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Hiding in the Bathroom

Morra Aarons-Melewww.hidinginthebathroom.com
Welcome to Hiding in the Bathroom! We examine the secret life of leadership, work, and success. From anxiety, work-life balance, figuring out what you want, and building the kind of business you love, we hear from leaders of all stripes. Each week host Morra Aarons-Mele invites her favorite, most interesting friends and colleagues from politics, feminism, business media and psychology on to talk about creating the career and life you want, driving social change, smashing the patriarchy, and what to do when you want to hide in the bathroom. It's like a "nerdy dinner party conversation between two great minds."
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Episodes

Margaret Brennan: the Big Picture of the News

She is the only woman host of a network Sunday morning news show, and even though she's a veteran journalist who has reported from Tehran, Baghdad, Kabul, and Beijing, covered the Iran nuclear deal, the chemical weapons deal in Syria, the reopening of relations with Cuba and been a White House correspondent..when you Google her most of the recent stories cover her baby bump, how she met her husband, and her "first-ness" as a woman moderator. That's alright though, because Brennan understands tha...

Aug 20, 201832 minSeason 3Ep. 6

Fixing Digital in Politics

What's the best path forward for digital campaigns? Online fundraising, organizing, and campaigning are fundamental to how we run for office now, but we're rightly nervous. Social media is a hugely powerful tool for candidates and organizing for change, and online fundraising a cash cow that allows normal people to meaningfully contribute to political campaigns when they might otherwise be shut out. But the entrenched consultant culture in our politics doesn't always have incentives to drive inn...

Jun 12, 201827 minSeason 3Ep. 5

How Do You Fix a Failed System?

Poet and scholar Gloria Anzaldua said "a woman who writes has power, and a woman who has power is feared." My guest Kelly Wickham Hurst says "Once writing started to happen for me, there was power there." So we explore the unfurling of Kelly's power and how she found her identity as a storyteller. Kelly Wickham Hurst used her many years as an educator and the power of her voice to create Being Black at School, which advocates for equity and safety for Black students. Kelly's team helps teachers,...

May 29, 201833 minSeason 3Ep. 4

No Match for Moms

From the time she was five, Kelsey Wirth traveled with her dad Tim Wirth as he was up for reelection in Congress- every two years in a swing district. Kelsey says she grew up in the spirit of both unpredictability and standing up for what you believe in. She is comfortable with uncertainty, something she credits with her success as an entrepreneur (she co-founded Invisalign at 27) and her work behind the non profit Mothers Out Front , which uses grassroots organizing to tackle the dirty energy p...

May 22, 201827 minSeason 3Ep. 3

How Can I Do My Dream Work and Pay the Bills?

If there's one question I get over and over, it's "How can I pursue a dream career as a content creator/artist/inspirational speaker/influencer and still pay the mortgage?" Is this you? On paper everything is perfect, and yet: you're a talented, well-paid professional seeking a path of much less security, and probably, less income. Or like Karen Walrond, you're waking up decades after Dad said, "You're a math person. You should be an engineer." My guest Karen Walrond and I rehash our paths from ...

May 13, 201835 minSeason 3Ep. 2

The Mothers Are Coming

"There is nothing a gun extremist has as much love for as we do for our children." That's the true theory of change behind Moms Demand Action , a 50 state strong movement of over 4 million Americans who demand legislators fix our epidemic of gun violence. Moms Demand members show up in state legislatures (and my Twitter feed) almost every day, fearless in the face of threats. Founder Shannon Watts says "All credit goes to every talented, Type A, badass moms who breathed life into this movement."...

May 01, 201826 minSeason 3Ep. 1

Introversion, Leadership, and Patriarchy

Gender, age, perception all color how introverts experience the world and how the world experiences us. So I was excited to sit down with Jennifer Kahnweiler, "champion of introverts," and ask her expert advice on some of the most frequent questions I've gotten about introversion as host and author of Hiding in the Bathroom. What are the top myths about introverts? What's the best meeting style for an introvert? Dig in for some great and unexpected advice! This is an amazing precis for anyone, i...

Apr 10, 201830 minSeason 3Ep. 10

Cindy Gallop Disrupts Aging

Cindy Gallop is a former advertising executive who now runs Make Love Not Porn, a startup rewriting the rules of sex online. Cindy is 57 and she "shouts it from the rooftops." Whether you're a precocious 25 year old in a room full of older executives, a woman over 40 who feels increasingly uneasy, or a 60 something tech nerd feeling squeezed, there is a feeling that we should hide our age. Cindy doesn't do that. She dates younger men. She's a tech entrepreneur. She's a total role model. Take it ...

