Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!
There’s a big dating mistake you’re making—and you don’t even realize it. Most men obsess over tactics (what to say, how to text) instead of building the real foundation for success: a bulletproof mindset. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals the 3 S’s of dating success. The 3 S’s will build you unstoppable confidence and attract the women you want, all while being authentic. Listen now to start transforming your love life. DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREA...
Not getting good matches? Think the dating apps are rigged against you? Have hope! The truth is, you’re just making a few profile mistakes that hurt your results. This episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend” is Part 2 in a series on the 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Dating Profile. It’s the same strategy that dating coach Connell Barrett used to meet his girlfriend Jess. You’re about to learn 6 powerful fixes to finally start matching with women you want to date. Highlights of this Episode: 01:3...
Not getting good matches on Hinge, Bumble or the apps? The problem isn’t you. (You’re awesome!) It’s your profile. You’re probably missing a few of the 12 Essentials of an Irresistible Profile. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals the 12 photo and bio upgrades that will get you great matches—so you can finally start dating women you’re excited about. And you’ll do this with charm and authenticity, no sketchy pickup moves needed! Here are the 12 Essentials ...
A proud veteran with a big heart, Kyle was lonely and struggling to get dates—until dating coach Connell Barrett showed him how to approach women with real confidence and charm. “It’s amazing, but authenticity really does work,” Kyle says in this live coaching call. Soon he was going on two dates a week and had landed a girlfriend. Now newly single, he’s ready to level up again. Listen as Connell reviews Kyle’s Hinge profile and shares 3 simple ways to get more matches today. The Moments You Don...
Do you worry that you’re just not good-looking enough to date the kinds of women you’re into? In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett helps a man who wonders if any women will ever want him because he thinks he’s “ugly.” Connell breaks down what actually makes a man attractive—and it’s not male-model looks. Plus, another listener asks why women agree to dates and then cancel last minute, and Connell shares an easy fix. Episode Highlights: 05:30: “Connell, Am I Not Good-Looking Enough to At...
Tired of endless swiping that never leads to dates? Want to meet wonderful women in real life? Dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes David Vermeulen, founder of Inner Circle, a different kind of dating app. Inner Circle helps singles skip the small talk and make meaningful connections, both online and offline. As Vermeulen explains in this encore episode, Inner Circle hosts real-world events so its members can stop wasting time on flaky matches and connect with singles who genuinely want to date...
You see a gorgeous girl and want to approach her—but you freeze up! “What do I say? What if I’m creepy?” That inner voice kills your confidence, keeping you stuck and frustrated. Let’s fix it today! In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett teaches his client Ryan the 5 Master Steps to boldly approach women with charm and authenticity—no weird pickup moves needed. What You’ll Learn in this Live-Coaching Episode: 10:15: What Stops Ryan from ...
Are you a nice, nerdy guy? You might think this holds you back with women—but what if it’s actually a big advantage? Renowned dating coach Nick Notas joins host Connell Barrett (both proud nerds!) to reveal why many women are into thoughtful, even geeky men. Nick also shares how to make your authentic, nerdy self irresistibly attractive. Highlights of this Episode Include: 02:45: The Day Nick Realized that the “Pickup Artist” World Was Toxic 06:40: The “Aha!” Approach Moment that Changed His Dat...
Do you ever feel like you’re not tall or good-looking enough for women you find attractive? What if the real turn-off for women isn’t your height or looks but your insecurities? In this live-coaching episode, author and dating coach Connell Barrett helps his client Ryan crush those mindset blocks using a powerful process called the Authentic Awakening. It’s an effective way to build instant confidence by exposing the lies your insecurities tell you. The result? Ryan walks away with a whole new o...
Odds are, you struggle to read women and you miss subtle signals. This can cost you real romantic connections and leave you second-guessing yourself. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett talks with insightful dating expert Talia Koren, host of the “Dating Intentionally” podcast. Talia reveals how to recognize when a woman is into you, how to avoid “nice guy” mistakes that kill attraction, and why first-date follow-up is more important than the date itself. Y...
