Part two of my six-part series on executive functions is all about inhibition. This one’s a little heavy and a little scary. Those of us with ADHD can attest to how debilitating it is to not have strong, internal self-restraint that can protect us from automatic urges and impulse decisions. From interrupting conversations to cutting in line to leaping before we look, life with impaired inhibition can be daunting. In episode 197, I share the four types of inhibition (including cognitive, behavior...
Feb 07, 2023•25 min•Ep. 197
In Episode 196, I am kicking off the anticipated Executive Function series! I’ll be breaking down the six key executive functions that are impacted by ADHD. Today’s focus is all about Working Memory. Working memory is a temporary storage system that allows you to hold information in your mind long enough to do something with it. I like to think of working memory as an internal bulletin board where sticky notes get posted temporarily. Did you know there are two types: verbal and non-verbal? Join ...
Jan 31, 2023•17 min•Ep. 196
Episode 195 welcomes Daniel Jones from The Aspie World as a special guest! PLEASE NOTE: There is strong language used in this one. Daniel has been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder Level 2), ADHD, OCD, and Dyslexia. He’s especially passionate about providing education, support, and diagnosis access to any and everyone. In this special episode, we chat through the differences and similarities between ADHD and Autism. Daniel shares tips for tricking the ADHD side of...
Jan 24, 2023•53 min•Ep. 195
This is a very vulnerable podcast for me. I made a goal to talk about one thing, told myself it would be easy, then procrastinated and realized it was more work than I was ready to handle. My mind originally had me living in this fantasy world, and I left it before thinking through the logistics and effort required to get it done and do it right. Have you been here before? At this point in January, many of you may be starting to feel the same way about those New Year’s resolutions. Maybe you’re ...
Jan 17, 2023•23 min•Ep. 194
As an adult with ADHD, I know how hard it can be to fight the way my brain works and spend too much energy shaming myself and wishing I was different. But in Episode 193 of the podcast, I coach three separate, amazing adults dealing with very different life challenges and help them embrace and accept who they are and find ways to live their best lives alongside ADHD. The first coaching session focuses on how to tackle a new, unstructured career by building in the accountability and framework nee...
Jan 11, 2023•1 hr•Ep. 193
In the first episode of 2023, I'm chatting with Felicia Broccolo, Director of Operations at I Have ADHD, about impossible goals. This time of year, everyone is setting resolutions — something that can be especially hard for those diagnosed with ADHD. An impossible goal doesn’t have to be something huge and scary though. It can be as small as finishing work every day when you say you’re going to or waking up at the first alarm without hitting snooze. The goal itself isn’t often what’s out of...
Jan 03, 2023•47 min•Ep. 192
Barbara Arrowsmith-Young overheard her first-grade teacher telling her mom, “Barbara really isn’t going to amount to much.” Growing up, Barbara struggled to learn to read and write. Back then, there was no such term as “learning difficulty” — the understanding was that your brain was fixed forever. To Barbara, it felt like a life sentence. Today, she is known as “the woman who changed her brain.” After years of living with a diagnosed “mental block,” Barbara set out to understand why parts of he...
Dec 27, 2022•52 min•Ep. 191
The only way to be a perfect parent is to toss out the word "perfect" altogether. Our expectations and emotions can easily get in the way of effective parenting when we make things all about US instead of all about what our kiddos need. In episode 190, I'm serving some spicy advice on ways we can all grow and improve as moms and dads to our little ones. You'll find that my tips don't have a lot to do with the actual kids, and that's because there is work we as adult...
Dec 20, 2022•39 min•Ep. 190
Do you or do you not have the extra cash to spend on holiday gifts this season? Episode 189 includes a recorded excerpt from the FOCUSED ADHD group coaching program with tough questions to ask yourself ASAP in order to properly prepare for holiday gift-giving without going into debt or feeling shame. Those of us with ADHD know how easy it is to overspend due to feelings of guilt and/or anticipation. This happens especially around this time of year when regulation and routine seemingly fly out th...
Dec 13, 2022•47 min•Ep. 189
Facing the holiday season can be intimidating. Normal everyday life is complicated enough living with ADHD, and yet so much more is expected of us in the last few months of the year. Our inner child may have this beautiful fantasy of a perfect holiday season, but we feel let down when it doesn’t all go according to plan. So how can we approach this year differently to make sure we make the most of all the magic without getting swallowed by it? In episode 188, I offer a strategic plan for managin...
