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Having It A.L.L.

Matthew Bivenswww.matthewbivens.com
Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations designed to help you radically shift your confidence, self worth, and clarity. In order to create new results in your life - whether that’s in your relationships, your health, your money, your family or your life’s purpose - you must make new decisions and build new habits. This podcast will not only deliver the lessons and action items that will help you move the needle in your life, but also share the vulnerable and honest truth about the challenges of working to improve and ultimately master yourself. Each breakdown can lead to breakthrough, and we cover it all on this podcast. Personal development is not an easy road, but you can create meaningful change that lasts. Let’s do it together one choice at a time. Tune in each week and see that it’s not only possible to have it all, but that you were meant to all along!
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Episodes

Your Personal Growth Depends On 3 Types Of Feedback (Are You Open To Them?)

How willing are you to receive and surrender to healthy feedback that comes from a trusted source? Be honest with yourself. In today's episode I'm sharing the three types of feedback that exist, and talk about why each one is essential for your own growth and evolution. I also dig into why you keep experiencing the same results over and over in your life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 31, 201837 min

How Much Do You Really Trust Yourself? (Special Announcement)

How full is your personal TRUST account? I'm not talking about a financial trust account. But the account we all have within us that measures how much TRUST we have in ourselves to do the things we say we're going to do. Chances are, it could use a few more deposits! Join us in the TRUST Challenge and make the commitment to daily deposits for the month of August 2018, and experience the massive impact that showing up for yourself constantly has on your life! Sign up at www.MatthewBivens.com/trus...

Jul 29, 201824 min

Paying Forward Positivity

Today is a bit of a deviation from the normal episode. I was very inspired last night by something I saw on Instagram (it's rare, but when it happens it's potent), and I wanted to share this message with you all. There are people in your life who you know, and many who you don't, who are influenced and inspired by you everyday. They see who you are choosing to be, and it gives them strength and hope that they can overcome the situations in their lives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit meg...

Jul 21, 201811 min

Releasing the Myths and Stereotypes Around Masculinity

What are the myths and stereotypes around masculinity that you’re holding and giving strength to? What are the myths and stereotypes around masculinity that you’re holding and giving strength to? Throughout my 31 years I've picked up all sorts of ideas around what it means to be a man. So many of those ideas reinforce dated and unhealthy stereotypes. In today's episode I share my biggest stereotypes around masculinity, the things that trigger thoughts of comparison and feeling less than. Learn m...

Jul 18, 201850 min

Learning How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty

How comfortable are you saying "no" in your life? So many of us struggle with saying no when people make requests of our time, space, energy, money, or love. We want to please. We want others to like us. We don't want to be seen as unhelpful or unavailable. In today's episode I talk about the challenge of saying "no", and give you very concrete and actionable tips for strengthening that muscle within you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

Jul 11, 201846 min

What Does It Look Like To Create Your Ideal Life RIGHT NOW?

What does it look like to create your ideal life RIGHT NOW? I want you to seriously ask yourself this question. Because chances are you're reciting some version of this to yourself: "My ideal life is when I have XYZ, or when I accomplish 123, or when ABC things happen for me". It's a normal thing to do. But what's on the other side of that coin is the feeling that we are not able to create and experience our ideal version of our lives UNTIL some point in the future. Learn more about your ad choi...

Jul 03, 201832 min

3 Beliefs That Have Radically Transformed My Life

What is one belief that you know has radically transformed your life for the better? Beliefs are something I talk about a ton on this show. The beliefs that you choose to wear on impact your actions, your habits, your relationships, your perspective on life. I use the phrase "choose to wear on" incredibly intentionally as well. In today's episode I share with you three specific beliefs that I have chosen to wear on in my life that have radically transformed my life in powerful ways. Learn more a...

Jun 27, 201826 min

The Success Rituals That Empower My Health, Relationships, Business and Spirituality Part 2

How are your rituals impacting your life? Big question, I know, but the point is to get you to reflect on your rituals and how they are impacting your day-to-day. Today's episode is part 2 of my series where I share with you the rituals that I've cultivated and use to help me win in my health, relationships, business and spirituality. Today I'm talking about Business and Spirituality. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

Jun 24, 201851 min

The Success Rituals That Empower My Health, Relationships, Business and Spirituality Part 1

How are your rituals impacting your life? In today's episode I share with you the rituals that I've cultivated and use to help me win in my health, relationships, business and spirituality. The habits I've created in these areas help to raise my energy, improve my health, enrich my relationships (with my spouse and others), and deepen my connection with myself and with source. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

Jun 20, 201842 min

Creating Thriving Relationships: My interview on The Extraordinary Life Podcast

What does your extraordinary life look like? On today's episode I'm bringing you something different. Normally I'm the one interviewing other people, but today I'm the one being interviewed! This past week I was interviewed by Tiago Buhr, host of The Extraordinary Life Podcast. On his show, Tiago interviews people to learn insights on how to create an extraordinary life in all areas: business, freedom, spirituality, finances, health, sexuality, relationships and purpose. Learn more about your ad...

