Ody's grandmother lived with her family when she was growing up. The expectation of always putting family first created a toxic environment due to emotional abuse from her grandmother, whom she suspects may have had a mental illness. An expert on Latino cultural values breaks down the concept of familism and how it shapes the dynamics at home. This episode originally aired on November 2, 2020. Featured Expert : Our expert this week is Gabriela Livas Stein, Associate Professor of Psychology at Un...
Nov 21, 2022•19 min•Ep. 134
Diane's Korean mother and grandmother live in New Jersey, and would like her to visit more often. But Diane has a full life in NYC, and feels guilty and torn. Hatty Lee, a marriage and family therapist who works with Asian-Americans, shares tips on how to speak with loved ones about honoring our individual and family needs. This episode originally aired on June 7, 2021. Featured Expert: Hatty J. Lee is a licensed marriage and family therapist and brainspotting practitioner based in California, w...
Nov 14, 2022•19 min•Ep. 133
Moving to the U.S. was hard for Michelle’s family, and it impacted how she was disciplined growing up. As a parent herself, she’s coming to terms with experiences her parents now deny. Betty Ming Liu, a life coach who specializes in childhood trauma, speaks with Juleyka about nurturing our inner child and ending the family cycle of violence. Michelle Yang is an advocate whose writings on the intersection of Asian American identity, body image, and mental health have been featured in NBC News, CN...
Nov 07, 2022•20 min•Ep. 132
Yaffa's Dominican mom wanted her to marry a White American. So when she fell in love with a Dominican man, she kept the relationship and wedding secret. And marriage and family therapist Claudia Parada speaks with Juleyka about how to confront our parents' bias while sparing our romantic partners the drama. Yaffa S. Santos is the author of the novel A Touch of Moonlight . You can learn more about her work and writing here . Our expert this week is Marriage and Family Therapist, DEI trainer Claud...
Oct 31, 2022•21 min•Ep. 131
Juanita decided to write her life story and got pushback from her Mexican mom, who remembers their family life very differently. And memoirist and writing teacher Yasmín Ramírez shares strategies for reconciling different family accounts of the past, and offers advice for keeping ourselves honest when telling difficult stories. Juanita E. Martinez is a lawyer, writer and performer. You can learn more about her work and her memoir Tales of an Inland Empire Girl here . Featured Expert: Yasmín Ramí...
Oct 24, 2022•21 min•Ep. 130
After years of working toward a career as a tenure track professor, Sylvia left this path in academia under duress. And getting her Peruvian parents to understand her decision also proved challenging. And Dr. Michelle Espino Lira, who studies Latinos in higher education, speaks with Juleyka about connecting our bold acts of self-advocacy with the grit and resolve our parents modeled for us. Featured Expert: Dr. Michelle M. Espino Lira is an assistant professor of higher education, student affair...
Oct 17, 2022•20 min•Ep. 129
Tony’s Vietnamese mom didn't talk much about her father, a Black American soldier who fought in the Vietnam War but whom she never really knew. So Tony decided to find him. And marriage and family therapist Thien Pham who works with adult children of Amerasians and refugees speaks with Juleyka about respecting our parents’ trauma while trying to understand our family history, and finding peace when we don’t have answers. Featured Expert: Thien Pam is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist base...
Oct 10, 2022•21 min•Ep. 128
Brenda thinks it’s time for her Mexican family to speak openly about her father’s infidelity and newly-discovered half-sister, but she's ambivalent about starting the conversation. And marriage and family therapist Gilza Fort Martinez offers advice for creating the right context, choosing the time and place, and exercising sensitivity around family revelations. Featured Expert: Gilza Fort-Martinez is a bilingual licensed marriage and family therapist with over 25 years of experience in conflict ...
Oct 03, 2022•20 min•Ep. 127
Though she was a primary caretaker, Sandra had a hard time knowing what to say to her dad at the end of his life. And Oceana Sawyer, a death doula, speaks with Juleyka about acknowledging death with dying loved ones, and taking care of ourselves as we care for them. Featured Expert: Oceana Sawyer is a professional End of Life Doula who writes and speaks on the liminal space of active dying and grief. She is currently researching and holding space in the realm of embodied grieving in a context of...
Sep 26, 2022•21 min•Ep. 126
Elbert is struggling to accept how his Dominican parents' married relationship works. And Luis Resendez, a marriage and family therapist who works with Latino men, helps us understand what shapes our ideas of marriage and partnership. Featured Expert: Our expert this week is Luis Resendez, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, adjunct professor, author, and CEO and founder of Vida Emotional WellnessLuis was born in San Bernardino and has lived in the Inland Empire most of his life. He graduate...
