Are you holding onto a grudge and want to get to a place where you can forgive that person? Claire gives you some tips on how to get to a place where you are ready to forgive. Plus, she answers a question from a listener who finds herself making poor life choices after her father’s death. Check out these resources mentioned in this episode: The Book of Forgiving by Desmond Tutu and Mpho Tutu Do you have something you want Claire’s help with? Send her a question to be featured on an upcoming epis...
Aug 24, 2022•10 min
Are you looking to get out of a toxic relationship? Claire gives you some tips on removing yourself from unhealthy relationships of all kinds. Plus, she answers a question from a listener who wants his sons to smoke weed less often. Check out these resources mentioned in this episode: Marijuana Anonymous Do you have something you want Claire’s help with? Send her a question to be featured on an upcoming episode by emailing us at [email protected] or submitting one at www.bit.ly/newdayask ...
Aug 22, 2022•8 min
Sitting with the reality of her husband's impending death, author Rebecca Woolf did something she later understood to be a liberating act: she was radically honest with the world about her complex grief, her desires for an authentic life, and even her past infidelity. Being radically honest propelled her beyond fear of judgment and lifted the weight of any shame. Rebecca tells Claire why she thinks people hide their truth and why people need to wrestle with difficult introspection, even during h...
Aug 19, 2022•35 min
Do you worry that every headache you get is being caused by a brain tumor you’re sure you have? Claire gives you some tips on how to grapple with health anxiety. Plus, she answers a question from a listener who finds herself exhausted and struggling eight years into her husband’s young-onset dementia. Check out this workbook Claire recommends to work though health anxiety: The Health Anxiety Workbook by Taylor M. Ham Do you have something you want Claire’s help with? Send her a question to be fe...
Aug 17, 2022•10 min
Do you tend to beat yourself up over every mistake you make? Claire gives you some tips on how to cultivate more self-compassion. Plus, she answers a question from a listener who wants help dealing with hostile relatives. Do you have something you want Claire’s help with? Send her a question to be featured on an upcoming episode by emailing us at [email protected] or submitting one at www.bit.ly/newdayask . Want to connect? Join the New Day Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/...
Aug 15, 2022•7 min
Pain. Suffering. Grief. These are all things most people try to avoid. But Rabbi Steve Leder knows his life is more purposeful because it was transformed by the pain he’s experienced in his life. In this beautiful conversation, Claire and Rabbi Leder discuss how he came to that realization, what he does when he gets overwhelmed by the magnitude of the Earth's chaos and suffering, and what it means to live life like a good ancestor. Plus, Rabbi Leder encourages you to create an ethical will to le...
Aug 12, 2022•40 min
Are you frequently checking out your ex’s social media accounts? Whether it’s a romantic or platonic ex, Claire gives you some tips on how to stop checking up on people you’ve had a falling out with — and a little insight into why we do it. Plus, she answers a question from a listener who is feeling anxious about returning to “normal” at this stage of the pandemic. Do you have something you want Claire’s help with? Send her a question to be featured on an upcoming episode by emailing us at newda...
Aug 10, 2022•9 min
Are you guilty of doomscrolling? Claire gives you some tips on how to cut down on this compulsive habit. Plus, she answers a question from a listener whose husband refuses to get help for his anxiety. Check out these resources mentioned in this episode: Good News Movement on Instagram Do you have something you want Claire’s help with? Send her a question to be featured on an upcoming episode by emailing us at [email protected] or submitting one at www.bit.ly/newdayask . Want to connect? J...
Aug 08, 2022•8 min
Waking up to the realization that you drunk-dialed someone the night before can be pretty embarrassing. But for Tara Schuster, it was life changing. The night of her 25th birthday, Tara drunk-dialed her therapist pleading for help. The next morning, she decided to find that help she begged for. Tara tells Claire how she realized she needed to re-parent herself, the techniques she initially scoffed at that proved most helpful for her, and what advice she has for people at the beginning of their o...
Aug 05, 2022•37 min
Are you curious about psychedelic therapy? Claire lays out the basics about this increasingly popular therapy technique and gives you some tips for learning more about using substances like ketamine, mushrooms, MDMA, and ayahuasca in a therapeutic setting. Her first and most important tip: consult your medical team before considering this kind of treatment. Plus, she answers a question from a listener who wants their teenage son to take more responsibility for his actions. Check out these resour...
