Big personal update from us this week, Amy has just landed a full-time coaching role and the whole family rhythm is about to shift. In this episode we share how it all came together (it's a good story), what it means for the podcast, and how we're preparing as a couple for a season of significant change. We also run through Myth or Fact, covering mental load, anxious-avoidant attachment, whether having a baby brings couples closer, and intimacy frequency and relationship satisfaction, plus our c...
Apr 20, 2026•51 min•Season 3Ep. 9
This week on Honey, We Need to Chat , we almost didn’t record. After a chaotic week of sickness, exhaustion, and zero preparation, we found ourselves asking a question that every couple faces at some point: How do you show up in your relationship when you don’t feel like you can? In this episode, we unpack what it really looks like to navigate “survival seasons” in relationships, those times marked by burnout, illness, financial stress, young kids, mental health struggles, and overwhelming life ...
Apr 13, 2026•37 min•Season 3Ep. 8
Does this sound familiar? You can tell something's off with your partner. You ask "are you okay?" They say "I'm fine." You ask again. They snap. You spiral. They shut down completely. In this episode of Honey, Need a Chat , Amy and Blair get into one of the most common, and quietly damaging, patterns in relationships: the demand-withdrawal cycle. One partner keeps asking. The other keeps shutting down. And both walk away feeling unheard. Here's the thing: neither of you is wrong. It's the patter...
Mar 31, 2026•49 min•Season 3Ep. 9
The mental load is real, invisible, and quietly exhausting. Amy and Blair break down what it is, why it's so hard to see, and how to finally talk about it. Today we're throwing it back to our most popular episode: Ever feel like you're managing your entire household inside your head, and your partner has no idea? That's the mental load. And it's one of the most common, least-talked-about sources of tension in relationships. In this episode, Amy and Blair revisit one of their most-listened-to con...
Mar 23, 2026•57 min•Season 3Ep. 74
Have you ever planned the perfect family weekend, date night, holiday, or special moment, only to end up stressed, snappy, and feeling like you ruined it? In this episode, we explore perfectionism in relationships, emotional pressure, family expectations, parenting stress, disappointment, and the trap of needing everything to go right in order to feel connected. We share personal stories, practical communication tools, and a simple mindset shift to help couples stop chasing perfect and start bui...
Mar 16, 2026•51 min•Season 3Ep. 6
What questions should every couple answer before getting married? Blair & Amy break down 13 marriage therapist-identified topics across 4 blocks: money & roles, communication, family & in-laws, and intimacy. This is your premarital coaching session. FULL DESCRIPTION: Not premarital counseling, premarital coaching. In this episode, Blair and Amy unpack the 13 most triggering conversations every couple needs to have, whether you're three months in, engaged, or already married. Drawing ...
Mar 08, 2026•54 min•Season 3Ep. 5
If you’re planning a wedding, engaged, newly married, or 10 years in, this episode is for you. We’re reacting to marriage hot takes and the stuff people wish they’d talked about before the big day. Not flowers. Not seating charts. The real topics: communication , compatibility , family dynamics , mental load , sex drive mismatches , porn boundaries , affairs and emotional boundaries , and why marriage does not magically fix insecurity or conflict. We also kick off with a chaotic “Would You Rathe...
Mar 03, 2026•59 min•Season 3Ep. 4
Ever loved your partner… but couldn’t stand their friends ? In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat , we unpack the messy reality of when your partner’s friendship group becomes a relationship problem and why it’s never as simple as “just cut them off”. We talk about the hidden layers: identity, loyalty, history, grief , and the fear of becoming “the controlling partner” plus what it feels like when you’re the one not protected, not included, or treated like the villain . We also explore how f...
Feb 22, 2026•52 min•Season 3Ep. 3
We’ve talked about the mental load — but today we’re diving into another hidden pressure in relationships: the social load . The social load includes the practical work of managing friendships, invitations, kids’ social calendars and family events… and the in-the-moment strain when one partner withdraws socially (or when one partner becomes the other’s entire social world). We unpack why social withdrawal often develops over time (parenting, burnout, insecurity, mental health), read a relatable ...
Feb 15, 2026•53 min•Season 3Ep. 2
Season 3 is here and we’re coming in honest! Chatting all about the last few months, burnout , life pressure, and a full maintenance phase . In this episode, we share: Why we took a break (and how to know when you need one too) What “survival mode” does to connection and communication A simple couple catch-up game (our “Bingo Check-In”) The practical mindset shift we’re using in 2026: declarations instead of resolutions How to make a tiny change this week that actually sticks (even if you’re tir...
