Making the Shift from Individual Contributor to Leader

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And I'm Nicole Torres. Making the transition from being one of many on a team, an individual contributor, a follower, however you like to think of that role, to being a leader is a process. It's a process of not just convincing other people to see us as leaders, but also of convincing ourselves that we can and should lead. This episode, we are going to be exploring this process of becoming a leader, including the soul searching that women in particular often have to do together.

There. Our guests are experts on leadership development and friends of the show. You might remember Muriel Wilkins from our episode on visibility and Amy Sue from our episode on claiming credit. They founded the executive coaching firm Paravis Partners and wrote a book together called Own the Room. And Amy Sue just came out with a new book, The Leader You Want to Be. Amy and Muriel, thank you so much for joining us. Thank you. It's great to be here.

Do you remember the first time that you were being seen as a leader, but like the moment you realized, Oh, actually other people see me as a leader It was my first supervisory job, which looking back now, I was thrusted into this role and having to supervise individuals who are far more experienced than I was. And while I knew that I was there as a supervisor and as a manager, I certainly didn't see myself as a leader.

But everybody else did. And uh it took a couple of a couple of big fails for me to step into the leadership role. and recognize that it was much more than just making sure that people were doing what they were supposed to be doing. So I do remember it and and now in hindsight probably a little bit more painfully than I'd like to. How about you, Amy Sue?

there was a day when I had really lost it on somebody who worked with me and, you know, later when I debriefed with that person and you realized how much you were able to cause a bad day for somebody else. there's just this moment that, wow, you know, perhaps I'm a leader now and my temperament and mood and state of being is actually gonna impact the way others feel. Right.

It sounds like for both of you it was not very positive and as we've been discussing this topic, we've talked about how it's a bit like an awkward growth spurt to go from someone who's an individual contributor, focused on learning, absorbing, to someone who's now seen as a leader. I'm curious if that's how you think of it in your writing and your work with coaching clients. Is this sort of an awkward phase, an exciting phase? How do you characterize it?

Yeah, yeah, I uh you know, I never quite thought of it as awkward, but certainly an uncomfortable phase, which as we all know, that's where most of the growth happens. And it's hard because on the one hand, you want to go back to what you were comfortable with and what what has made you successful up until now. And on the other hand, you know that you can step into the role that you're currently in, the potential that you have. So certainly uncomfortable.

can definitely be awkward and at the same time I think one of the inflection points that is really great for growth for anyone. Mm-hmm. So I see two challenges or two things that make this such an uncomfortable phase. And the the first thing is like, do you see yourself as a leader? But then the other challenge is if you see yourself as a leader, but other people do not. So maybe you've stepped into a managerial role or maybe you're leading a project.

and you see yourself as being the one making decisions, but you don't necessarily feel like other people perceive you as that leader. Do you see those two challenges play out?

Nicole, I think both sides of that equation, Muriel and I have definitely seen where there's both your own shift internally around realizing that you are a leader and that you are bringing a different business judgment and a different set of decision making skills to the table. And at the same time as you mentioned, it's also interesting to see how perception follows along with that.

And I think in our coaching work we've always seen that the internal shift often happens sooner, quicker, uh with a greater pronouncement than perhaps how others view you. Let's take each of those in turn because I think the internal one While it may happen quicker, it seems really for many people, especially women, hard to make that leap. And I'm curious when you coach clients who are making that leap, what are the m major obstacles and how do you help them get there?

in anything, right? The internal pieces, the harder part. And I think with clients, one of the big things they really need to embrace. is that being a leader or acting as a leader doesn't necessarily require the hierarchical position. And so a lot of them wait till they get the promotion, right? Till they're the vice president, till they're managing a team.

assuming that that's when they need to be quote unquote leader lee. Right. Um, as though it's like, okay, it's a rites of passage, you've promoted, now you can wear your leadership hat. Whereas in reality, you should be preparing for this from day one.

