In today's episode, I'm diving into the concept of "manure to meaning" and why acknowledging the crap is the first step. The thing is, you can't turn crap into fertilizer right away. You have to admit it's manure FIRST, then compost it, sit with it, turn it over, and give it time to break down. Otherwise, it won't turn into anything that will be useful! If you're ready to start turning your own pile into something good, I'd be honored to sit with you in it. You can schedule a consult call for 1:...
Aug 19, 2025•10 min•Ep. 96
In today's episode, I'm diving into why you may be waiting for a crisis to seek help. The truth is, we don't HAVE to wait until everything feels like it's falling apart or completely on fire to reach out for support. Inner work isn't just for the breaking points. It's the fence check before the cows ever enter the pasture. It's choosing to tend to your emotional and mental health before the (you know what) hits the fan. When life does knock you down, you'll have the tools and capacity to move th...
Aug 12, 2025•14 min•Ep. 95
In today's episode, I'm diving into why I thought I didn't get angry, but actually, I was just really good at shoving it down. If you grew up in rural spaces where stoicism and toughness are celebrated, you've probably been taught to think that anger isn't safe. Ultimately, anger isn't the enemy - it's often just the messenger. Let's stop shoving anger down and start listening to it with curiosity and care! In this episode, I cover: How emotion is our first language + why anger is often the firs...
Aug 05, 2025•14 min•Ep. 94
I'm excited to welcome my friend and Good Movement Collective member, Paige Dulaney, to the podcast today! In today's episode, we're diving deeper into family dynamics and emotional healing. Through some major life changes and unexpected challenges, Paige has found herself reevaluating who she was, what she needed, and how to reclaim her voice. Healing (especially emotional healing) is slow and unglamorous work, but it's absolutely worth it for yourself and your loved ones. In this episode, we c...
Jul 29, 2025•33 min•Ep. 93
In today's episode, Matt Gasseling and I are discussing healing, fatherhood, and finding self-worth. Doing the work for you can be difficult. It's not easy to prioritize yourself and work on your own stuff, especially when the world has taught you to push it all down and go it alone. Matt shares what's helped him on this journey, from quieting his inner critic and learning to pause when necessary, to leaning into curiosity and letting go of the need for perfection. This episode is an honest look...
Jul 22, 2025•30 min•Ep. 92
In today's episode, I'm sharing an exercise for holding the crappy and the happy, because life is often BOTH. It's called the "fart and the flower" exercise! It's such a great way to name the hard and the good, all in one breath. This practice is all about emotional honesty and balance. It's a way to remind yourself that you're allowed to feel both the crappy and the happy (simple acknowledgement and awareness is key here), and that naming the hard doesn't cancel out the good. I'd love to hear h...
Jul 15, 2025•16 min•Ep. 91
In today's episode, I'm talking about the phrase "I'm just complaining" and other things we say to downplay what we feel. We've been conditioned to downplay our emotions, especially in rural life and agricultural spaces, where strength is often measured by how much you can "grit and bear." Vulnerability gets squashed by shame. It's time we flip the script and stop minimizing what we're feeling. Your feelings MATTER - they're not a burden or a weakness. If you need space to unpack something heavy...
Jul 08, 2025•13 min•Ep. 90
In today's episode, keynote speaker and mindset coach Calli Thorne and I are discussing why mental health first aid should be as common as first aid and CPR - especially in rural life. Calli offers a real look into what this training involves, why it matters, and how it can genuinely change lives. If you've ever felt like you're running on empty or wondered how to better support someone who's struggling, I hope our conversation reminds you that you CAN make a difference - it just starts with kno...
Jul 01, 2025•35 min•Ep. 89
In today's episode, I'm talking about why you don't need their apology to heal. We crave the apology so deeply because we're HUMAN. We're wired for connection and closure as humans; our hearts want to be seen, known, and heard. When we believe that healing is only possible after someone else makes it right, we unknowingly tie our freedom to someone else's readiness or willingness to take responsibility. It IS possible to let go of this weight that was never yours to carry in the first place. If ...
Jun 24, 2025•9 min•Ep. 88
In today's episode, I'm talking about what apologies are and what they're not. Apologies are an act of repair - they don't undo what happened or wipe it all clean, but they CAN mend the fabric of a relationship. Receiving apologies can feel foreign, too. You can receive an apology while still honoring your pain and holding boundaries. You don't have to pretend it didn't hurt just to make someone else feel better! I hope this episode encourages you to reflect on your relationship with apologies (...
