"My kids never help", "It's like pulling teeth", "Our family life feels disconnected", "They don't care about me or what I do for them"; frustration over the lack of help in our homes from our children can send us into a spiral of hard days. The sentiment that "kids will be kids" and we need to cater to their whims can topple the structure of our families. In this episode, with the help of Hunter, Gather, Parent by Michaleen Doucleff, we are going to challenge the Western assumptions we all hold...
Apr 25, 2023•46 min
229 // Applying Our Four Pillars: Connection, Being Present, Unconditional Love, & Healthy Boundaries When we first started Find the Magic, we realized through research and experience that many of the strategies and ideas we found in books boiled down to four pillars: Connection, Being Present, Unconditional Love, & Healthy Boundaries. We labeled these pillars because they figuratively hold up the loving, kind, respectful homes we are striving to cultivate. We have found that if you are ...
Apr 18, 2023•1 hr 3 min•Season 4Ep. 229
Friendships are exceedingly important, especially for mothers, in fact friendship is becoming a huge factor to over all health and wellness in a happy life. In this week's episode, we address listener questions and dive into how we can find and cultivate friendships and how that will look different in each stage of our lives as well as the age old question, should we have another baby? We dive into the intention to start from a whole place when making this decision and how Taralyn and Felica mad...
Apr 11, 2023•37 min•Season 4Ep. 228
This episode is the encouragement and reminder you need to recommit to living. Felica touches on the tenants of why we choose to be intentional with our screen use and find presence in our lived reality. She offers practical tips and how to's for detoxing from our devices as well as mindset reframes for why we are doing so. Happy detoxing! Related Episodes Finding Our Family Through Digital Minimalism Finding Solitude Through Digital Minimalism Saving Our Kids & Ourselves from Screens & ...
Apr 04, 2023•15 min•Season 4Ep. 227
Are you carrying the weight of the things you own? Are you carrying the weight of your todo list? Do you think thoughts like "I should be able to keep up with the chores." or "There must be something wrong with me, everyone else is doing it!" Today's interview is with Leslie Alder, she guides caregivers through their clutter and chaos and out the other side to lighten the load that parenting and motherhood so often place on our shoulders. Felica and Leslie dive into the mindset shifts needed to ...
Mar 29, 2023•41 min•Season 4Ep. 226
Our bodies are intelligent. They are the home to our mind, spirit and psyche and are affected by our emotions whether we acknowledge them or not. Making the connection between our bodies and our emotions can lead us to a place of wellness and wholeness. This week we explore the mind body connection with the work of Dr. Gabor Mate (When the Body Says No). We also dive into how we can process those emotions and perhaps allow them to move through and heal us. Feeling pain is hard. There is no way a...
Mar 21, 2023•1 hr 11 min•Season 4Ep. 225
There is a lot of parenting advice out there and it can seem overwhelming to sift through. In this episode Felica breaks down her favorite steps to connecting to our child during recurrent misbehavior or unreasonable tantrums and a new way to see our kids during their hard moments. Related episodes: 207 // We Are All Good Inside: Parenting Without Using Shame and Repairing When We Do, with Dr. Becky Kennedy Part 1 210 // Navigating Tricky Transitions With Kids Ahead of Time and What to Do When W...
Mar 14, 2023•15 min•Season 4Ep. 224
When experiencing beautiful moments of joy, wonder, or gratitude it can be easy to want to cling on to those moments and not want to let go. On the flip side, when we experience difficult, dark, or heavy moments it's hard not to try to rush through, avoid, or numb out in order to escape the present. In this episode, Katelin explores what we gain when we truly embrace the present moment during both the highs and the lows. Time Stamps 1:11 - Reluctance to let time pass 3:00 - “We suffer when we cl...
Mar 07, 2023•19 min•Season 4Ep. 223
We spend lots of time embracing positivity and focusing on ways to be positive, but where does that leave space for negative emotions? In this episode, we delve into why it's important to actually feel and process the difficult stuff, specifically the big emotion of anger. We know that flying off the handle in anger isn’t helpful, but neither is bottling it up. So where does that leave us? How can we process it in a healthy way? We use the work of Gabor Mate and Susan Cain to explore answers to ...
Feb 28, 2023•36 min•Season 4Ep. 222
This episode is a sleep meditation that Taralyn has guided many people through in person, and at their request, she has recorded it to use anytime you’d like. Simply play before bed and enjoy the relaxation:) Simply download the episode, and then you can listen to it even without wifi and on airplane mode. Related episodes: Who Needs Sleep? How To Make Our Rest A Little Better How Light Affects Our Sleep, Fertility, Our Child’s Behavior, and More with Andy Mant Our Daily Meditation : this is the...