Is your dating confidence low? Do you get stuck in your head around women? You might be falling for one of the 5 most toxic dating myths. These lies crush your confidence, make it hard to talk to girls, and keep you stuck. In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett busts these myths—and gives you 5 powerful fixes to help you confidently meet smart, sexy women… and do it with charm and authenticity! You’re about to learn: 09:02: Why Your Looks Don’t Matter to Women 17:59: The “Alpha Male” Lie ...
John feels stuck and frustrated. He often sees attractive women he wants to talk to at bars and coffee shops, but he always freezes up and says nothing. (Sound familiar?) He’s about to break free of his approach anxiety—and you can, too! In this live coaching session, dating coach Connell Barrett reveals the hidden mental roadblocks that stop men from talking to women. Plus, Connell shares simple, proven fixes that you can use today. Get ready to approach women confidently and authentically (no ...
Do you struggle to attract the kinds of women you want to date? Chances are, you’re making some big mistakes that turn women off, and you don’t even realize it. Help is here! Lisa Hickey, CEO of the Good Men Project, joins dating coach Connell Barrett to identify—and fix—the hidden dating mistakes men make. You’ll learn how to connect with women authentically, flirt with charm, and boost your confidence. Plus, Lisa shares invaluable wisdom on modern masculinity. (Check out the Good Men Project f...
Dating experts Connell Barrett and Johnny Cassell discuss how to attract and maintain a great relationship. They explore the significance of self-love, maintaining masculinity, and breaking social patterns. Cassell shares stories and actionable advice on building confidence and improving social skills to enhance dating success.
Dating coach Connell Barrett shares seven powerful moves to escape the friend zone and attract women. He emphasizes authenticity, vulnerability, and flirty communication. The episode includes practical tips on texting, sharing personal stories, giving compliments, and escalating physical touch, plus a fun first-date game to spark connection and playful banter.
Are you exhausted by dating apps? Tired of first dates with people who aren’t right for you? What if someone hand-picked incredible women for you to meet—women who are just your type? Dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes elite matchmaker Amy Andersen, founder of Linx Dating, to break down the world of high-end matchmaking. Amy shares the key advantages of working with what she calls “your own personal cheerleader” and offers expert first-date tips to help you make a great impression. Connell an...
Do you ever struggle with what to say to women—either in person or when trying to craft the perfect text? Dating coach Connell Barrett gives you the 7 Best Banter Topics so you can keep conversations flirty and free-flowing. Whether you’re talking to her in person or messaging on your phone, just reach for one of these foolproof topics for instant banter. And you don’t need to be naturally witty. These simple tips will work for any guy! Plus, you’ll learn the Playful Pivot, a powerful technique ...
You know you should make moves with women—say the flirtatious thing, go for the kiss. But what if you come off as creepy? So you hold back… and nothing happens. You feel stuck, right? Renowned dating coach for women Evan Marc Katz is here to get you unstuck! Having coached thousands of single women, Evan knows exactly what they want. And today, he’ll tell you how to make the right moves to attract the ideal woman for you. You’re About to Learn: 02:15: What Women Really Want: Evan Breaks It Down ...
In this episode, Connell Barrett introduces the "3 Classes of Human Experience" framework to help listeners transform their lives and dating experiences. He explains how to identify and eliminate "empty comforts" (Class 3), and shift "necessary struggles" (Class 2) into fulfilling and enjoyable "ideal experiences" (Class 1). By applying mindset and mechanical shifts, listeners can transform dating from a grind into a fun and rewarding part of life.
“It’s Rom-Complicated!” returns, helping you find love by watching rom-com movies. This time, dating coach Connell Barrett shares love lessons from the 1989 Cameron Crowe classic “Say Anything.” He’s joined by special guest Cristina Nava, a Hollywood producer who specializes in making rom-coms! (Her latest movie, the very funny “Say a Little Prayer,” is now streaming on Amazon Prime and Apple TV.) Can a quirky nice guy like Lloyd Dobler (John Cusack) really win over his dream girl, Diane Court (...
So, you finally get a first date with a smart, attractive woman… only for her to say, “no thanks” to a second. It’s discouraging. Let’s fix that! After last week’s special 4-part Valentine’s Day series on meeting and attracting women IRL, you don’t want to put in all that effort only to hit a first-date roadblock. Connell and his girlfriend, Jess, break down what made their first date a fun, flirty success—and what you can do to get a LOT more second dates. (Originally aired in November.) In thi...