Jun 16, 20181 hr 12 min

Rejection Therapy and How Seeking Rejection Leads To Happiness with Alex Grodnik

When was the last time you intentionally tried to get rejected? I was talking with a friend recently and he told me about a concept called “Rejection Therapy” that he was introduced to in business school, which completely changed his relationship to fear and rejection. On today’s episode I invite my friend Alex Grodnik onto the show to talk to me about rejection therapy and how it helped him gain confidence and humility. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

Jun 12, 201838 min

Being Deeply Introverted And Finding Direction In Life

Have you ever felt completely lost in your life? Like you didn't know what you were "supposed" to do, who you should be as a person, and what your true passion was? Geeze, I sure have! I spent years in a state of confusion about all of those things. And truth be told, the fog is still lifting. In today's episode I'm sharing the mic with Paul Colaianni - personal empowerment coach and host of The Overwhelmed Brain Podcast - to talk about introversion and finding your way in life. Learn more about...

Jun 09, 201858 min

The Morning And Nighttime Routines That Help Me Win At Life

How intentional are you with the way you start and end your day? For years I completely neglected the importance of my morning and nighttime routines. But as I grew older, began to take on more roles and responsibilities in my life, and began to feel the weight of life itself, I realized that the way I began and ended my day had a tremendous impact on what happened during my waking hours. In today's episode I share with you the habits and routines I use to set myself up for success each day. Lea...

Jun 05, 201845 min

A Message To Younger Me About School And Work

If you could deliver a message to younger generations, or perhaps your younger self, what would you say? I had a chance to do that in today’s episode, thanks to a great listener email from Marcus. In today’s episode I reply to Marcus’s email, sharing the advice I’d give my former self around college and the workplace. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 30, 201841 min

Our Biggest Sexual Insecurities And How To Get Over Them with Kyla Sokol-Ward

So, let’s get real personal for a second: what are your biggest bedroom insecurities? What are those thoughts, stories and emotions that you bring into the bedroom that create nervousness, anxiety, or fear? Yeah, I went there. Why am I asking this question? Because talking about our bedroom insecurities is incredibly important, yet we rarely ever do it. Today, along with my friend Kyla Sokol-Ward, I'm talking about my biggest sexual insecurities and how to get over them if you experience them to...

May 27, 20181 hr 33 min

My Personal Mission Statement: Why Knowing What You're Playing For Will Change Your Life

What are you playing for in life? Each of us have something that we're playing for in our lives. Some reason that we're waking up each morning and doing what we do. You already know the power of being intentional and having a vision for your life. One powerful tool that I've used to help me become the person I want to become, is a personal mission statement. in today's episode I'm sharing with you my new personal mission statement and unpacking all of its elements. Learn more about your ad choic...

May 22, 201858 min

Dealing With The Ebbs And Flows Of Life

When was the last time you felt like you were in a low point in your life? When things were just not flowing like they usually do, and you wanted to get back on your horse. On the flip side, when did you last feel like your life could not get sweeter and that more and more blessings were coming your way? These my friends are the ebbs and flows of life. The ups and downs that we all experience. Constantly. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

May 19, 201823 min

Abundant Love Q&A with Matthew and Sarah

Who wants to talk about Abundant Love again?! Judging from your response to the first abundant love episode, YOU DO! In today's episode Sarah and I answer your most pressing questions about Abundant Love and how we make our unique love-style work for us. This one is raw and honest, so get yourself in the space to listen some authentic sharing before you press play (and it's a good idea to not listen around young ears for this one). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

May 15, 20181 hr 30 min

Exploring Sexual Energy: What Our Relationship With Sex Reveals About Ourselves with Kyla Sokoll-Ward (Rebroadcast)

For today's episode I'm sharing with you one a great conversation I had with my friend Kyla Sokol-Ward, all about sexual energy. This episode made me excited and nervous all at the same time, and the topics we dive into are great because they give us a chance to confront some ideas and beliefs we hold that may no longer be serving us. I'm also republishing this today to tease you about a new conversation with Kyla I'll be publishing in the coming weeks, this time about insecurities in the bedroo...

