and fostering, 3 parent families, very queer families, single parenting and more! Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/P7g2pS809uE Bae of the Week: Ruby B Johnson and the homies at Poly Dallas Millennium Fuck That (Currents Events): The Supreme Court Case reviewing LGBTQ foster parent rights in Philly Fuck It (Topic of the Day): The hoes talk about what makes one ready to be a foster parent & ...
Nov 11, 2020•1 hr 7 min•Season 6Ep. 40
How and why to get active locally in your community, People are STILL f*ckin but STD rates have taken a nose dive, a review and reminisce session over the UPN classic Girlfriends and much more! Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/SVDDgUDrBAI Self Care Tip: How and why to get active locally Fuck That (Currents Events): The Amount of sex people are having remains consistent and yet STD rates are dropping. We talk about why the is an the social implications of that. A$$ Media (Content Reviews): Toda...
Nov 04, 2020•1 hr 35 min•Season 6Ep. 39
Safe happy hoe-lidays, the self proclaimed badly behaved gay Nigerian fighting to #endSARS, Queer antagonistic Egyptian police departments, Lesbian and Gay Penguin babies, Horror films about killer weaves and sex demons, a little bisexual insecurity, and much more! Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Jkj-wEb60Sg Self Care Tip: How to Make the Holidays Special Bae of the Week: Matthew Blaise @matthew.blaise Fuck That (Currents Events): Egyptian police are targeting LGBTQ folks using dating apps, a...
Oct 28, 2020•1 hr 13 min•Season 6Ep. 38
Movin dat body during the 2nd wave, very dope research about black girls sexual health and substance abuse, fucking roommates during the pandemic, who else is fuckin and a possible HSV1 cure. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/t1pYkqYuwZM Self Care Tip: Some ideas on moving your body during the pandemic and a reminder to do body scans. Fuck That (Currents Events): Gene editing may cure Herpes Simplex Virus 1 and who all is having sex during the pandemic according to Match.com Fuck You (Your Live...
Oct 14, 2020•1 hr 23 min•Season 6Ep. 37
The most magical of all dykes, sex tourism in Africa, #WINTERISCUMMING and how to prepare for it, moving in with a partner, abuse in the era of ebola and much more! Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/gEV4LhmWLSo Self Care Tip: Some tips to help you prep for another isolated winter in the era of dat rona Bae of the Week: @majic.dyke on Instagram Fuck That (Currents Events): White European women are driving sex tourism in Gambia & women in the DRC are calling out abuse at the hands of WHO and ...
Oct 07, 2020•1 hr 20 min•Season 6Ep. 36
The importance of Black Women's stories, our fav 1970s era sex worker, stanning bad binches, reproductive rights in San Francisco, LGBTQ seniors, boring yt films, a whirlwinds of a pandemic romance and more! Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/SWmIjT8Ks9k Self Care Tip: Immerse yourself in the stories of Black women (and pay and support them!) Bae of the Week: Diamond Stylz, Janina Jeff, and Estephanie and Lina of Bag Ladiez Podcast Fuck That (Currents Events): San Francisco’s new research study ...
Sep 30, 2020•1 hr 9 min•Season 6Ep. 35
The hoes chat about sex budgets! WTF is that and how do you create one. THEN. Single parenting. What are the societal, financial, romantic factors to consider when you take the plunge into child rearing solo. And much more! Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/4cTZThYw7NU Self Care Tip: For to create a budget and then specifically, how to create a sex budget Fu*k It (Topic of the Day): A deep dive conversation on the choice to become a single parent. Points of discussion include: Artificial insemi...
Sep 24, 2020•1 hr 39 min•Season 6Ep. 34
On this episode our resident agender firefighter speaks on gender reveal party fires, quit charging LGBTQ people with sex crimes just for being queer, a discussion on dating top secret LIARS, plus doing the work to heal trauma and discussion of the book “The Body Keeps the Score”. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/zLyXu3LZ9Hs Fuck That (Currents Events): A discussion on gender reveal parties, the history and creator of gender reveals, trans exclusionary feminism, gender stereotypes, transphobia...