So a lot of what we have to work with them on is not just the mindset uh in terms of seeing themselves as a leader, what does that mean? How do they wanna lead? How do they wanna be known? But also starting to understand that there are some specific skills that help in terms of establishing your leadership, asserting your leadership primarily around your communication skills, your ability to speak up, your ability to listen, your ability to ask good questions, uh, how you lead your work.

uh and drive your work as well as even your physical presence, right? How you hold yourself in a room in a conversation uh and can you do it in a way that again makes you feel like you're a leader and makes others feel like they're in the presence of a leader as well. So the minute I have a client who says with real conviction that they do want to lead, that's actually the biggest break.

Because they have to own it. Once we understand that, then we can work backwards to say, All right, so how do you do this in a way that supports who you are? while at the same time being relevant and resonates with those who you need to leave. Are there specific examples of things that you tell clients who come to you and they say, I want to lead, and you know, you want to send them out and have them practice different styles of of leadership?

What are some things you tell them to do to establish themselves as leaders? If they don't have the title that denotes certain responsibility, but they want to start embodying a leader, what do you tell them to do? I think Nicole the word embodiment's really important that we could tell somebody all we want, that we're a leader, we're a leader. Let me tell you I'm a leader and it's really about the felt experience of the other person.

So for example, you might be somebody who historically asked a lot of questions or asked for advice from others. And so for example, Nicole, maybe in the past I would say to you, hey Nicole, how do you think I should price this proposal? And instead, I think in a more leader stance I might come to you now with what I call the comment and the question, where I'm sharing with you my business judgment first and then asking a question.

So instead I might say, Nicole, I'm thinking we should price this proposal this way I think it inherently keeps the value of our firm and at the same time mitigates risks on renewals. But I really value your perspective. Do you think I'm missing anything here? So there's a big difference in when our stance is historically, wow, I don't have the answers, so I'm gonna go ask others and follow, versus I'm a leader, I'm gonna share with you my judgment, but then hold openness to other perspectives.

I love that. And then if I can add to that, I think if a client is working in a specific organization that has their own model of what it looks like to be an effective leader in that organization. At a very practical level, I asked them, do you even know what it means to be an effective leader in this organization? If the answer is no, then they have to go on a little field trip to HR and ask, right, what does the leadership model look like here? Is there one?

And usually it's made up of, you know, eight to twelve skills and we start working on those skills.

We probably have people who are listening and saying, I've nailed the internal. I know I wanna be a leader. I've looked at the competencies. I've started exhibiting the behavior, but people around me still don't see me as a leader. Do you have any advice for women in that situation where they feel like they're pushing to be a leader but yet they're not getting the response they want?

the word you use there, pushing, really says a lot. I think when we are coming from a place of trying to prove ourselves people can smell that and there's actually a tremendous amount of insecurity that sits underneath of that. So there's a distinction for me between I really own my expertise and I understand the business knowledge and skills and experience that I bring to the table.

I think that feels very different than when you come to the table with, I need to prove that I'm an expert and I hope they see me as an expert. somehow folks can smell the difference. And so I think we need to really push ourselves to say, is the pressure to prove we're being an expert actually getting in the way? And and I think it's important to also bring people along, right? Many times

individuals are not pushing back on you trying to grow your leadership wings, spread your wings, if you will. It's that they're they're not used to it. they're used to operating with you and experiencing you in the way that you have been. Mm-hmm. I think that it's actually really helpful to have a couple of advocates, champions, sponsors

who are excited for you to spread your wings and who you rely on in terms of getting advice and counsel and mentoring, however you want to call it, as you're going through this passage. That way they are coming along with you. Yeah. But how hard is it to get a a manager or someone who's mentoring you and trying to give you advice for how to grow and be a better employee, how do you get them to stop thinking of you as someone who needs a lot of direction and guidance?

