Do you want an alternative to New Years resolutions? Do you dread staying up for NYE? Do you want to know how to make the most of 2022 Then this episode is for you. In this episode, Michelle talks about what she does at the end of every year to take all the lessons and learning from this year into the next. She shares why yearly reviews have become a lovely ritual for her and why she places less importance on being awake at midnight and that the mentality that how you spend your NYE determines t...
Dec 30, 2021•14 min•Ep. 10
Do you believe there are good or bad people? Do you think you aren't judgemental? Have you been saying this is a bad year? Then this episode is for you. In this episode, Michelle talks about how the labels 'good' and 'bad' could be negatively impacting your perceptions. She discusses how these are judgements and why we have a system in our brain that will prevent us from seeing the whole picture. She gives you a quick exercise to broaden your awareness and shows how these snap decisions start in...
Dec 28, 2021•14 min•Ep. 9
Do you dread Christmas? Do you compare your family to others? Does your Christmas meal always end in a fight? Then this episode is for you. In this episode, Michelle reassures you that you aren't alone if Christmas isn't your thing and the holiday period is tough for you to get through. She talks about how you can make this weekend a more peaceful time of the year and shows you ways to redefine this time of year to make it work for you. For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok ...
Dec 23, 2021•15 min•Ep. 8
Are you currently going through a rough time? Have you ever wondered if you will ever stop crying? Are you finding it really hard to keep the faith that life will get better? Then this episode is for you. In this episode, Michelle shares the beliefs and mindsets she uses in her own life when life is throwing you hurdles one after another and you don't know how you are going to survive it. She talks about how these mentalities are things she accumulated over years in life coaching herself and how...
Dec 21, 2021•20 min•Ep. 7
Do you want to exercise without hating your body? Is it hard to understand how someone can actually love exercise? Can body positivity and fitness co-exist? Then this episode is for you. In this episode, Michelle talks about how she went from hating movement to loving exercise. She gives you practical tips to change your relationship with exercise from one of punishment, compensating calories and self-hatred to moving from a place of fun and genuine enjoyment. She talks about her pivotal mindset...
Dec 16, 2021•34 min•Ep. 6
Do you struggle to build intimacy? Is it hard for you to show appreciation? Have you found that you feel less connected to the people in your life? Then this episode is for you. In this episode, Michelle shares the three things that she is unlearning in her own life that leads to intimacy and connection being broken in all relationship. She discusses how people in your life can either be positive motivation to repeat similar behaviours or negative motivation to choose something different and sha...
Dec 14, 2021•20 min•Ep. 5
Do you wish you were body confidence? Do you think body positivity means being positive about your body? Do you think body neutrality is a more realistic goal? Then this episode is for you. In this episode, Michelle talks about the difference between body confidence and body positivity and why labels can often confuse your own body image. She discusses how she is often held up as the 'end result' of body positivity and why this is flawed in so many ways. She talks about what the goal of body con...
Dec 09, 2021•29 min•Ep. 4
Is telling people how you feel about them a scary prospect? Do you struggle to know how to compliment people? Would you like the people in your life to feel more appreciated? Then this episode is for you. In this episode, Michelle talks about how a funeral made her evaluate whether she'd told the people she cares that she loves them. She talks about how to give a compliment and why specific compliments have a different impact. She shares her two ethos in life around telling people about the part...
Dec 07, 2021•19 min•Ep. 3
Did you hear the phrase 'I'm only telling you for your own good' as a child? Were you told 'if I can't tell you, who will'? Do you find it hard to make mistakes without shaming yourself? Then this episode is for you. In this episode, Michelle talks about criticism and how it affects your self-esteem. She talks about why when a parent specifically criticises us, we are unable to separate it from our behaviour and see it as our behaviour. Michelle also talks about how being constantly criticised w...
Dec 02, 2021•19 min•Ep. 2
Are you a big procrastinator? Do you just believe you are lazy? Were you taught that never quitting was the key to success? Then this episode is for you. In this episode, Michelle explains why the podcast is undergoing a little bit of a change and adapting to a more casual approach. She talks about how procrastination is a word often used to distract from the real problem and the four actual reasons someone might procrastinate. She talks about how to get out of creative slump and why quitting is...
