Wrapping up 2023! Podcast stats revealed! THANK YOU to our listeners! We appreciate you spending time with us each week and for sharing this podcast with others! In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Julia Lange, the brains behind a sexy vacation week called Hedonism Swing Breakers (HSB) that happens every year in March at resort Hedonism II in Negril Jamaica! Then, they answer all your questions submitted on social media about Hedo. How did Hedonism II and Hedonism Swing Breakers come about? ...
Dec 28, 2023•1 hr 18 min•Season 1Ep. 51
The girls chat with Bibi, Vee's friend in the lifestyle, about all things rejection, including: Open lifestyle and rejection: How do you reject or turn someone down in the moment at a sex party? How circumstances, headspace and how well you know the person comes into play: private play parties, organized play parties, lifestyle resorts, etc. (10:45) The do's and don'ts of rejection. Rejecting over text, ghosting, and being clear and respectful. (16:24) Vee gets rejected over text, and how to dea...
Dec 21, 2023•54 min•Season 1Ep. 50
In this episode, Elle and Vee have one of their most important conversations to date: all things vaginal health. Elle is a medical professional - a nutritional therapist and holistic medical professional with a Doctor of Pharmacy degree, so Vee uses this opportunity to pick her brain about how to prevent the most common of vaginal issues, including: Chronic yeast infections and BV (bacterial vaginosis): natural solutions, vaginal PH balance and probiotics. What specific probiotic strains should ...
Dec 14, 2023•55 min
Every November, around Thanksgiving, Elle and Vee's group of lifestyle friends (aka Joy Family) throw an annual Freaksgiving sex party weekend. After the 2022 edition, the girls debriefed their weekend, including: How to throw a great sex party! Valuing comfort: what’s on the checklist when setting up as a host? (2:42 ) The girls share their intentions, and what they learned from implementing them, including communicating your desires in the moment, and acting on your sexual feelings. (8:33 ) El...
Dec 07, 2023•37 min•Season 1Ep. 48
In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Brandi about her ten years' worth of experience in the lifestyle, throughout which she's been able to explore all types of fantasies, from orgies to sub/dom power dynamics to pet play, and the joy and empowerment they can bring. Fantasies: exploring and fulfilling fantasies through ENM (ethical non monogamy). (2:18) How can you make it work when you’re both submissive? (9:25) Being dommed with your partner. (14:19) Hiring a pro dominatrix. (17:45) Female d...
Nov 30, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Season 1Ep. 47
In this episode, join Elle and Vee with return guest Physics to get an inside view of what goes on in a top’s brain and the intricate communication required for different BDSM relationships and experiences. Who Is Physics? (0:53) The magic of intention in BDSM experiences. (2:05) What is DD/lg? (6:59) DD/lg VS age play? (11:41) How to have a healthy appropriate Ds relationship? (15:35) Communicating desires and boundaries: What questions to ask before a scene. (21:21) What is Shibari, and what a...
Nov 23, 2023•52 min•Season 1Ep. 46
In this episode, Vee and Elle chat with Physics (@physics_shibari) about the ins and outs of founding a sex group, what a yoni massage involves, and what sex magic is, including: Shibari porn: Physics’s kinky awakening. (3:16) What is The Temple? Returning sacred sexuality to spirituality. (5:22) Sex workshops: What kinds of workshops can be found at The Temple? (10:06) Yoni Massage: -From being “the guy who can make any girl squirt” to being a yoni massage practitioner. (11:34) -Differentiating...
Nov 16, 2023•59 min•Season 1Ep. 45
Elle and Vee catch up on their weekend sexcapades. Vee attended a private sex party event with 40+ people and the City of Gods Halloween party in NYC while Elle spent a sexy weekend with M at home. Butt stuff updates, the second sphincter and using poppers. (1:10) Storing sex toys, the Liberator, and traveling with toys. (6:44) City of Gods Halloween Party in NYC: impact play, electro play and understanding establishing consent and boundaries with new BDSM partners. (11:12) Sex Swing and why Ell...
Nov 09, 2023•1 hr 3 min•Season 1Ep. 44
In this episode, Elle and Vee catch up about Vee’s latest sex party that she hosted with J, including squirting, enthusiastic consent, substance use, six-handed massages, listening to your body, and so much more…. Our top five episodes according to the numbers! (1:44) The benefits of having new people at a small sex party. (12:16) Squirting: how to overcome the threshold and let go. Waterproof blankets, sensory deprivation, hydration, trust and muscle memory. (15:16) Setting expectations for a s...
Nov 02, 2023•1 hr 3 min•Season 1Ep. 43
Elle and Vee bring Leia back for a part 2 to discuss Sexual Somatic Healing and so much more! What is somatic healing? How does it differ from typical talk therapy? (0:43) Three cornerstone beliefs of the Somatic Healing method. Transformation through pleasure. (4:50) What does a session look like? Is there physical contact? An animal play session recounted. (6:28) The impact of current events and shared tips on how to get out of your head and into your body. (11:49) Leia leads us through a 3 pa...