How do you get them to start seeing you as someone who can give direction to others? I think if there's been a trusting relationship up until now You acknowledge and show gratitude for the support that that person has given you. And you make the request that they let you try it out on your own, right? So it's a both.

you don't wanna, you know, shun them because they're supportive and that's an asset and you don't want to let go of that asset. So I don't think it's so much demonstrating. I think it's actually having that explicit conversation with that individual. Yeah. That's making me think, Miriam too, that you also have to be specific. Because if you say to your manager, mentor, sponsor, I want to be seen as a leader, that could mean a zillion different things. Yes. Absolutely.

Right. So you need to say, I want to be able to make the decision on X. I want to be someone who people seek out for expertise on Y. I want to you know, people to value my opinion when I speak up in a meeting. I think be more specific and as you say, me making a request of here's how you can help me do that. Right. Right.

Right. And you can also ask in a specific way. Right? Seek counsel and say manager, I really want to work on my ability to be seen as a leader. You know, six months from now, what would be some of the hallmarks that you'd want to see that you'd expect from me if that's my goal? Right. You're also making me think of when you mentioned the trip to HR earlier about figuring out what the competencies are, I also have seen people and have done myself a lot of observing of other people.

And I noticed once that someone I that many people thought of as a leader often said at the end of the meeting, Let me know if you want me to weigh in on that. And I was like, Oh, I should use that's a good line because it it demonstrates I have expertise. I'm willing to help if you want my opinion, but it's not necessarily you know, if it's helpful I will weigh in. And I thought that was like such a a nice way to establish

This person had expertise. This was someone people typically sought their opinion from and it sort of said, I'm a leader without having to be like, I'm in charge, right? Yeah. And I think Amy you're mentioning something here that does distinguish a leader where you begin to see at more senior levels people are are just more comfortable batting ideas around with each other in a much more peer-to-peer stance.

And oftentimes you see somebody who's still trying to make that turn because they're still walking in with the overpackaged document or the overpackaged presentation. and they feel like they can only speak when it's about their area. And I think part of being seen as a leader is the willingness to bring your judgment, bring your acumen, bat things around in a much more informal way. Yeah. Well and I know you both y talk about in your book Own the Room about

as you get a broader view of the organization, you're trying to make connections between departments or units or different initiatives. So sometimes it's even about asking questions like how does this impact so and so's project or how are these two things connected?

And in fact, one of the exercises that I really like to give clients is as you are stepping into a bigger role or a new role or you're thinking of showing up as a stronger leader, what is the percentage of lead and percentage of learn? that you need to have as an equation. And so there's some part of our work that is, yes, we are leading, we are bringing our skills, we are bringing our decision making, we are bringing our clarity.

But there's as much a percentage that's about learning from other parts of the organization and holding a more open stance and actually being planful about that. Who are the other people or functions I could get more information from? What networks might I want to build in this next role? So it's important to think about what's my lead learn in any given situation.

I love that. Not only does that help you transition to doing more leading, but it also prevents the risk that you just become so focused on leading that you stop learning. Right. And that you think you have all the answers. Right. But does that balance change over the course of your career? Like something that my friends and I talk about a lot is if you have, you know, kind of come of age.

in one organization. You know, maybe you started as an intern or you started at another entry level position and you've stayed there long enough and you've kind of grown a lot, at least on paper in your role, but also in how you see yourself. and how you understand the company, I think a big challenge is still like how do you get people to stop seeing you as that intern, you know, who started like five years ago and start seeing you as someone who

has a pretty good understanding of what the company needs right now and how this organization operates and can make good decisions to help lead it forward. I'm wondering if you have worked with clients who face that similar challenge and how you help them overcome it. It is a challenge, I think, when you're homegrown, right? Where you've the organization has seen you at many stages of your development.

And so I think many of the things we've already discussed here, number one, you yourself staying updated to who you are and where you've been and where you are now is very important. Some of the things that Muriel shared earlier around making sure that you're keeping others under the tent and being clear on your intentions of growth.