Feb 21, 2023•14 min•Season 4Ep. 221
Sleep. We all want good sleep. For many of us, it’s like this elusive prize we keep hoping to win but keep having it snatched away by little adorable people (our children:), or bad dreams, or night wakings, or panic attacks, or (insert your sleep woes here–thay can be endless). In this episode, Taralyn gives 5 specific tips for improving your sleep and explains the next episode, which is her guided meditation for sleep (you’re welcome all her yoga students who have been requesting it for years!)...
Feb 21, 2023•29 min•Season 4Ep. 220
Finding home - a quest we are all on. What does it really mean and can we arrive? In this weeks mini magic Felica shares the impetus behind their adventure to Florida and 3 keys to help us navigate finding home. Home doesn’t always mean a concrete place or a city; what she unpacks helps us see that home is our heart and headspace. Home is a settled feeling of acceptance of all the unknowing, the good and the bad. Time Stamps 2:20 - Logistics of moving 4:41 - What makes home, home? How do we feel...
Feb 14, 2023•17 min•Season 4Ep. 219
How do you make sure everyone’s needs are met when it doesn’t feel like there is enough time in the day? How can you better your relationship with your spouse or partner when also trying to run a household and life together? What do you do when your kid starts saying things you don’t want them to say? In this episode, we dive into some of our recent listener questions and aim to help you with concrete tips and ideas to remedy these common household concerns. Books Mentioned Playful Parenting // ...
Feb 09, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Season 4Ep. 218
This episode covers tips of how to manage your time with intentionality and mindfulness. Felica interviews Laura VanderKam, author of Tranquility by Tuesday, and explores ways that we can get the most out of our time. She covers some ideas around how to avoid mindlessness in our schedules, bringing intention to our daily plans, and tips to help us feel less frazzled when it comes to using our time well. Learn more about how to manage your time better at Laura Vanderkam’s website and book: https:...
Jan 31, 2023•29 min•Season 4Ep. 217
We all know that we don’t love feeling jealous, but do we know the difference between jealous and envy? When we feel them, where do we go from there? What about when we feel resentful of someone? Where does this emotion come from and who is responsible for it? In this episode, we deep dive into these emotions using Brene Brown’s work as a guideline. Resentment is in the envy family, along with a host of other unpleasant emotions. We give some ideas on how to process these difficult feelings. Tim...
Jan 24, 2023•1 hr•Season 3Ep. 216
Parenting is overwhelming and unpredictable. Even in the best of times we can find ourselves reacting instead of responding to our kid's big emotions or perceived disobedience. We know that we are in charge of our internal landscape but often that feels much easier said than executed. Today Felica chats with host of Your Parenting Mojo, Jen Lumanlan about how we can identify and tame our internal triggers to create healthier relationships with our kids. This work often involves delving into our ...
Jan 17, 2023•55 min•Season 4Ep. 215
We all go through hard times. People we love experience hard things. What do we do when we are faced with the suffering of others? It can be easy to either push it away because it is too painful to see, or we can go the other way and fully immerse ourselves in a way that is more enmeshment than compassion. In this episode, Taralyn shares some personal experiences that have recently invited her to delve deep into what it means to be compassionate. She uses the work of Brene Brown, Kristin Neff, a...
Jan 10, 2023•34 min•Season 4Ep. 214
How do you feel about the New Year? Are you overwhelmed by the prospect of shaping a year? Do you rebel against the concept of new year goals? Do you thrive off of the excitement of setting intentions for the year? In this episode, each of us talk about our different approaches to the new year and how the different options suit our unique natures. It’s all about finding out what serves you best in your life. What do YOU want? We discuss liberating concepts like making vital space for what we lov...
Jan 03, 2023•1 hr 3 min•Season 4Ep. 214
It’s easy to keep our cool, accept our children for who they are, and hold boundaries with unconditional love when our kids are behaving well, but what about when their behavior scares us? What do we do when our kids lie? What about when they are feeling extra reserved and we worry they won’t be able to navigate social situations? How do we handle when our kids are so easily frustrated for reasons we don’t even understand (does it really matter how your socks line up with your heel? In this epis...
Dec 27, 2022•1 hr 27 min•Season 3Ep. 212
Nature has the power to heal us, ground us, and connect us to each other and something bigger than ourselves. In this episode Katelin explores some of the extraordinary benefits of being in nature for us and for our kids. You'll hear tips and ideas for how to experience the gifts of nature even during winter time :). Related Episodes Why Kids (and adults!) Need to Connect to Nature Books & Articles mentioned Last Child in the Woods // Richard Louv The Danish Way of Parenting Earthing: Health...
