In this episode, we explore the critical differences between healthy love and love addiction. We discuss the emotional dependencies that characterize love addiction, the signs to recognize it, and the traits of healthy love. The conversation delves into the root causes of love addiction, including unresolved childhood wounds and attachment styles, and offers practical steps for healing and cultivating healthy relationships. The episode emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, emotional indep...
Jan 31, 2025•23 min•Ep. 175
In this episode, we discuss the importance of self-leadership in the healing process after infidelity. Self-leadership involves taking responsibility for one's thoughts, emotions, and actions, which can significantly influence relationships. We cover various aspects of self-leadership, including emotional regulation, integrity, accountability, setting boundaries, and the ripple effect of personal growth. Reflect on your control, set intentions, and seek support as you navigate your healing journ...
Jan 24, 2025•23 min•Ep. 174
In this episode, we look at the concepts of transactional versus generous giving in relationships, particularly in the context of healing after infidelity. We discuss the motivations behind giving, the emotional toll of transactional giving, and the importance of genuine generosity without expectations. The episode emphasizes the need for self-awareness and communication in rebuilding trust and intimacy after betrayal. Key Takeaways: Transactional giving seeks control or an outcome. Generous giv...
Jan 17, 2025•24 min•Ep. 173
In this episode we discuss the challenges of navigating personal change and grief after infidelity. I share my own experiences of emotional upheaval as my son leaves for college, exploring the triggers that arise during significant life transitions. We'll emphasize the importance of self-awareness, healthy communication, and grounding techniques to manage intense emotions. Please embrace your healing journey and consider joining my transformative program for support and growth. In this episode: ...
Jan 10, 2025•23 min•Ep. 172
In this episode, we discuss the concept of false confidence, particularly in the context of healing from infidelity. We explore the difference between true empowerment and the illusion of strength, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and vulnerability in the healing process. The episode highlights how performative behaviors can hinder emotional recovery and the significance of assertiveness over control in rebuilding trust. I provide actionable steps for listeners to cultivate true confid...
Jan 03, 2025•27 min•Ep. 171
In this episode, Kendra Last and I delve into the complexities of narcissism in relationships, particularly in the context of betrayal and infidelity. Kendra shares her personal experiences with narcissistic partners, highlighting the signs and traits of narcissism, the impact it has on individuals, and the importance of recognizing one's worth in the healing process. The conversation emphasizes the significance of self-love, understanding the dynamics of narcissistic relationships, and the jour...
Dec 27, 2024•48 min•Ep. 170
In this episode, we discuss the critical role of remorse in healing from infidelity. I'll emphasize the importance of genuine apologies, the characteristics of real remorse, and how to advocate for meaningful communication in relationships. The conversation provides insights into what constitutes true remorse and the steps necessary for rebuilding trust after betrayal. In this episode: Understanding Remorse After Betrayal Defining Real Remorse The Importance of Genuine Apologies Characteristics ...
Dec 20, 2024•27 min•Ep. 169
Today let's delve into the complexities of commitment, especially in the wake of infidelity. We'll discover how committing can feel like a terrifying free fall and learn strategies to navigate these intense emotions. I'll share insights from coaching sessions, emphasizing the importance of going all in to find personal empowerment and growth. Whether you're deciding to stay in or leave a relationship, this episode offers valuable guidance on embracing vulnerability and finding grounding in uncer...
Dec 13, 2024•28 min•Ep. 168
Join Andrea in episode 167 of the Heal From Infidelity podcast as she explores the power of making choices, one at a time. Discover how each decision, big or small, can shape your life and lead to personal growth and healing. Andrea shares personal reflections from her busy Thanksgiving weekend, including the importance of advocating for oneself and the profound impact of life-altering decisions. She also announces an upcoming workshop on the decision to stay or go, offering guidance for those a...
Dec 06, 2024•24 min•Ep. 167
In this episode, Andrea shares personal experiences and insights that show how letting go of the need for certainty can lead to profound personal growth and self-discovery. She discusses the costs of clinging to the familiar and the steps needed to embrace the unknown, offering listeners a pathway to rebuild self-trust and create a life filled with possibility. Tune in to discover how stepping into the unknown can help you become the boldest, truest version of yourself. In this episode: Program ...
