We are taking a huge leap and relocating our family all while trying to buy a house in one of the worst housing markets in the country. But, more importantly, we are celebrating 14 years of marriage- lessons & takeaways. We talk sex, we talk divorce, we talk about how we have changed. And we get a bit cheesy, too. Sex podcast with the Connection Codes: www.connectioncodes.co/sextalk Join Connection Codes waitlist to start your journey to a more peaceful/happier marriage: www.connectioncodes....
Apr 07, 2022•42 min
We know that there is a lot of exception and ultimately disappointment surrounding Valentine's day. But it is actually a great holiday at the heart of it. Today, we talk about setting realistic expectations, showing up for each other, and spreading love to those around you.
Feb 14, 2022•37 min•Season 2Ep. 85
If you have ever wanted more in your sexual relationship OR you have found yourself being the person unable to give more... this episode is a moment for you to not feel alone. We break down our most recent fight and how we don't have any guilt in what we individually desire while struggling that those two things don't meet.
Jan 27, 2022•50 min•Season 2Ep. 84
Fear in the bedroom can be a roadblock to having great sex. Today, Wes and Tera break down their 5 top fears and process them together. It is insightful the types of fears that Tera realized first compared to Wes... and it wasn't at all what she expected. Today is definitely funny, easy to listen to, and relatable... but it isn't for small humans. If you want to learn how to easily process your emotions click here and use code igetit25 for 25% off...
Jan 20, 2022•47 min•Season 2Ep. 83
We haven’t left our house in a week- so the thoughts are getting a bit random. But that just means we are sharing thoughts from all the things- work life, marriage, friendship… nothing too deep. Just take a breath with us.
Jan 13, 2022•39 min•Season 2Ep. 82
We are one week and it is easy to feel our momentum ball starting to grow smaller. Today, we talk about keeping the momentum going and how to start it back when we lose it.
Jan 06, 2022•37 min
In this episode we talk about how we're setting up goals and resolutions for the new year! Rather than just saying somethings we want to be better at or do in the new year, we talk about who we want to become in life and how we can use the new year to fuel these goals. To connect with Tera: https://www.instagram.com/terawages/
Dec 30, 2021•37 min
The best way to end a year is to look back to both learn lessons & feel gratitude. You have to see where you have been so you can learn where you are going. Today's episode is personal, but there are a lot of lessons in it from financial vulnerability to our biggest marriage wins. We share mistakes and triumphs. We also show how to categorize your year to gain the best understanding of yourself. To connect with Tera: https://www.instagram.com/terawages/
Dec 23, 2021•53 min•Season 2Ep. 79
This is a quote I’ve heard more than once & while it may technically be true, viewing our life by the hours we have doesn’t actually correlate to how much we can achieve. Today, we talk about a different way to reframe our time when it comes to tackling our to do list.
Dec 14, 2021•32 min•Season 2Ep. 78
Does your partner ever get mad just because you are mad? But you weren't even mad at them to begin with? Well, we struggle with that quite a lot around here. Today, we not so gracefully break down an argument we had just this past weekend. This is a real and honest play by play conversation between Wes and I, but at the end of it, we come to a nice resolution that if we can finally get into regular practice will change SO much about how we fight... and maybe how you do, too. The Connection Codes...
Nov 16, 2021•41 min•Season 2Ep. 78
If you are a mom or dad to toddlers & babies, this episode is for you. There is so much about being a new parent people talk about… but what they don’t mention is the disconnect that happens in the bedroom. Today, we are here to help you gain some perspective, offer hope, and give a few tips to help you through this season. It is a tough one. We have been there… (and still are with one kid)… we get it!
Nov 09, 2021•55 min•Season 2Ep. 77
Do you ever wish your husband would watch your kids? I know so many moms who have to beg or bribe their man to keep the kids and then leave them notes on what to do. Today, I (Tera) am sharing how we took baby steps to have play an equal role in being the caregiver for our kids… it is much harder on me than it is on him. And just a warning- your toes may get stepped on a little. But it is all with love.
Oct 26, 2021•17 min•Season 2Ep. 76
Feeling awkward about talking about finances is just as common in relationships as talking about sex. There is so much hesitation in relationships for fear of an argument. Ayana Campbell Smith is helping couples everywhere break down that fear, change their mindset, and become debt free while still enjoying their life. She is here to talk saving buckets, budgeting, and helps settle an ongoing dispute between Wes & I. Find Ayana: www.millennialmoney.guide
Oct 19, 2021•38 min•Season 2Ep. 75
From the title, it seems we are all over the place today but we are both sharing where we are at. Haha Wes is recovering from his vasectomy & I’m recovering from his intense travel schedule. Loneliness is often an overlooked emotion because it doesn’t show up the way we expect it to. Today we talk about how it feels & what it’s long term effects can do. Trigger warning- we go deep & touch on suicidal thoughts.
Oct 12, 2021•38 min•Season 2Ep. 74
If you have ever been curious about spicing up your sex life but don’t know where to begin, or you have wanted to ask your partner to incorporate a sex toy in the mix but are feeling nervous- this episode is for you. We dive into how we got started, what we have tried, and creating boundaries so you both feel safe. Obviously not a kid or my mom friendly episode.
