Meet Neil Milton - Part 1 GM of Child Safe Australia, and founder of the Table Talk Project. Neil was abused by an older child at his school, which carried on from 10 to 13 years of age. When it first began, he told his mother what was happening, but because she responded with 'they were just experimenting', Neil felt he had no option but to accept it, and actually believed this is what friendship looked like. You can reach out to Neil on https://www.childsafe.org.au/ HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helplin...
May 05, 2024•27 min•Season 6Ep. 14
Dilworth Exposé Meet Neil harding who is leading the class action against Dilworth school for the deliberate and planned sexual abuse of boys in their care. Self described as father, grandfather, Dilworth survivor, Chiropractor, crusader for justice accountability and a safer world, finalist NZ Herald “Heroes for 2023”, Neil has been trying for 6 years to get justice. HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotea...
May 01, 2024•59 min•Season 6Ep. 13
Survivors If for any reason you carry guilt about what happened to you, you are not alone, we were all conditioned to feel this. Whichever way you were groomed into thinking it was your fault, was done with one goal in mind, to have you carry the responsibility so they didn't have to. Their intent was to make sure you held that load, and as a child you did! It's time to let go now. Handing it back will free you. It was never yours to carry. Go to our website (see below) for more information on o...
Apr 24, 2024•5 min
Tess Gonzales - Part 2 Christian. Survivor. Advocate. Tess suffered incest at the hands of her mother, who drugged her. She was eventually abused by her brother as well. Throughout her childhood, she felt unable to fit in. She was close to her grandmother, and found that volunteering at a local rest home was key in helping her to navigate her way through it all. You can find Tess: https://www.facebook.com/tessa.gonzales.7773?mibextid=ZbWKwL HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334...
Apr 21, 2024•20 min•Season 6Ep. 12
For survivors everywhere, we can sometimes we feel we don't fit in with others, in part because our experience was very different to theirs, and trying to explain it is challenging. This was also true of us as children, and is to be expected. If you are struggling with this and it's feeling big, maybe consider that: 'In the not fitting in you are teaching people something.' Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether surv...
Apr 17, 2024•1 min•Season 5Ep. 46
Meet Tess Gonzales - Part 1 Christian. Survivor. Advocate. Tess not only suffered prolonged Incest by mother but was drugged throughout as well. Her brother, 41/2 years older than her, was also abused by her mother. Unfortunately he then chose to sexually abuse Tess ensuring home was never a safe place for her. Watching this story will not leave you unmoved. You can find Tess: https://www.facebook.com/tessa.gonzales.7773?mibextid=ZbWKwL HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, su...
Apr 14, 2024•25 min•Season 6Ep. 11
Its' not their fault The survivor in your life, may still feel its their fault, that somehow they caused the abuse to occur. Although to you , it may seem unusual they feel that, please understand: as children they were conditioned to believe they were wrong, and actually caused it. They didn't have ability to understand they were being lied to and deceived. Help them to see that! Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching wheth...
Apr 10, 2024•2 min
Meet Scott Beard at NZ Police He is a Detective Inspector with the New Zealand Police, leading several teams including: the child protection team, the child exploitation team, the child sex offender management team and the adult sexual assault team in Auckland city. His insights and knowledge help support survivors and children everywhere within NZ, so this feature interview is a must see!. You can reach out to Detective Inspector Scott Beard at NZ Police by calling 09 302 6788. Please note: We ...
Apr 08, 2024•51 min•Season 6Ep. 11
Meet Mike Chapman - Part 2 From the age of 3, he was abused by his father and then trafficked to others. Through research and dedication Mike was able to find a 12 step group which he found helpful, as well as using the arts which access right brain neural pathways. Dealing with shame and guilt were some big challenges for him as is common in most survivors, but he was able to master those. For inspiration, watch his courageous story here. You can reach Mike on: - https://www.facebook.com/PolarL...
Apr 07, 2024•29 min•Season 6Ep. 10
It's not your fault! For some survivors, they still carry a feeling that what happened to them was their fault. No! It was never your fault. The adult who abused you knew exactly how to groom you: threaten, bribe, manipulate and target. The fault 100% belongs to them. Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexual...