Sep 19, 2022•20 min•Ep. 125
Delainy is finally putting a stop to her family's frequent criticism of her weight and looks. And Lisa Jimenez, a mental health counselor who works with first-gens struggling with negative body image, busts health myths and shares tips to build resilience and speak up for ourselves. Delainy Faña is the creator of La Bruja's Art . Featured Expert: Lisa Jimenez is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor based in South Florida who specializes in eating disorders, mood disorders, anxiety, trauma, and fam...
Sep 12, 2022•20 min•Ep. 124
Michelle’s Mexican family never talked about sex. When she began thinking about birth control before heading to college she was on her own to make some really important decisions. And OBGYN Dr. Erica Montes offers tips for discussing family planning and avoiding misinformation about contraceptive methods. Featured Expert: Dr. Erica Montes, an OBGYN based in Arizona. Dr. Erica Montes is a Board-Certified Obstetrician and Gynecologist and a Fellow of the American College of OB/GYN. She received he...
Sep 05, 2022•19 min•Ep. 123
Pabel’s Afro-Latino mother's advice for fitting in and being a professional feels outdated and unhelpful as he navigates racism in the tech industry. And, mindfulness coach Zee Clarke shows us how to breathe through triggering conversations about race and implicit bias at work—and with our loved ones. Featured Expert: Zee Clarke is a Harvard MBA that went from leading teams at fortune 500 companies and startups in Silicon Valley to teaching mindfulness and breathwork to people of color. Why? Aft...
Aug 29, 2022•21 min•Ep. 122
Charu works hard to get along with her Indian mom so her children can have a relationship with their grandmother, but tensions around her parenting style remain. And therapist Salma Khan offers advice on preserving family bonds with estranged relatives while resisting the need to explain our boundaries. Charu Kumarhia is a journalist, speaker and writer. You can learn more about her work here and here . Featured Expert: Salma Khan, LCSW is a licensed clinical social worker in the state of Califo...
Aug 22, 2022•20 min•Ep. 121
Last year, Kristie spoke with us about the gendered expectations her dad had of her, despite her professional success. Here, she reflects on how becoming a wife, home-owner and mom-to-be is transforming their father-daughter relationship. If you loved this episode, listen to Kristie's original episode She has a Ph.D, But Papí Still Wants Her to Serve Him. We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to [email protected]. You might be on a futur...
Aug 15, 2022•15 min•Ep. 120
Last year, Chai told us about her mom’s efforts to find her a husband through Indian matrimonial websites. In this candid follow-up, she updates Juleyka on her dating life, and reflects on how a surprising diagnosis really helped both her and her mom understand Chai, and what she needs in a partner. If you loved this episode, listen to Chai's original episode Arranged Marriage, No Thanks, Mom. Our four-episode series with on dating and relationships Chai's original episode inspired starts with D...
Aug 08, 2022•15 min•Ep. 119
Last year Sasha talked to us about her younger sister’s suicide, and the impact her family’s unwillingness to talk about it had on her mental health. This time, she talks to Juleyka about speaking openly about her bipolar disorder, learning to say “no” as part of self-care, and using the movie Encanto to talk about her deceased sister with nieces and nephews who never met her. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline also offers 24/7 confidential support. Their number is 800-273-8255. If you lov...
Aug 01, 2022•15 min•Ep. 118
Last year, Veda explained why they chose not to discuss their queer identity with their Indian parents. Veda returns to update Juleyka on how moving back in with their parents has changed the family dynamics in surprising ways. They also reflect on their developing views on pronouns, gender fluidity, and finding allies among extended family. If you loved this episode, listen to Veda's original episode Talking to Their Parents About Being Nonbinary. We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and f...
Jul 25, 2022•16 min•Ep. 117
When we spoke last year, Vanessa had just informed her parents she was taking a leave of absence from her physician associate program. She returns to speak with Juleyka about the self- discovery she experienced while getting clarity around career choices, and the steps she took to shift her relationship with her parents during her time off. If you loved this episode, listen to Vanessa's original episode Taking a Break from School, Then Telling Her Parents . We’d love to hear your stories of triu...
Jul 18, 2022•17 min•Ep. 116
Mariela used to be the family peacekeeper, but as she learns to acknowledge negative emotions and embrace healthy conflict, she's facing resistance from her Mexican mom. And therapist Nicole Linardi helps us understand the impact sibling order has on relationships, and offers tips for negotiating family expectations. Featured Expert: Dr. Nicole Linardi is a Bilingual (English/Spanish) Licensed Mental Health Counselor with a Masters in Science degree from Nova Southeastern University. She graduat...
