057: When life hands you lemons
Today was a life day. Life was unexpected. So, Tera is popping on real quick to share a lesson & how she & Wes handled processing.
May 25, 2021•6 min•Season 2Ep. 56
I Get It
After spending 5 years building a business & traveling to over 30 countries, Wes & Tera made the plunge to start their family. Now after 12 years, they have had their fair share of identity crisis, struggles with balance between home & work, and trying to create a home filled with adventure & love. They share how they create the moments they never want to forget, while battling the daily potty training struggles, and keeping things spicy in their marriage.
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056: Am I the only one having awkward sex?
Well, if you have asked yourself that question ever in your life-- I am here to tell you, NO! Today's episode, Wes and I laugh through some of the more embarrassing sex moments we have shared all just to let you know that it isn't always hot and steamy. We all think it is just us trying to figure it out and everyone else has perfected their moves. I am here to let you know we, too, had lessons to learn. Connect with Tera: https://www.instagram.com/terawages/ Connect with Wes: https://www.instagr...
May 18, 2021•26 min•Season 1Ep. 57
055: Harmless moments in relationships that actually aren't so harmless
Why does my spouse feel so distant from me? Well, it may be because we have created loneliness without even realizing we are doing it. Today we are talking about how even having the best of intentions sometimes doesn't keep us from damaging our relationship. We share how Wes and I have done it to each other and what we are doing to correct these habits.
May 11, 2021•38 min•Season 2Ep. 55
054: How to cope in a sex funk
“I’m just not in the mood.” Is definitely a phrase we are familiar with. Or maybe you are thinking, “my spouse doesn’t want to have sex anymore.” We all experience it at one time or another- we physically, mentally, or emotionally just can’t show up sexually. Today we are diving into how we cope in seasons where sex is not meeting expectations because life is throwing exhausting curveballs.
May 04, 2021•33 min•Season 2Ep. 54
053: The truth about a big family
We always knew we wanted four kids, but we didn’t fully know what we were getting into. This episode we share the nitty gritty about life with a big family... the challenges & the unexpected.
Apr 27, 2021•30 min•Season 2Ep. 53
052: Getting started in real estate investing
We have had lots of people ask us, how do I get started in real estate investing. And we know it is stressful figuring out how construction loans work, or if it is better to longterm rent or Airbnb. Today, we share our financial background, what bank accounts we have, and the journey to owning 11 apartments, plus an office building. We talk about sacrifices we made, the fear we felt, the nitty gritty decisions that gave us these opportunities, and why we believe anyone can do this. Disclaimer: W...
Apr 22, 2021•40 min•Season 2Ep. 52
051: Sex, Family, and Parenthood... I had no idea what I was getting into
Wes & I celebrated our 13th wedding anniversary this past week, so we are reminiscing on just how naive we were when we walked down that aisle. Getting married at 21 gave me the false courage to think I actually knew what I was getting into… but I was wrong. Today we share the 7 things we were clueless about when we got married & how we feel about it today.
Apr 13, 2021•31 min•Season 2Ep. 51
050: You Don’t Owe Anyone with Caroline McGraw
Perfectionist, workaholics, humans who are living in boxes other people created... this episode is for you. Author Caroline McGraw is in the studio today talking about her new book “You Don’t Owe Anyone” which is all about breaking free from living a life by other peoples rules. This interview & book are game changers is breaking down shame and stepping into your own desires. Preorder your copy of “You Don’t Owe Anyone” - https://awishcomeclear.com/tera-wages
Apr 06, 2021•49 min•Season 2Ep. 50
049: I don't want to be a Debbie Downer
Today marks one year of the I Get It podcast and Wes and I are sharing what the last year has taught us more than anything. Spoiler alert: It is how vulnerability opens the door to change your life. Today we share what being vulnerable has looked like for us and reasons why you should push past your fear and share where you are with people around you. We also dive into what we see going forward in 2021 with the podcast.
Mar 30, 2021•35 min•Season 2Ep. 49
048: Have you ever stolen anything? Fun facts & random questions
We are just getting by this week being on vacation & getting over sickness. Wes takes over asking Tera questions that both embarrass her & reveal some of her hidden secrets. Enjoy a brain break & we will be back in 2 weeks!
Mar 02, 2021•16 min•Season 1Ep. 48
047: (Part 2) Ways to stop the cycle of continuing pain from the church
After releasing last week's episode, I knew we needed more. There was so much feedback from people who related to being hurt by the church... but we can't just stop there. We need action. This cycle has to end, and it can with you and me. Today, I share ways that we can be apart of the change, we can be a part of breaking the stigma of who a Christian is viewed as in 2021. I share some of my realizations and things I have done to start this process in my own life. Of course, there is so much mor...
