Anna is sure the amount of time her two children spend on YouTube or Roblox cannot be good for them. With remote learning this fall, Anna is worried their addiction to screens is only going to worsen, stunting their imagination and exposing them to dangers online. In this episode of How To!, we bring on Devorah Heitner, author of Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World , to help Anna figure out the most constructive ways to monitor and guide her children's screen tim...
Sep 01, 2020•30 min
Mitchell is a physical therapy student who dreams of revolutionizing the industry. What if physical therapists and their patients weren't so constrained by insurance companies? His classmates and professors think he's crazy, but Mitchell thinks disrupting the status quo could help a lot of people—if only he knew how to get started. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Guy Raz, the host of NPR's How I Built This and author of the new book of the same title , to share what he's learned from the...
Aug 25, 2020•31 min
Expert tips for navigating a most unusual back-to-school season. A special three-part series coming September 1st!
Aug 25, 2020•2 min
The trouble began when Sarah put a fern in front of her new condo. Nice, right? The woman who lives in the unit above didn't think so, and without warning sent Sarah a slew of passive-aggressive notes. Sarah thinks it's all a big misunderstanding, but now her neighbor refuses to even speak to her. Sarah is wracked with anxiety, struggling to sleep, and contemplating moving out. On this episode of How To!, we turn to stand-up comedian Tig Notaro, a cancer survivor and host of the new advice podca...
Aug 11, 2020•29 min
Johnny is worried about being stuck in the same job forever. He's been trying to climb the corporate ladder of his software company for years but has had little success. He knows he deserves a promotion, but he doesn't want to be pushy, especially during a pandemic. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Alex Carter, author of Ask for More: 10 Questions to Negotiate Anything , to help Johnny assert himself and convince his higher-ups that promoting him would, in fact, benefit everyone at the co...
Jul 28, 2020•30 min
David was in the ocean in Hawaii when the unthinkable happened—a shark attacked him and bit off his leg. "I don't think you're gonna make it," a medic told the 25-year-old on the helicopter ride to the hospital. But David did make it, and soon he learned that surviving the shark wasn't the hardest part—it was what came after. On this episode of How To!, we bring in Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, psychiatrist and author of The Body Keeps the Score , to help David understand and deal with the lasting ps...
Jul 14, 2020•28 min
This bonus episode features Charles's recent appearance on the podcast Hello Monday, where host Jessi Hempel discusses the relationship between work and meaning. Charles tells the story of his experience attending Harvard Business School and all that followed after. It turns out that a paycheck - even a fat one - doesn't buy a meaningful life. Charles and Jessi dig deep on the perks and pitfalls of business school, point up the importance of perseverance, outline the space between a job descript...
Jul 07, 2020•29 min
Lauren already knows the plot of her bestselling novel—the problem is she hasn't written a word. Paralyzed by self-criticism and an earlier rejection, this former English major has spent years journaling instead of attempting the scary, difficult work of creative writing. On this episode of How To!, we turn to writer Taffy Brodesser-Akner, whose debut novel Fleishman Is in Trouble , was one of the hottest books of the year. Can she help Lauren finally put pen to paper? The first thing Lauren nee...
Jun 30, 2020•30 min
Chris has always considered himself "on the right side of things," but as Black Lives Matter protests sweep across the country, he's starting to realize he needs to do a lot more. As a white man living in Austin, Texas, he says he has a responsibility to educate himself and make real change—but where to start? On this episode of How To!, we bring in Ijeoma Oluo, author of So You Want to Talk About Race , to walk Chris through some tangible steps he can take to harness this moment. Start by openi...
Jun 23, 2020•25 min
Karin always thought of herself as the mom of two boys—that is, until last year when her oldest child told her they were nonbinary, meaning they don't identify as either male or female. Karin loves her kid deeply, but she's struggling to get used to their new name and pronouns, especially because her town—and husband—aren't very accepting. On this episode of How To!, we bring in Lisa DelCol, a fellow mom of a nonbinary child and former president of PFLAG Oklahoma City, to help Karin come to term...
Jun 16, 2020•28 min
When Sydney's dad texted her, "Do me a favor and lose my number," she was crushed. At 27, Sydney has always had a rocky relationship with her dad, but she held out hope he could still be a part of her life. Now she's starting to think it's a lost cause. On this episode of How To!, we bring in Joshua Coleman , a psychologist and author of the upcoming book Rules of Estrangement , who had his own yearslong standoff with his daughter. Before Sydney figures out if she should reconcile with her dad, ...