And I think really trying to make the advantage of that you have institutional knowledge, you have a loyalty to the organization, you have a history of relationships. And so as you continue to talk about your career development within that organization, how do you keep bringing those strengths and those benefits to bear in terms of the next difference you want to make?

And I think you have to be careful to keep your eyes out for cues. So if your organization keeps hiring external folks into roles that you want. Or if you find that folks continue to treat you as if you were a version of yourself from ten years ago, those are cues that you want to pay attention to and make sure you're not stagnating. And if you are seeing those cues, if you feel like you are stagnating, what do you do?

I think first you try to have conversations with folks about your career development, that you do have a loyalty in history, you do feel like you add value, be clear on the difference you hope to make next. And if still if nothing happens, then I think all of us and women especially need to understand that you have market value outside of your organization. And it might be worth having some conversations outside to see what might be possible.

Mm. You know, this is where I think and I don't want to speak in general terms that all women are like this, but this is just my anecdotal experience in having worked with clients and as you said, like talking to friends. One of the areas that I don't think women tend to look out for as much as I see their male counterparts do is when they are assigned a new position or role or project, do they make the assessment of have they been set up for success?

Hm. And so to this point around when you're homegrown Using that actually is an advantage if you're offered a new role, a new position, to really take a step back before accepting and negotiating what you can to make sure that you're set up for success.

Mm. And so what does that mean? In practical terms, for example, if you have a concern that the people who used to be your peers are now gonna be reporting to you and how that how's that gonna play out? Yeah. Being able to Get your boss or your manager to explicitly show your support and have that person help get buy-in from those peers now direct reports. um, sort of smoothing the stage before you get on is a way of setting up conditions to help you be more successful.

We tend to have this mindset that when we're offered these roles, you know, the mindset tends to be, Oh my God, we're so thankful, we're grate you know, we're grateful. Oh lucky me that I made it this far. versus what I tell my clients, I tell myself, I tell my kids, like, no, like you're lucky to have me, right? You're lucky to have me, right? I'm bringing value. I'm bringing it on. I am excited to be here. You are excited to have me here. You offered me the role.

So let's, you know, let's kick this thing off and really make sure it works for everybody. Right. And I think that's a mindset that really helps in terms of being able to get that support and getting people to see that you are also excited. You're not stepping into it hesitantly.

Uh, you're stepping into it because basically, you know, it's almost like, I've been ready for this, right? The time is now, let me go for it. And at the same time, as Amy said, use all the social capital and institutional knowledge that you have as a benefit rather than as a credit. Right. So I I really like your advice on having explicit conversations with managers or or whoever that

You know, lets them know that you want to lead and here are all the things that you're willing to do and here are ways that you could use their support to get better. But I've also gotten the advice from people to like just start leading. If you're given the task to be in charge of something, then like really assert yourself in leading that. So schedule meetings, start sending emails about those things, you know, like really attach yourself as the person who's responsible for a given project.

And I'm wondering, are there certain moments when you should just do that? Nicole, I think that moment exists every day and I would encourage people to just do that, right? When you take any project that you're working on, I think the push to ourselves to say, Am I thinking about this?

projects simply as a set of activities that I need to execute well? Or am I pausing to think about it differently? If I looked at the same business problem but now I put it on a three year horizon? Or have I thought about the risks involved? Or have I thought about the competitive benchmarks? I think there's so much more that we can each do every day to bring a different level of strategic thinking to the work we do, to the way we communicate. Are we framing up

in a more senior level way. So I think the world of possibilities to demonstrate a higher order of leadership is available to all of us at every moment, whether somebody gives us permission or not.

Yeah. How do you stay I know we all have those moments of of doubt. We talk about imposter syndrome on the show. But if you are a leader, if you start seeing yourself as a leader and you sense that other people doubt you, you know, people think that you have progressed too fast. they kind of still see you as someone who needs training wheels. How do you just preserve your own sense of confidence so that you know you can lead? And it's some people are just wrong about you.

