Survivors we need to: Encompass Self Love Trust ourselves Not compare our story to others Suffering Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: http...
Mar 20, 2023•2 min•Season 5Ep. 1
Monthly Tips for those of you Supporting survivors. Feel free to reach out for any resources including coaching and books, by going directly to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #handingtheshameback #survivors #believesurvivors We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/ X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack You...
Mar 17, 2023•2 min
Meet Jeremy Indika who was abused between 8-10 years of age. This person was a trusted work friend of his father. He first disclosed at age 25. He says that every time he speaks out the fear, shame and guild dissolves You can find Jeremy on his Website: https://jeremyindika.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeM5... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremyindika/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeremyindika1 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeremy-in... Twitter: https://twi...
Mar 06, 2023•1 hr•Season 4Ep. 6
Meet Nettie Long She was abused from age 3 - 7 years by an older female cousin, then again at 12 by an assistant pastor. She told her parents, and it was never talked about again. That was to have one of the biggest impacts on her young life. Watch here for her story. Her best advice is to 'Choose You' in those difficult challenges/choices life throws up. HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephon...
Mar 06, 2023•46 min•Season 4Ep. 5
Being Invisible as survivors is not an uncommon experience. We learned to hide and keep our shame hidden. For healing and a way forward perhaps its time to address this and change the invisible to visible? Go to handingtheshameback.org for more information on our foundation and for ways to help. If you are looking or coaching whether survivor or supporter, email gloria@handingtheshameback.org #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingthes...
Mar 05, 2023•4 min
This interview depicts my 16 years of horror at the hands of my father, and then his paedophile rings. I share this, so other survivors can feel seen, believed and less alone. HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse ...
Mar 02, 2023•19 min•Season 3Ep. 29
This short interview discusses my abuse, and looks at the impact it had. We talk through the Silent Endemic adult survivors of child sexual abuse experience.....let alone what children experiencing it now, go through. HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/...
Feb 23, 2023•1 hr 5 min•Season 3Ep. 29
Meet Tony Baker He is a Peer support worker for Male Support Services Waikato, he is also a father and a Survivor. He was abused by a neighbour at 8 years of age, and shares the impact of that with us. He believes that sometimes peer support can get you a little further than counselling or actual partners can. He wants to give support to by stating that: You were not born to have this life, it was put on you, and therefore there is a way to manage it and emerge through. You can reach out to Tony...
Feb 20, 2023•53 min•Season 4Ep. 4
Monthly Tips for those of you Supporting survivors. Feel free to reach out for any resources including coaching and books, by going directly to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #handingtheshameback #survivors #believesurvivors We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/ X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack You...
Feb 16, 2023•2 min
Taylah Ma is the sister of a survivor, Here is her story. Although 13 years younger than her sister, Taylah observed the pain and trauma her sister suffered. She shares what the intergenerational trauma bond looks like, and the impacts it had in their lives. She also believes that to support another person in a healthy and meaningful way you need to support yourself as well. All will relate to this whether as a survivor or a partner, spouse, parent, sibling or friend of a survivor. You can find ...
Feb 13, 2023•39 min•Season 4Ep. 3
Having disappointment in our lives helps us. It makes us vulnerable and therefore anxious; we have to dig deep to overcome and master these feelings before we can move to accepting them, which is why it helps us. We learn to overcome and then master not just that situation, but eventually life. Go to handingtheshameback.org for more information on our foundation and for ways to help. If you are looking or coaching whether survivor or supporter, email gloria@handingtheshameback.org #childhoodsexu...
Feb 09, 2023•5 min
Meet Survivor Nancy Morris She experienced Sibling Sexual Abuse from the age of 8 - 16 years, and generously shares her story. She believes that keeping the genie from going back into the bottle (as in even more silence existing around Sibling Sexual Abuse (SSA) is crucial. She also believes that its incredibly important for survivors to stay focused on their own lives, rather than worrying about others. You can follow Nancy on: www.SiblingsToo.com for leaving anonymous stories and for Awareness...
Feb 06, 2023•55 min•Season 2Ep. 30
Supporters sometimes don't set limits or boundaries with Survivors, but although they are well meaning; the effect can have a negative impact on the relationship. Have a quick listen as to why this is essential for both parties. If you are interested in any coaching from gloria please email contactus@handingtheshameback.org #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback For further information on what the foundation provides - htt...
Feb 01, 2023•2 min•Season 3Ep. 29
This short interview discusses my abuse, and looks at the impact it had. We lightly touch on conviction rates in south africa and NZ. HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://b...
Jan 29, 2023•19 min•Season 3Ep. 28
Meet Penny: Married to a Survivor called Todd She shares what works for them in managing the impact child sexual abuse has in their lives. She suggests that communicating their way through it really works, and that to Listen is really the most powerful thing any Supporter can do. All will relate to this whether as a survivor or a partner, spouse, parent, sibling or friend of a survivor. Penny's email is pennysampson33@gmail.com HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@saf...
Jan 26, 2023•52 min•Season 4Ep. 2
This is a short introduction to the year and what is happening with Handing the Shame Back. Including introducing Events: 1. Speaking events 2. Walk/Run for our charity in NZ HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse A...