Jun 09, 2020•28 min
Donny is ready to leave the restaurant industry once and for all. As a recovering alcoholic, he was already looking for a new career before COVID-19 upended his life. But at 38 years old, Donny has held 30 different jobs, and without a bachelor's degree, he worries that he doesn't have what employers are looking for. On this episode of How To!, we bring in Jessi Hempel, host of the LinkedIn podcast Hello Monday , to help Donny kickstart a new career...during a pandemic. According to Jessi, now i...
Jun 02, 2020•30 min
Alan's 86-year-old dad will not stop driving—even after an incident where he drove off the road and totaled his car. Feeling guilty and worried, Alan has tried to convince his dad to hand over the keys, even enlisting the support of his father's doctor, but everything Alan does seems to backfire. In this episode of How To!, Saturday Night Live comedian Jim Breuer shares his own experience dealing with a curmudgeonly father as chronicled in the documentary More Than Me . Jim says to reach an agin...
May 26, 2020•28 min
Ann's sister just lost her husband and Ann doesn't know how to console her. Ann lives in a different state and, having experienced loss herself, knows saying the wrong thing can only add to the hurt. What can Ann do from a distance to make her sister feel better? In this episode of How To!, Megan Devine , a psychotherapist and author of It's OK That You're Not OK , says first of all don't try to cheer them up. Simply acknowledge their pain. Megan learned this the hard way after the sudden loss o...
May 19, 2020•29 min
Ashley thought by now she'd be on top of the world. Once severely overweight, Ashley lost 155 pounds and recently ran her first half-marathon. But when she looks in the mirror all she sees are the imperfections. In this episode of How To!, we bring in Brittany O'Neill , the real-life inspiration for the hit movie Brittany Runs a Marathon . Having undergone a major transformation herself, Brittany knows what it's like to feel unhappy after you've crossed the finish line. Constant self-improvement...
May 12, 2020•29 min
Every other Friday, Amy's calendar reminds her to make the rounds of her office and say "hello" to her colleagues. As an introvert, Amy deeply struggles with small talk, but as a manager of 55 people she's been told she needs to be more approachable. In this episode of How To! , Susan Cain, author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can't Stop Talking , helps Amy learn how to use her reserved nature to her advantage. Whether you're anxious about networking at conferences or wonderi...
May 05, 2020•28 min
Joanna really misses her office. Taking Zoom calls from the kitchen in her dimly lit Brooklyn apartment doesn't compare to her bright, open office filled with friendly co-workers. In this episode of How To!, Ben Waber, an organizational scientist, co-founder of Humanyze , and author of People Analytics , tells us how to use our home office to our advantage. It's easy to spend all day chained to your computer, but Ben says we need to find ways to take breaks and foster human interaction. After al...
Apr 28, 2020•28 min
Caleb tries to be good to the planet by recycling, biking to work and living a minimalist lifestyle in his small Ohio town. But he still feels guilty about using disposable diapers and buying a minivan for his growing family. How can he fight climate change without driving himself crazy? In this episode of How To! , Emma Marris , an environmental writer and author of Rambunctious Garden , warns us not to fall into the trap of individual guilt. In other words, don't feel too bad about using that ...
Apr 21, 2020•29 min
Marie trains dogs for a living, but she's struggling to teach herself a new trick—overcoming procrastination. For a year, she's been ready to launch a new dog training app....just as soon as she makes the training videos for it. The delay is hurting business so why can't she cross this task off her to-do list? In this episode of How To! , Dan Ariely , professor at Duke University and author of Predictably Irrational , shares some procrastination tips that got him through a tough time in his own ...
Apr 14, 2020•29 min
Margit from Denver, Colorado writes in with a question about how to encourage people to wear masks to prevent the spread of the coronavirus. Charles offers advice on how to incentivize people to form new habits, and draws lessons from past efforts to change behavior during World War II. What are your toughest challenges during the pandemic? And what have you found is working for you? Leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001. We're collecting your problems and solutions for our recurring Quarantine Q...
Apr 07, 2020•8 min
Sarah feels like she's drowning in the clutter of her tiny Brooklyn apartment where she lives with a messy husband and two-year-old daughter. Now that her family is under quarantine together, the chaos seems destined to only get worse. In this episode of How To! , Bruce Feiler , author of The Secrets of Happy Families , drops by to give Sarah a home makeover. But Bruce has more than a Marie Kondo-style cleanup in mind. Instead, he suggests that Sarah first declutter her mind and then call a fami...
