Scrupulosity, or religious perfectionism/OCD, can be debilitating for both individuals and couples. The belief that unless you do everything right, keep all the rules, are perfectly obedient, and live according to God's will... something terrible will happen. This episode with perfectionism expert, Dr. Menije explores how our anxiety leaks out into our spiritual life. She provides some great examples of what scrupulosity can look like, and what we can do about it.
May 06, 2022•53 min
In order to master your anxiety, you must become differentiated. Differentiation is the ability to separate your thoughts from your feelings, and to separate your own thoughts and feelings from the thoughts and feelings of others. This is a practice you will be working on for the rest of your life. Today's episode will introduce you to the first part of differentiation, and give you some first steps to start calming yourself down.
Apr 26, 2022•9 min
Friendship is the foundation of your marriage. If you can't be a good friend to people outside your marriage, it's unlikely you'll be a good friend to your partner. Also, friendships outside your marriage are CRUCIAL for the survival of your relationship. Your community is your bedrock. In today's episode, I talk to the author of the new book, "," Adam Smiley Powsolwky. We talk about why friendship is important, and give a bunch of ideas of how to cultivate more meaningful friendships.
Apr 22, 2022•42 min
Anxiety is basically negative emotions that your brain manufactures to help keep you safe from potential threats... kind of like a smoke alarm. But just like a smoke alarm, there's no special mechanism to help it detect the severity of the threat. Bacon burning on the stove gets the same treatment as a house fire. This is a problem because at some point in your marriage, your partner is going to hurt you, disappoint you, or let you down. That means your brain will detect them as a threat, which ...
Apr 20, 2022•6 min
Some people have relationships that just look so easy, so smooth, and so natural. How do they do it? Are they just lucky? Or are they doing something that everyone else is missing? In this episode, I sit down with John and Ana Mann, authors of the book "The Go-Giver Marriage." This interview (and their book) uncomplicates love and marriage in a really beautiful way. I hope you give it a listen, and check out their new book at: HTTP://gogivermarriage.com
Apr 08, 2022•52 min
Affairs are more common than you'd think. Roughly 50% of marriages are faced with some sort of infidelity at some point during their relationship. So... what do you do if you're caught up in an affair? What do you say if you've fallen hard for someone that's not your partner? How do you respond if your spouse just told you they've been cheating? How can you recover? That's what we're going to talk about in this episode with Kimberly Holmes from Marriage Helper.
Mar 25, 2022•45 min
Were you ever told that "Becoming One" was the ultimate goal in marriage? Or if you put your partner's needs before your own (and if they do the same) your relationship would flourish? Every day I see people who buy into these nice-sounding mindsets, only to watch their marriage slowly crumble. If you are: A fixer... Or you avoid negative emotions because you think they're bad... Or you find yourself turning to things like porn, video games, social media, or workaholism... Or you really struggle...
Mar 22, 2022•5 min
Dr. Robert Glover says,"Nice Guy Syndrome represents a belief that if Nice Guys are 'good,' they will be loved, get their needs met, and live a problem-free life. When this life strategy fails to produce the desired results — as it often does — Nice Guys usually just try harder, doing more of the same. Due to the sense of helplessness and resentment this pattern inevitably produces, Nice Guys are often anything but nice." Today, I sit down with 2 other recovering Nice Guys and talk about the tol...
Mar 18, 2022•1 hr 1 min
Is your partner checked out, no longer invested, withdrawn, or distant? Do you want to know what you can do to change them? To re-engage them? To get them invested in the marriage again? In this episode, I'll show you how the concepts of animal training can be utilized to help you take responsibility for your actions, words, and thoughts to influence change – and even transformation in your partner. The results often take time, but the proof is in the pudding: If you're truly committed, you can ...
Feb 22, 2022•17 min
This is the full, unedited version of my interview with Dr. Menije, the Queen of Perfectionism.
Feb 18, 2022•43 min
Perfectionism will ruin your happiness and fulfillment in life and in your relationships. Perfectionism is NOT a good thing. It's often a symptom of deeper issues, like depression, anxiety, or OCD. Check out this clip with Dr. Menije, the queen of perfectionism, to better understand what perfectionism is, why it's harmful, and what we can do about it!
Feb 15, 2022•9 min
If you're feeling tired, burned out, or like a failure... If you're feeling unfulfilled, unimportant, or disrespected... it could mean despair is creeping into your life. And despair can lead to resignation, checking out, apathy, and even nihilism. In today's episode, we talk about things you can do to get rid of the despair, and feel good again. For more from Chad, text: 844-479-0134 For the Epic Husband's Experiment, click: HTTP://epichusbandsexperiment.com
Feb 05, 2022•56 min
Depression has been a struggle we've dealt with throughout our marriage. It's even been at the source of some of our most painful arguments. In today's episode, we want to share about our journey with depression, and shed some light on what depression is, what it's like to struggle with it, and how you can help yourself, or your partner if they are struggling with it. Here's the article that helped Angilyn: Here's the service she used to take an assessment and meet with a provider:
Feb 01, 2022•17 min
You know who has happy marriages? Happy people. If you bring happiness into the marriage, it multiplies. If you rely purely on your partner to make you happy, the relationship consumes all the happiness and leaves miserable, demanding partners in its place. Find out how to create your own happiness in today's episode.