Mean one of the things that I think is really helpful, particularly when you take on a management role for the first time and you start leading a team really up front very, very early on, getting on the table what people's hopes and aspirations are in terms of you being the leader, but also understanding what their concerns might be, right? And that ability to listen upfront around the concerns. gives you an added advantage in terms of being able to not get defensive but address them.

And also hearing what the expectations are, because the more that you can start being in tune to those expectations and potentially meet some of those expectations and get some quick wins, that starts building your credibility. The biggest watch out is to get defensive. Because if you get defensive, it's just gonna alienate everyone. Right. And you don't wanna be in that position. What if you're not sure if you want to lead? What if you're on the fence about

taking on more responsibility. How do you decide whether this is actually something you want to do? This is where you really need to think through what do the next couple of years look like for you. I don't think it's a lifetime decision, right? Some people look at it as what do I want to do with my life? And I for one

really think just look at things in a three to five year horizon. Five years seems like a very long time to me. So so really focus on the next couple of years rather than this is for the rest of my life. And from that standpoint, one of the best ways that you can do that is look ahead, right? What could be the possibility five years from now? What are the different scenarios? and which one sits better in terms of being more aligned with what you want.

What you don't wanna have happen is I don't wanna follow that particular scenario out of fear. And that's a very different way of opting out. I remember uh early on in my career, I recognized that I was getting very close to really being in a position to gun for partner at a consulting firm.

And while I did believe that I could do it, the question was did I want to do it? Mm-hmm. Uh and those are two very different things. So I think the first question is, do you think you can do it? The second is do you want to do it? And while I believe that I could do it I recognized after a lot of just my own self searching and talking to others and looking at those who were ahead of me, even those that I greatly admired.

that that was not what I wanted. And the reason I didn't want it is that that wasn't the way that I wanted to make an impact. Right. And so having the ability to sit back and think about those two questions Do I believe I can do it and do I want it are very critical. And I think there's, you know, people out there similarly who in the question of do I want to do it end up being guided by a should.

that career success looks like being a leader and having this many direct reports and as long as that universe keeps growing then somehow I'm successful. So I think Muriel's point around do I wanna do it? Does this make sense for this next phase of my life?

Um, I had a colleague recently who went from leading a team of fifty people, an organization of fifty, and she and I talked about how at this stage of her life, as she looked at the next four years, both of her kids are in high school and she realized that she went to her boss and said, Over the next four years I wanna be home More

I'm finding that I miss some of the work I got to do day to day because now I'm really managing other people. So she's moved back to an individual contributor role. And that's what works for her at this time. So is she any less leaderly? No, I think this was just a woman who was very in touch with what this next phase of life meant to her and what was the work that was gonna feed her as well as feed her family.

Yeah. I like that because you're I think we often have this idea that leadership is just a you know straight incline and you just acquire more things, more initiatives, more people, and that's the only way to grow. And I love that she's not any less a leader. She's just stepping back from those particular um responsibilities. Right. Amy, Muriel, thank you so much for joining us. This has been super helpful. Thanks so much for having us. Thank you. This was great. Thanks for having us.

Muriel and Amy Sue, here we are in twenty twenty one and so much about work has changed since we had that last conversation. Miro, you started a podcast coaching real leaders where you advise leaders on how to get to the next level of their career. And then for Paravus partners, the leadership development firm you two run together I understand the coaching sessions are mostly virtual for people who are also mostly working virtual. Right.

What new challenges have the recent shifts in how many of us are working presented to women who are aspiring to leadership. Amy Gallo, I think the word shift is the key. There has been big shifts. We've had to reimagine what trust building and relationship building looks like remotely. And I think some of the challenges are that for some of the women leaders we work with, I've seen erosion and confidence.