Sep 16, 2020•1 hr 32 min•Season 6Ep. 33
This episode we’re talking about phallus meat delicacies, finding Black friendship as a chronic loner, suicide prevention month, and an understated love story about an undocumented Filipino trans caretaker in Brooklyn. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Q_LdnJaBgUk Self Care Tip: Akua gives a community and collective care reminder for suicide prevention month Fuck That (Currents Events): A woman finds what she believes is a penis in her bean stew. Plus we talk all about genitalia delicacies from...
Sep 10, 2020•1 hr 17 min•Season 6Ep. 32
This episode we’re getting into our futuristic hoe bags and getting into biohacking 4 sex. Today we’re touching on aspects like nootropics to boost libido, cyborg clitorises, access in marginalized communities, ability, gender affirming hormone therapy, extra limbs for play time and much more. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ovAITUX62U4 Self Care Tip: Grief podcast playlist via Berry: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/30HHeLABxCoCXhG4FgkezV Fuck It (Topic of the Day): The hoes dive into bioha...
Sep 02, 2020•1 hr 40 min•Season 6Ep. 31
The splendor of merging self love and artistic ventures, how mattress sex can get you paid, gene edited babies, what happens when white women tell stories about Black women’s traumatic histories, and a review of the documentary "You Belong to Me: Race, Sex, and Murder in the South" Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/y1xhuTUL4RA Self Care Tip: Sam talks about the benefits of centering your own likeness in your art. Fuck That (Currents Events): The new study that pays “couples” $3000 to have sex o...
Aug 27, 2020•1 hr 31 min•Season 6Ep. 30
New Relationship Energy, what is it, how does it drive your budding romance and what impacts it can have on the rest of your life, PLUS have you got a good morning routine? We’ll were gonna talk you thru developing one AND we answer the age old question “Where is the Ass in 2020”? Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/9i-6Xqjsel8 Self Care Tip: Everything you need to know to set up a good morning routine Fuck It (Topic of the Day): Rodecka, a self proclaimed serial monogamist unpacks the concept of...
Aug 19, 2020•1 hr 16 min•Season 6Ep. 29
The beauty of interlocking genitals, hobbies for hoes, a review of a film all about a middle aged leaving the bullshit behind to find herself, trying times as a Black femme in the very white Southwestern United states, and much more! Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/_bUq9V47ESQ Self Care Tip: Get a Hobby Hoe! Fuck That (Currents Events): The new pandemic phenomenon of UK couples getting plastic surgery in order to “interlock” their genitals for better sex. Topics: interlocking genitals, Vagina...
Aug 12, 2020•1 hr 21 min•Season 6Ep. 28
The beauty of modern medicine and penis arms, The Black Sex Workers Liberation Rally in NYC, Shadow work and self acceptance, poly communities, LSD, trying times as a Black femme is a very white Southwestern United states and much more. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/3F8-hJ6OrcE Self Care Tip: Practice shadow work Fuck That (Currents Events): An English Man has a new penis grown on his arm after losing his to sepsis. & The Black Sex Workers Rally for Liberation & info about the Walki...
Aug 06, 2020•1 hr 26 min•Season 6Ep. 27
It’s summer body season! But what does that really mean? We’re talking all about insecurity. And we’re touching on topics like Body Dysmorphia along the way. PLUS, the racial origins of fat phobia, why clothing is political, An update on Chrystul Kizer, and the never ending struggle to chill thee fuck out. IHU WILL BE ON BREAK UNTIL AUGUST 2020. PLEASE DELIGHT IN OUR 200+ EPISODE BODY OF WORK UNTIL WE RETURN. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/smeEjYlc_90 Bae of the Week: Jari Jones Fuck That (C...
Jul 01, 2020•1 hr 19 min•Season 6Ep. 26
Imani State of Mind is a new podcast from Stitcher that demystifies mental health and wellness in an accessible and approachable way. Dr. Imani Walker (Bravo’s Married to Medicine ) equips listeners with the right language and tools to normalize this stigmatized topic, in addition to finding laughter and light in navigating these struggles. Listen now in your favorite podcast app!