Dec 06, 2022•29 min•Ep. 188
This one’s for all the neurotypical friends and family who have a loved one living with ADHD. There are SO many misconceptions about this diagnosis, and it can be super challenging for us to communicate our experiences to you effectively. Societal shame and childhood upbringings have played a huge role in diminishing the voice of ADHDers. But there are so many things we’d like you, our friends and family, to know about us! Thanks to the input of several friends in the community, I’m sharing 3 th...
Nov 29, 2022•26 min•Ep. 187
If you’re guilty of adding too many tasks to your to-do list and then feeling guilty for not completing them, this message is for you! To-do lists are meant to be useful for prioritization and recollecting what needs to get done — but it’s easy to lose ourselves in the list itself and struggle to cross anything off at all, leading to procrastination, dread, and shame. It may sound scandalous, but you should consider the email concept of “archive all” to cleanse the clutter in your brain and let ...
Nov 22, 2022•18 min•Ep. 186
Big, impossible goals are sexy. That’s what the world wants us to think. We have to do all of the things and be great at each one. But unrealistic goals are a challenge for adults with ADHD, and they set us up for failure. Michelle Carter is an American shot putter and three-time Olympic athlete who took home a gold medal in the Rio 2016 Olympic Games. But more importantly, she’s an adult with ADHD who’s achieved some pretty amazing things by giving herself the space to choose what’s a priority ...
Nov 15, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 185
If you're an adult with ADHD who struggles with hobbies, all I have to say is, "SAME!" I find that a lot of us ADHDers struggle to rest and play, and we have all the drama about participating in activities that are not 'productive.' Want to stop over-working and actually get a hobby? I've got 7 doable steps for you! You'll learn why we struggle to have hobbies and how to go out and actually find something that you enjoy doing (and yes, I include a LONG list of ...
Nov 08, 2022•39 min•Ep. 184
We end our relationships series by circling back to the most important relationship: the one we have with ourselves. Dr. Russell Ramsay is here with us to chat about why self trust is especially difficult for adults with ADHD, and what we can do to build it. Dr. Russell Ramsay is co-founder and co-director of the University of Pennsylvania’s Adult ADHD Treatment and Research Program and a professor of clinical psychology in the department of psychiatry in the Perelman School of Medicine at the U...
Nov 01, 2022•58 min•Ep. 183
Saying no can be very difficult for any human, but I believe it's especially hard for adults with ADHD. In this episode you'll learn: Why saying no is hard for us What executive functions are involved in saying no Practical tips on exactly HOW to say no ADHDer, the more you say no when you want to, the more you are in the driver's seat of your own life. Enjoy! Visit www.ihaveadhd.com/focused for more resources Hang out with me on Instagram HERE !...
Oct 25, 2022•57 min•Ep. 182
ADHDers are notoriously bad at setting boundaries. So many factors go into this, but I believe it’s mostly because we feel poorly about ourselves, we don’t have a lot of self-trust, and we are embarrassed about our annoying ADHD symptoms. The result of this is that we ADHDers often don’t believe we even deserve to set boundaries. Additionally, many of us were not raised in families that talked about or even allowed boundaries to be set…so, it comes to boundaries, most of us are floundering. A bi...
Oct 18, 2022•47 min•Ep. 181
We are on a mission to improve all of our relationships, and today we discuss the difference between someone who is safe verses someone who is unsafe. This has been a critical (and truthfully, painful) exercise that I have gone through in my own life that has improved my experience of every single relationship that I have. Tune in to hear why it's important to understand safety in relationships and exactly what makes someone relationally safe verses someone who is relationally unsafe. Click...
Oct 11, 2022•40 min•Ep. 180
In this episode, we talk about surrounding ourselves with people who are willing and able to meet our needs. AND we talk about the importance of being willing and able to meet THEIR needs, too. It's both/and. You'll learn my 4-tier system for prioritizing relationships and I'll give you permission to let some relationships go. If you want to take these concepts deeper, join my coaching program FOCUSED. Visit www.ihaveadhd.com/focused for more resources Hang out with me on Instagra...