Jan 23, 2023•4 min
Welcome to our very first interview with a "Supporter" of a Survivor. Lee is an ex wife of one, and shares the experiences of navigating the impact her husband being abused and not recognising he needed help, had. How it manifested in their marriage, alongside the feelings of being complicit in the silence. All will relate to this whether as a survivor or a partner, spouse, parent, sibling or friend of a survivor. Lee's email is leeunderwood1000@gmail.com HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 3...
Jan 19, 2023•50 min•Season 4Ep. 1
Handing The Shame Back is doing its first charity held event. For those not familiar Round the bays charity fun run or walk is held in NZ annually and is a great way to raise money for our foundation. It is being held Sunday 5 March. I am doing this with the board members, other survivors and supporters. WHY are we doing this? the silence around child sexual abuse is deafening and this is one way we can bring attention to it! You can help support out Charity and givealittle through scanning the ...
Jan 17, 2023•2 min
Doubt is hard for us as survivors and can show up unexpectedly at times. There are many reasons why this is a core feature of our lives, not the least being we had to doubt our own instinct as the abuse continued. We knew it was wrong, but we couldn't tell anyone. No wonder we struggle with having our own backs at times. Go to handingtheshameback.org for more information on our foundation and for ways to help. If you are looking or coaching whether survivor or supporter, email admin@gloriamaster...
Jan 15, 2023•6 min
This is actually dedicated to the person supporting the survivor. Please watch carefully and hopefully you will gain a few tips in there. If you are interested in any coaching from gloria please email her at admin@gloriamasters.com #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback For further information on what the foundation provides - https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www....
Jan 14, 2023•2 min•Season 3Ep. 28
Sarah interviews me and we cover many topics: One We discuss is the power of Truth, and how it will always stand the test of time. We also look at the impact the false self had on my childhood, adolescence and then as an adult. HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse UK NAPAK https://nap...
Jan 12, 2023•49 min•Season 3Ep. 27
Libby and Kate are sisters who did a walk of awareness throughout NZ to share information about REOSA (Ripple effects of sexual abuse). What they found on the way, the lives they touched and the work they wish to continue is all revealed, so for all this and more: please watch this interview! Reach out to REOSA on their website: https://www.reosa.co.nz/ and they are also active and able to be reached on IG and FB HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Hel...
Jan 10, 2023•55 min•Season 2Ep. 29
Grace: Seen as limitless and in plentiful supply, it is also defined as the powerful, benevolent, unwavering energy of the universe that guides us towards the best version of ourselves. Have a listen as to how this shows up in your life. Go to handingtheshameback.org for more information on our foundation and for ways to help. If you are looking or coaching whether survivor or supporter, email admin@gloriamasters.com #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibeli...
Jan 08, 2023•6 min
We are on all social media platforms: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/ X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshameback LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back #HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign...
Dec 23, 2022•50 sec
This Xmas panel discussion looks at ways we, as survivors get through this time of year. We each have our own view on how it manifested and can manifest for us, and we each agree there is always hope. To reach out to Todd 027 424 7691 and Ken 027 353 3854, and for Susan and I email us both at: contactus@handingtheshameback.org HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA RAINN htt...
Dec 20, 2022•52 min
Untapped potential in survivors is huge. We don't often talk about it, but we all feel it and sometimes What if questions can surface. How do you cope with this?? Have a look as some of these tips may help guide you in supporting them in the best way possible. If you are interested in any coaching from gloria email her at admin@gloriamasters.com #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback For further information on what the fou...
Dec 19, 2022•2 min•Season 3Ep. 27
One of the things we struggle with as survivors is self love. It is difficult for us to feel it, when so much of what we experienced made us hate ourselves. Some of what is shared here, may just offer some hope and light at this time of year. Go to handingtheshameback.org for more information on our foundation and for ways to help. If you are looking or coaching whether survivor or supporter, email admin@gloriamasters.com #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #...
Dec 18, 2022•6 min
Chantelle and I discuss the roles we needed to adopt as children experiencing sexual abuse. We had to take on these roles to survive what we went through. As children, we were simply feeling different, isolated and essentially in survivor mode,. A conversation worth listening to and watching. HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US supp...
Dec 15, 2022•59 min•Season 3Ep. 26
Sam is a survivor, a father of 6 and is on a hikoi (walk of awareness) throughout NZ to spread awareness about male sexual abuse. What helped him to heal was taking action, doing something was better than nothing, and his wife, gently at first and then more insistently pointing out that he needed to sort out the unresolved trauma he was suffering from, and impacting the family with. Watch this man, listen to his story and seek help if you need it. Reach out to Sam on theroadtohealingaotearoa on ...
Dec 13, 2022•55 min•Season 2Ep. 28
Supporting your survivor through validation is key. Not using words like, you are amazing is also vital when they are in a dysregulated or trauma state. Have a look as some of these tips may help guide you in supporting them in the best way possible. If you are interested in any coaching from gloria email her at admin@gloriamasters.com #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback For further information on what the foundation pr...
Dec 12, 2022•3 min•Season 3Ep. 26