Jan 29, 2022•53 min
Truly incredible marriages don't happen by accident. In today's episode, we're going to talk about 4 qualities you need to develop in order for your marriage to be truly epic. If you don't... you'll likely get stuck in perpetual conflict, boring routines, and have an unfulfilling relationship. This episode matters a lot. It will change your perspective in a big way.
Jan 25, 2022•16 min
Today, I wanted to share a special presentation I did for couples struggling with unwanted pornography use. Most couples focus on the question, "How do we get rid of the porn?" And the porn keeps coming back... because they're focusing on the wrong thing. This episode will show you an alternative that has worked for thousands of couples... and I'm confident it will help you.
Jan 18, 2022•40 min
Laura Doyle is the NYT Bestselling author of The New York TImes Bestselling book The Surrendered Wife. Her advice about the importance of being a good receiver in this episode is game-changing. I hope you enjoy it! Check out more of her work at
Jan 15, 2022•51 min
Shock collars are used to train dogs not to leave the yard. They use pain and fear to incentivize action. Are there things you're doing in your marriage to inflict pain on your partner in exchange for compliance? What do you think is the cost of that?
Jan 11, 2022•6 min
Resentment is corrosive to your marriage. It can be a gift if you know what it's trying to tell you. But if you sit in it and let the resentment stew, it will corrode the love, trust, and connection in your relationship and leave you feeling angry, bitter, and alone. Today, Misty McIntyre joins me to talk about what to do when we're feeling resentful in marriage.
Jan 08, 2022•50 min
😱 Most people don't know that Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages (the most popular relationship book of all time), almost got divorced. 💡 As a matter of fact, it's because his relationship was in such a dark place that he discovered The 5 Love Languages. 🚨 If you want to see how Dr. Chapman saved his marriage and came up with the Love Languages concept that was subsequently turned into a book that's sold over 20 MILLION copies... check out this episode.
Jan 04, 2022•9 min
If you stay with your partner long enough, one thing is inevitable... you will eventually drift into Roommate Syndrome. Some people take it as a sign that the relationship isn't "right." That things are broken, and maybe the relationship needs to end. But what if Roommate Syndrome was a feature, not a bug? What if the miserable state of Roommate Syndrome was built into EVERY long-term committed relationship for a reason? That's what we're talking about today!
Dec 28, 2021•13 min
We demand more from our marriages today than we ever have in history... And yet we are busier and more distracted than we've ever been. Are these high expectations sustainable? Do we need to learn to "settle" for what we have? That's what we're talking about in today's episode...
Dec 21, 2021•13 min
There are so many ways a relationship can go wrong... Arguments, values conflicts, broken promises, exhaustion, busyness, the list goes on and on... With so many things working against your relationship, you have to be proactive to help things go right. Today I'm going to talk with Emma McAdam, LMFT. Emma loves helping people change and is willing to be creative in how she helps that happen. With her solution-centered approach and emphasis on building relationships, Emma works hard to help peopl...
Dec 15, 2021•53 min
Some women turn frogs into princes. And other women turn princes into frogs. Which one are you? Do you take a good partner and bring out the very worst in them? Or do you bring out the best?
Dec 14, 2021•11 min
If you ignore your problems, nothing changes and most things get worse. So, how are you going to address them? Well, it takes humility, courage, and wisdom. And you have all 3.
Nov 28, 2021•6 min
Last week my wife and daughter went back to the United States and left me alone in Costa Rica. I missed them a lot. And I learned a very important lesson while they were gone.
Nov 23, 2021•6 min
Can you really change your partner by changing yourself? Yes... and no. Today we're going to talk about the biggest mistake you can make when trying to change your marriage by changing yourself.
Nov 16, 2021•7 min
Think about the moments when you're at your worst... When you're pouting cause you don't get your way. When you're passive-aggressive, immature, or whiney. Would you want to be married to you? Probably not. So how do we get access to the best of ourselves when we're at our worst?
Nov 10, 2021•6 min
Jia Jang is an entrepreneur, he's a blogger. He's a TED speaker. He's an author. And he doesn't know this, but he is a personal role model for me. He helped me overcome my fear of being rejected. This episode will help you understand what you can do to deal with rejection from your partner (or anyone else) in a more healthy way than pouting, sulking, complaining, or guilt tripping.
Oct 29, 2021•45 min
You might think being a "fixer" is a good thing. It took me a long time to realize that can actually be detrimental to your relationships and happiness. Today I want to talk about four specific negative impacts being a fixer has on your relationship. And I'm going to give you my favorite tip that I use to help me from going into fix-it mode, and making my relationship significantly worse.
Oct 27, 2021•14 min