Nov 29, 2024•30 min•Ep. 166
In this episode, Andrea delves into the complex relationship between escapism and infidelity. Discover why individuals turn to escapism, how it manifests in both betrayed and betraying partners, and the long-term impact on relationships. Andrea offers insights into identifying escapism tendencies, confronting them, and fostering personal growth and healing. Tune in to learn how to face personal struggles and relationship challenges head-on, and explore healthier coping strategies for a more fulf...
Nov 22, 2024•29 min•Ep. 165
Andrea explores the profound impact of judgment on relationships, especially in the aftermath of infidelity. Discover how judgment can hinder healing and connection, and learn the difference between judgment and discernment. Andrea discusses empathy and self-compassion as powerful tools to overcome judgment and foster communication. Whether you're working to rebuild a relationship or deciding to move on, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable advice to help you navigate the complex...
Nov 15, 2024•25 min•Ep. 164
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Nov 12, 2024•1 min
In this episode, Andrea delves into the intricate relationship between technology and infidelity. Discover how the digital age has transformed the landscape of relationships, presenting both challenges and opportunities for healing. Andrea shares insights on setting digital boundaries, differentiating between surveillance and privacy, and the importance of open communication to rebuild trust. Whether you're navigating the aftermath of betrayal or preparing for new relationships, this episode off...
Nov 08, 2024•26 min•Ep. 163
In this episode, Andrea delves into the profound journey of healing from betrayal. Through personal anecdotes and insightful reflections, she explores the expectations versus the reality of healing, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion and resilience. Andrea shares a poignant story about a dream that reignited past emotions and uses it as a metaphor for understanding the healing process. Join her as she uncovers the subconscious fears that linger and offers guidance on how to confront t...
Nov 01, 2024•18 min•Ep. 162
Join Andrea as she delves into the complex journey from betrayal to rebuilding trust. This episode offers tactical insights and real-life examples to help listeners understand the dynamics of trust after infidelity. Andrea references Brene Brown's "Atlas of the Heart" to explore the emotions tied to betrayal and trust, emphasizing the need for accountability, integrity, and self-trust. Whether you've experienced betrayal or are working on self-trust, this episode provides valuable guidance for h...
Oct 25, 2024•32 min•Ep. 161
Join Andrea as she explores the transformative possibilities that await after infidelity. Through real-life client stories, Andrea sheds light on the healing journey and the potential for personal growth and stronger relationships. Discover how courageous individuals have navigated betrayal, rebuilt trust, and emerged more confident and connected. Whether you're dealing with a recent discovery or a long-standing issue, this episode offers hope and strategies to move forward with intention and re...
Oct 18, 2024•30 min•Ep. 160
Andrea delves into the complex emotion of anger and its impact on personal growth. Discover how anger can serve as both a warning signal and a barrier to healing, and learn practical strategies to channel this emotion into positive action. Whether you're struggling with boundaries, resentment, or fear, this episode offers insights to help you move forward with confidence. Tune in to explore how to turn anger into a catalyst for change and create a life of empowerment and peace. In this episode: ...
Oct 11, 2024•24 min•Ep. 159
In this episode, Andrea explores the concept of changing your mind, its challenges, and benefits. She shares a story about Terry Real, a well-known therapist, who publicly retracted a previous statement, demonstrating humility and growth. Andrea discusses common obstacles like cognitive biases and the sunk-cost fallacy, which prevent individuals from being open to change. Highlighting the importance of personal growth and integrity, she encourages listeners to be curious, seek diverse perspectiv...
Oct 04, 2024•17 min•Ep. 158
In this episode, Andrea explores the concept of "your bottom line" and how it plays a crucial role in the healing process after experiencing infidelity. She shares real-life examples from her clients and her own journey, illustrating how identifying and adhering to your bottom line can provide clarity and empowerment. She discusses the importance of self-reflection, understanding personal values, and establishing firm boundaries to protect oneself. Tune in to learn how to define your bottom line...