Oct 26, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 42
In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with their friend Leia ( @vibrantbyleia ), who gets deep about being a single bisexual female in the lifestyle, dating couples (versus prioritizing finding her own primary), and sexual healing. "Catalyst couples", awkward first dates and enthusiastic consent: how Leia was introduced to the lifestyle. (1:31) Where should the couple sit at a 3-way date? How women hold a lot of power in ENM. (12:24) "AHA" moments from being in the open lifestyle. (16:57) Single an...
Oct 19, 2023•48 min•Season 1Ep. 41
Elle and Vee catch up and chat about sex with pregnant women and talk about new sex toys, offering their reviews and opinions. Being pregnant in the ENM lifestyle. (3:47) Elle’s hormonal and body changes during pregnancy. Horniness, sexual desires, nipple changes, deep throating updates. (5:58) How pregnancy changes relationships, and the feeling of being left behind. (15:02) Sex with pregnant women and fulfilling fantasies: Cream pies, lubricated vaginas, and conception fantasies. (22:41) Sex T...
Oct 12, 2023•1 hr 8 min•Season 1Ep. 40
This week, Elle and Vee chat with T Money about what he's learned in his twenty years in the lifestyle, including: Introducing someone to ethical non-monogamy, being on traditional dating apps, and dating people who are monogamous. (8:16) Stretching Fetish: DVP, vegetables, and the elasticity of vaginas. (17:24) Fisting: how to fist, the “goose” technique, and slow exits. (27:27) DVP: double vaginal penetration tips, and the benefits of being the "top" or "bottom" giver. (32:33) Speculums and Va...
Oct 05, 2023•55 min•Season 1Ep. 39
Elle and Vee dive into the work of Esther Perel, a relationship expert, on relationship dynamics, how to keep things sexy and how to foster erotic desire: When your partner is in their element and confident. Surprise. Seeing your partner though the eyes of another. Longing and absence. Who is Esther Perel and what is she about? (0:38) When you ‘have’ something it takes away the wanting, and how the lifestyle helps with this. (2:47) When do you feel most drawn to your partner? (6:46) Desire requi...
Sep 21, 2023•42 min•Season 1Ep. 38
Elle and Vee have two special guests in today's episode, Ace and Jess who share their lifestyle practices with edging and other kinky experiences 2:32 Why edge an orgasm? What does edging do for Ace? 3:44 Aces edging discovery and how he uses it his advantage in the lifestyle 5:57 Elle Vee and Jess explain the differences of their personal orgasms 8:05 Multiple orgasm for female, but what about men? 10:50 Who is charge of finally cumming, edging to cum together and a women perspective when her p...
Sep 14, 2023•1 hr 7 min
Elle and Vee share their experiences and challenges of bringing a third to a weekend getaway and how they worked through being triggered. Vee shares her fears, desires and boundaries for this episode. (2:26) A challenge of having a third partner: balance. (3:57) Codependency, projection, and the stories we tell ourselves. (6:41) Elle discusses another potential challenge of having a third: feeling left out. (13:32) Elle's example of "the stories we tell ourselves" and the lessons learned. (18:16...
Sep 07, 2023•52 min•Season 1Ep. 36
In this episode, Elle and Vee debrief on the highlights, challenges and takeaways from their most recent weekend away with their ENM friends. “A glimpse into a lifestyle party,” and one of the challenges of bringing a third to a party. (1:46) What’s the point of having themes? (5:35) Sobriety: the challenges and benefits of staying sober for an entire lifestyle weekend. (9:10) Sobriety and sexuality. (18:02) Highlight: FFF threesome and goal-oriented fucking. (21:57) Face-sitting: the benefits o...
Aug 31, 2023•47 min•Season 1Ep. 35
In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with M, the squirt master. He shares his tips and tricks on how to make a girl squirt and the girls share their perspectives and experiences. Vee shares her fears with squirting. (2:12) What makes squirting different from orgasm? (7:17) M shares how he discovered his squirting skills. (8:36) Why squirting is hot: a male perspective.(15:00) How to make a girl squirt: finger placement, feeling, movement and more. (16:36) The challenges for the squirter and workin...
Aug 24, 2023•47 min•Season 1Ep. 34
What is an Intimacy Inventory, and why is it important for our relationships? (1:52) Get Access here… What strengths do you bring to your relationships? What is a dilemma that you carry with you? (5:32) Stubbornness and fighting with your partner; how to put a sexy, fun spin on it. (9:44) When do you feel most free in your relationship? (14:28) When you’re out at a bar with friends, do you have a hall pass? What agreement do you have with your partner about what is allowed? (17:04) Independence ...
Aug 17, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 33
Elle and Vee chat with their friend Kit, who grew up in a strict religious home. The girls chat about their formative sexual experiences and messages they received about sex early on in their lives, and how finding the ENM lifestyle helped to heal them. Early messages around sex when you grow up in a strict religious community (for example, Mennonite or Pentecostal). (1:50) How did you work through/unlearn all the shameful messages around sex and adultery that you had grown up with? (11:55) Comm...