Jun 26, 2020•7 min•Season 6Ep. 25
The hoes chat about the racial impacts of climate change on Black birthing people, power play inside and outside the bedroom, how to date and practice self love when you’re Black in a sea of whiteness, some self care tips on how to further your education, PLUS a review of Disclosure, A new Netflix doc all about transgender depictions in film and television. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/RUSK1zrMd6E Self Care Tip: Educate yourself. Akua offers some tips on how to use continuous learning as a...
Jun 24, 2020•1 hr 24 min•Season 6Ep. 24
The hoes chat are celebrating recent wins in the Black Trans community and shouting out the folks who made them possible, doing a deep dive on the concept of hypersexuality, talking about normalizing consent and boundaries in casual dating, saying no to dating people we don’t vibe with, PLUS a review of season 2 of the Netflix series Dating Around. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/bPGG37t00tA Bae of the Week: The folks who planned the Brooklyn Liberation March for Black Trans lives, those behi...
Jun 17, 2020•1 hr 24 min•Season 6Ep. 23
The hoes talk about about love and Black joy in the midst of resistance, homophobic and transphobic hypocrisy, a breakdown of why the decriminalization of sex work is very much a part of the movement to defend Black lives, activist overload, plus we offer some advice for a first time threesome. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/VrGfl_WIGF8 Our show notes and list resources that supplement this episode are a available in a google doc here: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1WR-mIu5b2_oCVhJXGkxM...
Jun 10, 2020•1 hr 46 min•Season 6Ep. 22
Today’s episode is a REWIND of an episode hosted in 2016 by Sam and Shanika all about the importance of an intersectional feminist approach to revolution as well as the necessity of self care in times of resistance. The intro to this episode features Sam, reiterating the ways in which we must look at this moment as it pertains to all Black folks — because whether you’re aware or not All Black folks are suffering under an unjust policing and criminal justice system. Sam also gives out a list of o...
Jun 03, 2020•1 hr 48 min•Season 6Ep. 21
The hoes chat about risk mitigation via quarantine pods and secksbuddies, unpacking ableism in your sex life, our good ol friend ethical non-monogamy, a reminder that you are not your trauma, some walks down memory lane, PLUS we fucked up ya’ll and we’re gonna address it and apologize. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/qY1oeeL7xrg Fuck That (Currents Events): How global governments are (or aren’t) advising citizens on engaging in partnered sex during the pandemic. Plus we discuss the move by so...
May 27, 2020•1 hr 25 min•Season 6Ep. 20
The hoes chat about romance addictions, do you have one -- what’s the science behind that b*llshit and how to deal with it. Plus, a review of the new Netflix film that puts white heteronormative Rom Coms to shame, healing from trauma whilst understanding hyper-sexuality, and the cutest Black Feminist virtual date in the history of all virtual dates. Watch on Youtube: https://youtu.be/-F3r-dDfXVQ Fuck It (Topic of the Day): Rob does a deep dive into addictions to love and romance. A$$ Media (Medi...
May 20, 2020•1 hr 6 min•Season 6Ep. 19
The hoes chat about Sam’s new fav podcast all about infidelity in Queens, NY, the laws jeopardizing the wellbeing of survivors on college campuses, Black women flying planes outchea, A new resource for domestic violence victims in quarantine, dating a narcissist -- revisited, healing broken family relationships and much more! Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/UQQAAROcF3A Self Care Tip: Free Uber rides available for domestic, sex violence survivors in Michigan during coronavirus pandemic Fuck Th...
May 13, 2020•1 hr 13 min•Season 6Ep. 18
The hoes talk about the ins and outs of virtual sex parties, self care tips for survivors of sexual assault, SXSW’s sexy short film selections, missing periods, how to keep the fire burning when you and your partner are quaranting apart, growing tired of masturbation and much more! Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/2xhlnLyrjRE Hoe(s) of the Week: Caroline (North Cackalacky), Joesphina/@xitsjoey (Hunter), Kaysie (KZ), Calvin Peirce Jr (C Jizzy), Aish (Ish), Aurelia (lee lee), Angelica (Pickles),...
May 06, 2020•1 hr 17 min•Season 6Ep. 17