Mar 05, 201831 minSeason 3Ep. 9

Black Women Winning Office: Higher Heights is Drafting the Playbook

“We have to create the leaders we want, and there is no more promising investment than Black women,” says my guest Kimberly Peeler-Allen. Peeler-Allen is co-founder of Higher Heights , which is building a national infrastructure to harness Black women’s political power and leadership potential. African American women are consistently the difference between victory for Democrats and loss, and we discuss her work, and the Democratic Party’s role in supporting turnout and new candidates. How to put...

Feb 06, 201834 minSeason 3Ep. 7

What Does it Mean to Smash the Patriarchy

Living life through the male gaze has become so normal, we may not even notice. That's why it's important to step back and examine the terms and constructs we use to describe and dissemble a world where men dominate. Dr. Emerald Archer joins me to put her engaging and scholarly lens and helps us think about every day life through the lens of living in patriarchy. Plus, Morra's thoughts on Aziz Ansari, and how an experience with slashed tires made her get in touch with her rage. (Spoiler alert: I...

Jan 23, 201835 minSeason 3Ep. 6

Dealing with predators at work

Morra recorded this episode with writer, attorney, entrepreneur, founder of #Changetheratio and The List, and feminist thinker Rachel Sklar during the fall 2016 Trump campaign. We talked about sexual predation at work and how to negotiate dealing with predators while advancing in your career. Our conversation is even more relevant right now, in January 2018. We talk about the temptation to "grade" severity of your harassment ("it's not that bad"), resisting the temptation to write men off as "ha...

Jan 08, 201845 minSeason 3Ep. 6

What's Up With Werk?

You might assume a hi pressure, hi tech startup couldn't allow for flexibility. Not so says Werk co-founder Annie Dean: "We can't expect our team to meet our deadlines and innovate at the level we expect them to unless we're taking the time to understand the nuance of their personality. Some people don't want to be in the chaos of the small office all the time. Maybe they need time to breathe." And don't buy the story that work from home or workplace flexibility is on the wane. It's stronger tha...

Dec 19, 201717 minSeason 3Ep. 5

Donna Brazile DGAF

"If you've been told to shut up, keep talking." Donna shares great advice on how to get a seat at the table, and then be heard. Discussing her four decade career managing legendary political candidates and legendary egos, email hacks and threats from foreign powers, Brazile downloads the evolution of her influence and provides practical tactics for making change and being heard, even if you're a "troublemaker" as she calls herself. "I've gotten kicked off the plane. I've gotten knocked down. I'v...

Dec 11, 201734 minSeason 3Ep. 4

22,000 Women are Coming for Donald Trump and the GOP

Mad as hell? Here's the good news: the women across our country. A surge of women have stepped up to run for office. Over 22,000 of them, according to Stephanie Schriock, President of EMILY's List, super smart political strategist. Curious about running for elected office and what it takes? Stephanie will explain why you're ready. (We promise. You do not have to be Tracy Flick!) Listen in as we talk politics, Trump, and how introverts toying with public service can tackle their hesitancy and run...

Dec 04, 201732 minSeason 3Ep. 4

The News Industry has a Sexual Harassment Problem. Now What?

Katherine Goldstein was on the fast track to a top leadership position in digital journalism, with senior roles at Huffington Post and Conde Nast before she was 30. Then she had a baby. I met Katherine when she was a Nieman Fellow at Harvard. Her groundbreaking work on Mothers in the Newsroom (where are they?) is must reading for the moment we're in, as is her thinking on sexual harassment in the news business. She'll tell us the story. Have a listen....

Nov 28, 201720 minSeason 3Ep. 3

Anxiety is a liar

"I no longer give anxiety decision making power in my life," says Ashley C. Ford . There was a long time when I just leaned into my anxiety, she says, but now, she can separate the feelings from reality and dive in anyway. "Anxiety and depression are liars," Ashley says. So how to put them in their place? That's what we share on this podcast. Feelings are not facts. We also talk about the relationship between class privilege, race, and upbringing in managing mental health. PS: My husband says I ...

Nov 14, 201728 minSeason 3Ep. 2

My Life As An Unhappy Overachiever

In this exclusive short excerpt from the new book Hiding in the Bathroom: An Introvert's Roadmap to Getting Out There (When You'd Rather Stay Home) author and podcast host Morra shares her journey from serial job quitter and anxious overachiever to proud hermit entrepreneur. “I have the dubious distinction, of being an ambitious risk taker who also struggles with anxiety and depression. This has forced me to learn some very helpful coping mechanisms, and I want to share some today with you.” But...