May 08, 201859 min

Here's One Reason You May Be Unfulfilled In Your Job And Relationships

Do you hold the expectation that your relationship must check off all of your fulfillment boxes? How about your job, are you telling yourself that your job must be the perfect alignment of your passions, gifts and talents? I don't know where I picked up this story, but somewhere in my life I convinced myself that my partners (girlfriends and then wife), were SUPPOSED to fulfill me in every way: sexually, emotionally, mentally, socially, and every other way I can think of. Learn more about your a...

May 02, 201829 min

How To Be Grateful For Family Emotional Triggers

When was the last time a family member set you off? Family has this amazing ability to press our buttons like nothing else. They seem to know exactly what to say and how to say it to get behind our defenses, and find those tiny areas where they can trigger a huge emotional eruption. And they do is so effortlessly. It's enough to make you feel incredibly anxious, angry and defensive just thinking about it! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

Apr 29, 201839 min

Why Being Family Centered Leads To Pain

What happens when we derive our sense of security, wisdom, power and guidance from our family? By the title of this episode you can guess that my argument is "Nothing good comes from that!" In my life, I've experienced the consequence of attaching my happiness, sense of peace and overall wellbeing to the perceptions of my family. The result was an emotional rollercoaster that, at times, I'm still trying to get off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

Apr 24, 201840 min

Using Faith, Trust And Surrender To Expand Your Life

What is faith? How does it differ from religion and spirituality? And how can you grow faith in your life? If you've ever asked yourself these questions then you're going to get some answers in this episode! I wanted to explore faith today because I know for myself, the idea of faith wasn't always clear to me. In my mind I connected faith with religion, so when I left religion in my teen years I also left faith. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

Apr 18, 201847 min

What To Do When Your Relationship Feels Forced

What do you do when your relationship feels forced? When you feel like you're at an emotional crossroads and both decisions ahead of you feel scary? In today's episode I'm answering a listener email from "Kim". I talk about: - Self worth conversations - Confidence and fulfillment - Being at a relationship crossroads - Consequences of asking deep questions I know that a ton of you will be able to relate to this conversation! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

Apr 10, 201843 min

Here's How Fasting Has Helped Me Deal With My Emotions

How aware are you of the connection between your emotions and your ability to keep commitments? Until recently, I really didn't think much about it. But a few things have come up with me recently that really shines the spotlight on how huge of a roll my emotions play in my decision making. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Apr 07, 201818 min

5 Lessons Learned From Authentic And Honest Conversations With My Parents

Transparency and authenticity have certainly been theme of this podcast recently! And for great reason. There is no abundant loving life when we're living lives of withhold, fear and attachment. It just doesn't happen. I experienced this lesson first hand recently, and in today's episode I'm sharing with you that experience and the 5 lessons I learned. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Apr 03, 201838 min

Speaking Your Voice And Showing Up Authentically

How often are you speaking your truth, displaying courage over consideration and sharing the thoughts, feelings and ideas that are really on your heart? How frequently are you being UNAPOLOGETICALLY YOU, without all the things you do, say and wear on to please others? Today's episode is all about the importance of speaking your voice and showing up authentically in every interaction. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

Mar 28, 201832 min

Being Abundant Lovers: How We Create Healing, Empowering and Joyful Relationships In and Outside Of Our Marriage with Sarah Bivens

Are your most intimate relationships (sexual and otherwise) creating healing, empowerment and joy within you? For years my paradigm around sex and intimate relationships was fixed. I viewed sex as a way to have fun, make babies, and relieve stress. And all of my sexual encounters pretty much fell into those boxes. I also had a very fixed view around relationships, marriage, and masculinity. I had beliefs about how relationships were supposed to look and operate, what marriage meant and the rules...

Mar 20, 20182 hr 2 min

How Are You Sacrificing Joy By Killing Possibility?

How are you sacrificing your joy, abundance and greatness by killing possibility? In today's episode I'm sharing an experience I had recently that shined light on how I was completely destroying possibility in my life. This self-destructive habit was operating completely on auto-pilot, and I know I'm not alone! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mar 17, 201812 min

What My Weed Habit Taught Me About Fear and Dependency

What can your past habits, attachments, and behaviors tell you about how you relate to life? For me, taking a look at my past gives me so many insights and tools which I can use in my life today. One area which has proven to be a rich source of lessons, is my previous attachment to weed (marijuana). So tune in as I share what my weed habit taught me about fear, dependency and the nature of how I relate to challenging circumstances in my life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/...

Mar 13, 201845 min
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