Jun 17, 2025•18 min•Ep. 87
In today's episode, I'm talking about what grace is (and what it's not). We hear "give yourself grace" or "extend grace to others" alllll the time. But grace isn't pretending everything's fine or letting people treat us poorly. It's not stuffing your feelings to keep the peace. Real grace tells the TRUTH, holds boundaries, and stays rooted in kindness. It's curiosity without judgment and staying present when it would be easier to shut down. And yes, grace includes you, too! If this resonates, I'...
Jun 10, 2025•16 min•Ep. 86
**Trigger Warning: This episode was tough for me to record, and it may be tough to listen to. It includes topics of homicide and suicide. In today's episode, I'm sharing some details about the tragic death of Bailey Koch and her family and talking about the dangerous comfort of judgment and responding to tragedy with humanity. While I get the instinct to say, "I would never," I also know that judgment gives us FALSE comfort and doesn't help us respond with humanity. This conversation is about wa...
Jun 03, 2025•13 min•Ep. 85
In today's episode, I'm talking about why apologies aren't weak - they're repair. I recently apologized to my middle daughter for a moment that happened nearly seven years ago. It's something that I felt the need to circle back to, especially since we've been talking about the power of showing our kids that we're human. Apologies aren't weak - taking the time to apologize shows that we care. It's never too late to say "I'm sorry," and it's never too late for our kids to see (and hear) this from ...
May 27, 2025•11 min•Ep. 84
In today's episode, I'm talking about raising resilient kids by being real in FRONT of them. When we model how to walk through the tough seasons and come out on the other side, we give our kids the tools they need to do the same! They don't need a perfect parent; they need a present one who shows them what it looks like to fall, get back up, and keep going. That's the kind of resilience they'll carry with them for life! In this episode, I cover: What happens when you’re always strong and hide yo...
May 20, 2025•12 min•Ep. 83
In today's episode, I'm talking about reflexes, ropes, and rewiring your response. I'm sharing a sweet story about my son, his little sister, and the rope that led to him unintentionally tripping her (she's fine, and they both laughed about it after!) to demonstrate how your nervous system works. When you've been through hardship, trauma, or even the slow drip of stress, your body just learns how to survive. And when those survival patterns are repeated enough, they become second nature, just li...
May 13, 2025•11 min•Ep. 82
In today's episode, I'm talking about feeling without falling apart and how to start when it feels like too much. Because we've all been taught to push through, stay tough, and avoid being too much, but your emotional system doesn't shut off just because you ignore it. Naming your emotions without trying to fix them, noticing body cues, and even using grounding tools like music or journaling all create emotional fences that allow you to feel without drowning. Feeling without falling apart IS pos...
May 06, 2025•12 min•Ep. 81
Tom is back on the (castpod) to help me tackle your questions with both honesty AND humor! In today’s episode, we’re sharing our hot takes and heartfelt truths on a variety of topics. We received questions regarding relationship struggles, the impact of social media on our communities, facing deep + tense conversations with family members about succession planning, and more. We’re truly grateful for the thoughtful questions you sent in, and we’d LOVE to keep these conversations going. Feel free ...
Apr 29, 2025•34 min•Ep. 80
In today's episode, I'm talking about self-reliance vs. connection and what actually helps us heal. So many of us were raised to believe that needing help is a weakness or that slowing down to feel our emotions makes us soft. Healing in isolation might feel safe, but true transformation happens in connection, especially when we have someone to walk beside us. Community gives us the courage to stay with the hard stuff and is what actually helps us heal. If you're craving this kind of support, the...
Apr 22, 2025•12 min•Ep. 79
In today's episode, I'm talking about why emotions aren't the problem - avoiding them is. Emotions are meant to help, guide, and connect you. They're not an inconvenience (contrary to what you may believe) but are actually a BEAUTIFUL part of our design as humans! I know that feeling and connecting with your emotions can sound scary, but it is VITAL if you want to experience lasting healing in your life! I would love for you to take some time and think about what emotions you've been ignoring or...
Apr 15, 2025•12 min•Ep. 78
In today's episode, I'm talking about small gestures, big impact, and what the power of simple connection looks like. Connection is VITAL for us as humans - our brains thrive on social interaction! Small connections are beautiful and transformative and can do SO much to bridge the gaps between people in our society today. Here's to making more intentional connections that leave a lasting impact! In this episode, I cover: Why connection is VITAL for humans + can happen in everyday interactions Wh...