Apr 03, 2024•1 min•Season 5Ep. 44
Meet Mike Chapman - Part 1 From the age of 3, he was abused by his father who had other victims as well. His mother had never wanted children, his father convinced her to, and up until Mike was 8 the abuse continued. Mike believes he was conceived for this father's purpose of abuse, until he aged out, at which point his father left the family. You can reach Mike on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/PolarLifeConsulting email - PolarLifeConsulting@gmail.com Linktree - https://linktr.ee/polarlife...
Mar 31, 2024•23 min•Season 6Ep. 9
Survivors Before any action is taken, lies the thought that precedes it. Before any thought occurs, lies a feeling. Doesn't it make sense then to maximise that and feel as good as you can? Everything comes down to how you feel, and for survivors that can be a challenge in itself. How do you manage feeling good when you are feeling triggered?? How can you have your thoughts and feelings impact your actions so you are in alignment? Have a listen here, I know this will give you pause. Go to our web...
Mar 27, 2024•5 min
Meet Cathy O'Brien - Part 2 Healed and vocal survivor of CIA MK Ultra mind control. Cathy's story all began with being born into a multi generational incest based family. Both parents were sexually abused as children. As an adult recovering from this trauma, and at times being overwhelmed by the pervasiveness of child sex trafficking, Cathy found that releasing onto paper tapped into the logical part of the brain, as did finding a ' soulution' - watch here to discover how this works.You can reac...
Mar 24, 2024•26 min•Season 6Ep. 8
The 3 R's Regulate Relate Reason If you are self regulated; calm and centred, you are then able to relate to a person or idea in a more measured way. If not, you wont! You will then be able to reason logically and clearly with others. Just know you have to have mastered that whole concept of regulation or self regulation and not be in a triggered or reactive state, in order to do so. Makes sense!! Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking f...
Mar 20, 2024•2 min•Season 5Ep. 44
Meet Cathy O'Brien Healed and vocal survivor of CIA MK Ultra mind control. Cathy's story all began with being born into a multi generational incest based family. Both parents were sexually abused as children. From the age of six years old, Cathy was used on a white house pentagon level among influential, and self appointed leaders. You can reach Cathy at: www.trance-formation.com and www.trance.movie https://tranceformationofamerica.locals.com/ @RealCathyOBrien on X, CloutHub, TruthSocial HELP N...
Mar 17, 2024•22 min•Season 6Ep. 7
The Power to Heal Its vital to remind the survivor in your life, that they have everything within them needed to heal from their trauma. Namely: their immunity, resilience and personal power. This is especially true, when they are not coping or struggling with life. Reminding them they are doing great, and that you can see it happening is important, equally doing it in a gentle and supportive way is healing. Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you ar...
Mar 13, 2024•2 min
Meet Donald Cribbs - Part 2 Trauma survivor. Author. Licensed professional counsellor specialising in trauma. By the time he was 6 years old his parents had divorced, and he started being abused by his mother's partner over a six month period. Two year s later court there was a court case, and he was made to face his abuser pre trial (wearing his prison orange jumpsuit) to see if he was lying and could cope. The failure of the 'justice' system was beyond tragic. You can reach Don on Instagram: h...
Mar 10, 2024•28 min•Season 6Ep. 6
Your Voice Lots of survivors have had their voice robbed many times over, maybe initially as a child, and then again as an adult, when sharing your story. It may be that someone looks at you in a strange way or challenges you.... The tip is that your voice is very important, and here's some ways to hold onto it. Responding with 'why would you ask me that?' can be a start, another is to not discuss your story unless you have someone with you who has your back. A final tip would be using silence a...
Mar 06, 2024•2 min•Season 5Ep. 43
Meet Donald Cribbs - Part 1 Trauma survivor. Author. Licensed professional counsellor specialising in trauma. By the time he was 6 years old his parents had divorced, and he started being abused by his mother's partner over a six month period. To deal with it, his mother sent him to live with his father’s parents out of state and 2 years later there was a court case. You can reach Don on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gdcribbs Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/gdcribbs FB Author Page: https...
Mar 03, 2024•27 min•Season 6Ep. 5
Self Talk Mood changes are common for survivors to feel. It's important to become aware that their mood hasn't suddenly changed out of nowhere; the self talk they are doing will be the reason. This will instantly impact the mood and needs attention. The self talk they use can sometimes be quite devastating and unkind. Gently encourage them to notice it a little more and provide encouragement when they recognise the signs. They, and you, deserve to feel happy and at peace. Have a listen as to how...