Nov 30, 2021•25 min•Ep. 1
Why do I not believe people when they apologize? How do I forgive myself and know I won't do it again? Should I continue to persist when someone doesn't accept your apology? How do I ask for an apology for something that happened ages ago? In this episode, Michelle answers questions on apologies and explains what a good apology involves. She discusses apology languages and why she doesn't completely agree with this model but how it is helpful to construct your own apologies. She talks about the ...
Jul 07, 2021•44 min•Ep. 14
Is it a red flag if they never ask about me? What are the warning signs for emotional unavailability? Are there any clues that someone is going to ghost? In this episode, Michelle answers questions on red flags and defines what a red flag is. She explains the actual meaning of red flags and why this word should not be used to describe everything. She discusses how the idea of foreseeing every red flag is flawed and why we need to have a balance of being aware of red flags and not being too overa...
Jun 30, 2021•53 min•Ep. 13
Can you still stay friends if one person likes the other and it's not reciprocated? Should you end it if they don't want kids and you do? How do you know your breakup was the right decision? In this episode, Michelle answers questions on breakups and discusses the importance of making sure breakups are clean breaks. She talks about whether you actually should stay friends after a break-up and why it really doesn't matter who breaks up with who. She discusses why breakups should be a discussion a...
Jun 23, 2021•40 min•Ep. 12
If I cut family out, will I regret it when they die? What can you do when family treat me like I'm stupid? Is it OK to set boundaries over emails and text? In this episode, Michelle answers questions on family relationships and discusses how we should hold the same standards of treatment in our familal relationships than any other relationship in our life. She talks about how the media has perpetuated this idea of "perfect families" and how Christmas enhances this idea. She shows how to set boun...
Jun 16, 2021•44 min•Ep. 11
How do you have a consent conversation without turning them off? What do you do when penetration just doesn't work? Can you have a casual relationship without moving too quickly? In this episode, Michelle answers questions on sex and discusses how we focus too much on the penis and penetration in sex. She talks about how we need to prioritise female pleasure more and why the consent conversation is simply boundary setting. She talks about why so many women find penetration uncomfortable and why ...
Jun 09, 2021•43 min•Ep. 10
When you change a lot, is it normal to want to change your friends? How do you stop worrying about future responsibility coming into your life? And what do you do when you aren't sure who you are anymore? In this episode, Michelle answers questions on life changes and asks that we notice the distinction between the adjustment process vs a settled change. She talks about how changes in your life may result in unexpected changes in the relationships and dynamics with the people in your life. She t...
Jun 02, 2021•43 min•Ep. 9
How do you trust a new partner when the last one cheated on you? Is it true that "once a cheater, always a cheater"? And how do you end it with someone if the trust is broken for good. In this episode, Michelle answers questions on infidelity and talks about why what constitutes as cheating will change for every person. She talks about how cheating and infidelity relates to boundaries and whether people really can change. She talks about the lasting impact cheating can have on a relationship and...
May 26, 2021•37 min•Ep. 8
What do you do when you feel like you can never do enough personal development? How do you stop self-sabotaging your own success? And what do you do if you feel like an imposter when you are confident? In this episode, Michelle answers questions on self worth, what it is and how to build your own. She talks about how a lot of the self worth conversation is very lofty and why people need practical advice in order to actually create the changes in their life. She talks about imposter syndrome is a...
May 19, 2021•41 min•Ep. 7
In this episode, Michelle answers questions on what to do if you feel like your friends expect you to be perfect, how do you handle someone else's perfectionism affecting you in group projects and how to heal how fear of failure so it doesn't affect your life anymore. She talks about how she believes perfectionism is used as a protection from the ego and how the term 'perfectionist' is used to push others down and feel better about yourself. She discusses how a number of things are hiding behind...
May 12, 2021•41 min•Ep. 6
In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how to handle jealousy at other people happy in love, whether people actually do change their mind about wanting a marriage and kids and when being single is just a disguise for not wanting to make yourself vulnerable to date. She talks about why she had a period of being consciously single and how that benefitted her life and why if you wouldn't date yourself, you still have things to work on before you are ready for a relationship. She gives you t...