Aug 03, 2022•11 min
Are you looking for guidance as you try and comfort a child who is grieving? Claire gives you some tips on developmentally-appropriate ways to help a grieving child. Plus, she answers a question from a listener who is struggling to forgive herself for her affair. Check out these resources mentioned in this episode: Claire’s grief resources Dr. Kristin Neff’s episode of New Day The State of Affairs by Esther Perel Do you have something you want Claire’s help with? Send her a question to be featur...
Aug 01, 2022•9 min
It’s hard to find someone these days who isn’t experiencing some degree of burnout. Connor Franta hit the proverbial wall after years of sharing parts of his life with his millions of social media followers. But there was one huge part of himself he kept a secret not only from his followers, but also from his friends and family. Connor tells Claire what it meant to find a supportive community online, how it felt to publicly come out on YouTube in 2014, and how he’s adjusted his social media use ...
Jul 29, 2022•35 min
Have you considered seeing a medium to connect with a loved one who has died? Claire gives you some tips on ways to find a good psychic medium and how to get the most out of your experience with them. Plus, she answers a question from a listener who had ceased contact with her mother but feels guilty now that her mother has died. Check out these resources mentioned in this episode: Read After This: When Life Is Over Where Do We Go? by Claire Bidwell Smith Listen to Medium Fleur’s New Day episode...
Jul 27, 2022•9 min
Are you experiencing anxiety alongside your grief? Claire gives you some tips for managing the anxiety that commonly accompanies grieving. Plus, she answers a question from a listener who finds herself intellectualizing her response to her husband’s recent medical diagnosis. Check out these resources mentioned in this episode: Read Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief by Claire Bidwell Smith Do you have something you want Claire’s help with? Send her a question to be featured on an upcoming episo...
Jul 25, 2022•9 min
Most people are familiar with PTSD, but may not have heard of C-PTSD — complex post-traumatic stress disorder. Journalist and author Stephanie Foo hadn’t heard of C-PTSD until she was diagnosed with it in 2018. Stephanie chronicles her journey of healing from complex trauma in her book, “What My Bones Know.” Stephanie tells Claire how she found the treatment that finally worked for her, what she learned about intergenerational trauma along the way, and what changes she wants to see in the mental...
Jul 22, 2022•40 min
Are you beating yourself up for something you said or did before someone you love died? Claire gives you some tips on ways to alleviate some of the guilt you may be feeling around someone’s death. Plus, she answers a question from a listener who fears death as a result of experiencing so many losses early in her life. Check out Claire’s recommendations for facing your fears about death: BJ Miller’s TED Talk Alua Arthur’s New Day episode Amy Pickard’s New Day episode Do you have something you wan...
Jul 20, 2022•7 min
Do you want to be there for a friend who is grieving but feel unsure what to say or do? Claire gives you some tips on ways to comfort and show up for someone experiencing loss. Plus, she answers a question from a listener who wants to reconnect with her partner after spending so much time together during the pandemic. Check out Claire’s recommendations for reconnecting with your partner: I Want This to Work by Elizabeth Earnshaw Relationship conversation cards Do you have something you want Clai...
Jul 18, 2022•9 min
The first time you laugh, smile, or feel happiness while grieving can be very unsettling. You might feel like you aren’t properly grieving if you get distracted for a moment and don’t feel the exquisite pain of your loss. Sukey Forbes wants you to know that not only is it ok to do those things, it’s necessary. Sukey has learned a lot about grief in the 18 years since her daughter Charlotte died at only six years old. Sukey tells Claire how she was able to parent her two other children while grie...
Jul 15, 2022•36 min
Do you find yourself lying to your therapist? Claire gives you some tips on what to do if you don’t feel like you can be fully honest in therapy. Plus, she answers a question from a listener who feels ignored by her family due to her strained relationship with her father. Check out Claire’s recommendation for a book about father loss: The Fatherless Daughter Project by Denna Babul and Karin Luise Do you have something you want Claire’s help with? Send her a question to be featured on an upcoming...
Jul 13, 2022•10 min
Do you feel like ghosting your therapist? Claire gives you some insight into why you might be wanting to do this and shares some tips on other approaches you can take. Plus, she answers a question from a listener whose spouse does not want help for his addiction. Check out Claire’s recommendations for resources on addiction: Al-Anon Narconon American Addiction Centers Understanding and Helping an Addict by Andrew Proulx Codependent No More by Melody Beattie Do you have something you want Claire’...