Feb 22, 2021•32 min•Season 1Ep. 47
046: Finding Christ when I stopped trusting the church
Christianity and faith are such personal topics to dive into... the fear of judgement or backlash if people disagree. But we are here today sharing our journey... from being heavily involved, to wanting to never sit in a pew again, to learning what boundaries we need to have a healthy relationship with the church. It has had ups and downs and we have certainly hit some walls along the way. Disclaimer: I am a fallen human who is neither a pastor or theologian. Just a woman & man sharing their...
Feb 16, 2021•39 min•Season 1Ep. 46
045: How to show love to people around you
It is Valentine's week and you may be wondering- What should I get my husband for Valentine's Day? Or is Galentine's worth celebrating? Maybe even, is this date even worth celebrating? Well today, we are diving into the 4 types of love are and tangible ways to show love to each other. It really isn't hard, but it does take intention. Listen for ideas, encouragement, and maybe even a small dose of reality. Connect with Tera: https://www.instagram.com/terawages/
Feb 09, 2021•43 min•Season 1Ep. 45
044: Investing in yourself, Confidence, and my experience with Botox with Dr. Hillary Delarosa
Having confidence in our marriage and life starts within ourselves. But how do we do it? Today, I sit down with Dr. Hillary Delarosa, skin care wellness expert, mom, & wife, as we discuss how to feel sexy, what beauty looks like to us, and what we do to show up in the world as our best selves.... even with tiny humans pulling on our legs. I also finally break down my experience with botox and give all the nitty gritty details. This is such a fun episode that will leave you feeling inspired t...
Feb 02, 2021•37 min•Season 1Ep. 44
043: Bridgerton and the power of pursuit
Have you ever watched a show or movie and been left dreaming for a life on the screen? Yea, me too. This past weekend. Then I had a HUGE realization that I had everything I wanted in front of me... maybe without the British accent. But listen to find out the simple act Wes did that made me love the reality I was in... and what you can do to be able to enjoy a show without feeling like you are missing something.
Jan 26, 2021•38 min•Season 1Ep. 43
042: How to managing home life with the state of the world
Do you feel disconnected from yourself? After a year of turmoil, and trying to just stand up straight, many of us have hit a wall. I am sharing today the realization of what has sent me over the edge, and how I am finding my way back to a healthy mental state. It isn't easy, and none of us are alone. Listen for action steps on how to find peace again in your home when outside our door is absolute chaos.
Jan 19, 2021•31 min•Season 1Ep. 42
041: Creating the sex life you thought you would have when you got married
So often, we have an idea of what we think sex will be when we get married... then... 5 years down the road, we are often stagnate. We think "Why am I bad at sex?" "Am I broken?" or "What is the point?" We sit down with sexologist & sex therapist Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill as they talk through creating a sexual connection with your partner. They share their journey of how they have completely transformed their sex life and what sex actually does... for the woman! It is hope giving to any cou...
Jan 12, 2021•49 min•Season 1Ep. 41
040: How to connect with your spouse daily in less than 4 minutes with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill
Why does my partner seem angry all the time? Why aren't we having sex anymore? How do I get my spouse to open up to me about how they feel? If you are finding yourself in a relationship that is filled with disconnect or uncertainty, you certainly are not alone. And today, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill are going to introduce what they did that took their marriage from painful to complete bliss. Using scientific data Dr. Glenn can explain how our brain reacts to emotions that cause us to either conne...
Jan 04, 2021•40 min•Season 1Ep. 40
039: How to set goals for an unpredictable year
After throwing out your 2020 planner in June, you may be hesitant to pick up a new one going into 2021. I get it. But, there are ways you can control your life in a world of chaos. On this episode, we are going to answer your questions, What goals should I set for 2021? How to I achieve goals? Is it ok if my goals are small? Should my husband and I have the same goals? Setting goals doesn't have to be what you think it is... change your mindset, change your life. Resources from this episode: Con...
Dec 29, 2020•32 min•Season 1Ep. 39
038: How to do a Year in Review
It is easy to get to the end of the year and feel like it was a complete failure to forget in move on. Ten years ago, Wes and I started doing a Year in Review at the end of each year & I have seen such a great change and focus in our marriage and lives over the years. I truly believe this is a guide if you are looking for clarity in your marriage and self. They say you learn from the past, but you can't learn from it if you never evaluate where you have been and what you learned. Join us as ...