May 05, 2021•43 min•Ep. 5
In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how to cope in a pandemic when we have so much time on our hands, what to do if you find yourself stressing about using your free time productively and how to stop feeling the constant need to be busy. She talks about how we as a society have glorified being busy for so long and why that has resulted in the pandemic being such a shock to so many people. She gives you tips on how to learn to rest without guilt and talks about how an absence of rest o...
Apr 28, 2021•36 min•Ep. 4
In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how to love your body when it is in so much pain, how do you adjust when your body is stopping you from living your dream life and whether it is worth it to lose weight for insurance to cover your surgery. She goes into the difference between body positivity and body confidence and discusses how to love your body through chronic illness. She gives you tips on how to be more vocal within the body positive movement and why it's important to make your ...
Apr 21, 2021•44 min•Ep. 3
In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how to cut someone out, what to do if this person treats you differently to your other friend and whether you are allowed to cut someone out for giving you the silent treatment. She goes into how to handle it when people don't believe you and where to draw the line if someone is making up lies about you. She gives you tips on how to have that final conversation and what happens when there are mutual relationships and how when they get involved it re...
Apr 14, 2021•37 min•Ep. 2
In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how you grieve someone who is still alive, whether feelings of grief for an old therapist confuses feelings for a new therapist and what do you do if you wish you had spent more time together. She gives you tips on how to process grief and whether it's possible to move on from grief or whether moving on "with" grief is healthier and explains that grief is an emotion that can arise around any loss and not just bereavement. She also discusses a scene ...
Apr 07, 2021•39 min•Ep. 1
In this special bonus episode, Michelle discusses how she found out about pick-up artists, why that relates to her training as a life coach and how neuro-linguistic programming are related to both. She goes back through her life and recalls moments that she now recognises as pick-up artist techniques and how the book "Men Who Hate Women" has opened up an important conversation that needs to be had. The increased awareness around this secret community is essential for changes to take place and be...
Jan 13, 2021•36 min•Ep. 15
In this episode, Michelle answers questions on what to do if you want kids but your partner gets angry everytime you bring the conversation up, whether it's acceptable to be jealous of your partner's friend and if money is a legitimate reason to end a relationship. She gives you tips on how to have productive arguments within a relationship and talks about how romantic relationships often brings up our shadow self and uses an example from her own life to demonstrate how we can use it as an oppor...
Dec 16, 2020•33 min•Ep. 14
In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how to manage the fear of making new friends, what to do if your partner feels lonely every time you leave and what to do if you already feel lonely and your friends keep cancelling. She gives you tips on how to process loneliness and heal from it as a childhood wound and explains the difference between alone and lonely. She also discusses a scene in Dawson's Creek and how to honour someone's vulnerability when they reveal something they are embarra...
Dec 09, 2020•33 min•Ep. 13
In this episode, Michelle answers questions on what to do when a friend ghosts you, how you stop ghosting from affecting your self esteem and what to do when ghosting makes you doubt that the relationship even happened. She gives you tips on how to heal from the rejection and hurt that ghosting can cause and talks about how we need to take control of the parts we can control and why ghosting is the biggest turn off. She also discusses a scene in Emily In Paris when she tells her boyfriend she is...
Dec 02, 2020•37 min•Ep. 12
In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how to find your first job after graduation, what to do if your health affects your ability to work your dream job and how do you set boundaries with a boss who doesn't understand you are off the clock when you leave the office. She gives you tips on how to write a CV with a difference and talks about how the pressure for your first job to be the right job is too high and how to change your mentality around starting from the bottom in middle-age. Fo...
Nov 25, 2020•36 min•Ep. 11
In this episode, Michelle answers questions on what to do if you can't feel your emotions, how do your resolve childhood memories if you can't remember what happened and how do you stop crying when everything is going wrong. She gives you tips on how to process emotions and she shares why the way society talks about emotions is wrong and why we need to change the stereotype that emotions mean weakness. For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElman See Pri...
Nov 18, 2020•39 min•Ep. 10