Feb 28, 2024•2 min
Meet Cheryl Hunter - Part 2 Author and Media Expert who helps others share, Cheryl shares her very powerful and public story and her linking of Wabi-Sabi (which encourages us to recognise the beauty in simplicity, authenticity and imperfection), to herself. You can reach Cheryl on Instagram: @HunterCheryl Facebook: @CherylHunter Twitter: @HunterCheryl HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0...
Feb 25, 2024•27 min•Season 6Ep. 4
Being Captive This term often takes people to visions of being trapped physically. Although this does happen, what is far more common and likely to happen is us doing this to ourselves!! By that I refer to being held captive by our minds and thoughts. We can break this cycle with some dedicated focus and practical tips to follow. This is a game changer! Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. ht...
Feb 21, 2024•1 min•Season 5Ep. 42
Meet Cheryl Hunter - Part 1 Author and Media Expert who helps others share, Cheryl was raped as a teenager at 14, then kidnapped at 18 years of age and reveals, for the first time publicly, what happened when she was a small child of 6. She has a very powerful and real breakthrough, which has the potential to help survivors everywhere. Respect. You can reach Cheryl on Instagram: @HunterCheryl Facebook: @CherylHunter Twitter: @HunterCheryl HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, ...
Feb 18, 2024•27 min•Season 6Ep. 3
Survivors, We often consider that what keeps us imprisoned is not just what happened to us but how other people then treat us. What if I was to tell you that it is your own mind holding you captive, that the thoughts you have can keep you trapped and less than? Have a good listen here, I think this blog will speak to you. Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation Donate please, this helps us keep going. handingtheshameback.org/donate ADDITIONAL RESOURCE If you are look...
Feb 15, 2024•5 min
Meet Paul Hutchinson Executive Producer of The Sound of Freedom movie and founder of Liberating Humanity. Paul shares his personal experience of being involved in over 70 rescue missions across 15 countries of child sex trafficked children. What he has seen and done, plus the powerful impact this movie has had across the world is incredible. You can find Paul on: https://instagram.com/liberating.humanity?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA== https://www.facebook.com/liberating.humanity?mibextid=LQQJ4d https:/...
Feb 11, 2024•29 min•Season 6Ep. 2
Breaking the Chain This is linked to Paul Hutchinson's interview held earlier this week, and listed across social media platforms. Survivors, when you are feeling triggered, anxious, or unsafe, stop what you are doing and give it attention. Find a way to release it, so you don't stay trapped and stuck. It may be as simple as texting a friend, or reaching out for a hug from your loved one. Breaking the Chain means you won't stay trapped, and you can move on with your life! Go to our website (see ...
Feb 07, 2024•1 min•Season 5Ep. 41
Meet Paul Hutchinson Executive Producer of the Sound of Freedom movie and founder of Liberating Humanity. Paul shares his personal experience of being involved in over 70 rescue missions across 15 countries of child sex trafficked children. What he has seen and done, plus the powerful impact this movie has had across the world is incredible. You can find Paul on: https://instagram.com/liberating.humanity?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA== https://www.facebook.com/liberating.humanity?mibextid=LQQJ4d https:/...
Feb 04, 2024•24 min•Season 6Ep. 1
Welcome to this Weekly update: On the show we have Paul Hutchinson Executive Producer of The Sound of Freedom movie. This focuses on the hideous crime of child sex trafficking. Not only did Paul help produce this movie, he was also personally involved in 70 rescue missions across 15 countries. What he has to share about this is mind blowing. The associated survivor tip is on Breaking the Chain, which survivors will relate to. All of this, and more can be found on all our social media platforms @...
Feb 04, 2024•1 min
Being Believed Survivors, One of the hallmarks of being a survivor can come with the experience of not being believed. This appears in many forms but usually begins with Are you Sure? He or She seemed so nice. This leads to feelings of confusion, fear and sometimes anger. All are valid. I wish survivors speaking out came with a clause that whoever they shared this with had to accept and believe unconditionally the truth they are hearing. It is unfair, wrong and oh so typical of enablers and othe...
Jan 30, 2024•5 min
Being Believed This is linked to Donna's interview held this month and listed across social media platforms. Being believed is really powerful for your survivor. It helps to give validation, builds more of a sense of who they are, alongside confidence. Make sure you are proud and show tit through: a gift, or doing something special for them (use any of the 5 love languages to show your pride in them), and dedicate that to the survivor. Go to our website (see below) for more information on resour...
Jan 28, 2024•2 min