Apr 08, 2025•14 min•Ep. 77
In today's episode, I'm talking about a lesson from Ted Lasso on healing and holding two things at once. As humans, we REALLY struggle with duality in our culture. We've been conditioned to think that everything is either/or and not ever both/and. It's crucial that you don't suppress your emotions, even when they feel uncomfortable. Those suppressed emotions won't just magically disappear! One of my favorite ways to work through this is using the “f- you and thank you" exercise. It's been incred...
Apr 01, 2025•16 min•Ep. 76
In today's episode, I'm talking about why healing isn't about never hurting again. Just like physical wounds, emotional healing requires time, protection, and intentional care. Even when you've worked through something, and you feel healed and closed, something is bound to open that wound back up from time to time! Setting boundaries and giving yourself space can really help with emotional healing, especially when you're just beginning the healing process. Remember, healing isn't about never hur...
Mar 25, 2025•13 min•Ep. 75
In today’s episode, we’re redefining ‘I’m good’ and how feeling every emotion & healing deeply impacts you. So often, we think that feeling good means we’re never sad, worried, angry, etc., but that’s definitely not the case. Healing is never a one-and-done thing, and it’s not going to look the same for everyone. If you need some extra support on YOUR healing journey, I would be honored to walk alongside you! In this episode, I cover: Why finding meaning and purpose in your life is VITAL Res...
Mar 18, 2025•20 min•Ep. 74
I'm excited to welcome Kelly Greene back to the podcast today and continue the conversation from the last episode! Today, we're talking about finding meaning in the mess and how purpose fuels resistance. Kelly and I also discuss the vast, transcendent emotion of awe and how this gives you something powerful to focus on outside of yourself. From learning about holistic resilience to finding meaning in the mess and purpose, both of these episodes with Kelly were incredibly inspiring. I know they w...
Mar 11, 2025•27 min•Ep. 73
I'm excited to welcome my friend, Kelly Greene, Certified Health and Wellness Coach, onto the podcast today! In today's part 1 episode, we're discussing holistic resilience and what rethinking strength and survival looks like. Kelly has experienced her fair share of trauma over the years and has often been told how resilient she is. While she may look like it on paper, resilient was not a word she would have used to describe herself years ago. Make sure to come back for part 2 with Kelly next we...
Mar 04, 2025•34 min•Ep. 72
In today's episode, we're talking about why we stay and the pull of the familiar, even when it hurts. As humans, we find comfort in familiarity. Our brains are wired for survival, and we LIKE what's comfortable and safe, even when it's actually the opposite of that. The pull of the familiar is SO strong, but it's not unbreakable. With curiosity, bravery, and support, it's totally possible to step out of what's comfortable and into something better. Change can be scary, friend, but this is also w...
Feb 25, 2025•13 min•Ep. 71
In today's episode, Tom and I are talking about how we've navigated expectations in ranch life and marriage. We've learned that unspoken expectations are resentments waiting to happen. If you're going to have an expectation about XYZ, you've got to speak it - not everyone is going to have the same expectation or understand where you're coming from! We hope this episode gives you a more REAL insight into how we've navigated expectations in ranch life and marriage. We've both done the inner work o...
Feb 18, 2025•20 min•Ep. 70
In today's episode, I'm talking about cleaning the shop and why feeling your feelings gets worse before it gets better. Many of us have been little hoardy hoarders with our feelings for years. When you finally decide it's time to start the process of working through your emotions, not only are you feeling your emotions in the moment, but you're also unpacking YEARS of emotions! Feeling your feelings is NOT easy - especially if it's something you've never done before. Fortunately, the clarity and...
Feb 11, 2025•12 min•Ep. 69
I'm honored to welcome a special guest, former Marine Jake Ogren, onto the podcast today! Jake is a husband, dad, and former Marine who chose to serve after 9/11 happened. After doing multiple tours in 12 years, he left the U.S. Marine Corps and has been shoeing horses for 10 years now. He's a good friend of ours and our horse's farrier, and since I've known him, we've had MANY conversations surrounding the topics of mental health, trauma, and taking care of ourselves. Basically, we're solving a...
Feb 04, 2025•33 min•Ep. 68
Healthy boundaries are essential for protecting ourselves and our relationships, but unhealthy boundaries can isolate us and keep us from facing reality. I talked about why boundaries can be one of the kindest things we do for ourselves in episode 36 (you can listen here if you haven't or if you need a refresher). In today's episode, I'm talking about the process of maintaining your fences and the art of healthy boundaries. My favorite analogy to use in regard to boundaries is fences. We have a ...
Jan 28, 2025•12 min•Ep. 67