Jul 11, 2022•20 min•Ep. 115
As an adult, Lorilee made the decision to disclose to her Filipina mom the sexual abuse she says she endured as a child. And Mira Yusef, advocate and community organizer against gender-based violence, speaks with Juleyka about how to have hard conversations about abuse, disclosure and accountability. Lorilee is the host of Trauma Survivor Thriver’s Podcast. You can learn more about her work here . Featured Expert: Mira Yusef is Executive Director of Monsoon Asians & Pacific Islanders in Soli...
Jul 04, 2022•21 min•Ep. 114
While speaking to her Korean mom about anti-Asian violence amidst the COVID-19 pandemic, Phyllis must also confront her family's prejudice. And racial justice attorney and activist Manjusha Kulkarni offers advice for talking with parents about challenging racial discrimination. Phylllis writes about parenting, race and diversity, and being raised by an immigrant family on her blog, The Napkin Hoarder. Featured Expert: Manjusha P. Kulkarni (Manju) is Executive Director of AAPI Equity Alliance (AA...
Jun 27, 2022•20 min•Ep. 113
When Ashley turned to therapy and medication for her depression she worried her Puerto Rican mom would feel guilty. And MarySue Heilemann, a nurse and researcher who studies transmedia and the mental well-being of Latinas, busts myths around mental health treatments and offers tips for getting our parents to accept our choices. Featured Expert: Dr. MarySue Heilemann, PhD, RN, FAAN is a professor at the UCLA School of Nursing and an Associate Director of the UCLA National Clinicial Scholars Progr...
Jun 20, 2022•20 min•Ep. 112
As a high school student Terry dreamed of going away to college, but she knew her Cuban parents would never allow it. And Juleyka speaks with filmmaker and activist Denise Soler Cox about how to tackle the ongoing push and pull between Latino family expectations and our self-determination. Terry Catasús Jennings is an award-wining children's book writer and the author of The Little House of Hope and its translation, La Casita de Esperanza. Learn more about her work here . Featured Expert: Denise...
Jun 13, 2022•21 min•Ep. 111
When Kathy left corporate America to become an energy worker, her Salvadoran mom didn't understand her choice, or why Kathy felt so drawn to it. And Cynthia Pong, a career coach, helps us break down corporate trauma and speak with our parents about finding purpose in our work. Featured Expert: Cynthia Pong is a nationally recognized, award-winning, NYU-trained lawyer turned career coach whose passion is helping women of color realize their ambitious career goals. She also loves partnering with o...
Jun 06, 2022•20 min•Ep. 110
Bunmi is looking for a partner, but talking with her Nigerian mom about her love life is complicated. And Sherrae Lachhu, a relationship coach for BIPOC couples and individuals, speaks with Juleyka about differentiating our relationship values from our parents'. Featured Expert : Sherrae Lachhu is a licensed marriage and family therapist who empowers individuals to be the best versions of themselves in life, love, and business through her speaking, coaching, consulting, and therapy services. Wit...
May 30, 2022•21 min•Ep. 109
Amy’s Puerto Rican mom began making retirement plans around the future grandchildren Amy would give her. But Amy had to tell her she was not planning to have kids. And Psychologist Maritza Mikolich returns to the show to explain codependency and offer advice on setting boundaries when sharing personal decisions with loved ones. Featured Expert : Dr. Maritza Mikolich is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a doctoral degree in psychology. She comes from a traditional Mexican family, rais...
May 23, 2022•19 min•Ep. 108
Brenda wants to talk to her Mexican dad about his history with alcohol abuse and the violence it caused, but he's usually closed off about it. And Katheryn Perez, a therapist who works with first-gen and BIPOC clients, offers strategies for broaching the subject with empathy and care—for everyone involved, including ourselves. Featured Expert : Katheryn Perez is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice. Her work is largely guided by her own life experiences as an immigrant wo...
May 16, 2022•18 min•Ep. 107
Nathalie says her fears around money, and her need for structure as an adult, come from how she was raised, but speaking vulnerably about it with her Dominican mom has always been hard. And Dr. Lisette Sanchez, a bilingual and bicultural psychologist helps us understand intergenerational trauma and what happens when our values conflict with our needs. Featured Expert : Dr. Lisette Sanchez, PhD is a bilingual and bicultural licensed psychologist, speaker and coach based out of Southern California...
May 09, 2022•20 min•Ep. 106
In her multigenerational Cuban-American household Yasmin is expected to be the main caretaker and problem-solver for her family, and the toxic dynamics are taking a toll on her confidence, spiking her stress levels and worsening her mental health. And Raquel Carrasquillo, a therapist and life coach who works primarily with Latino clients, shows us how to put our own needs first when looking after others. Featured Expert : Raquel Carrasquillo provides psychotherapy and coaching services aimed at ...
May 02, 2022•20 min•Ep. 105