This is our 200th episode!!! Thank you all for your amazing support!!! We are soooo grateful for the most amazing listeners in the entire world:). Sometimes, it feels like it's the cool kid thing to do to complain about parenthood all the time. On the other hand, it can be easy to portray our children as heavenly cherubs who do no wrong and parentland as being full of only bliss. It's a tricky balance to find between being honest about the fact that parenting isn’t unicorns and roses all the tim...
Oct 13, 2022•44 min•Season 3Ep. 200
How do you feel about your body? We live in a world that prizes a narrow body ideal, and it is easy to find our own perceptions of ourselves swayed by this view. In this episode, we discuss the brilliant body image work of Lexie and Lindsay Kite in their book, More Than a Body . We discuss how we can leave the waters of self objectication, where we experience the world through an outsider’s perspective of our bodies, onto the firm land of embodiment, where we can truly experience life IN our bod...
Oct 04, 2022•1 hr 9 min•Season 3Ep. 199
We LOVE books. We love them for us, and we love them for our kids. Sometimes, in a world full of seemingly infinite book titles, it’s hard to know where to start. In this episode, we share our current top book recommendations for kids. BOOKS WE RECOMMENDED I Can’t Wait to Go to the Dentist! // Jeanie Allen You’ve Got Dragons // Kathryn Cave Love monster // rachel bright Words on Fire // jennifer Nielson The Kissing Hand // Audry Penn Owl Babies // Martin Waddell The Rabbit Listened // Cori Doerr...
Sep 28, 2022•22 min•Season 3Ep. 198
"My Mother in Law is driving me crazy." "My brother's wife doesn't understand how much this party meant to me." "I don't want to go but I think I HAVE to because my in-laws expect us." Navigating extended family relationships can be tiring, overwhelming and sometimes create great hurt and turmoil. We have received countless requests to tackle this topic. Today we brought in a special guest to help us dive into this water. We talk about granting grace and empathy in our relationships. Creating he...
Sep 21, 2022•32 min•Season 3Ep. 197
Are anger and aggression always bad? Is there room for genuine upset in the realm of respectful parenting? There is merit and validity to accepting our emotions, even the strong ones! In this episode Felica breaks down the idea of using anger as a touch point to meaningful and empathetic connection with our children. She discusses the value of not squandering our anger but finding space for it. Can we see anger without shame and allow it to guide us to connection with our kids? Can we be genuine...
Sep 13, 2022•14 min•Season 3Ep. 196
It’s one thing to set aside time to sleep. That’s tricky enough. However, even when we allow ourselves the time to sleep, sometimes our kids simply don’t cooperate in allowing us to get several hours of consecutive sleep. What can we do then? In this episode, we address some coping strategies to help you when you are dealing with this special brand of sleep deprivation. We also talk about how it can be tricky to find connection time with our kids once school starts and give some tips that have h...
Sep 06, 2022•55 min•Season 3Ep. 195
Is there a way to follow our personal path and passions, and have a family and/or a career? Life is about making lots of choices and finding balance, and there is no one answer that works for everyone. In this episode, Taralyn talks about keeping the embers of dreams alive while you try to find that balance for yourself and what works in your life. Her three tips for deepening the experience of developing your own gifts are to 1) remember what you loved as child, 2) carve out a little bit of spa...
Aug 30, 2022•32 min•Season 3Ep. 194
Every change of season brings with it lots of opportunities for us to be intentional about what kind of life we want to create. As we shift from summer to fall this year, we discuss our very favorite tips on how to capitalize on these opportunities. Our children’s education, however that looks, whether in the home or out of the home, affects the rhythm of the whole family. With it, we have the chance to help our kids fly while still creating a beautiful grounding nest for them to connect with th...
Aug 23, 2022•28 min•Season 3Ep. 193
Remember what it was like to be a teenager? Do you remember the insecurity around discovering yourself? Now, imagine your teenage self with not only a school full of peers to compare yourself to, but with an entire internet full of people to measure up to, to compete with for likes, and pictures of parties you weren’t invited to. Can you imagine how hard that would be? Well many of our kids are experiencing just that. They are floundering in the deep end of a virtual pool before their brains are...
Aug 16, 2022•1 hr 15 min•Season 3Ep. 192
Setting aside time to feed our souls is important, and it’s no secret that one of our core habits to get this time is our morning routine. This habit has literally been the biggest game changer in our own fulfillment and wholeness, and so we really can’t say enough good about it. This subject remains one of our most frequently asked listener questions, so in this episode, we delve deep into some tricks to really help cement this routine into a long term, non-negotiable habit. We also introduce y...