Aug 10, 2023•58 min•Season 1Ep. 32
In this episode, the girls sit down with Slutlana, who is Elle and her husband M's best friend and girlfriend. They cover a range of topics, including: What’s it like being a third for a married couple? What fears come up as a third? The importance of communication in a throuple. (1:20) The benefits of being a third and not having a primary partner. (8:44) Opening a marriage with the help of a sex therapist. (10:49) Transitioning from swingers to open, and falling in love with someone outside of...
Aug 03, 2023•45 min•Season 1Ep. 31
What happens when you’ve had the same group of ENM friends for years? In this episode, Vee and Elle sit down with M to chat about the catch-22 of having sex with your friends: how sometimes you sacrifice the quantity of sex for quality when you develop stronger friendships with your ENM partners. Strategy to turn the vibe sexy in big groups: “orgy boards”, taking a group vote with eyes closed, changing locations/spaces. (4:22) Why is it so much more challenging when trying to transition into sex...
Jul 27, 2023•45 min•Season 1Ep. 30
In this episode, Elle and Vee talk all things CUM, including Ejaculating vs Squirting: and is there pee in squirt juice? (2:54) Taste: modifying your own taste, and what affects it. (10:36) Male ejaculation: the focus on male orgasm. (21:06) Orgasming: the hottest place for a guy to finish, “shooters” vs “dribblers”, spitting vs swallowing, and creampie fantasies. (28:35) Female taste: tasting yourself, and what to do when you encounter a stinky pussy. (43:08) Support the show ______ How to Supp...
Jul 20, 2023•56 min•Season 1Ep. 29
In this episode, Elle and Vee cover a range of topics, from dealing with the emotions of multiple partners in threesomes and foursomes, questioning how to be an ethical porn consumer, and recapping Vee's weekend at a lifestyle party, including: How to deal with it as the unicorn in a threesome when there is an issue with the couple. (1:27) Listening vs giving advice when someone is triggered, and where to have the conversation. (8:26) What to do when the vibe is off between a CNM couple in a gro...
Jul 13, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 28
In this episode, Elle and Vee discuss all things pornography, from their use of it to their first exposure to it, including: How do you use porn? Authenticity in porn, “daddy” and age play, searching for specific vs playing porn roulette. (2:22) Masturbation and porn. (7:04) Using porn as a tool to connect with you partner. (9:30) Favorite porn sites. (11:01) How does porn affect teens’ ideas of sex? (11:49) How can porn contribute to and affect sexual confusion and sexual identity in teens? (16...
Jul 06, 2023•48 min•Season 1Ep. 27
In this episode, Elle and Vee and their monogamous friends answer each others’ questions, including: What does the word vanilla mean to you, and is it offensive? (2:40) What do you think of when you think ethical non monogamy or open relationship? What words or concepts come to mind? (4:38) What changes have you observed in your friends since they started exploring the nonmonogamous lifestyle? (9:55) What questions do you have for people in the lifestyle? How does it work? (14:27) How can you wa...
Jun 29, 2023•58 min•Season 1Ep. 26
In this episode, Elle and Vee recap their weekend at Baconfest 2023 at their friends' house at the Jersey Shore. It was a mixture of ENM and vanilla couples, which lead to some interesting dynamics. The girls talk about their learning moments and more, including: Merging friend groups: What is it like having traditional couples at a play party? How do lifestyle couples interact differently at a party than monogamous people? (1:20) Going to bed early: Vee overcomes her FOMO! (14:00) Going down on...
Jun 22, 2023•46 min•Season 1Ep. 25
In this episode, Elle and Vee sit down with Tricia Wise, aka Safe.Slut, who is a sex activist (Instagram @safe.slut), an OnlyFans content creator (safeslvt), and sex toy business owner (safeslut.shop). The girls go DEEP on these subjects and more, including: Destigmatizing Herpes: What is the Safe Slut mission? What are HSV-1 and HSV-2? How is it transmitted? What is prodrome? What triggers an outbreak? What are the symptoms? (2:08) Herpes Testing: What kinds of tests are there, and how do you g...
Jun 15, 2023•1 hr 14 min•Season 1Ep. 24
In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Holly, who gives the perspective of a single twenty-something in the ethically non-monogamous dating scene in NYC, juxtaposing the girls’ married and partnered perspectives. Their conversation includes: First experiences in CNM (consensual non-monogamy): Holly’s first threesome; common types of group play and the girls’ preferences; being discreet with “incognito mode”on Feeld. (1:05) Group sex: Even vs odd numbers; dynamics. (7:12) Single and Poly: Going ...
Jun 08, 2023•1 hr 8 min•Season 1Ep. 23
In this episode, Elle and Vee discuss all things boundaries and agreements in open relationships, from the early rules they had when they entered the lifestyle, to how they evolved them. They get into all the dirty details, including: Boundaries vs Agreements vs Rules: What is a boundary? How do you set a boundary? Elle and Vee give examples of the agreements and boundaries they have in their partnerships. (3:23) Typical Boundaries: What are some common boundaries to discuss when entering the li...
Jun 01, 2023•57 min•Season 1Ep. 22