Feb 08, 2026•54 min•Season 3Ep. 1
We’re alive 😅 promise. In this update episode, we’re sharing an honest update on life behind the scenes of Honey We Need to Chat podcast: burnout, balance, and big changes ahead. Between raising four kids, working in the not-for-profit world, and creating content we deeply believe in, we hit a wall. So we’re taking a much-needed season break before coming back refreshed, focused, and ready to level up everything we do. In this episode: 💬 Why we decided to pause the podcast for a season 🧠 What...
Oct 16, 2025•12 min•Season 1Ep. 68
The #1 Predictor of Health: Tiny Repairs That Make Relationships Last (Harvard Happiness Study) We’re calling out the “funny” partner-bashing that social media rewards and replacing it with real repair. Backed by the Harvard Happiness Study and other research on wellbeing, we show why relationships are the #1 predictor of health and longevity, more powerful than diet, money, or exercise. In this episode, you’ll learn: • Why contempt in relationships is quietly toxic • How to replace complaints w...
Sep 29, 2025•39 min•Season 1Ep. 67
Ever wondered why your relationship felt so exciting at the start, and how to bring some of that back now? In this episode of Honey We Need to Chat , Amy and Blair dive into the science of attraction (dopamine vs. oxytocin), why the honeymoon phase fades, and, most importantly, how to reignite the spark in your relationship today . We’ll share:✅ Why the early days feel so different (and what’s happening in your brain)✅ How to use anchors and memories to reconnect with your partner✅ Questions tha...
Sep 22, 2025•56 min•Season 1Ep. 66
Your partner does something that bothers you… do you bring it up and risk an argument, or stay quiet and let it simmer? In this episode, we break down real Reddit relationship stories and give you practical tools to raise concerns without wrecking the moment.What we cover:- Baby talk, mismatched effort, and “the ick” 🤯- Why unmet expectations cause recurring fights- How curiosity changes everything in conflict- The role of love languages in feeling prioritised- Why yelling isn’t “just normal” a...
Sep 15, 2025•52 min•Season 1Ep. 65
This isn’t just theory, it’s practical coaching you can apply in your next hard conversation. Are you stuck in the same arguments with your partner? This episode of Honey, We Need to Chat reveals how one underrated skill, curiosity, can help you stop fighting and start connecting. Amy walks through a real-life Reddit story about household chores and shows how judgment and defensiveness shut communication down, while curiosity opens the door to repair, empathy, and lasting connection. In this epi...
Sep 08, 2025•30 min•Season 1Ep. 64
Becoming a parent can be an incredibly isolating experience, not just for mums, but for dads too. And yet, dads are often left out of the perinatal conversation. In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat , Amy and Blair sit down with Tom and Kate Docking, founders of Dad’s Group and Man with a Pram , to explore why fatherhood support is a missing piece in family wellbeing, and how building community changes everything. What we cover: The surprising origins of Man with a Pram and how it’s grown i...
Sep 01, 2025•54 min•Season 1Ep. 63
If you were married to yourself, would it be a healthy, life-giving relationship, or a hard one? In this Relationship Reset Mini Series- episode of Honey, We Need to Chat , Amy and Blair ask the confronting but transformative question: What’s it like to be in a relationship with me? We dive into self-reflection, ownership, and the power of curiosity in relationships. You’ll hear: Why self-awareness is the foundation of emotional safety and trust. How intention vs. impact shapes your partner’s ex...
Aug 25, 2025•43 min•Season 1Ep. 62
Ever made a New Year’s resolution, only to fall back into old habits by week two? The same thing happens in relationships, we set huge goals, dream of date nights every week, and promise big changes… but nothing sticks.In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we’re breaking down why relationship goals fail and how to actually reset your relationship culture with practical tools that last. Whether you’re feeling disconnected, tired of trying things that don’t work, or just want to bring back cu...
Aug 18, 2025•48 min•Season 1Ep. 61
Ever caught yourself thinking, “I just don’t like my partner right now”? You’re not alone, and it doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. In this episode we unpack why couples lose the “like” factor, how it’s different from love, and practical ways to bring back the fun, curiosity, and lightness you once shared. We’ll talk about: Why you fall into “friend zone” or roommate mode Cultural lies that make you think the spark is gone How to spot and change unhelpful relationship rhythms The surpris...
Aug 11, 2025•50 min•Season 1Ep. 60
Real love ONLY works when both people are owning their stuff. If you’re tired of carrying the emotional load, walking on eggshells, or repeating the same arguments, this episode is for you. In this raw and practical conversation, Amy and Blair unpack what accountability and integrity actually look like in healthy relationships. You’ll learn how to stop the blame cycle, rebuild emotional safety, and create the kind of trust that doesn’t need to be chased. Whether your partner avoids hard conversa...