Aug 09, 2022•54 min•Season 3Ep. 190
Have you ever been in the rut of the everyday? It can feel like a slog at times moving from one mundane task to the next. This shows up magnified in parenting when we are stuck on the treadmill of cleaning up spills, changing diapers, driving carpool, planning meals only to fall asleep exhausted and enter the next day that way! We easily catch ourselves living for our next date night, weekend away or perhaps even that day when “life will be easier, our kids will be older, we will have more money...
Aug 02, 2022•50 min•Season 3Ep. 190
How do we raise boys in this fabulously challenging time? In this episode, we revisit our very favorite pieces of knowledge on the subject by combining our two most popular discussions about it. We address issues like how to cultivate respectful, strong, and kind boys by channeling their natural strengths (as opposed to simply suppressing all of their tendencies and making them feel like they are terrible all the time). We explore some fascinating psychology and hopefully help all of us raise bo...
Jul 26, 2022•1 hr 44 min•Season 3Ep. 188
We are midway through the Summer, our kids are all home and life looks a little different. At Find the Magic we think seasons are a beautiful time to reflect and find insight and renewal. In this Magic Moment Felica will talk about being off social media and what awareness this has cultivated for her and how she is using this slower Summer schedule to do some inner work and see her children as a "garden" to tend to with love. She will also offer you some opportunities for pairing down your mind ...
Jul 19, 2022•13 min•Season 3Ep. 188
Control is a tricky thing. We sometimes want control everything when things are going wrong, and that becomes problematic when it involves other people. (Spoiler alert, we can’t control other people:). In this episode, we talk about how to balance having limits and healthy boundaries, while still allowing others, including our children, an appropriate amount of independence and autonomy. RELATED EPISODES Authoritative Parenting / Arguably the most EFFECTIVE Parenting Style Finding Joy Again When...
Jul 12, 2022•50 min•Season 3Ep. 187
Our bodies are our conduits for experiencing this life. It makes sense that caring for them from a place of love is a worthy investment for us. Self care is part of wholehearted living for both our body and our soul. Sometimes, when people talk about self care, they mention expensive hair products and elaborate pedicures. At Find the Magic, we are big fans of the kind of soul filling self care that is more about true fulfillment (think meditation, time with God, feeding our intellect, etc.). So,...
Jul 05, 2022•40 min•Season 3Ep. 186
Here at Find the Magic, we like to go deep. In fact, we love it. In this episode, we go way deep discussing Gary Zukav’s book, The Seat of the Soul. We can see why Oprah loves his work so much. We explore how the personality is different from the soul, but “when the personality comes fully to serve the energy of its soul, that is authentic empowerment.” It takes practice and awareness to differentiate between the workings of our own personality and the growth of our soul. The tools we can use fo...
Jun 29, 2022•1 hr 20 min•Season 3Ep. 185
Parenting strategies sound great when things are going well, but what about when the train comes off the tracks and your kids are seriously acting out? Kimball Lewis is the CEO of Empowering Parents, the home of the Total Transformation Program. He uses his experience with kids and teens who are acting out in really frustrating ways to give us lots of simple tips on how to help us gain back connection in our relationship with our children. The beautiful goal of these tips is to have a relationsh...
Jun 21, 2022•1 hr 12 min•Season 3Ep. 184
Having trouble paying attention? We all are. In this episode, we discuss Johann Hari’s book, Stolen Focus, and outline the 12 things that are stealing our ability to focus in our modern lives. It ISN’T a matter of discipline for which we need to constantly beat ourselves up for. There are huge systemic forces that are targeting our attention spans. The good news is: we can get it back. We can restore our attention spans individually and as a society. This episode has lots of eye opening research...
Jun 14, 2022•51 min•Season 3Ep. 183
Are you questioning yourself or simply not listening to what your heart, soul and body are telling you? Are each of your buckets so full that one drop would overflow any area of your life? Often we bypass our intuition and listen instead to outside inputs or numb out completely. Heather Chauvin is a podcaster, author and mother who brings personal empowerment and intuitive guidance to woman across the globe. We adore her and her message--one that will inspire you to listen to your own inklings o...
Jun 07, 2022•55 min•Season 3Ep. 182
Awe is an emotion that we don’t typically think about as an emotion but it turns out that this emotion could be a key to unlock fulfillment and a greater sense of meaning in our lives. Why? Because when we feel that sense of awe, we see that we are part of something bigger and greater than ourselves, and that in turn inspires us to do good, be better, and ultimately feel more alive. Listen in to learn how to cultivate more awe and wonder into your life. Articles & Links mentioned: https://ww...
