This week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode is a must-listen as it'll help both you and your children! It's all about creating new habits, and I share my top tips to not only establish new habits but to also maintain them in the long-term. Tune in now and discover how you can make positive changes in your life. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 You can watch the...
Mar 03, 2024•9 min
I get asked about back-chat a lot as I know it’s something we can really struggle with as parents. We usually associate this type of behaviour with the teenagers being rebellious and pushing every boundary, but it’s about what’s happening in our children’s internal world than something which is specifically related to a given age or stage of development. I’ll share my thoughts on why we are seeing this behaviour and I’ll share my top strategies to help and support. Here are the highlights: {1:18...
Feb 28, 2024•30 min•Ep. 143
In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode I'm answering a listener question "Can I insist on no devices when my child is having a sleepover?" With the rise of technology, it's a question that many of you may face, and as the CEO of your family, you can insist on this! Listen in as share my strategies to manage this situation and ensure that your child has a device-free sleepover. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener ...
Feb 25, 2024•11 min
We have 6,000 thoughts a day - 80% are negative and 90% of which are habitual. If you have low confidence you're telling yourself 4,800 times day you're not good enough!! I'll share how you can help your child build a new narrative. Here are the highlights: {1:18} The impact of words {4:15} Our words shape our child’s brain {6:50} They are always listening! {9:21} Think about the gender-based language {12:50} Be mindful not to over praise {16:10} 80% of thoughts are repetitive and negative {18:0...
Feb 21, 2024•25 min•Ep. 142
Would you like to achieve a #winwin? This week’s Bucket Emptying episode is just what you need! I’ll explain how your habit of completing routine tasks for your children is causing you to miss out on opportunities and hindering your children’s development of independence. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube 💚 ...
Feb 18, 2024•12 min
Parenting isn't a popularity contest. It's about making the difficult decisions, because we're playing the long game AND it won't make us popular. Boundaries allow children to grow and become the resilient adults we all want them to be. Here are the highlights: {0:40} Positive parenting does not mean equal terms friendship {2:00} What do we mean by boundaries? {5:28} You children will hate you regularly as they grow up! {7:40} Do you have unresolved childhood challenges? {9:41} Children need a h...
Feb 14, 2024•23 min•Ep. 141
This week's Bucket Emptying episode is a must-watch for all parents out there! Join me as I share my advice on how to stop comparing yourself to other parents and empty your own bucket. Let's break the habit and start focusing on our own journey. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube 💚 Access the free resources ...
Feb 11, 2024•12 min
Children’s Mental Health Week takes place from 5-11 February 2024 in the UK and this year's theme is ‘My Voice Matters’. It was set up by children’s mental health charity Place2Be and shines a spotlight on the importance of children and young people’s mental health. My Voice Matters is about empowering children and young people by providing them with the tools they need to express themselves. Today I'm revisiting an episode I released in May 2022, as I thought it would be helpful for parents, gr...
Feb 07, 2024•35 min•Ep. 140
In this week's Bucket Emptying episode, "Are All Rewards Created Equally?", I share my insight and tips. If you haven't had a chance to listen to the previous episodes, "Bribe or Rewards?" and "Help My Child Is Acting Entitled," be sure to check them out as the knowledge builds throughout the 3 episodes. Here are the links for your convenience: Bucket Emptying Episodes; Bribes or Rewards? https://drmaryhan.com/episode/should-we-use-bribes-or-rewards-with-our-children/ Ep 139: Help My Child Is Ac...
Feb 04, 2024•10 min
When our children act as though the world owes them a favour and they aren't prepared to work at something the alarm bells should be ringing. I'll explain what entitled behaviour is, how we inadvertently create it and what we need to do to fix it. Here are the highlights: (1:04) Is my child entitled? (5:00) What behaviour do you show your children? (8:09) Are you trying to be a friend or a parent? (12:05) Bribes enforce entitlement (14:51) Begin a regular practice of gratitude (17:00) Praise eff...
Jan 31, 2024•26 min•Ep. 139
Bribe or reward? Are they the same thing? No, they're not, and understanding the difference is crucial, especially when it comes to parenting. Tune into this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode where I'll explain more. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube 💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes...
Jan 28, 2024•8 min
More discussion with Catherine around managing screen time, how social platforms affect emotional wellbeing and finding a balance. Here are the highlights: (2:15) Understanding how your child uses their devices (9:45) Why do you need your phone close by? (13:55) Tracking screen/device time? (16:55) Which rules do you still follow? (18:45) Catherine’s 3 top tips for parents 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let ...
Jan 24, 2024•24 min•Ep. 138
As parents, we all want to give our children the tools to navigate the world with confidence. But what about when they're away from home? I was recently asked to write a blog post with guidance for parents managing their child’s first residential school trip, and I'm excited to share this advice with you in this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode. If you're looking for ways to help your child do difficult things, tune in to hear my valuable insights. 💚 Let's grow our village together, pleas...
Jan 21, 2024•11 min
I'm joined by my daughter to talk honestly about how she managed her own digital devices as part of her digital journey in the hope it helps you as parents have those conversations with your children. Here are the highlights: (2:30) Catherine’s journey with digital devices (5:25) Ages/stages and platforms (7:30) Navigating friendships with parents digital device rules (12:35) Instagram is a moment in time and not always real (16:19) Support your child on their journey We had so much to talk abou...
Jan 17, 2024•19 min•Ep. 137
As parents, it's not uncommon to feel overwhelmed by our own emotions, which can make it challenging to help our children manage theirs. But don't worry, I'm here to help! In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I share some practical tips to help you regulate your own emotions, so you can in turn help your children manage theirs. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future e...