Dec 20, 2022•29 min•Season 3Ep. 211
There are so many situations that can be hard for kids (and parents!) during childhood. The beginning of school, separation from parents for a date night or work, or any change or transition can be difficult for kids and their emotions. In this episode, we draw on the wisdom of the book Good Inside to give lots of tips around this topic and make these situations easier. We also provide an alternative lens to look at whining through, and give several helpful tips on how to handle this universally...
Dec 13, 2022•45 min•Season 3Ep. 210
Life gives us lots of opportunities to both give and receive all year long, and especially around the holidays. How can we give from a place of wholeness without being drained? How can we truly receive what life has to offer us (and the gifts people give us) from a place of gratitude instead of emptiness or resistance? In this episode, Taralyn gives some tips on how to deepen our experience of giving and receiving that will enhance our lives instead of depleting us. Related episodes and the book...
Dec 06, 2022•40 min•Season 3Ep. 209
While the sentiment of being defined by Motherhood can be endearing, in today's Magic Moment Felica discusses what she feels could be troubling with this conversation and how we can reframe ourselves as whole persons as opposed to defining ourselves inside a role. She discusses how defining ourselves in a finite role can create dissonance in our authentic self and how we can let go of control and see our multitudes to prevent tunnel vision in our parenting. There is no one right way, we are all ...
Nov 29, 2022•12 min•Season 3Ep. 208
When our kids misbehave, it is easy to start spiraling in fear that they are going to end up as what we consider failed adults. We just want to do best for our kids, and sometimes, that leads us to parent using punishments, anger, and shame. In this episode, we dive deep into the work of Dr. Becky Kennedy, author or Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be. We focus specifically on how we can truly change our mindset when looking at our kids and ourselves with kindness and grac...
Nov 22, 2022•48 min•Season 3Ep. 207
Everyone has emotions, but some kids seem simply extra emotional. What can we do when it feels like our kids are crying over EVERYTHING? In this episode, we explore how to handle it when our kids have big emotions that alarm us. We also address feeling judgemental towards others’ parenting styles, and how to deal with power struggles with kiddos. Related episode and book we mentioned: How to Process Jealousy and Resist the Gaping Pit of Comparison Good Inside // Dr. Becky Kennedy Sponsor: GABB W...
Nov 15, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 3Ep. 206
Potty training can be a seemingly daunting task that many of us dread––whether because we’ve heard some nightmarish stories or maybe we’ve had some negative experiences ourselves. But it doesn’t have to be that way! Katelin interviews Monica Ferrie, an Australian toilet training expert and educator who shares refreshing insights and a different approach to potty training that follows the learning stages that all of us progress through when we learn how to do anything: modeling, exploring, teachi...
Nov 09, 2022•1 hr 19 min•Season 3Ep. 205
Parenting is one of the most transformative spiritual practices that we know of. In this episode, we discuss how we can use the tasks that we are already doing in parenting to actually elevate our spirituality. There are so many tips and tools we use daily that we share here that we use in our own lives regularly. We were largely inspired by Eckhart Tolle’s work on the subjects of spirituality and presence. RELATED EPISODES Deepening Connection and Belonging During the Holidays Creating Roots Th...
Nov 01, 2022•50 min•Season 3Ep. 204
This is a live recording of Taralyn actually walking you (and her yoga students during a class) through the fear release guided meditation that she has been using regularly herself for years. The first 6 minutes are the subconscious deep guided work, and then there is about 9 minutes of relaxation for you to enjoy before she walks you up out of the deep release. If you'd like to skip the center relaxation part, you can finish the guided meditation, and then skip to 14:30 so you be sure to be cou...
Nov 01, 2022•16 min•Season 3Ep. 203
Fear is a powerful emotion. All of us face it at some point of another, and often, it really puts a damper on the way we live our lives. It can interfere with us loving wholeheartedly and doing things that inspire (and scare) us. In this episode, Taralyn dives deep into the concept of facing and processing our fears so they don’t hold us back in life. She addresses 3 different kinds of fear, and walks you through steps to free yourself from the fears that don’t serve you. Books Taralyn Mentioned...
Oct 26, 2022•33 min•Season 3Ep. 202
Having children has such a beautiful gift in it in regards to our own spirituality. Parenting can be so full of love, can challenge our ego, and can create a beautiful surrender in our own soul as we embrace the delicious journey of this life. In this episode, Felica addresses how we can support our children in their own spiritual growth, while at the same time, we can also use it as a spiritual conduit of growth for ourselves as well. Book Felica Mentioned: The Spiritual Child // Lisa Miller, P...
Oct 18, 2022•12 min•Season 3Ep. 201