May 31, 2022•16 min•Season 3Ep. 181
The habit of meditation is such a beneficial one that we talk about so much in this podcast. It is something that can be such a game changer. It allows us to find clarity in our lives as we move towards balance and as we analyze the guilt we feel as parents. In this episode, Felica talks with Kelly Smith from Meditation Mamas Podcast and the Mindful in Minutes Meditations Podcast . She delves into how she makes her meditation practice actually happen while still being a parent. YOU CAN FIND MORE...
May 24, 2022•36 min•Season 3Ep. 180
Dr. Thomas Lickona is a developmental psychologist and the founding director of the Center for the 4th and 5th R’s (Respect and Responsibility). In this episode, we explore his book, How to Raise Kind Kids, and discuss the benefits of being kind (it actually increases our happiness as well), and how to teach our children to be kind to themselves and others. Kindness is connected to character and respect, and there are lots of things we can do to model for our children. RELATED EPISODES Authorita...
May 17, 2022•53 min•Season 3Ep. 179
Creating a cohesive, successful and loving home environment starts with our leadership. Mike and Lindsay McCarthy are the authors of The Miracle Morning for Parents and Families , a beautiful accompaniment to Hal Elrod's The Miracle Morning for parents who have kids in the home. The book offers practical, sage wisdom for creating your ideal miracle morning even with kids interrupting and unique schedule concerns. In today's interview, we discuss what prompted the McCarthy's to make this change a...
May 10, 2022•41 min•Season 3Ep. 178
We all want our kids to feel confident. We want them to feel capable. In this episode, we delve into research on what words we use to encourage our kids. The concept of praise is a fascinating one, and some methods yield results that are opposite of what we intend. We discuss the difference between effort based praise and results based praise, and why it’s worth practicing the first. We also explore when it is really powerful to use identity praise when instilling values, and we describe how gra...
May 03, 2022•54 min•Season 3Ep. 177
Have you ever been trying to leave the house when your toddler insists on attempting (unsuccessfully) to do up all of her buttons on her own shirt? Has your child ever asked you to “watch this!” 17 times in 5 minutes? Have you ever wondered how to actually transition into quiet time from naptime to claim a little bit of rejuvenation time in the day? In this episode, we have a friend to friend discussion like we have been having at parks for the last decade. The issues we talk about are ones that...
Apr 26, 2022•1 hr 21 min•Season 3Ep. 176
“Any finite life — even the best one you could possibly imagine — is therefore a matter of ceaselessly waving goodbye to possibility.” –Oliver Burkman If we live to be 80 years old, that means we will live approximately 4000 weeks. Most people, when asked, guess a much higher number. We are, by nature of our mortal lives here on earth, limited in our experience of time. Realizing this is both humbling and liberating. Once we realize that we cannot do EVERYTHING (because it is impossible) and tha...
Apr 19, 2022•48 min•Season 3Ep. 175
"Put the big rocks in first"; a brilliant analogy by a brilliant mind BUT what if there are just too many big rocks? How can we acknowledge the myth that we can do it all if only we prioritize the "main" things. With all the work we do here around value alignment and setting priorities our world just plain has too many things that we want to say yes to. Saying no to something we know isn't aligned isn't the hard thing, saying no to something we wish could be a yes IS THE THING. Often times we li...
Apr 12, 2022•13 min•Season 3Ep. 174
It is one thing to identify our emotions and investigate them, but how do we lean into what we are feeling without getting stuck there? Where do we go from there? In this episode, we continue our conversation about Tara Brach’s book, Radical Acceptance , that we started in the episode Escaping the Trance of Unworthiness & Finding Self Acceptance Within . Specifically, we discuss our wanting selves and how when we are stuck in that mindset, we cannot be satisfied with any circumstance. We als...
Apr 05, 2022•2 hr 12 min•Season 3Ep. 173
This episode is the third in a three part series that deals with the voices that both hurt us (saboteurs) and help us (sages). After discussing the saboteurs that we entertain in our minds with Robin Davis, we explore the antidote to these negative voices in our heads. This is the sage mind that we all have. When we utilize our sage mind, we use the power to empathize, explore, innovate, navigate, and activate. These attributes combine together to create a powerful force that helps us create the...
Mar 29, 2022•1 hr 13 min•Season 3Ep. 172
This episode is the second in a three part series that deals with the voices that both hurt us (saboteurs) and help us (sages). In this episode, part two, we explore the nine accomplice saboteurs that stop us from living wholeheartedly. We each have different voices that are louder in our minds. This conversation is illuminating because as you listen, you will be able to identify your own saboteurs, which is the first step to taking away their power and getting on to living the life you want. Sa...
Mar 22, 2022•1 hr 25 min•Season 3Ep. 171