Do women send you mixed signals—and you have no clue what they mean? Get ready for the raw, unfiltered truth about what women really want, from straight- talking dating expert Sabrina Zohar. A social media sensation with over 2 million followers, Sabrina reveals why “nice guys” lose out, the texting mistakes that get you ghosted, and how to finally land dates with great women on the apps. Sabrina Will Tell You: 13:33: How to Stop Taking Rejection Personally and Bounce Back Stronger 20:15: The On...
It’s Valentine’s Weekend—get ready to flirt with women and get dates! In the last of a 4-part series about attracting women IRL, dating coach Connell Barrett shares the final steps in becoming a 1 Percent Man—the rare guy who can confidently approach women without weird pickup lines. You’ll hear ACTUAL AUDIO of Connell meeting and flirting with bright, beautiful women, for an inside look at how simple and powerful it is when you approach with authenticity. Plus, you’ll get great openers for 10 s...
You’re talking to a woman you like—now what? How do you avoid running out of things to say and awkward silences? And how do you ask her out? In Part 3 of this special dating IRL series, dating coach Connell Barrett gives you a simple, 3-step roadmap to keep the conversation flowing, spark attraction, and smoothly get her number. Plus, discover the 7 biggest conversation fails that kill attraction (and how to fix them). And you’ll learn the right way to meet women at the gym, without being “that ...
You see a woman you’d love to talk to, but your brain locks up. You overthink what to say, and the moment is gone—so is she. In part 2 of this special 4-part series on meeting women IRL, dating coach Connell Barrett reveals his foolproof Natural Approaching Method—a simple, tested way to start authentic conversations and almost always get a positive response. And it works 90% of the time, whether you’re at a bar, coffee shop, or the gym. What You’ll Learn: 3:40: How to Confidently Break the Ice ...
You’re tired of the apps, and you’d love to confidently talk to women at bars, cafes, stores or your gym. But hesitation and overthinking stop you. With Valentine’s Day here, it’s time to break free and start meeting women in real life. Dating coach Connell Barrett presents a special 4-part series to teach you how to meet women IRL the right way—not with weird “approach tactics” but with authentic confidence. In Part 1, Connell reveals the 5 mental blocks keeping you stuck and shares the 5 break...
Sick of sending openers that women ignore? Not sure what to write on Hinge, Tinder, or Bumble? In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett shares his top 10 best flirty online-dating openers—tested and proven to get responses. You’ll get copy-and-paste openers for every type of woman to get them writing you back and going on dates with you. Plus, Connell reveals his no. 1 opener that works on ANY woman … and gets him replies 81% of the time! You’re about to learn: 05:30: Connell’s Lowest Onlin...
You want a bright, beautiful girlfriend, right? But you’re not sure how to connect with women. And maybe the girls you’re attracted to keep picking other guys over you. Not anymore! Because you’re about to learn the 7 Dating Superpowers. Dating coach Connell Barrett reveals the 7 most powerful attractors that make women say, “I want him!” From confident flirting to texts she can’t resist, you’re about to go from Peter Parker to Spider-Man… no radioactive arachnid required! Plus, you don’t need a...
Do you ever feel like you’re just not what women want? Like you’re not charismatic or interesting or attractive enough? It’s frustrating. The good news? You can fix it—fast! In this special live coaching episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett guides his client Nick to a powerful breakthrough. In just one hour, Nick transforms from feeling insecure to truly magnetic, simply by destroying his biggest limiting belief. (This coaching session first aired in 2023. Now, in 2...
Are you just not sure how to talk to women, either on the apps or in real life? Top UK dating expert Hayley Quinn is here to show you how to flirt effortlessly, confidently read women, and get them asking YOU out. She knows exactly what creates attraction—and how you can get better results fast. You’ll learn how to talk to women in a way that feels authentic and sparks real connection, without overthinking or using weird “pickup” moves. Hayley and dating coach Connell Barrett will teach you: 2:5...