Mar 31, 2020•28 min
This week, we're struggling with the same problem as our listeners: self-quarantine. As news of the coronavirus pandemic intensifies, how do we stay sane while staying home? How do we reduce stress and remain healthy while juggling remote work and rambunctious kids? In this episode of How To! , we bring in Celeste Headlee, author of Do Nothing: How to Break Away from Overworking, Overdoing, and Underliving . Long before the pandemic, Headlee spent a lot of time thinking about how to slow down wh...
Mar 24, 2020•27 min
For years Claire has been holding on to a terrible family secret: Her mom physically abused Claire's brother when he was young. How could her mom have done that? Now, over a decade later, both Claire's mother and brother have passed away, but Claire still grapples daily with feelings of anger and deep resentment toward her mom. In this episode of How To! , we bring in Reverend Mpho Tutu van Furth, the daughter of Archbishop Desmond Tutu and author of The Book of Forgiving . Mpho struggled with f...
Mar 17, 2020•27 min
Sharon is 38 and never been kissed. This, as she acknowledges, is "a bit weird." As a nurse who loves ballroom dancing, Sharon is smart, funny, and attractive. At the same time, she's deeply religious and has been waiting so long for the perfect man she worries that she'll never find "The One." In this episode of How To! , we bring in one of New York City's finest matchmakers, Lisa Clampitt , for some tough love. Lisa believes Sharon has a lot going for her, but in order to find her first kiss s...
Mar 10, 2020•30 min
When Hema first realized she was gay a few years ago after immigrating to the U.S., she knew she had to tell her mom. But the conversation didn't go well. Hema's mom lives in India and is convinced being gay is a Western phenomenon. So how does Hema help her mom accept her for who she is? In this episode of How To!, we bring in Sonali Gulati , a professor, filmmaker and queer rights activist who made a documentary about the parents of LGBTQ people in India. Drawing from her own personal experien...
Mar 03, 2020•26 min
Anthony is that rarest of things in American politics—a swing voter who is up for grabs in 2020. Caught between his Republican voting history and his current dislike of President Trump, Anthony is now registered as an Independent. But does he follow his head or his heart? In this episode of How To! , we bring in veteran political advisors David Axelrod, chief strategist for Barack Obama's presidential campaigns, and Mike Murphy, a Republican consultant, who co-host the podcast Hacks on Tap . Dav...
Feb 25, 2020•29 min
Lorenzo is a dental student with big dreams—of becoming a rock star. Lorenzo plays a mean guitar at open mic night, but there's one thing holding him back: He doesn't know how to write his own songs. In this episode of How To!, we bring in master songwriter Ben Folds, former frontman of Ben Folds Five, and author of A Dream About Lightning Bugs: A Life of Music and Cheap Lessons . Many of those lessons are about how anyone can unlock their creativity. Ben breaks down his own music, and tinkers w...
Feb 18, 2020•28 min
Shannon runs a nonprofit in Aspen, Colorado — a place filled with wealthy donors, but also stiff competition. With nearly 500 nonprofits vying for money, how does Shannon help her organization stick out? Some of the best advice may come from an unlikely source: con artists. In this episode of How To! , Maria Konnikova, author of The Confidence Game , shares con artists' surprisingly similar tricks of the trade: Identify your mark, listen carefully, then tell them a story they want to hear. Can S...
Feb 11, 2020•28 min
The coronavirus outbreak in China is causing panic worldwide. The World Health Organization has declared it a global health emergency and all we hear about are doubling infection rates, massive quarantines, and drugstores running out of masks. In this episode of How To! , we ask Dr. Elisabeth Rosenthal, former New York Times reporter and author of An American Sickness , how she and her family survived the previous SARS epidemic in Beijing. We also revisit our conversation with Dr. Tom Inglesby, ...
Feb 04, 2020•24 min
Andy would do anything for his girlfriend Cassie. Well, almost anything. As Cassie looks to move away for vet school, Andy has to decide if he's going with her, leaving his job, family and friends, and two bands behind in Austin, TX. In this episode of How To! , we bring in Rachel Hollis, author of Girl, Wash Your Face and her husband Dave, author of Get Out of Your Own Way . The Hollises have a lot of experience navigating this question, because for most of their marriage, Dave's job as a Disne...
Jan 28, 2020•28 min