Jan 14, 2024•11 min
Ditch the resolutions and set 'promises & intentions' instead. Helping children build their confidence is all about day to day behavioural changes. This is a super practical episode with a great free resource to get you started. Here are the highlights: (2:25) The top resolutions and who sets them (5:50) Let’s look at it differently (8:00) Why intention setting is so useful for the whole family (14:00) The Imagination Game (16:20) How would this feel? (19:35) Now let’s look at what this woul...
Jan 10, 2024•28 min•Ep. 136
Are chores causing arguments in your home? In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I'll explain the importance of shifting the language we use to encourage family members to work together in maintaining the home. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube 💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes ...
Jan 07, 2024•6 min
How should we respond to a child or teen who swears, is physical and aggressive when they experience big emotions? We might not recognise our child or teen in these moments. I will share my top tips of what to do in the moment to diffuse things, and how best to approach the education piece in order to distinguish future explosive outbursts. Here are the highlights: (2:15) Recap from Ep 134 (5:00) Explosive behaviours (7:50) Don’t be drawn into name calling or abusive language (10:40) Keep your v...
Jan 03, 2024•24 min•Ep. 135
Learning to say no can be a game-changer. Do you often find yourself saying yes to everything and everyone, only to regret it later? Setting boundaries takes practice and can be challenging, but it's worth it. In this week's Bucket Emptying episode I share my tips on how to learn to say no and prioritise what matters most. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 You c...
Dec 31, 2023•11 min
How a child or teen manages those 'big' emotions speaks volumes about their current well-being. I take a belts and braces approach covering why they may struggle with their feelings, how we ought to react in the moment, and how we can help them find more appropriate ways of responding. Here are the highlights: (3:15) What are big emotions? (6:00) 4 principles of emotional behaviour (11:10) Consider your child’s emotional stage not chronological age (15:45) 3 things to do in the moment (23:45) 3 ...
Dec 27, 2023•32 min•Ep. 134
Happy Christmas everyone 🎄 Are you feeling overwhelmed during this festive season? Don't worry, I've got you covered! In this week’s Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I'm sharing 3 tips to help you manage expectations and make the most of this wonderful time. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube 💚 Access the fr...
Dec 24, 2023•10 min
Independence is the foundation to self-esteem and confidence. Independent children have stronger social skills, greater academic success, and fare better in life. So how do we foster independence? I'll share my top five tops. Here are the highlights: (0:35) What do I mean by independence? (3:00) Reflect - what are you doing to model these skills? (3:28) Encourage your child to make mistakes (8:55) Give choices wherever possible (14:08) Give stage appropriate responsibility (16:30) Encourage your...
Dec 20, 2023•25 min•Ep. 133
Have your children started asking if Santa, the Tooth Fairy, or the Easter Bunny are real? Are you struggling with the dilemma of whether or not to tell your children the truth about these mythical figures? In this week's Bucket Emptying episode, I answer a listener's question on this very topic. Tune in to find out my take on this age-old parenting predicament. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know wha...
Dec 17, 2023•8 min
It is aptly named the ‘silly season’ for a reason; all routine and rationale goes out the window. Unrealistic expectations and huge pressure to be one big happy of family can have us all pulling our hair out whether it's festive season or summer holidays. I'll share my five top tips to keep you sane. Here are the highlights: (3:00) Where are your flash points? (8:55) Have realistic expectations (14:00) What’s your exit strategy? (16:45) Try not to take things too seriously (18:40) Have the diffi...
Dec 13, 2023•24 min•Ep. 132
As a CEO of your family, you might be wondering how much screen time is appropriate for your children. While there is no one-size-fits-all answer, you can guess I have an opinion. In this week's Bucket Emptying episode I'll help you work out your child's ' big rocks ' to start the calculation. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying E...
Dec 10, 2023•11 min
Is it our responsibility to push our children so they achieve what they are capable of? Goodness knows where they'd end up if we didn't?!! I'll share why I think this approach is flawed and might actually back-fire. I'll also share what we should be doing instead. Here are the highlights: (2:20) Mistakes and failure (4:45) Two types of motivation (7:15) Three parental choices (9:50) Setting standards and expectations (14:00) Remember growth mindset (17:45) Mastery goals matter, not performance g...
Dec 06, 2023•26 min•Ep. 131
As a parent, guilt can often feel like an unavoidable part of the package. It can be overwhelming, but it doesn't have to be. In fact, there are ways to manage parenting guilt. In this week’s Bucket Emptying episode I’ll share my top tips. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube 💚 Access the free resources mention...
Dec 03, 2023•9 min
We hear so much now about the importance of food and nutrition not only for our children’s physical health but also their emotional mental health. Lucinda shares her top tips and explains why ‘gut health’ is as important for children as it is for adults. You really are in for a treat! Here are the highlights: (2:30) Importance of gut health for teens and tweens (10:30) Lactobacillus is so important for neurotransmitters (15:20) Eat the rainbow (16:44) Zinc and the importance of breakfast (27:48)...
Nov 29, 2023•39 min•Ep. 130
Mealtime management is a crucial skill that can greatly impact the lives of all members of the family. Meals create not only an opportunity for our children to fuel their bodies, but time to connect with each other and learn great life skills. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes 💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube 💚 Access the free resources men...
Nov 26, 2023•10 min
A must listen if you are struggling with sibling arguments and friction which is making life at home feel quite unbearable. The solution isn't just in how you deal with it in the moment it's in how your child sees themselves in your family. Here are the highlights: (1:25) Sibling rivalry is a natural part of family dynamics (3:39) How does your child feel about themselves? (5:31) What role does your child have within the family? (8:59) Birth order matters (10:50) Do you find one child easier to ...
Nov 22, 2023•27 min•Ep. 129