Sep 27, 2024•21 min•Ep. 157
In this empowering episode, Andrea delves into the complex topic of your relationship to trauma. Andrea shares personal stories and professional insights to help you understand and redefine your relationship with trauma, especially in the context of infidelity. She challenges the conventional narrative that trauma must be a lifelong burden and offers a fresh perspective on how to transform your pain into growth. Tune in to learn how to reclaim your life, shift your mindset, and build a future th...
Sep 20, 2024•25 min•Ep. 156
In this episode, Andrea delves into the concept she calls "The Boomerang Effect." Inspired by a coaching session with a client, Andrea explores how strong emotional reactions often lead us to make drastic decisions, only to later soften and reconsider our stance. She discusses how this phenomenon manifests in various aspects of life, including relationships, politics, and religion, and emphasizes the importance of finding a middle ground. Tune in to learn how to navigate these emotional swings a...
Sep 13, 2024•21 min•Ep. 155
In this episode, Andrea welcomes forgiveness expert Dara McKinley to explore the profound and transformative power of forgiveness. Dara shares her personal journey and professional insights into how forgiveness can liberate us from emotional burdens, helping us to heal and move forward. They discuss the misconceptions about forgiveness, the difference between forgiving and pardoning, and the role of unconditional love. Dara also provides practical advice on how to approach forgiveness, even in t...
Sep 06, 2024•46 min•Ep. 154
Today, Andrea dives into the complex issue of spiritual bypassing. She discusses how individuals often use spiritual practices as a way to avoid facing the real issues at the heart of infidelity. Through real-life examples and personal anecdotes, Andrea explains why it's crucial to address the root causes of betrayal rather than masking them with temporary solutions. She also highlights the importance of facing uncomfortable emotions and the potential negative impacts of spiritual bypassing, suc...
Aug 30, 2024•33 min•Ep. 153
In this week's episode, Andrea takes us on a heartfelt walk in the country to discuss the importance of recognizing and remembering your value. Learn how to move from needing validation to wanting it, and make powerful, courageous decisions that align with your true worth. Andrea shares personal stories, thought-provoking questions, and inspiring examples that will empower you to step into your full potential. Listen now and take the first step towards embracing your true value. In this episode:...
Aug 23, 2024•17 min•Ep. 152
Are boundaries hard for you? Do you struggle to know when to be firm and when to let up? In this episode, I interview expert Linsday Poelman about boundaries, how to think about them, and what to try if you struggle to set them. You will leave with a concrete way to check in with yourself as you become more autonomous in your closest relationships. Ready to embark on a NEW CAREER? Join Lindsay's exclusive masterclass to dive deep into her Trauma-Informed Coach Certification. Get insider access t...
Aug 16, 2024•43 min•Ep. 151
Do you wonder what will actually work for you in moving forward after the infidelity? With so much conflicting information, it can be quite confusing. In this episode, I go into depth about the 5 milestones that, if practiced, will work for anyone, in any situation. Commitment to the process is what will get you strong results. These milestones are built on each other, and the end product of mastering each one is a calm mind, vibrant relationships, and high-level practical skills you will use fo...
Aug 09, 2024•40 min•Ep. 150
Do you ever wonder what you should be focusing on after infidelity? This episode details the three areas that couples need to dive into in order to have a chance at building something better than what was there before -- or to go their separate ways as peacefully as possible. Tune in to check in with where you are, what to lean into and what to let go of. To work with me, go to: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ T...
Aug 02, 2024•31 min•Ep. 149
One of the biggest struggles in the aftermath of infidelity is not knowing what to do. Do I just wait on him to see what he does? How can I ever let this go? What if it happens again? Can I ever trust him again? All of these questions lead to endless rumination and winding up more confused than ever. In this episode you’ll learn an effective strategy that will help you know the next step to take. When you learn to scan out into the future and really see what is there, it can help give you the co...
Jul 26, 2024•21 min•Ep. 148
In this episode I go deep and personal with my journey since the ten year anniversary death of my first husband on July 9th. Many struggle in the aftermath of infidelity with how to let go. They find themselves un-intentionally sabotaging new relationships because they are still focused on all that went wrong. I did the same thing, and share in this episode how I learned to let things be so I could be present with the life I was creating (and now enjoy!). If you are stuck in replaying painful st...
Jul 19, 2024•29 min•Ep. 147