And even erosion of trust, which is like a core value. So I think all those things when shifts happen, you know, how do we shift along with them? Yeah, I mean I think additionally some of the regular leadership experiences that people have continue regardless of whether you're working virtually or not virtually. So what's become critical, in my opinion, with my female clients is that they take a step back and really start with what would I be doing if I was in the office?

And recognizing that there's really not that much difference in what you should be doing. The difference might be in how you do it. For example, if they need to be really accelerating their learning curve in the role that they're in, when they're in the office, it might be a little easier in terms of just walking into somebody's

you know, office or by somebody's cubicle and asking the question. But the power in that action is asking the question. So it becomes, okay, so you're now virtual, but the questions haven't changed. Who do you need to ask the questions of and how are you gonna do that? Do you need to set up a regular cadence? Do you need to make it part of your weekly meetings? Do you need to just, you know, have something like a messaging system where you can just message

questions. So the challenge becomes more in the how rather than the what. Right. You know, one of the challenges is actually getting others to accept you as a leader or to perceive you as a leader. Any advice about how to do that virtually? I mean, Amy, so you described being seen as a leader hinging on the felt experience of the other person. How do you do that when you're not in person?

I think the felt experience piece is so important. It's the how have I left the other person or audience feeling. And to Muriel's point, that's as important a question whether you're in person or virtual. And so one of the uh ways to plan that out and to think about that is with clients, I will work with them to say, okay One on one, one to one, one to group, one to many.

What's the feeling you want to leave each of those categories with? The felt experience, the impact? And then in a virtual environment, how do you do that? So for example, the one to group, which is really important. How do I build team? How do I build esprit de corps amongst my direct reports who now don't get to be together? You start to see leaders making decisions around, hey, I'm gonna do a daily stand-up.

or a weekly stand up. And really the key is how do I create awareness amongst my team? How do I create empathy around the work we're all doing? And how do I create a sense of esprit de corps amongst us? So you're not bringing people together to police. their work, you're with greater intentionality saying if the felt experience is teeming, what are creative ways? I do think it demands a greater flex and creativity than perhaps before.

But the you know, the levers really haven't changed, right? Like in terms of how do you know when you're in the presence of a leader, what is that felt experience? you know, that felt experience is really based on two levers. Are they credible and are they relatable? Mm-hmm. And so with my clients I say, Okay, like yeah, you're on Zoom now. How do you come off as credible and how do you come off as relatable? And when we

slice that onion, they realize it's actually not that different, right? Credible is how I deliver my message. Do I know what I'm talking about? Do I deliver it in a structured, concise way? uh in a way that's relevant for my audience and relatable is, you know, am I listening? As Amy said, am I demonstrating empathy? Do I seek to understand? Do I give verbal cues that that demonstrate that relatability? Do I meet people where they are? And so when they start

breaking it down into smaller chunks, they realize, oh yeah, it's it's actually not that different. It's just the mode in which I'm delivering that now. Let's talk about visibility. We did a a survey of new hires, people who started their jobs remotely, and one of the biggest concerns that many of them raised was about being seen by senior leaders or other people in the organization. you know, as someone who's trying to make that transition from either individual contributor to a leader

How do you think about visibility in this virtual environment? And how do you think about it in a way that doesn't involve eight Zoom calls a day? So you're so burnt out at the end of the day? I do think Amy Gallo it involves Right up front as you think about onboarding, as Muriel said, the same disciplines of what you would do onboarding in terms of who are the key stakeholders who should know you, understand your role, the connection points with those folks.

And now thinking about that every email you send is a point of visibility and how are you showing up credible and relatable even in that platform or in the meetings where you do have the chance to show up, those same principles of presence and thinking about the space where we're in and awareness and almost imagining we're in a room with others. helps our presence to be more visible even when we're virtual. Yeah. I mean, I think you definitely have to be more

intentional and strategic around cultivating relationships than you probably would have to, you know, when you're in the office. That that for sure has been a major impact. But in terms of thinking about how do I make myself visible within the organization or with my team, it takes a lot of planning to do that and prioritizing. So with my clients, it's as as Amy said, like being clear around who do I need to be visible with. Yeah. how, in what mode, and why. Yeah.