Nov 01, 20179 minSeason 3Ep. 1

Awesomely Luvvie: The Vision That Worked

Blogger and bestselling author Luvvie Ajayi's secret to building a great career and ensuring there's a team in her corner? Bringing her audience along on her professional journey. On this episode of Hiding in the Bathroom, Luvvie and Morra talk about getting paid what you're worth, creating true diversity at work, and how to turn your vision into reality.

May 09, 201737 min

Speaking Truth, Finding Power

Reporting from throughout the city each day, Chicago Tribune reporter and 2017 Nieman Fellow Lolly Bowean has built a career telling the stories of people you probably aren't used to seeing in the newspaper - and she's rarely stuck in the office! Morra and Lolly talk about rejecting cynicism, why journalism matters, and how to build power inside your organization (finding "the juice") so you can do your best work and tell those stories.

May 02, 201742 min

Money, Money, Money

Annoying fact: men have more money than women. Cool fact: you can use your money to get ahead. On this episode of Hiding in the Bathroom, finance maven and Ellevest founder Sallie Krawcheck shares her personal finance tips designed to help women everywhere lead the lives they want.

Apr 25, 201737 min

What to Wear to Work

Stressed out about what to wear to your next big meeting or work event? Want to build a power look, but not sure how? We've got you covered. Fashion icon Stacy London, former host of What Not to Wear, shares her philosophy on style and career, why fashion is feminist, and why these days she's wearing what she wants.

Apr 18, 201741 min

Wheel of Awesome

Genevieve Jones and Rachel Skidmore work in the "wheel of awesome," creating experimental media for Skybound Entertainment. Morra talks to Genevieve and Rachel about geek and niche culture, how they built their careers, and finding your leadership philosophy. Plus a preview of our conversation with style icon Stacy London.

Apr 11, 201740 min

Reaching Financial Wellness

Financial therapist Amanda Clayman wasn't always a money expert. In her twenties, she spiraled into serious credit card debt before she got serious about her money. Now she counsels people on healthy ways to reach financial wellness. Listen as Amanda shares her tips for budgeting for a life you want, managing money with your partner, and building a relationship with money that will serve you for the long term.

Apr 04, 201737 min

Building A Not-So-Linear Career

A self-proclaimed "math kid," LegalZoom CMO Laura Goldberg started her career in finance so she could pay off her student loans. But she was passionate about the online music industry, so she took her skills to Napster, where she worked as COO before hopping industries again - twice. Morra and Laura talk about the early days of the internet, navigating bro-culture at work and how to propel your career forward while building a life you love.

Mar 28, 201731 min

Werk, Werk, Werk

Flexibility isn't just a perk - it's essential for keeping talented women in the workplace and on track for leadership positions. Morra talks to Annie Dean and Anna Auerbach, co-founders of the job site Werk, about their tips for negotiating flexibility, caregiving while working and taking control of your schedule so you can thrive.

Mar 21, 201731 min

Radical Self Care

When you're creating your own path or starting your own business, it's hard to remember to take care of your body. That's when you burn out (and your business can't afford that). Radical body mover and therapist Sukie Baxter joins Morra to explain how we can change the way we move, avoid burnout, and take up the space we deserve.

Mar 14, 201733 min

How To Do Powerful Work

How do you know when you're called to do something? When is it time to do meaningful work in the public sphere, and when is it time to let that go? Morra talks to Meighan Stone, Entrepreneurship Fellow at Harvard's Shorenstein Center and former president of the Malala Fund, about the seasons of her career, making big choices from a place of quiet reflection, and the many ways to do powerful work.

Mar 07, 201737 min

Reinventing Yourself

Morra talks to strategy and branding expert Dorie Clark about transforming your career by building a personal brand. We also hear from April Reign, activist and creator of #OscarsSoWhite, about the year in film

Feb 28, 201749 min

Politics, Fake Feminism and Advertising

After the election, longtime marketer and creative director Carrie Ingoglia noticed that while people around her were becoming increasingly politically active, the advertising industry remained conspicuously silent. On this episode of Hiding in the Bathroom, Morra and Carrie tackle big questions around politics, morality and fake feminism in advertising.

Feb 21, 201738 min

Why Self-Care Matters

Self-care: sometimes it feels like a new age buzzword, and other times it's something you really, really, need. Morra talks to non-profit leaders Aliza Sherman, Beth Kanter, and Christine Koh about how to build self-care into your daily routine, avoid burnout, and still be highly effective at work.

Feb 14, 201727 min
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