Oct 05, 2021•37 min•Season 2Ep. 73
I have found myself saying this phrase a lot recently then heard 4 other women mention their age as a barrier within 36 hours of each other. Is this a feeling carried only by women? Is this a thought valid? And what are we holding ourselves back from?
Sep 28, 2021•31 min•Season 2Ep. 72
Even in the most wonderful marriages, there is no such thing as a "perfect" partner. There are always little things that we do as individuals that make the other person feel a tiny bit of rage inside. Today, we are sharing our pet peeves and showing no relationship is perfect.
Sep 21, 2021•30 min•Season 2Ep. 71
Why do we talk about sex all the time? What is the big deal? Well, we all talk about it, even when we are avoiding the subject it is literally all around us. We want to change the narrative. We want to be in control of how that narrative affects us mentally. So, today we share why that matters and how bringing it up in the light actually opens us up to more freedom.
Sep 14, 2021•29 min•Season 2Ep. 70
The wedding night was less than spectacular, and it set the tone for the next 12 years of our marriage. All of the fun stuff had been removed and now we were just getting it done. Today, we dive into mindsets, fears, and what held us back for so many years. THEN, we dive into what has pushed us forward into what we experience today. I will definitely have a vulnerability hangover after this one 😅.
Aug 24, 2021•32 min•Season 2Ep. 69
Do you ever feel insecure when you enter a room filled with adults? I suddenly resort back to my 8 year old self of feeling awkward on the playground. Only now, I am 35 with 4 kids hanging from the monkey bars. I genuinely believed that friendships would get easier but in reality they just get more difficult to navigate. Today, we dissect why they are hard and what we can do to gain new ones.
Aug 17, 2021•42 min•Season 2Ep. 68
Often times, women find themselves carrying the load of their home whether they are working full time or not. It is often invisible work that leads to resentment and burnout in marriage. Today, we hash through why we need to balance the weight and what it looks like to feel like the woman's time isn't valued. We also share about the book Fair Play by Eve Rodsky and the 100 tasks our household requires to help balance the scales.
Aug 10, 2021•40 min•Season 2Ep. 67
I am guilty of saying... if you do____ I will have sex with you. But is sex meant to be earned? We have a few conflicting thoughts on the matter. Today, Wes & I share a conversation that breaks down what we think ACTUALLY creates a marriage where sex happens without the ultimatums.
Aug 02, 2021•37 min•Season 2Ep. 66
Does having emotions or being rowdy make my kids bad? After reading an Instagram post about how parents should make sure their kids are “good,” I had to process a lot of emotions that I have battled from the time my first kid was 10 months old and hurt another kid for the first time. Being a parent feels impossible to navigate because each child is so different… and people without kids or “easy” (aka- compliant) kids are so quick to judge. We talk through handling those emotions and share the si...
Jul 27, 2021•45 min•Season 2Ep. 65
Months since a date night shouldn’t be the standard. Today’s we talk about why they are important and what time together has done for our relationship.
Jul 20, 2021•34 min•Season 2Ep. 62
We think just because we have a high school degree that we've learned all we can from grade school, but today we're learning about problems from one of our most favorite Kindergarten teachers taught us. When presented with a problem, how do we categorize it and then deal with the problem?
Jul 13, 2021•24 min•Season 2Ep. 63
Wes & I have had our fair share of travel mishaps all across the world. After a recent trip that reminded us to expect the unexpected, we wanted to share our stories that are our once-in-a-lifetime moments. These are the stories we will tell our grandchildren to make their jaws drop. We will follow it up with why these things happen and why it is worth it anyways. If you like travel, drama, and "holy moly" moments, this episode is for you!
Jul 06, 2021•39 min•Season 2Ep. 62
It is Tera's birthday week so she is jumping in to share 8 quick lessons that have impacted her life and who she is. This is an episode for anyone-- from friendship lessons to her motto for life to the purchase from 2020 that has put an extra pep in her step. Follow on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terawages/
Jun 22, 2021•30 min•Season 2Ep. 61
I don’t care to have sex very often. But my partner needs to feel intimacy. Today, we talk about our journey & break down 4 questions to sit down & dive into if you are feeling off balance in your own sex life. Disclaimer: We are 13 years in & still have years to go. We are just working to figure it out together & share that journey openly with y’all. This is a no judgement zone in either direction. Here are our struggles… hope they give you hope that wherever you are on your jou...
Jun 15, 2021•37 min•Season 2Ep. 60
Parenthood can either feel very, very lonely or it can feel like two teammates working together to raise a child. Teammates is always the goal, but it takes a lot of intention. Today's episode, we break down what that actually looks like, conversations (and arguments) we have worked through, and how we approach parenthood... together... as one.
Jun 08, 2021•26 min•Season 2Ep. 59
*as peaceful as summer can be with tiny humans trying to rule your home. This week, we are talking all about actions Wes and I are taking to help cut down the 1,000 questions we get from our kids each day, to give them more control over their choices, and to create better daily habits. I will be honest, I didn't create ANY of these systems. I am sharing all of the goodness I have gathered over time and am putting into action. These systems aren't rocket science but they will help any parent look...
Jun 01, 2021•27 min•Season 2Ep. 58