Aug 04, 2025•48 min
Welcome to our REWOUND RE-RELEASE Bonus Series . These are our TOP episodes ever, so we're bringing them back as bonus video episodes. In one of our most-downloaded conversations, we dive into the heart of what’s really going wrong in so many relationships: uneven emotional labour, avoidant communication, and partners who shut down instead of stepping up. We explore Reddit stories and real listener write-ins that expose the silent struggles so many couples face — including weaponised incompetenc...
Jul 28, 2025•1 hr 15 min•Season 1Ep. 57
Welcome to our REWOUND RE-RELEASE Bonus Series . These are our TOP episodes ever, so we're bringing them back as bonus video episodes. Does your partner shut down during conflict? Do conversations feel like hitting a brick wall, no matter how hard you try? You're not alone — and it's not hopeless. In this powerful re-release of one of our most-shared episodes, we explore what’s really going on when one partner stonewalls, shuts down, or avoids hard conversations. We break down the psychology beh...
Jul 28, 2025•1 hr 9 min•Season 1Ep. 57
Welcome to our REWOUND RE-RELEASE Bonus Series . These are our TOP episodes ever, so we're bringing them back as bonus video episodes. Ever thought, "But I am helping!" — and still ended up in a fight? This episode is for every couple who’s ever tripped over the invisible burden of mental load. In this top re-release from Honey, We Need to Chat , we dive into the subtle but powerful dynamics that can derail even well-intentioned partners. Amy shares what mental load actually looks like (hint: it...
Jul 28, 2025•56 min•Season 1Ep. 57
Struggling with miscommunication, built-up resentment, or avoided conversations in your relationship? In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat , Amy and Blair unpack what it really means to future-proof your relationship, before emotional triggers, sarcasm, or misaligned expectations quietly wear it down. We talk:💔 The subtle cracks that break couples, and how to spot them early🎯 Why strong couples still struggle with communication, tone, and emotional triggers🛠️ How to build a relationship ...
Jul 28, 2025•56 min•Season 1Ep. 58
Ever blurted something out and instantly regretted it? Whether it's sarcasm, body image comments, or unspoken assumptions, clumsy conversations happen in every relationship. In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat , Amy and Blair dive into the messy aftermath of words that land wrong, even when you didn’t mean it that way. Using real Reddit stories, they explore what causes these misfires, how emotional baggage and burnout play a role, and what practical tools couples can use to repair and rec...
Jul 21, 2025•46 min•Season 1Ep. 57
Ever find yourself saying, "That's not what I meant!" after a conversation spirals out of control? Or maybe your partner’s words always seem to come out wrong, sparking frustration instead of connection. In this practical episode of Honey, We Need to Chat , we're tackling how to overcome clumsy communication, decode mixed messages, and finally say what you mean, clearly and constructively. From navigating nervous system reactions and emotional overwhelm to mastering practical conversation starte...
Jul 14, 2025•42 min•Season 1Ep. 56
Struggling with blunt comments, sarcastic jabs, or misunderstood intentions in your relationship? This episode of Honey, We Need to Chat cuts straight to practical tools and honest insights to decode hidden messages, manage emotional triggers, and navigate tough conversations effectively. Break negative patterns and reconnect with your partner. Perfect for couples ready for clear, constructive communication. ✨ In this episode: How emotional triggers affect your reactions Tips to decode hidden me...
Jul 07, 2025•49 min•Season 1Ep. 55
In this eye-opening episode of Honey, We Need to Chat , Amy and Blair dive deep into the other side of the mental load conversation, exploring what it might feel like to be the partner on the receiving end, from real life stories. Are they really ignoring the invisible labour… or just overwhelmed in their own way? Featuring real Reddit stories and brutally honest forum comments, this episode unpacks emotional labour, communication breakdowns, unspoken contracts, resentment, parenting stress, and...
Jun 30, 2025•45 min•Season 1Ep. 54
You finally brought up the mental load. You found the words. You mustered the courage. And then… nothing. Maybe they shut down. Maybe they pushed back. Maybe the conversation just fell flat. In this powerful follow-up to our original Mental Load episode, we unpack what happens when that invisible labour finally gets named, but the conversation doesn’t land. Whether you're met with defensiveness , silence, or a flat-out dismissal, this episode walks you through what to do when your partner isn’t ...
Jun 23, 2025•56 min•Season 1Ep. 53
What’s the feeling you can’t even name, let alone share? In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we’re diving deep into the emotional undercurrents that silently shape our reactions, create disconnection, and quietly erode intimacy. We explore the concept of unbearable feelings, those overwhelming emotions like shame, hyper-responsibility, fear of being too much or not enough, and how they manifest in relationships through bottling, numbing, stonewalling, over-functioning, and explosive react...
Jun 16, 2025•44 min•Season 1Ep. 52