Jul 11, 2022•8 min
Perhaps you have a will and an advance directive, but will your loved ones know your WiFi password after you die? Amy Pickard started her company, Good to Go! , to ensure that your friends and family aren’t left wondering who your electric company is or if you’re subscribed to Hulu or Netflix after you’re gone. Amy tells Claire why she started Good to Go!, what it actually takes to get your affairs in order, and why she thinks our culture needs to reframe how we think and talk about death. Resou...
Jul 08, 2022•36 min
Do you have a crush on your therapist? Claire gives you some insights into why this may be happening and gives you a tip on what to do about it. Plus, she answers a question from a listener whose family disapproves of the guy she loves. Do you have something you want Claire’s help with? Send her a question to be featured on an upcoming episode by emailing us at [email protected] or submitting one at www.bit.ly/newdayask . Want to connect? Join the New Day Facebook Group! https://www.faceb...
Jul 06, 2022•15 min
Do you wonder what your therapist thinks of you? Claire gives you some tips on ways to dig a little deeper into the relationship you have with your therapist. Plus, she answers a question from a listener interested in starting therapy for his compulsive sexual behavior. Check out Claire’s recommendations for resources on sex addiction: Sex Addiction 101 by Robert Weiss Sexual Compulsives Anonymous , Sex Addicts Anonymous , and Sexaholics Anonymous Center for Healthy Sex Do you have something you...
Jul 04, 2022•10 min
By the time we’re adults, most of us have a good sense of how the world works and how we fit into it. But what are you supposed to do if something happens that shakes all you thought you knew to the ground? Psychiatrist Kali Cyrus is a Black, queer, cis woman who all of a sudden felt incredibly unsafe in the world with the rise of Donald Trump and the societal shifts that followed. Kali tells Claire about the moment it all became too painful for her to bear, how she retreated from the world as a...
Jul 01, 2022•38 min
Underneath the anger, fear, and hopelessness many of us feel right now after the Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade lies grief. Claire’s expertise in this field is invaluable right now and we wanted to share her appearance on V Interesting with V Spehar with you. V asks Claire for tips on how to process your own personal grief, what it means to be grieving collectively with so many people, and how to handle loved ones with whom you disagree on this issue. Plus, Claire and V game-plan the best ...
Jun 29, 2022•15 min
Were your parents able to teach you every life lesson perfectly when you were a kid? Claire gives you some tips on how to make up for what you didn’t get when you were young by reparenting yourself now. Plus, she answers a question from a listener who is concerned her issues with mental health will negatively affect her children. Check out these books Claire recommends about reparenting yourself: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson Mothers Who Can’t Love by Susan ...
Jun 27, 2022•10 min
Putting yourself out there — the good, the bad, the ugly — in the social media age can be a high-risk, high-reward endeavor, to put it mildly. Few people know that quite as well as writer, director, producer, and actor Lena Dunham . Lena shot to superstardom at only 24 years old when her hit HBO show “Girls” debuted in 2012 and has been living her life very much in the public eye ever since. Lena tells Claire about her lifelong love of self-expression and creativity, how being so open about the ...
Jun 24, 2022•53 min
Have you heard of breathwork? Claire gives you some tips on how to get into this interactive meditation technique that aims to center you, move emotions through your body, and relax the parasympathetic nervous system. Plus, she answers a question from a listener who is navigating the healthcare system and wants to know how to be a better patient. Check out Claire’s recommendations for getting into breathwork: Read Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art by James Nestor Follow Ja...
Jun 22, 2022•8 min
Do you take time to notice, appreciate, and reflect on the good things happening in your life? Claire gives you some tips on how to cultivate more gratitude every day. Plus, she answers a question from a listener who wants advice on how to handle her relationship with an abusive parent. Check out these two books Claire recommends about reparenting yourself: What My Bones Know by Stephanie Foo Buy Yourself the F*cking Lillies by Tara Schuster Do you have something you want Claire&rs...
Jun 20, 2022•8 min
The concept of palliative care can bring up a whole flood of thoughts and emotions: fear, anxiety, grief, anger, helplessness. But palliative care physician Sunita Puri wants to change people’s perception of her field. And not just laypeople, but also her medical colleagues. Dr. Puri tells Claire why she became a palliative care doctor, how she’s working to destigmatize her chosen field, how she strives to empower patients and caregivers facing serious illnesses or end-of-life situat...
Jun 17, 2022•36 min