Mm-hmm. And if they can answer those three questions, then we can solve for okay, how do you go about doing it? The danger is when you don't go through that thought process and then you either become invisible or quite frankly too visible. You're on everybody's calendar too much. Right. So being kind of strategic around it is is really important.

The other thing that a few women brought up in the survey that we did was the idea of building trust as a leader in a virtual environment. Any advice around how to either be patient with that process or to accelerate it? Trust has been one of the big challenges, Amy Gallo, as you asked us at the start of this, that you know, how do we do that in a virtual world? And just the awareness of in the way that used to be able to walk down the hall and inform somebody or close the loop.

Now I do think it just takes a little more intentionality. You know, who needs to know, who needs to be involved, who do I need to close the loop with so they're not blindsided. I think that extra step of organizational awareness becomes more critical in terms of trust building. Yeah. Well and I think about trust also is so much as about follow through, following through on on your commitments. And I think

that maybe becomes more critical to do because you're not having those informal interactions where you sort of give someone the benefit of the doubt if they forget to send that email they promised. You're not seeing what's happening. That's right. One of the things that can really deteriorate trust in a virtual environment is lack of responsiveness. Right. You send that email because that's the way you communicate, right?

And it's like, uh, what's happening? Is it in a black hole? Did they even receive it? You know, when you're in person you can see what the person is doing. So you could say, Oh, they're really busy, Oh, I see their door has been closed all day or Oh, they've been in that meeting all day. That's why they haven't responded. But in a virtual environment, you don't know what they're doing.

how you can mitigate that is by being responsive and communicating on what's happening and kind of leaning more into over informing than you probably had to do in the past. Yeah. Yeah. Well, and even setting up expectations of like I'm on back to back Zooms today. If you send me an email, I'm not gonna get back to it until tomorrow or w whatever time frame feels reasonable, I think that can probably go a long way for that for that trust build.

I think as well, making time and space to be intentional is really a challenge. And so with a lot of our leaders we've had to advise, make sure that the first half an hour of the day Now that you do aren't commuting, you're not Sit down and and have that time and space for yourself. Don't just assume you can start meetings right away. Grab that half an hour to look ahead at your calendar or look at your email to say who might just need a one-liner that says confirming receipt of this.

I wanna be thoughtful, I'll get back to you in a couple of days or tomorrow or whatever. Yeah. You know, one of the things that we've seen happen in organizations over the last 18 plus months is that we've gone into this all hands-on-deck mode where people have to step up.

to help out. And if you're someone who's also at the same time trying to be seen as a leader, step into a leadership role, how can you raise your hand to help volunteer for those extra activities without being seen as someone who's more junior than you want to be perceived as.

Yeah, I mean I think that as long as you're truly leaning into being seen as a leader, then you know, the one or two times you volunteer for something like, Oh, I'll go grab the coffee or I'll send out the holiday card or whatever it might be won't be a detriment to you, right? So you've got to lean into the leadership piece and the other stuff should enhance it as making you more relatable rather than have the impact of reinforcing that you're not a leader.

I think too, you have to ask yourself is the raising your hand a knee jerk? reaction, I'm your gal every time? Or is it coming from a true leadership place which is driven by principles and values, which is, hey, I really see what's happening. I want to rise to the occasion, be a part of this. So the source from which you are deciding to do that is a critical piece of if it's a leadership move or a default reaction to always saying yes or being the junior one.

Yeah, I like that. Is this part of being seen as a leader or is this just like what I'm used to doing because I people expect it of me or I expect it of myself? HBR on Leadership will be back next Wednesday with another handpicked conversation from Harvard Business Review. This episode was produced by Mary Dew. On Leadership's team includes Maureen Hoke, Rob Eckhart, Erica Truxler, and Ian Fox.

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