Oct 04, 2022•36 min•Ep. 179
Most ADHDers struggle with relationships, and I am no exception to this. In the last 3 years, I've done a TON of work in therapy and in coaching, and I've really changed the way that I view relationships. In this 4-part series, I'll share everything I've learned about healthy relationships with you so that you can change your relationships, too. Visit www.ihaveadhd.com/focused for more resources Hang out with me on Instagram HERE !...
Sep 27, 2022•38 min•Ep. 178
It's that time of year when I want to set 100 goals. BIG GOALS. I want to do all the things and I want to do them all perfectly. On today's episode, we talk about why ADHDers struggle to set realistic goals, and how to make sure that we don't set ourselves up for failure by setting outlandish, unreachable goals. You'll walk away with a more grounded sense of how to set goals that you can actually accomplish! Let's go. Visit www.ihaveadhd.com/focused for more resources Ha...
Sep 20, 2022•29 min•Ep. 177
Today you'll hear from 3 of the coaches that I trained this year. They tell you about their experience, why they decided to become coaches, and what they loved/hated about my program. Interested in training with me? Go to www.ihaveadhd.com/coach for all of the information! Visit www.ihaveadhd.com/focused for more resources Hang out with me on Instagram HERE !...
Sep 13, 2022•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 176
For all information, click HERE ! If you want to be an ADHD coach and you like my approach, I would love to train you as a coach! Part 1 and Part 2 of this series are so important for you to listen to as you make your decision of what coach training program to invest in. Applications go out on September 15, 2022 to Focused members only. Email [email protected] or DM me on Instagram if you have any questions! Visit www.ihaveadhd.com/focused for more resources. Hang out with me on Instagram HE...
Sep 06, 2022•25 min•Ep. 175
For all information, click HERE ! Buckle up, my friends! In this episode I dish all of my thoughts on ADHD coaching and the coaching industry. I let you know what I think is awesome, and what I find annoying, and I tell you how I'm going to solve the problem: By training ADHD coaches myself. The coach training programs out there are notoriously not ADHD-friendly. I wanted to create a training program for the ADHD brain, and I did. The type of coaching that I practice with my clients (causal...
Sep 02, 2022•35 min•Ep. 174
This episode is a compilation of a few coaching conversations I’ve had in the last couple of weeks in my coaching program, FOCUSED. I am sharing it with you because I truly believe that while you listen, you will relate to each person I speak with and you’ll be able to have life-changing transformation. Visit www.ihaveadhd.com/focused for more resources Hang out with me on Instagram HERE !...
Aug 23, 2022•46 min•Ep. 173
Today's episode is one that every ADHD needs: a fun and simple lesson in how to be productive. I'll take you through the 5 steps that I teach all of my clients when we talk about productivity: Constrain your list down to just 1 or 2 things, decide ahead of time what you're going to do, schedule everything on your calendar, take massive action (no more researching!), and then evaluate how you did and make any adjustments for tomorrow. It may sound complicated, but really these step...
Aug 16, 2022•1 hr•Ep. 172
It can be hard to decide whether or not you should share your ADHD diagnosis with the people in your life. Is it their business to know? Will it help or hurt the relationship? This is one of the questions that we get asked most often, and so I wanted to share some tips to making the decision! Visit www.ihaveadhd.com/focused for more resources Hang out with me on Instagram HERE !...
Aug 09, 2022•21 min•Ep. 171
If you feel like you're always taking 2 steps forward and 3 steps back, this episode is the antidote to that. In it, I teach you WHY ADHDers often self-sabotage, and exactly how to stop. You're not going to want to miss this life-changing episode! Visit www.ihaveadhd.com/focused for more resources. Hang out with me on Instagram HERE !
Aug 02, 2022•50 min•Ep. 170
If you have ADHD, you struggle to go to bed...it's a whole thing for us. This episode will provide you with 10 doable tips for getting your sweet little ADHD butt to bed at the time that you SAY you're going to go to bed. Visit www.ihaveadhd.com/focused for more resources Hang out with me on Instagram HERE
Jul 26, 2022•33 min•Ep. 169
ADHD entrepreneurs face a specific set of challenges, and I know exactly what it takes to run a successful business with a distracted brain. Spoiler: It doesn't take being consistent! I've created a mastermind group for established ADHD entrepreneurs who want to grow their businesses without being shamed for how their brain works. You'll learn how to make your business more ADHD-friendly so that your brain and your biz are not constantly in a fight. You'll learn how to set bo...
Jul 21, 2022•7 min0