Dec 22, 2020•35 min•Season 1Ep. 38
037: Letting hope open your heart
We have TWO weeks left of 2020. And right now, we are sitting in the breath. The tiniest bit of in-between with the most magical season upon us. Today, we are sharing how we are looking for signs of hope and what we are doing to make these last two weeks count as we come out of such a dark year.
Dec 15, 2020•29 min
036: How to stop passing the guilt ball
Between the end of the year, seasonal depression, and the emotions wrapped up in the holidays, many of us are feeling disconnected and empty... or your partner is. Today, we talk about how Wes was finally able to open up about these emotions, what our conversation looked like, and what Tera did wrong as he was being vulnerable. Listen in, and don't be like Tera.
Dec 08, 2020•34 min•Season 1Ep. 36
35: Road trip, lessons learned, & slowing down time
We are living proof that life isn't all you see on an instagram feed. After 18 days of being on the road, we have come home with some lessons & experiences that many would say "ruined their trip" but despite being tired... we are full.
Dec 01, 2020•35 min•Season 1Ep. 35
034: How one simple action can change your entire attitude
Heading into the holiday season of the most difficult year many of us have ever seen, it is easy to focus on the bad. It is easy to only feel sad, angry, or overwhelmed. But Thanksgiving is all about gratitude. Today we talk about how we have incorporated gratitude into our lives and how it affects us. Crazy how our thoughts can control so much. We also invited our tiny humans on to share what they are most grateful for. It is fun, eye opening, and will leave you feeling lighter. Enjoy!
Nov 24, 2020•42 min•Season 1Ep. 34
033: Living Intentionally for a full life
Wes and I learned early in our marriage that setting goals helped us live a full life. When we didn't have a plan, nothing was being accomplished which meant we were missing out on what we wanted in life. Today we talk about the three times a year we sit and reevaluate where we are and what we want in our lives. It doesn't just happen on it's own. We didn't just wander up to the Pyramids, but with knowing what we wanted in life, we got there. Leave a Review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...
Nov 10, 2020•27 min•Season 1Ep. 33
032: How to recover from a divided election
Today is the Election of 2020. And the country is divided in ways I haven't seen in my lifetime. And we are all voting out in fear. But, today it is over. I talk briefly about what to do now. Today. And tomorrow. And the next as we all recover from this experience, together, united.
Nov 03, 2020•12 min•Season 1Ep. 32
031: No matter what I do, it isn't good enough
Wes & I have both said this sentence to each other at different moments in our marriage. And, whoa, reality check. When we reach that point, we stop trying. And when we stop trying, our marriage suffers. And we as individuals suffer because our partner no longer wants to show up in that area. We dive into this issue today- who has struggled with it the most in our relationship, the way we are changing our communication to support each other, and how this intentional change is giving us a ric...
Oct 27, 2020•32 min•Season 1Ep. 31
030: Orange polo, Goldmember, and other moments I knew Wes was the one
Today we take a walk down memory lane and Wes goes as far as bringing out the first facebook messages we ever sent each other... I will admit it is embarrassing. Let's just say our romance is better than any you have seen on the Bachelor, and we would be a Jason & Molly for sure. But don't worry, there is also useful information about finding our own worth and where I believe our worth actually comes from. Enjoy this breather episode during a crazy week.
Oct 20, 2020•28 min•Season 1Ep. 30
029: Make sex actually happen... without the fear of being asked for it
I am tired, and wiping baby booties doesn't exactly get me in the mood, so the last thing I want is my husband trying to feel me up at the end of the day. After years of trying to find our rhythm, we are finally in the groove, and I am no longer dodging him at the end of the day trying to put on my most unattractive sweats... and did I mention I am suddenly not feeling well? eek. Yea, it was rough at our house. Today we are talking about how we have taken the guessing out of it, and taking the g...
Oct 15, 2020•25 min•Season 1Ep. 29
028: Coping with pain when you are in the middle of it
We have spent most of our lives trying to only feel happy... anything else is bad, or wrong. But pain is inevitable and it is surrounding us right now... at every corner. How to cope with pain is up to us. It is our choice how we handle it, how we use it against others, or how we use it to stay numb so we feel nothing at all. We have been there and are dancing with the same feelings now. Today, we share how we are working to handle our hurt in hopes we make it to the other side of this mess whol...
Oct 06, 2020•33 min•Season 1Ep. 28
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